From Kardashian sister Kourtney to food goddess Padma Lakshmi to U.S. soccer star Landon Donovan, single mama/baby daddy drama is all over pop culture these days. So I asked the guys a controversial hypothetical:
Let's say the girl you're dating got pregnant. You have the option - she never tells you, decides a course of action on her own and you'd never, ever hear from again. Option two - she tells you she's preggers and you make a plan together. Would you want to know you might be a baby daddy? Or would you rather skip all the drama (knowing in this hypothetical, she would be OK either way)?
Wise-Ass says:
I'm already a dad so this is a no-brainer. I would want to know, absolutely. If I'm responsible for bringing a child into the world, then I'd want to be involved with him/her, even if I'm not romantically involved with the mother anymore. Drama be damned - responsibility and doing the right thing trump that. A child deserves a father, and the mother deserves my help if she wants it.
Reformed Player says:
I would definitely want to know if I sired a love critter with a former luvah. It's my kid! I would like to think I'm man enough to take responsibility, and to be a father.
Also: I know how this stuff plays out. The kid will grow up and hunt me down, and find me playing geee-tar at remote, ramshackle honky tonk in New Mexico. And then what? My trailer will be too small for both of us. And like my various floozy girlfriends will be into me having a grown ass kid.
Girl's BFF says:
I'd definitely want to know. The world is filled with kids without fathers who grow up to do amazing things. I'd hate have to jump on the bandwagon late to get some of those millions. I figure that if I'm there the whole time I'm entitled to at least SOME money, right? Plus, I think I should have the right to know if I have kids out there. Especially so I'm not lying to anybody if they ask. The universe has a funny way of exacting justice on liars - like you end up with triplets or something!
Funny Guy says:
No, I'd have to know. I hate surprises, and I love feeling righteous and superior all the time. It would be hard for me to call everyone around me sinning scum if I had a mystery bastard out there somewhere. Hard, but not impossible. Although you already told me the baby's okay in the end, which is surprising if I had a hand in raising it.
Chic Geek says:
Of course I'd want to know if I was a baby daddy. (Now that I think about it, the concept of a baby fathering a child is pretty messed up. What is the world coming to?)
The only scenario where I wouldn't want to know is if my love child turned out to be the Antichrist, like Damien in The Omen. Like, say, if a priest came to me and said that the child in my girlfriend's womb would bring about the end of human civilization, then perhaps I'd skip town.
Sure, I'd be a deadbeat dad to a demon spawn. But once the walls start to bleed and the earth opens up and spews forth locusts, fatherly duty kind of goes out the window.
Gal Pal says:
If I got some dude pregnant, I'd totally want to know! That would seriously rock. He and his little belly bump would be my ticket to every state fair this side of the Mississippi. Plus I'd probably meet Oprah and become one of her favorite things!!! And maybe I'd get to go to science conventions and hospitals and stuff? That could be gross, but whatevs.
The point is - knocking a dude up would be a big change of pace and that's exactly what I need in my life right now. (Summer can get so borrrring, amiright?) That settles it. I'm taking the next guy I meet out behind the bleachers and getting him pregnant right now. Oh, hey there Cary...what's up?
This was a dumb question. Better luck next week
actually, its a really good question. Its great to know that the guys would step up to the plate. With so many single mama's out there, I'm sure most of them want a little hope that decent guys exist!
I asked a question similar to this a while ago. Is it terrible not to tell your bf you are pregnant if you aren't keeping it? Any thoughts? Even if they are harsh
If you end up staying with that bf, then your secret may end up haunting you and coming between you, eventually. So if you decide to hide it, you'd better make sure you will never, ever accidentally let it slip; what he doesn't know might not hurt him, but what he finds out accidentally will destroy your relationship.
Dumb question
The question is fine but might appear dumb after soaking up the stench of imbecilic comments on this page.
Any man worth his salt would want to know and would want to be there for that child and be a part of his or her life. Having a child takes two people and that baby needs and deserves the love and support of both parents.
Imagine telling your ex-boyfriend you're pregnant and he tells you to ABORT because he doesn't want to be tied to you. And him saying he will sign over all rights to said child because he wants nothing to do with it. And... when you tell him the baby has no heartbeat he says, "Good. So it's dead?". Yeah. No shit.
This will probably make someone out there laugh out loud.
I'm 48 and pregnant and haven't told my ex bf yet.
We are sort of distant but still connected in our little town.
I'll tell him eventually but I wanted to wait until
after I'd been seen by my Dr. and gotten a clean bill of health.
Funny how life is sometimes. You just never know.
He's 45 and has 2 daughters already and I think this is a boy.
He'll be a cutie for sure! ; )