Deal-breakers. We all have them when it comes to choosing a mate, those things that tell us in an instant, nope, this isn't the guy (or gal) for me. Put another way, deal-breakers are habits or traits that make someone utterly undateable.
These habits can be big (chronic lying) or small (wearing too much cologne), but whether or not such assessments are fair is moot. While there are certain things that are universally repellent to others -- abuse, infidelity, liking Celine Dion -- attraction is subjective, as is repulsion.
The new book, Undateable: 311 Things Guys Do That Guarantee They Won't Be Dating or Having Sex (Villard), takes a humorous look at things that are deal-breakers, at least to the authors. Here are a few of my favorite blurbs from the book:
Jorts - In case you're confused, the "jort" is a cross between a pair of jeans and a pair of shorts. Perhaps the most ill-conceived item of male clothing ever invented, they come in a wide variety of styles and lengths, all of which are hideous.
Corporate Swag: Windbreakers, sweatshirts, golf shirts and gym bags emblazoned with the company logo scream "free clothes." Never In the history of human sexuality has a woman ever passionately growled, I can't wait to get home and rip that Met Life shirt off you."
The Ben Franklin 'do (bald on top with hair on sides): Thank you very much for inventing electricity. Now go shave the rest of your head.
Jogging in place at a stoplight: We get it; you're really taking this seriously. You look like a doofus.
Shortening words for no reason: Like vacay instead of vacation or cab instead of cabernet"
Saying "Yo!" to a girl: It only worked for Rocky. And barely.
Having 'fro hair on your chest coming out of shirt: Gross.
Driving a Hummer: A sign of the ultimate scrote. Dude must be way too into himself.
A few more:
Sideways-cocked baseball cap
Wearing a soul patch
Holstering a cell phone
Spray tanning
Goes Dutch on the first date
Giving yourself a dumb nickname like "The Situation"
Fanny packs
Tighty whities
Saying "That's what I'm talking about!"
Your turn, ladies. What makes a guy undateable to you?
Being obnoxious.
Being confrontational.
Haha
*snicker*
a guy who compliments himself every ten mins and expects you to join in, I'm sorry but you're already giving yourself a verbal blowjob, why should I finish you off?
Making everything into a contest
Always one-upping someone i.e.: You say, "I have a headache," He replies, "I have a migrane." etc
I have both, so there.
To me its not about size, it's about whether he can get me to the finish line
Men who jerk up their chins as if that's a proper hello.
What if they say "'sup" when they do it, does that help?
Unfortunately all that says to me is that they're unsure if I've noticed their obvious muscle spasm... I usually just assume they were recently in a car accident and are healing from whiplash or have a very mild form of turrettes.
Aww I say 'yo' all the time. Maybe that's why I'm single.
Anyways, my biggest dealbreaker: Being emotionally dependent and/or possessive. He needs a life outside the relationship.
Also, on a much more superficial note, I have a lot of difficulty with facial hair. A little scruff is okay, but nothing more, please.
I friend-zoned a guy because he chewed tobacco, which I think is actually more disgusting than smoking. I would choose bad breath over the need to spit every 30 seconds any day.
Chewing tobacco is disgusting.
White socks pulled halfway up the shin....I'm sorry, but are you 5 years old?! I don't care if you're jogging, buy some ankle socks!
SOmething about goatees makes me shudder. However, there are a select few guys who can totally rock handle bar mustaches i.e Adam Goldberg in The Unusuals...man I miss that show!
Passive Aggressive types! You know: The ones who takes the other person's side instead of yours. Or throws ice cream at a car that almost cuts them down in the parking lot. Yes, Kurt Cobain, I'm looking at your direction. Grow some balls!
Bad fashion sense of any kind....I'm not expecting Hollywood type styling...but I need my guy to have a clue about how to put together an outfit together, cause I'm not about to dress you.
Chronic Lateness
SOCKS WITH SANDALS!
EWWWWWWWW.
Mandals. Ew. With or without socks.
Selfishness. I can focus on someone other than myself. My men do, too... or they don't stay mine for long.
Also, an addiction to any of the following things: alcohol, cigarettes, drugs, porn (note I said "addiction", not casual use.)
Bad hygiene- I'm not obsessive, but a daily shower and a good tooth-brushing is not too much to ask. Which brings me to:
Bad breath. Sorry, but no. Can't get past this one.
Men who are rude. I treat people with respect, I expect the same from those I keep close to me.
