The question of The One comes up often. Is he The One? How do I make sure she is The One. The truth is The One is felt not known. It is surrendering to a belief, a feeling, often quite a powerful feeling, but none the less an emotional response to a set of circumstances.
This week I got a question close to home, asking me about my own One. How did I know Mrs. Funny Guy was the one? Was it an "aha moment" or a more gradual understanding that I wanted to ring her for life.
You want the truth? Here it is:
I would have to say it was a powerful combination of an "aha moment" anchored in timing. It's pretty hard to separate one from the other, but I am fairly sure that had I met Mrs. FG, say, eight years earlier I might not have had my head on secure enough to know how amazing she is. In other words, timing, as cliché as it sounds, is a pivotal factor in finding The One. That's not be confused with deciding you are ready and forcing a One to be The One. But I am confident that when two adults fall deeply in love and move into marriage it is not only the seamless mix of personalities bundled in attraction and cemented in common values, but also very much a product of timing. Good timing. Now, that doesn't mean it wasn't 100% romantic and magical. It was. It just means every play you're in needs an environment, a stage. In love and dating, think of timing as that stage.
Once the stage is set, it's on to the enchanted stuff. Here are ten things that rocked my world, QUICK, upon meeting The Divine Miss FG:
1. I felt 100% myself around her.
2. I loved how she looked and moved and interacted with people.
3. I could deeply relate to her upbringing/family and immediately sensed a commonality of values.
4. Her hands were beautiful (I like hands).
5. She smelled nice.
6. My friends and family instantly fell for her.
7. My closest friends told me I'd never seemed happier or more grounded.
8. The idea of sleeping with other women as the alternative to being with this one and one only seemed terribly small and empty.
9. We clicked in bed. From kissing to spooning to.... forking.
10. The idea of someday living together and starting a family made me feel like the luckiest dude on planet earth.
Questions for you:
Do you have examples of great love and bad timing? Staging?
Can the purest of loves out will bad timing?
Have you ever settled for someone because you thought it was time?