I had dinner with a girl friend this week who told me that she and her man have sex for 90+ minutes at a time - often twice in one night. Oh, and usually once in the morning if they have time. Like you, I thought she was lying.
She wasn't.
Like you, my next thought was to inquire if she was including foreplay and his drive over to her apartment as part of that 90-minute span.
No. Not the case, she reported.
I sat back in disbelief as she went over her sex life in further detail. No, he never loses his hard on during these sessions. Yes, this is even with condoms. No, he doesn't take Viagra. Yes, this has been going on for many months. No, he's not just lying on her like a beached whale trying not to stir. Yes, he has an eight-pack and is packing (of course) and leads her through a Zumba -esque sex workout filled with creativity, passion and feats of impressive strength and contortions. Every. Single. Time.
"God damn," I said. "So, I take it you're a very happy woman?"
"He is hands down a sex god." She took a sip of her drink and began comically shaking her head from side to side.
"And I hate it."
"Really?" I said.
Unlike many women, who complain that their guy is a hapless one-pump chump, every once in a while, a woman, like my dear friend, gets hitched to the wagon of a sex savant. Some 18-wheeler of mojo whose joy of sex is only second to his wang's propensity for it.
During the conversation that ensued she said things like:
"He's so awesome and sweet, but the sex is way too much."
"He's too creative. He's literally too talented at sex"
Could she be right? Can someone be too good at sex?
There is something to be said about moderation - why can't those rules apply to sex? Even when it comes to good sex. I mean think about it: sex for 270 minutes over a 12-hour period? That's 270 minutes within a 720 minute block. What's so good about that? Nearly 38% of the time Zumba boning?! Imagine that wiped out vagina? Imagine the headache those poor nuts are feeling after slapping around for hours on end.
"So what are you gonna do?" I asked her.
"I don't know. He wants to go Miami later this month, but I truly don't think I can handle it. Just the idea exhausts me... Nuts right?"
"Pretty nuts," I replied.
And so, her unique saga continues, leaving her to wrestle with the bizarre conundrum: Do I dump a great guy who's too great in bed?
Her story reveals two important things. For those who've not experienced it first hand:
Sex Gods do exist. And, even those dating them are not satisfied.
How about it, folks?
- Ever date the Jordon/Einstein hybrid of banging?
- Are you such a gem? Prove it...
- Lastly, how rare are these types? One out of how many?
- What would you do if you were in my friend's position?
A man who strives to please a woman in bed is a sex god, even though sometimes he fails at it. Failure only leads to more exploration and another reason to have another humping session - HaHa. Thanks, Funny Guy! This post would surely be an eye opener for both sexes. ;)
as long as she aint fat man them fat ones cant keep up
Um...actually, yes I can, "Timmy," but I would never bother to do so with the likes of you.
My first husband was technically quite good in bed, but we grated on each other's nerves in all other areas. Hence, we ended up amicably divorced.
My current husband and I enjoy "marathon sessions" when both of us have time, and it's wonderful, but I don't know that we're especially creative. There's definitely foreplay, and we switch positions a few times. The longer sessions tend to involve slower and more teasing actions than those times when we're tired but in the mood, or time constraints necessitate a "quickie."
Tim, you're a jerk, don't generalize people like that.
But this is just a text book case of people not being sexually compatible. She should try and talk to him, about finding some common ground, like maybe only once a day. Cause it can be really hard to stay in relationship that is leaving her so frustrated. I wish you luck!
Whoa! He's actually inside her for 90 freakin' minutes, 2-3 times over the course of 24 hours?! My vagina hurts just thinking about it! Yeah, I'm gonna have to go with "too much of a good thing" here. Our insides are meant to take a pounding, but we're still made of flesh, not rubber! Especially if I were using condoms and no lube, after 10 minutes I'd be worrying about microtears, or pounding my cervix into a pulp if the penetration is really deep. My question here is, why does the guy feel the need to have their sex sessions last this long? He might actually have trouble finishing (yes, some guys genuinely have a problem cumming in a normal length of time) and truly need it to take that long, or he might think that this is what he needs to do to impress her. She won't know unless she talks to him about it. If it's the latter, he'll know to quit trying to be Superman and just cum when he feels like it. If it's the former, reducing to once a day might actually help with that, and there are other things he can do to retrain his body to cum in a more reasonable time span. A quick Google search for something like "delayed ejaculation solutions" should turn up some ideas.
I have a FWB who has become so used to delaying orgasm with previous partners over the years that he takes a long, long time to orgasm during penetration. 45 minutes is about average, and that does not count foreplay or cuddling afterwards. Sometimes he orgasms, sometimes not, but we always have fun, and I come anywhere from 4-6 times during each session. Absolutely, Freaking. Amazing.