Closed-mindedness. You are not always right, neither am I. Different does not = wrong or bad. Let's be peaceful.
I believe that covers the most important stuff.
Homophobia... you dont have to agree w/ the lifestyle but being closed-minded to things you dont understand or agree w/ is a HUGE turn off.
Conspiracy theorists...who theorize about EVERYTHING. Honestly, it's just annoying.
Bad breath
Horrible fashion sense. I care about how I dress & present myself, therefore you should too (especially if I'm to be seen w/ you in public)
Bad kisser
Bad sex --> the ultimate deal breaker.
Definitely agree with most of those (well actually all, exept maybe conspiracy theorists, because I have yet to meet one.. other than my 'Conspiracy Theories' teacher in college, but that was kinda his job. Plus he was batshit and wanted to legally marry his cat). & I'd like to stress on the homophobia one. A surprising amount of guys are homophobic (especially towards gay guys). My best guy friend is gay, and I've met guys who've said that if they met him, they would beat him up. Really not cool. It's like.. even if it was a joke, please never talk to me again.
Wow, we reject the same men!! I totally agree with your list!
I'd also add:
1) soul patch wearers
2? doing drugs or smoking
3) being way skinnier than I am.... I'm def not a big girl ,Im size 6 but if I feel like one of my big boobs could like squash and indent his little torso while having sex on top I'm going to pass. Does anyone else not like uber skinny men, in fears that you might squash them even if you aren't fat??? I know its weird, I just could never have sex with a really skinny guy.
4) spitting or gross manners, especially licking their fingers every 5 seconds. Get a napkin! Its gross!
5) Guys who lack hobbies
6) guys who comment on what I eat or how much I eat or whatever. I've got low blood sugar, so I eat small healthy meals so I dont faint or get lightheaded. If a guy judges me when i order a salad (after I've even snack and just want something small) but he doesnt know that and says something like "oh why dont you order what you really want" or gives me those "youre a crazy dieter eyes" then he's OUT. I actually had a previous bf make fun of me cause I keep snack bars in my purse. I dont understand how thats even, like, judgable???
7) not knowing the difference between you're/ your and there, their and they're, .......I'm sorry but if he spells like a child I just feel like I'm dealing with some uneducated lazy pants. If he's great then maaayyybe I'll let it slide.
Thanks for reminding me: I have very little tolerance for bad grammar and writing skills. Once you become an adult (or hopefully, before that,) there is NO EXCUSE for this. If it's your native language- learn to use it properly!
Forgot to add one very important thing: IMMATURITY. I am your girlfriend, not your baby-sitter or mother. Thank you.
Short shorts.
Wrestling t-shirts - I'm sorry, are you 12?! Throw that shit out!
Clinginess.
"Hey babe, how's it going, what are you doing, I miss you, I wanna see you, let's get together this weekend, tell me you love me" OH MY GOD LEAVE ME ALONE!
Frat boy talk, including Canadian High School slang such as calling me your "wheel", "chop", "deal" and my friends "slu-dem", "gyal-dem" etc, etc.
Bad hygiene. My nose is weirdly sensitive and if something about you smells off, it triggers headaches.
Weirdly affectionate in public. I'm a private person. Stop giving my ass a squeeze every 5 seconds.
Whoa. Whoa. Wrestling t-shirts are cool. I should know, I have 7 of them. And yes, I'm a girl.
If he has no sense of humor, whatsoever.
If he is too high-strung to be silly every now and then.
If he believes the world owes him something.
If he has never done any sort of manual labor (I stole this one from you Cary 'What makes a woman undateable'), I'd like a manly man please.
If he has ever danced like a stripper in front of me, in hopes that I would think it was sexy..EWW! *shudder*
If you saw my stripper dance, you'd change your mind.
Aha hahaha
Now that sounds like you've been there, Cary the Love Monkey!
Perhaps.
I have a really long list. But I would rather disqualify half the male population than to date any of these losers.
1) Spitting in general; gum, spit. loogies, etc
2) Not opening doors for me
3) Drinking too much
4) Doing drugs
5) Not swearing, but I guess, rather, objectifying women in front of me, by talking 6) Yelling at me after I tell him to put the toilet seat down after he's done
7) Going to strip clubs
8) Having bits of food in a beard
9) Being Obese
10) Not reading.
