Not necessarily. At least you know he's interested. And you didn't sleep together, so there's still some mystery. The trick now is to spend time with him without the aid of liquid courage. Hopefully he's interested and will ask you out. Just act normal around him and let him know you had fun at the party. Minimize whatever weirdness there might be post-face smushing. Try to spend time with him sober (dinner, coffee, etc.) where you can get to know each other and let the sparks fly without the help of Senors Jose and Cuervo. 

Many amazing relationships have started with drunken makeout sessions. I'll tell you a little story: Many years ago, this guy I know (let's call him "Hipster Nerd") drunkenly made out with his crush at a coworker's birthday party. A few days later, she told him she felt weird about it and wanted to be friends. Hipster Nerd was bummed, and drowned his sorrows in comic books and whatever video game was popular at the time. But he didn't give up! He made sure to keep his flirt going and be a nice, not awkward presence in her life. He kept a bit of distance and mystery so as not to be forever banished to the friend zone. And lo and behold, a few weeks later they went on an actual date which eventually blossomed into a long-term relationship. 

So follow Hipster Nerd's example. It can happen to you!

Who doesn't love a Hipster Nerd happy ending? Seriously, I think 79.35% of relationships begin with some sort of drunken makeout (that's according to scientists...and/or bloggers who love to imagine statistics). It's a modern relationship rite of passage. Cheers to you! And hey, wouldn't it be waaaay worse if he didn't want to drunk makeout with you? Keep reading...

"He said sex was about conquering, not love." Ah, a true romantic. And you married this schlub?

Clearly you two need to have some heart-to-hearts about this problem so you can find out what the hell is really going on. You also need to insist on a better reason than "sex is about conquering, not love." If he really believes that, why did he marry you? And now there's a kid in the oven who will be joining this fustercluck in a few months? Perfect.

Sit Genghis down and make him tell you exactly why you two aren't having sex anymore. Is he having an affair? Is he no longer sexually attracted to you? Does he not want kids? What? You are his wife, and you deserve an answer. Demand one, and don't let him off the hook with flimsy excuses or ridiculous proclamations about the nature of love. Like he would know.

If he still loves you and wants to fix the problem, you can try marital counseling. If he's fine with a sexless marriage and doesn't care about your needs, then you should seriously consider leaving him. You deserve a man who knows that sex is about love, not conquering.

Agree!!! Cary nailed it. You have the right to life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness. And sex, for most of us, is the essence of happiness. If he's keeping you back from your rights as an American, it's time for you to secede from this union. 

Interesting question. Short form - yes you can, though of course you shouldn't do it and will be shunned if you do, including by me.

You are talking two different things. Loving someone does not shut off lust, or even focus it down to just the person you love. You still get flashes of lust for others, and, if the circumstances are right, may act on it.

The circumstances could be a fight, boredom, getting drunk, a sudden bad fright - all can trigger a one off cheating session. Understanding it does not excuse it, not even if you are absolutely, totally positive that your love will not and cannot find out about it. You will still know that you broke their trust, and it will effect your relationship, usually fairly badly until you get over the guilts. The more you love the person, the longer that will take and the more you will want to come clean and shatter their world.

Now long term or serial cheating is a whole different kettle of cod. If that is what is happening, you should re-examine your feelings for the one you supposedly love - because you really don't.

I get the sneaking suspicion you're not the one considering the cheating. That some guy's told you he cheated but that he still loves you. And I have a feeling that yes, he does love you...even though the jerk cheated on you. But the real question is - how much do you love yourself? If he's not willing to enroll in some serious counseling, he's not worth wasting your love on.

Not to be all existentialist here or anything, but what exactly constitutes "normal" when it comes to feelings and emotions anyway?

For some you can realize you love somebody in a week and realize that this is the person of your dreams. For others it may take two years. Me no know. Point is, when you know, you know.

To question whether or not he's genuine seems like the wrong road to take here. Of course, this could all very well depend on how old you are too. If you all are 18-year-old love struck kids then, sure, I'd say he's blowing smoke but the reality is, even then, maybe he's not. Do his actions indicate he's serious about you? And he didn't propose, he's more just letting you know how he feels. That's not a crime.

So peep game chica, your dude loves you and told you. Take it as it is and just enjoy the ride. There are married people out there who'd love to have that dilemma...but they don't.

I'm dubbing this a Happy People Problem. You have a guy who is CRAZY about you! He wants to spend the rest of his life with you! And the best part? You love him, too! This is brilliant, this is amazing, this is what life is all about, my dear. Celebrate your good fortune. But just do your celebrating over a long, long courtship. If you both still feel the same way a year from now, you win the gold ring (literally). Congratulations!

Put it to you this way: any guy who is attracted to you because your bra is padded will also be the guy who complains about it being "deceiving."

But for the rest, I wouldn't really call it "deceiving". It's not like when the bra comes off, he's there with a tape measure, verifying his estimates (and if that is his response, I recommend the bra goes back on). If it makes you comfortable, or helps your clothes fit better, then go for it and don't worry about it.

The padded bra wearing women of the world thank you, Dan. Chances are if he's getting to see your bra, he's too happy to even see straight at what's underneath.

I don't think you know what the term "jealous" actually means. You see, when you're jealous about something it's because you covet or envy a person (or thing). There's a rivalry of sorts regarding another's success. You, for lack of a better term, own your man's shlong. You have it, essentially, to do with as you wish - whether that be to ogle it, kiss it or play gin rummy with.

 

Women -- who are not you -- perhaps can speak of jealousy. "I wish my man had that type of trunk-junk." "Get a load of the meat on that butcher." But you, as the girlfriend to the shlong, have no reason to feel jealousy. Perhaps you can explain what the emotion you're feeling really is. Is it pride? Protectiveness? Insecurity?  He's not brazenly flaunting his prowess, correct? He's not only wearing tighty-whities at the office, or measuring out carpet with it, right?

 

Let's put it this way:

 

If you wanted to be a football player and your brother was a star football player, how would that make you feel? Jealous? Fair enough, but if you don't have a desire to be a great athlete, and you hear the crowd cheering for your brother's skills on the field, how would that make you feel? Not jealous, right?

In other-words, your man's got crotch-game (c). Be proud of him. So long as he's only using it to score with you I say touch-down.

Another entry in Happy People Problems. Good lord, lady. You have access to what is known as an embarrassment of riches. Take pride in those jewels. Or take him shopping for parachute pants.

That's it for this week. Thanks for playing, guys and girls!