Of course, I only get to see him about once a week. I don't think I could handle that on a daily basis.
Oh, and "Tim"? It's pretty clear you have little experience with fat women (or any other women, for that matter). We can keep up just fine.
Had an ex like that. Thought I was a sex godess until he told me that the 90+ minutes was bc he was thinking of his ex-gf so he couldn't 'go'. What a jerk.
I had an ex who was a sex god, and I couldn't get enough of it.
Downside to my ex being a sex god; he's only good at sex and we had really no other interests in each other other than that.
I would tell her to enjoy it while it lasts cause once the interest is gone so is the great sex...
I just read a very relevant article in Psychology Today.
http://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/cupids-poisoned-arrow/201111/will-orgasms-keep-you-in-love
Basically, plentiful orgasms will not save a relationship (and might even contribute to its failure) without consistent, nonsexual forms of intimacy.
The guy I've been seeing for about a year and a half is, well, a sex god. Except he respects that I'm not exactly a sex goddess. While he had epic hours-at-a-time sex with his ex, he listens when I tell him I'm tired, sore, can't take anymore, etc. And he tries very hard (and often very successfully) to get a great, yet shorter time in that works for both of us. So it seems to me that what the above relationship is lacking is communication. As with anything else, you need to talk to your man -- let him know that the sex is too much. That in and of itself isn't a great reason to break up with him. However, if he doesn't respect your wishes in bed, that may be a sign that he's a little too into his Sex God status for his own good. Good luck!
I'm in a relationship with a sex god and I love it,
and I love him. There isn't anything we won't try.
We joke and laugh about our 3/4 hours of sex
that nobody would beleive us. He doesn't take
pillls, and is never to tired. I don't want or need
anything but him, and he knows it. I hope it
never ends. He's 67 & I'm 65 and have been
doing this for ten years now.
Thanks for all your great postings, I really do
enjoy them.
Bravo! Get it girl! Nice to know that its possible to find :)
lol. Been with 2 guys who go a long time and often 4-6 times a night :D
....downside is they also seemed to have that constantly on the brain and also sharing their percieved 'prowess' with other people.
Self praise is no praise boys.
My hubby would consider me a sex goddess lol. I can understand that situation. My hubby and I's sessions last about 20-30 minutes if i'm lucky and thats 2-3 times a week...again, if i'm lucky. Problem is...I am literally dying to do it again not even 5 minutes after we're done. Hubby is a sex camel. I, however am always thinking of new ways, different places, new toys to add to the mix lol. Oil and water we are.
So hubby just buys me lots and lots and LOTS of toys lol.
At least he's considerate of the differences in your sex drives :)
When your friend is done with him, give him my number, please! Just kidding.
Not really, that's 212-555-1212. :)
Amy,
so true about the sex being only interest. I went out with a guy who was 12 years younger than me for about 6 months and while we did do other things(date night, spa trip for Valentine's day, electronic assistance with my stuff, cooking and movies), the conversation wasn't always that stimulating.
But the sex was fabulous! Always 2-3 times if he stayed over and once on a long weekend, 5 times between 3 am and 2 the next afternoon. It was quite lovely, but the other wasn't there, so needless to say, didn't last. :(
He was definitely an experience to be with and know, sometimes it doesn't matter that a guy looks and f***s like a Greek god, there has to be substance.
Plus his name was Will Bang and I will laugh about that until the day I die.....
If she's tired of his sex, he's no sex god. At least, not to her. It sounds like she's not getting enough payoff for her efforts. I'm not sure where men got the idea that smashing for hours meant good sex. Making her super wet, groan uncontrollably, and having her beg for it are all indicators of good sex. If it takes over 30 minutes to get to that point, dude, you are bad at this. Giving her an orgasm so massive that she passes out means you are a certified sex stud. High five to your member. And if you're timing this, start to finish shouldn't take more than an hour. And if I find a guy who can do all that in 20 minutes, I'm marrying him. I must like him an awful lot!
Well that just made my week!!!
I completely agree.
I just had one for about 6 months. Had to break it off unfortunately. He was a sex god. He was also 24……I'm 30. I think the combination of his endless energy and ability to stay hard and my ability it to take him to school……well, his next girlfriend will thank me.
who has time for these 90 min sessions!! just seems a little excessive..at this house we have sex daily ..but not for 90 minutes!! keep it fresh and exciting!
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I'm a month late I see, but I still have a response.
My boyfriend and I can last between 30 minutes up to 2 hours.
maybe twice in a day, but the second time he usually can't finish.
This is a few times a week, for the last four years.
I am not complaining
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