I went on a (stress the A!) date with a guy, who talked about how much of a whore his sister was and called her a c*nt. Definitely NOT cool in my books. He also gave me TMI about an STD she had...It's ok to look down on the things your family members do, but it's another thing to lose your cool about it!
It's my new #1 dealbreaker.
Apart from Santa Claus beards. :P
I can't stand someone that doesn't love their family. Barring some sort of abuse, there's no excuse to not love your kin.
Even if you have issues with a family member, calling him/her nasty names only reveals your lack of class.
I hate 2 things and they both have to do with money. I hate when guys are overly cheap and it really comes across.
My second is when guys insist on telling people how much money they make. That is an instant deal-breaker for me. I understand if we have been together for awhile and we discuss money, I am talking about the guys who manage to drop it into every conversation. Also guys who always disclose the price of expensive things they have bought, (ie. the vacation they went on, their new TV, or their watch) - major deal-breaker.
Acting like your date is very lucky to have you.
Acting like you're too cool or too macho to be gentleman
Talking and promissing rather than just acting on it
Changing personality or showing off in front of his guy friends (that's THE WORSE)
Not answering to the quention I posted on GuySpeak - I'M TALKING TO YOU MR. !
BEING TAKEN AND HITTING ON YOU.
BEING VICIOUSLY MEAN AS A WAY OF LETTING HIM KNOW HES INTERESTED? WTF GUYS?
WANTING ONLY TO FLIRT, INSTEAD OF HAVING A REAL CONVERSATION.
BELIEVING A SENSUAL LOOKING WOMAN ONLY WANT SEX. please.
RUDENESS.
ACTING/ACTING/ACTING AS IF HES ALL THAT.
FLEXING HIS ARMS, LIKE REALLY? WOULD I JUST SLEEP WITH YOU BECAUSE YOU FLEXXING? men!
AND TO THE NICE GUYS, STOP BEING NICE! YOU DESERVE BETTER. THE WORST TURNOFF IS TO KISS A GIRLS FEET. WOMEN WANT JUST AS MUCH AS MEN A CHALLENGE. SO STOP SUCKING UP TO US BITCHES BECAUSE YOU DESERVE BETTER.
I too don't like skinnier than me guys, makes me feel more uncomfortable and insecure about my weight
Guys with no motivation - if you just go to work to pay rent and do nothing else with your time not going to waste my time - I'm a cheerleader (not actually) I like encouragement & to offer encouragement. Celebrating an accomplishment or a victory (even if it's your fav sports team) is fun, no motivation = boring
Boring
no sense of humour - which also = boring
lazy = i'm trying to not to be lazy - i would like encouragement and company lets go camping!
I'm only ever attracted to anyone who is left-wing. If a dude is not charitable, that's a total turn off for me. Basically, he just has to behave in a gentlemanly manner...loutish guys are just icky.
Physically there is nothing I consider really off-putting. As long as a guy is secure about his appearance, and not obssessing about his looks. Guys who look in the mirror more than me? That's a dealbreaker.
Also, for some reason, I'm only ever attracted to older guys. Which is SO weird because just today someone told me I look 13 (I'm actually 22)! Babyish guys are just uninteresting to me. Which is unfortunate because the only guys who seem to be attracted to me are my age.
You guys should totally tackle that topic! "How to attract older men if you are a young looking girl". You're welcome!
girl, i feel the same way about older men. I dont know, its like I start to heat up when i like an older man! i know, creepy! but younger guys....i mean, their cute. but its like loving my brothers or nephews, I just cant take them seriously.whats weird is that i tend to like intelligent older men....Naom Chomsky? gosh hes cute LOL. and im 19...and i look 25. please tackle that issue for sure.
and to all those women who date younger men? like for real? you like changing diapers? and molding these little creatures into what you like? creepy! I guess its all about preference.
Hehe...I can see Chomsky's attraction, believe me I can, BUT he is 81. LOL. That's a little old for even me.
Now George Clooney on the other hand...he is the most perfect man ever created.
I so agree with you Rezia! George Clooney and Anderson Cooper!!!! Wow. And I am 24 but people think I am 15. So yeah, when you find out how to get that older, more sophisticated man, let me know. Thanks.
