You need to email him and say he needs to keep his crush separate from work. Make it very clear that you are flattered, but do not want things to be weird at work. Tell him he needs to keep things professional in the office. And if he continues to make you uncomfortable, talk to HR. If he's being abusive in the office or making your life difficult, it could be considered workplace harassment. 

Otherwise, try to avoid him as much as possible. Don't attempt to go back to being friends. It's probably for the best that he unfriended you on Facebook. 24/7 attention from a coworker who you don't return feelings for is pretty awkward. He can go sulk all he wants. But once he brings it into the office, he's being inappropriate. Make it clear in an email that you want to be friends, but you cannot work in an unpleasant environment. You shouldn't have to dread going to work because this guy can't get over his crush. If he was sending you unwanted love letters at work, that's something he could get fired for. Tell him that you want to remain friends, but he has to cool it with the unpleasantness. If he still makes work difficult, let him know you're going to HR. 

That'll straighten him up right quick once he remembers all the love letters from him you have sitting in your inbox.

As for the Facebook delete, maybe try him on Google +? I kid. Nick's right - let this creepy coworker know his behavior's not cool. If he doesn't shape up, warn him that you may have to ask a supervisor to ship him out.

You got dumped, and you're devastated. You never saw it coming. Or maybe you did the dumping, and now you feel like a monster for breaking someone's heart. The tears won't stop. You feel worthless. The whole world is in a tailspin, and you can't even imagine how to move on. All you want to do is get in bed, curl up into a ball, and never come out.

Heartbreak sucks. We've all been there. Sure, you have to grieve, cry, wallow, at least for a day or two, but you can't stay in bed forever. That's why your buddy the Wise-Ass is here to yank the covers off you (OMG sorry, didn't know you were naked under there!). So get up, get dressed, wipe those rabid raccoon eyes, and let me show you how the shake off a little bit of those Mean Reds. I'm not talking about long-term solutions here; this isn't about the weeks and months ahead. This is about today. This is about feeling better right now. We'll deal with tomorrow tomorrow.

Take a trip somewhere, anywhere. Car, plane, bus--just go. New surroundings have a way of changing your perspective and clearing your head. Some call it a retreat. I call it getting the heck out of Dodge because Dodge bums you out right now. Go. Disappear for a few days. But on second though, skip the bus--it's depressing.

Helping others is the best way to get your mind off your own troubles for a few hours. Soup kitchen, women's shelter, pet adoption at the local Petco--spend a day doing something nice for others and watch your mood improve.

Laughter isn't the best medicine--Xanax is. But laughter is definitely in the top five. Think of things that make you laugh, and seek them out: a funny friend, a movie you love, a book, people trying to ice skate but busting their butts instead. Go find your funny place and get laughing.

Read the rest of Cary's tips on what to do - and what NOT to do - after a breakup at the link above. As a girl who's been through this fairly recently, I vouch his suggestions are spot-on. Buy a plane ticket, fill up your gas tank and put that bad news in your rear-view mirror.

 I'm not so sure. Have we dated? Oh oh oh, you mean in general how does one suck d*ck. Having been the recipient of d*ck sucks, I can offer some opinion on the matter.

 

Most women suck d*ck exactly how their last boyfriend liked his d*ck to be sucked. Read that again, until you understand it. Just as it takes a couple some time to format their kissing style or a man to learn his lady's oral likes and dislikes, so too a woman usually performs oral on her new man with the skill set and likes of her last man. Because of this there is a learning curve when it comes to this stuff. What worked for John might not work for Dick. Just cause Harry liked it, doesn't mean Rod will.Having said that, there are some basics and guidelines to get you started:

1.       Consistency, the wang responds well to rhythm and steadiness. Don't change it up every 7 seconds. Find a groove and... groove.

2.       Most men enjoy depth, if it is doable. The more you take in the better. It's just basic science. Your mouth is warm and feels good. The more that gets in there, the better.

5.       As the man is close to climaxing, it is important not to change things up. The mind and body are locked and poised for orgasm; it's akin to not changing the channel at the most important scene of a movie. The results can be catastrophic and angering."What are you doing? Go back, go back!! He was about to explode!!"

Read the rest of Amit's helpful primer (including all seven steps to suction heaven) at the link above. I've said it before and I'll say it again: ENTHUSIASM IS YOUR FRIEND!

It means that at some point or other during your three-year-dating life, you've managed to irritate and/or annoy him, As I'm sure he's done to you and he decided to let somebody else know this. It's pretty par the course for most people in relationships. Childish as it is, we all talk to SOMEBODY else.

Mind you, it's definitely douchebag behavior and you are well within your rights to be upset and feel some kind of way. The level should coincide with whatever it was that he was saying. What I'd recommend is that you let him know that if he has some issue, he'd do well to bring it to you instead of taking it elsewhere. But just know this...this is when you CAUGHT him. Don't think it was a one time deal.

This is one of those moments where you two sit down and talk about your relationship. And if he doesn't apologize and acknowledge that he was messed up for talking sh*t about you to somebody else then he's a selfish prick and he's not going to stop doing it. He'll just not get caught.

Gal Pal says:

Ooooh, I would not be a happy camper in this scenario. Sure, everyone needs an escape valve in a relationship, but a female coworker should not be your BF's go-to steam release. (Doesn't he have a dude bro for that? Or - crazy thought - couldn't he have an adult conversation with you about what's bugging him??) So pull him up a chair, let him know what you heard and lay it on the line. I'm guessing he'll feel awful and stop running his loose lips all over his workplace.

Welcome to Limbo, where you first find out you are not gonna take the world by storm, then learn that being an adult pretty much sucks. IT GETS BETTER. Lets count your blessings first, eh?

1) You have a job. May not be a good job, but it is a job that does cover your bills with some left over. Something of a rarity at the moment for a lot of people. Plus, it is easier to get a better job if you already have a job. Sort of like the effect a guy's wedding band has on single gals.

2) You have a built-in support network. You know what the very worst thing about moving out is? Getting home happy, or tired and upset and having no one physically there to talk to or distract you. Sure, if your siblings are anything like most you struggle to get a word in edgeways, but they are there.

3) You dumped a jerk before you did something irrecoverably (Is that a word? It is now) stupid. Spend some time reading through the archives here and realize just how lucky you have been.

So what you got to be funking about? Sure, you ain't swinging the world by the tail just yet, but you are pretty firmly seated on the merrygo round that we call life. Get your head up, look life straight in the eye and tell it that you are it's boss, not the other way around. Keep saying it and faking it, you eventually believe it. So does everyone else.

The three best ways to get out of a funk (and rest assured, they haunt all our lives from time to time) are:

1. Help someone else.

2. Create something new.

3. Read something old - and brilliant. For you today, I suggest this.   

Talk to him about it, politely. He may not even realize all you do for him, so let him know, in a way that says "I'm feeling underappreciated, but you're not going to get your head chewed off for it." Once you do that, you'll have two reactions:

A) A sincere apology, and a deepening respect in your relationship...or...

B) A "So what?" reaction, in which case you should probably dump him like toxic waste and find somebody who isn't a douchebag.

Gal Pal says;

I'll admit it - I'm also a girl who likes gold stars on her chore chart. But consider why you're doing those things in the first place? To help him - or to get attention from him? A generous spirit requires no thank-you note (although, I admit, it certainly would be nice.) But let's think about this a moment - if he's not the kind of person who thanks you for kind gestures without prompting, is he really the guy for you? 

So many questions to ponder over the weekend. That's it for this week - thanks for playing, guys and girls!