Question #6...
Of the choices listed below, which one thing would you change about your partner?
46% are single.

Oh this must be a survey of the segment of the male population who expect to date hot thin ladies who won't "just eat a salad" on a date, exhibiting a blatant lack of understanding as to how WEIGHT GAIN works.

You want a thin girl? Then don't bitch to your friends about how she only ate a salad on a date. Salad is cheaper than steak. She just did you a favor. Sheesh.

I feel obligated to stay a maximum of 110 lbs while my boyfriend continues to get fat. But you know what? I'd still hit it even if he was 250. I'd just be sure I didn't get crushed.

Weight gain can occur if you are fat or thin!!!!! I don't think it referred to men with expectations of dating 'thin' girls. I am sure everyone is different but to be honest, if my partner started to gain weight (and i don't mean the extra pounds you gain over winter) but seriously gain weight and started to show no interest in taking care of his health - I would be turned off. I like people who take a healthy interest in their lives and who take care of themselves to some degree. Whatever they look like - just knowing that he cares enough about himself to look after himself physically is attractive (for me!). If my partner started to get sloppy and had that mentality of "well I got the girl now I can just relax and let my personality do all the work" - it wouldn't cut it. If I keep myself looking good for him - i have the same expectations from him. Sure I love him, his personality, his sense of humour but without a healthy lifestyle and some degree of interest in how he looks... I don't know ..... I wouldn't necessarily leave him BUT I would be on his case making sure he takes care of himself, I would support and encourage a healthy lifestyle - and if he didn't even bother after that - then I guess I would slowly lose interest. Having a great personality means ALOT to me in a partner but I can't have a relationship based solely on personality. I don't expect perfection, or a great body or movie star looks but physical attractiveness plays an important factor too.

Weight gain isn't a reason to drop someone; my boyfriend's a little bit on the teddy-bearish side while I'm lean and work out six days a week, but you know what? He treats me like I'm the most beautiful girl in the world (:

and if he were to really want to lose weight, I'd show him the ropes and we'd do it together.

Funny thing about weight for me - a silly 10lbs that come and goes, likes to come at the holidays and goes away before the next holiday. Here's my Friend, family and dating feed back

Family, down 10lbs - just right - up 10lbs - just right (they just love me)
Friends, down 10lbs : getting too thin - up 10lbs : about right
Dates, down 10lbs : some weight to loose - up 10lbs : a bit over weight (feed back from friends on recent 3 blind dates)

Actual Size: 5'4" and 132lbs (I am happy with my 10 up or down but found it funny how others see it) 3 blind dates - just that, dates that ended never to be dated again. And funny, none were in shape themselves.

Funny Survey and great overview of it! Thanks for sharing with us - as for me, nope would not drop someone for weight gain. Its life and really I would be with them because there was something more to them then their weight.

No fat bitches, please.

My BF has said a few times that he'd dump me if I get fat. He's only half serious (he's got a really wierd sense of humor...). My response? "I don't stay fit for YOU. I do it for ME."

No fat assholes, either, Mark. Just sayin'...

WooooHooooo Nick. You sure got em all fired up with this one.

Awesome , awesome post. Best wit and sass I've seen of late. Also, I'd give ya the winner of the "Best Use of the term Douchebags" for the week. BRAVO.

What do you have against Axe? I think it smells amazing on a guy (okay, maybe a little highschoolish, but who cares!)

There are several things to take issue with. One is everyone is entitled to their opinion. Yes fat is very unhealthy. And that sounds about right for the dating group What has been over looked is how people treat the other (gender neutral). A person that is no longer attractive to one are they going to be treated in the same way as before? How about a woman saying he has to be taller than in when I wear high heels. is that what shallow?
And it said: "Half of Men Would Dump Their Girlfriends For Getting Fat"
Now let's face it FAT does not mean 10-15 lbs it means quite a bit more and not muscle (muscle masses more than fat so a person could drop clothes sizes yet weigh more).

If my guy started to gain a little weight, there's no way I would leave him in the dust. But, if was to the point where he was severely compromising his health I would be worried and talk to him. If he made a conscious decision to keep gaining weight then I might break it off. I just wouldn't be able to watch him slowly kill himself.

That is disturbing...what about if they get their girlfriends pregnant? Are all those men going to dump their girlfriends too for gaining all that baby weight?!