And it looks like I got in here too late because all of my "this-is-what-makes-him-undateable" have been addressed.
too nice...just be strong....we want a man's man, otherwise we'd date woman.....ick.
acting like they are your assistant doting on you every second...that won't make us want you.
forgetting important dates and holidays...just do it plan something get a gift it will always work.
if they do the same things in bed all time, like they are phoning it in, snore.
generosity goes a long way. sharing meals can work but don't expect a woman to share their meal everytime. sign of being cheap.
long nails ewww. food in the teeth. you won't be kissed. hygiene hygiene hygiene. everywhere if you know what I mean.
too nice...just be strong....we want a man's man, otherwise we'd date woman.....ick.
acting like they are your assistant doting on you every second...that won't make us want you.
forgetting important dates and holidays...just do it plan something get a gift it will always work.
if they do the same things in bed all time, like they are phoning it in, snore.
generosity goes a long way. sharing meals can work but don't expect a woman to share their meal everytime. sign of being cheap.
long nails ewww. food in the teeth. you won't be kissed. hygiene hygiene hygiene. everywhere if you know what I mean.
1) Being more than 2 inches shorter than me. It's just weird. I'm no tree-girl or anything, but that bugs.
2) Someone too serious. I like to laugh. Excuse me very much!
3) The stalker-stare. Brrr. Psychos are not my cup of tea.
4) Big flirts. You're not Don Juan, accept it! Just talk to me like I'm a person, dammit.
5) Looking at my orbs of glory instead of my face. My eyes did not drift to my girls, son! It's okay to glance but don't stare. It's creepy.
6) Being arrogant. Take that stick out of your ass on the way out the door.
7) Thinking that reading consists of flipping through Playboy. Even one book per year is better than none. Harry Pothead doesn't count.
8) Close-minded Republicans. (This one is just me.)
9) Drunks and stoners and druggies.
10) A man who tries to change me. Nope, sorry.
11) If the only music he likes is sythi-pop electronic stuff and refuses to listen to anything else. It sounds too much like a trig equation someone set to music. If that shit can be called music.
12) If he laughs at, or otherwise demeans, my art, my singing, or my photography. Dumb ass Philistine.
13) Refusing to compromise. I don't expect 100% agreement, but 50/50 would be nice.
14) Demanding that I wear a dress. Unless it's a wedding, it ain't gonna happen more than once or twice per decade. Too bad.
15) Having a chronic case of asshole.
16) Smelling like ass. Absolute deal-breaker.
its funny on the tv version of the show they got some of the cast from Jersey Shore commenting, if that isint irony I dont know what is. They got the dude with vanilla ice hair telling people how to not wear their hair. I am guilty of a few violations. Its funny alot of the violations I used to be guilty of and looking back even before I saw the list I think to myself "what was I thinking"
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I’ve finally accepted the fact that I am now undateable.. It took time to realize.. The useless quest for perfection I pursued and stressed over just to get a date is finished..In some strange way it’s almost liberating and peaceful.. It’s like you can finally take a deep breath, let it out and relax.. I no longer care, I surrender, I quit, whatever you want to call it.. I’m done.. I no longer will worry about whether my pants are pleated or flat, if I skip a day shaving, if I put a little too much hair gel on, if I look at a womans breast, or ass for more than a nanosecond, if one sideburn is slightly longer than the other.. It all matters to women, but not to me anymore.. I know forgeting the slightest detail is and will be a deal breaker. Call it a bad attitude if you will, maybe that’s the case, but dating has turned into a ridiculous exercise in futility.
Dates are like job interviews.. But here’s the deal, I’m dating retired, I don’t interview anymore.. If you want to go out and have good time, have some laughs and enjoy the day or evening without being concerned about the color of my socks, then I’m more than up for that.. That’s the way dating should be.. If you want to drill me on where I work, what I drive, how many kids I have that are under 18 still living at home, how much I make, how much child support I pay, where I live, whether I own or rent, then that’s not a date, it’s an interigation, and it ain’t fun, and I have to buy dinner to get this ?? Find another poor soul to lay this on.. He will soon retire too..
I have reached the point of understanding that most women are looking for shear and perfect perfection. The 311 reasons you aren’t getting a date should be the tip off.. I can’t imagine trying to reach the level you need to succeed at the dating game anymore. I’m also sure 311 is really a very conservative number. Bottom line is this, no matter how confident you are, how much swagger you have, you will forget something, you will screw something up, you will wear the wrong cologne, you will wear the wrong color socks and you will be out of the game.. It is truly that easy to F it up with most women.. Just read back through the comments in this section, perfection and nothing less.. Most guys are not lazy, just tired of trying to meet an overblown expectation.
