But in general, if you need a month off, you probably need two. And if you need two, you need to fully evaluate just what in the hell you're doing with this person anyway.

One month off = death knell.

Like giving someone a promise ring, taking a "break" in a relationship is a sure sign of immaturity, insecurity and bad taste. Deciding on the perfect person has been known to take decades. Do you still want to be "on a break" in 2025? Don't waste a precious month of your life with one toe in and one toe out of this relationship. Take the plunge or head back to the locker room to find a new swim partner. 

He feels guilty. That's why he's pretending like your little romantic evening never happened. Because he knows that if his girlfriend found out about the kissing, there would more than just "problems." 

Hanging out with someone you have feelings for is the WORST thing you can do after a fight. He should have gone out with his boys and blown off some steam, or hung out with couple friends who can give advice. If he hangs out with a female friend, her boyfriend had sure better be around. I'll give him credit for not sleeping with you, and for feeling remorseful, but he still never should have come over. Chances are, he knew you had feelings for him before he came over. He wanted to be around someone who would make him feel better about himself. 

It's pretty crummy that he's pretending like nothing happened. Definitely clear the air. Say that it was a mistake for you guys to confess your feelings for each other and also kiss while he was having issues with his girlfriend. Also, let him know that you wish he'd man up, confess to his girlfriend, and apologize to you for playing on your feelings for him. Good luck. And if a friend comes over looking for relationship advice in the future, hide the booze.

He used you, sweetie. But you should be the one throwing him away. You admitted you have more-than-friends feelings for him. He, unfortunately, only has more-than-friends feelings for you when he's wasted and having "problems" with his woman. Time for you to say: I've got 99 problems, but this dude ain't one.

Reformed Player says:

Yeah, no. It might be his rule, but it's not standard operating procedure. Personally, I'm anti-dating rules for men and women. If it feels right, do it. I mean, normally, I'll wait a day before calling back simply because I get a little weird when I'm crowded early on in a relationship. So if I apply any rule to dating, it's the golden rule. But, man, if I click with a woman on a date. If we both give off heat and set off each other's sexual sprinklers and I know we both know it, then I'm going to call and see what happens.

This bro you were dating is an idiot. His balls were full of beer and he was nothing but insecure swagger. The fact is, in his head, he thinks that waiting a week makes women want him more. But I don't know many women who would be too impressed with a dude who'd wait seven days to call her back. The only women who would respond to such a controlling tactic are broken wings. 

Gal Pal says:

Are we seeing a pattern here? Guys get drunk and dumb things come out of their mouths. Don't listen to them. Or at least don't hang out with them around the booze cart. If a guy likes you, he's not going to wait a full week to call you, that's absurd. On the other hand, if you like him, there's no reason to wait a week for him to dial you. Give him a day or so and then give him a ring. Either way, you'll find out how he feels and save yourself a lot of silly waiting. (And drinking).

Foe. And a hilariously bad liar. He was just asking if you swing because he doesn't. Uh huh. Sure he was. I imagine him scrambling and stuttering and backtracking in a frenzy and I hear the sound of people running in cartoons.

Here's what this guy is thinking: you liked him in high school, so maybe you'll still be attracted to him now, almost 20 years later. If he plays his cards right, he can get into your pants soon and liven up his dull married life - and yours - with a little sumpin'-sumpin' on the side from time to time with his new FWB. Oh, he's not looking for anything serious. He's got a wife and kids and doesn't want to upset the status quo; he just could use a little more tail in his life, preferably the kind that comes with no strings attached and not a lot of chit-chat afterward, because he really needs to get back to the office.

Since you are not looking for the same, your motives don't mesh. If you just want to be FB friends, tell him so. It might work out. But something tells me that once he realizes you aren't going to bed with him, his interest in you will go limp faster than his boner did when you told him you don't swing.

Do you hear me laughing from here? Because I'm doing it OUT LOUD. "I just wanted to know if you swing because I'm not into that?" Haaaaaaaaaaa!  Haaaaaaaa some more! I wish you had tape recorded him saying it because I'd like to put it up on my GuySpeak profile. Unfriend this dude - he's a foe fo sure. Or better yet, stay friends with him so you can collect more ridiculously insane notes from him to make you giggle whenever you've got the blues.

 

Very slutty indeed. My email is xxxxxxx.xxx@xxxxxxxxx.com (Redacted, on legal advice.)

Is your self esteem that low that you need to flash your bits to random people? Either dump the guy you are dating, as he obviously not fulfilling the whole "paying attention to you" part of the deal, or, at the very least, start charging for them. College won't pay for itself, you know ...

Is this girl dating someone else or single? You know what, doesn't matter. There's no slutty going on here. (Cheating? Maybe). The thing is, being proud of your body and your sexuality doesn't make you slutty. You wanna flaunt it? Go for it. No reason to be ashamed of loving yourself and sharing that love. But remember that sending naked pics of yourself can do serious damage down the line to your career and personal life. So proceed with caution. Or you know, own it - and tell the rest of the world to mind their own business.

That's it - thanks for playing (and sexting), guys and girls!