I wouldn't dump a guy for gaining weight but I would suggest working out together if it really became an issue. Besides its much more fun when you do it together! :) In fact, my last bf, when he started to lose weight, I freaked out a bit because I was so used to him being much bigger and I tried to get him to stay the same weight instead of losing it! Haha!

This says they would dump a gf for getting "fat," not "gaining weight." While I am sure some of those respondents were douches, I can't disagree with the reason the non-douches probably chose this response. I think its a matter of context. If my bf got fat because he had a thyroid problem, that wouldn't be an issue to me. The same goes with those pounds that come with age. But if, while young and agile, he decided to quit taking care of himself and just got grossly fat from poor eating, copious drinking, and a sedentary lifestyle? Then yea, I would consider dumping him, because it is a matter of taking pride in oneself and making a reasonable effort to be healthy. Additionally, if he is losing interest in his health in his 20s or 30s, I can't imagine that he is going to be a healthy 50 or 60 year old. That's just grounds for an early diagnosis of high BP, diabetes, hypertension, back problems, knee problems, etc., all due to a lack of concern for one's own health.

Yeah, reading that survey made me feel terribly inadequate and not very hopeful about finding a bf eventually. :(

I would never let my man slip away just cause he gain couple pounds,as i still adore him! It is normal to gain weight, but it should have a balance, if he keep gaining weight without taking care of himself, i would talk to him.
Not because i want to persuade him to lose weight,but a person's attitude toward something won't change so suddenlly, it gotta have some unspoken issues in his heart. And i need to do is to make the 1st movie, find it out and guide him back on the healthy path.
Instead of physical attract, the personality, whether we can understand each other or engage in a conversation seem way more important to me.
I would never date a dude if he dump me for weight problem, as a matter of fact, i never will give that douch a chance to make their further move. The way they look already reveal their intensions. Having conversations with my body won't take them any further. Those guys are simply waste of oxygen, i won't allow my heart break for them! Not even a second!

well i can sort of see where these guys are coming from. i would never dump a boyfriend if he gained 5 pounds or something miniscule(my boyfriend has gained and lost 20 over the course of our relationship and i have not noticed....). but really if someone I dated got up to like 300 pounds without any concern for their health...I would probably dump them. I mean its not just about my ego, but really do you want to be with someone who doesn't care about their health? who can't go for a walk with you? who wouldn't be able to play outside with your kids because of his size?

I call shenanigans~! So, according to them, fifty three percent of men from seemingly all walks of life would dump their significant other if she happened to gain some extra rolls. Fifty three percent. Really? I want to know what their definition of FAT is. I've seen men compare women who I've only considered a tad chubby to freaking manatees.

Perhaps they should be more specific next time and add a BMI chart.

Meh.

This survey perplexes me but it doesn't make me feel insecure about myself or make me want to hold myself to higher standards. Screw that s***t, it's hard enough being a woman as is.

I am overweight myself, but I have been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years. He was a normal, average weight when we started dating, although he never worked out. When we first met, I was 20 pounds heavier than I am now, but about the same weight as when we started dating. My weight has not significantly changed.

Meanwhile, my boyfriend put on 15 - 20 pounds. He has a beer belly. And you know what? I loved him when he was 'thin.' And I love him now that he's chubby. I am still just as physically attracted. And I probably would still feel that way even another 15 or 20 down the road. My only concern is that, as someone who has seen the life of a 'fat person,' I don't want him to deal with the same cruelty from society. I want him to be happy and healthy. But even if he gains more weight, I would stay.

Sure, his looks attracted me to him. But I am far more invested than just how he looks now.

I actaully have a friend who's considering dumping her bf because he's gaining weight, so this goes both ways. Of course, I also know a guy who began dating a girl after she lost a lot of weight, even though he *claims* he liked her before she did. Funny how he didn't ask her out then though. :/

So he eats his heart out when you lose the weight and are happy with someone else...

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I agree

I've dated two girls who were slightly overweight. The first ate junk food constantly and refused to work out at all, even though I was always offering to take her with me on my workouts. That girl got dumped. The current girlfriend has some muffin top but she eats pretty healthy meals and she's willing to work out with me. She's a keeper.

Fat isn't necessarily unattractive. Refusing to take care of yourself is.