You can read every book written on the subject of dating and the mating game and you will still miss the mark.. So here’s the deal guys, stop, don’t do it anymore.. More than enough reasonable men have finally accepted this fact also.. I meet them almost daily.. Have a nice day… Chris
Wow, Chris. That was seriously depressing, as much as you tried to paint the picture of you being "liberated".
The truth is that there are 311 and probably more things that a woman says she finds "wrong" about a guy. But, these things are just excuses for the fact that there is a connection that is missing with certain people. If a lady met an awesome guy who made her laugh and feel giddy and sexy, she wouldn't really reject him because of his socks. If she met a guy she just didnt feel was right for her, and couldn't quite articulate the feeling, and he was wearing crazy socks and a santa beard... she's probably going to say she didn't want him because of the socks and the santa beard... If you walk around with a defeated attitude like the one you wrote with then you wont attract company. Its not about your socks.... catch my drift?
I think if you take a closer look at what women say you don't want, you'll see common themes of traits. Ladies all seem to want a guy who dresses professionally, is ambitious, has manners, and treats the with respect. They aren't really looking to catch flaws on guys. They are looking for the guy that feels right, and when it doesnt feel right, they try to explain the things that they like about him... which aren't really the cause of why things didnt' feel right. Anyway, what I'm saying is if you walk around with an attitude like "no one willl love me because I am not perfect so I will live alone forever".... then that's what will happen. Dont' do that.
since when did decent become "perfection"?? Did you read any of the women above say they wouldn't date guys who weren't wealthy? Did you read anyone write about how they would never date short guys? All of the comments above boil down to these:
1) be respectful to women and others
2) dont be wimpy or too full of yourself
3) dress yourself decently, ie present yourself well
4) take care of yourself decently, ie health
The truth is, no woman will dump you over bad socks. Women WILL dump guys who walk around like they are being picked on. They'll never date someone who's creepy and never showers and stares at people.
As for dates, sure it isn't fun to have to go through a check list of questions, but all those things tell A LOT about a person. I'm not saying that everything ever should be asked on a first date. First dates should be for more of vibe measurement. By by like date 5 you should know some basic things. I feel its more likely than not that the reason you dont like answering these questions is because you're not proud of the answers. It's a relfection of you, not the questions, and not the women. The truth is, its not about bad socks or goatees- its about hte kind of guy who does these things. Everything you wear and do and say gives off vibes. Its your responsibility to own those things. Don't get mad a women for making impressions off of things YOU give off.
Tucked in shirts!
Eeeek. I cant explain it, but it just looks horrible. Its even worse if its a dress shirt tucked into jeans. The only time you should be wearing a dress shirt tucked in, is with a jacked over it.
Sexism
Homophobia
Racism
Double standards
Rudeness
Entitlement issues
Yaking themselves too seriously
Being Emo
TYPING IN CAPS LOCK UR OTHR POOR CMMCTN SKILLZZZ
Constantly trying to 'impress' me
Not treating me like a real person
905'ers (it's a Toronto thing)
Even though I am now married (despite having committed a few of the 311 sins in the book being discussed) I amused myself by thumbing through this book. I particularly took issue with the item which dealt with a guy who's not into tv, thinking him to be self-righteous or whatever - did it ever occur to these women that maybe what makes some of these guys undateable is that they watch too much tv? Because I found tv to be annoying, time-wasting, insulting (to both sexes), I stopped watching it (except using the tv to watch dvds), and took up an instrument, lost weight (and not to the point of being skinny, I don't even think that's possible, lol!), and I read a lot more these days. If there's a sports event that I want to see, there are friends, relatives, or bars where the games can be watched, which my wife appreciates, so she doesn't have to put up with my commentary (can't help it!). That being said, they get it right on most of the other points that are mentioned, and it's downright funny!
Bravo to Chris; no - FREAKIN' BRAVO to you, dude! Like Buddha beneath the bodhi tree, you've realised Nirvana by giving up your search for it.
Are there any real women out there? And yes, I know the difference between their/there, where/wear, etc. - who the F* made you all editors, anyway?
The comments here are a steaming pile of hypocricy and indecisevness - forget spitting - they make me want to hurl! My buddies have all agreed we'd be better off gay - we just can't get into the whole guy-guy sex thing.
And talk about getting a little education - here's some for ya:
Homophobia; Homo (Latin, "man") phobia (Greek, "phobos", or "fear of")
No straight man is afraid of a gay man, unless that gay man is 6'4", 250 lbs, and is trying to cornh**e the straight man - so, wise up. Having an abhorrence for a lifestyle of non-breeding deviance does not constitute fear.
