A man in France has been ordered to pay his ex-wife about $14,000 in compensation for "lack of sex over 21 years of marriage." The judge said sex was a basic component of a marriage and that the man had failed to keep up his end of the agreement. Guys -- aside from waiting 21 years to ask for a divorce and some cash -- what do you think is the best way to deal with a lack of sex in a relationship?
Girls' BFF says:
Obviously the only way to deal with that in a relationship is to talk to your partner about what's up with them not giving it up. Sexless relationships are no fun for anybody involved in them since generally that's how we show our affections. I do think it's entirely ridiculous to get fined for not giving up the wang. But I get the point. Thing is, I'm just curious as to how you come up with the rubric for how much she's owed. I mean gee whiz...$14K???? That's it after 21 years???? That's like $2 bucks per day. He must be a lousy lay.
Mystery Man says:
Why do I get really suspicious when that comes to $666.666 per year. Methinks the judge is having a laugh.
Now as to dealing with lack of sex - God gave you a mouth, so use it. Make it known that you are unhappy here, and expect something better.
Reformed Player says:
The simplest method is best: ask your partner what's going on. It may not be an answer you want to hear, but it's the best way to do it.
Funny Guy says:
Lack of sex is not uncommon in marriage. It happens. Who can stare into the same vagina or handle the same dumb prick for 25 plus years. Adding a legal mandate to boning is entirely insane. What's the saying? Nothing promotes a healthy sex life like a federal mandate and a team of lawyers.
The best way to deal with this is not through the court systems; it's through creating an environment where things can get better. Talk about it, cry about it, fight about it; explore it all as a couple and eventually you'll come up with a viable way to make sex something worth picking up and dusting off again.
"Hey honey, look what I found with my old winter clothes. My shriveled d*ck..."
Wise-Ass says:
Wait. He has to pay her? She should pay him for letting her sleep.
Gal Pal says:
So, let me get this straight. I can make guys who don't want to sleep with me pay me money? I'm moving to France.
Chic Geek says:
"The ex-husband claimed 'tiredness and health problems' had prevented him from being more attentive between the sheets." Keep this in mind, guys. "I have a headache, honey" could cost you $14,000.
Ow! I hope they never make that ruling in America!
Making love in France is considered as part of the "duties" of being married, just as fidelity, support at all times, etc. It's in the law. Yes sir. But that would be insane to ask for money because you are not able to solve the non sex problem by your own. There are sex therapists for that, not courts...
Would the ruling have been the same if the roles were reversed and a woman didn't have sex with her husband for 21 years?
Probably. She's just the first one to point it out in court.
I'm not so sure.