Besides, it always comes down to the parties playing conventional gender roles, anyway - doesn't it? Well, I'm not acting like any of these chicks for anybody. And any guy who would - how do you girls say? EWW! Ick! Eeeek! Shudder! Boring!
I think a main factor behind the issue of guys "giving up" is the prevalence of female sensibilities in media today. Women write a lot - articles, news items, tv and movie scripts, etc. Some idiots have made them editors. One consequence of the feminization of media is that men start thinking, talking, and acting like them. Conversely, women are now talking trash openly, and sporting their new-found cohones for all their girrrl-pals to admire, and aspire to. E.G. - the best description I ever heard of "Sex In The City" was that it was a group of women, talking like gay men. Well, speaking for myself, and I think, most straight guys, I just want a little female companionship, an intelligent conversation, a few laughs, a bit of human warmth - and if you can get past all my "grossness", maybe an affectionate touch now and again. Is that too much to ask? Apparently, these days, it is.
A couple parting shots - my first "real" job at 16 was cleaning the bathrooms in the country's largest Sears store in St. Davids, PA. When I went in the women's bathroom my first night, I couldn't believe my eyes, or nose. And the graffitti was a real shock - I'd never seen anything in men's rooms to match it for vileness and crudity. There's supposedly a demon in Hell who, after some time on Earth, fled home to escape the sheer wanton disgustingness of human females. Ok - for a demon, he was a wuss, but I grok where he was coming from. And gals, before you start in on us for our hygiene, do something about that stinking, pus-oozing, yeast infested vagina, OK? A little soap and water, and a dab of perfume should suffice.
Sorry for the sermon, but this one struck my last nerve - please forgive my arrogance, attitude, and seriously flawed personality - I'm really a pretty nice guy.
"I'm really a pretty nice guy."
Huh, could of fooled me. This post was not intended to bash and while the female comments on here may have lapsed into chatty girlish giggles (it's true, ladies, it's true) and some of them are, perhaps, a little silly, not a single woman on here attacked men as a whole. The question was, "What are deal breakers for ladies." If it had been for men, I am sure that there would have been JUST AS MANY, IF NOT MORE ridiculous stereotypes and rules.
While I can understand the frustration and the idea that looking at list of MANY DIFFERENT women can be daunting if you take them ALL into consideration, Your attack of basic female anatomy ("And gals, before you start in on us for our hygiene, do something about that stinking, pus-oozing, yeast infested vagina, OK?") is, not only off-putting, but down right appalling. If that is really how you feel about it, than please, do all of us "gals" a favor and step off. No woman on here attacked the male physiognomy beyond weight/health preference (which men have been taking part in for centuries) and a request for the use of the soap and water that you are so fond of.
Your pseudo-intellectualism (really, you HAD to point out that "homophobia" is Latin based?) and utter arrogance are what keep you (yes, you) from being a winner on any of these or, I imagine, on any SANE woman's list of datable men.
In regard to your obviously traumatizing experience with a public restroom... SERIOUSLY? It's a public. restroom. They are almost certain to ALL be disgusting. Hundreds of people (both clean and UNclean) use them throughout the day. I too have had the odious job of having to scrub a publicly used throne and have had to, literally, scrub feces from the walls of a men's room yet I am not shoving men into a box labeled "feces throwing douchemonkeys".
Your comment suggests that you have some serious issues with women in general. That, more than anything else, would be a greater reason for your apparent lack of success in the dating pool. However, after reading this and the response from your bromance buddy, Chris, I can't say that I am disappointed that you seem to have sworn off women. I can't possibly imagine any woman with a semblance self-respect sitting through your self-righteous tirades and actually WANTING to have sex with you afterward.
I can't even pity you. I can only hope your, obviously, miserable experiences are short-lived and far, far away from me or any person I may know.
I have not made a list on this, but I am making one now.
Dealbreaker:
Anyone who is, acts or sounds like Gen. Buck Turgidson.
That is all.
Using soap (unless very mild or specifically designed for it) to clean your vagina greatly raises the risk of a UTI, one of the most prevalent causes of a "stinking...pussy."
Not to mention woman's urethra's are shorter and a host of other things that make us more at risk.
Insulting women because of a common medical condition certainly makes you seem like "a pretty nice guy."
What a lovely day for a 1265634! SCK was here