With Kirstie Alley claiming she lost 100 pounds so she didn't have to have "fat sex" and a brand new book on the topic called "Big, Big, Love" -- plus-sized sex seems to be on everyone's minds. Guys, do you have any experiences or thoughts on so-called "fat sex"? Does your weight or your partner's weight have any impact on the quality of sex you're having?
Reformed Player says:
True story: I knew a guy who, freshman year in college, was 350 pounds. He got a girl to go home with him, and she was trying to go down on him. She finally admitted she couldn't find his penis.
Yeah, he's 190 now.
I know from anecdotes and a few articles that people suffering from morbid obesity do have some problems sexually, but your average American has no problem getting it on with a few extra pounds. This sounds less to me like a legitimate problem and more like another way our society wants to freak women out for not being sticks.
Funny Guy says:
Yes, I'd say that quality of sex can, in part, be tied to quantity of meat having the sex. Very fat people have limitations when it comes to cardio endurance, speed, agility, flexibility and balance. These things count for something in mixed martial arts and they also count for something in the field of boning. This isn't to say it's all bad news for enormous lovers. There are pluses to cushioning, deep cuddling and rocking slowly.
Interesting to note, Kirstie Alley also believes disembodied spirits were sent to Earth 75 million years ago by Xenu, an evil galactic warlord.
Chic Geek says:
To quote the famed member of British royalty Sir Mix-A-Lot: "Cosmo says you're fat/Well I ain't down with that!/'Cause your waist is small and your curves are kickin'."
Fat, thin, curvy, whatever. It's all about skill and enthusiasm.
Amit, you forgot that Kirstie Alley also starred in three "Look Who's Talking" movies. Even "Look Who's Talking Now," the third one with the talking dogs that absolutely no one saw. It's safe to say she shouldn't be considered an expert on anything except bad career choices.
Wise-Ass says:
I wouldn't have sex with Kirstie Alley at any weight. She's creepy and talks too much.
Chic Geek is right, it's all about skill and enthusiasm. The emphasis on size in our culture is maddening.
Mystery Man says:
So "riding the waves" has gone mainstream now? I knew it before it sold out, and it was much better then.
I do secretly wonder how very overweight people, male or female, have sex. Not your standard 30lbs of lovehandles overweight, but the truly colossal ones. The ones that have to struggle to get through a standard doorway. I think it's an awful lot worse for a woman to have fat sex - one slip and she has a ruptured spleen and fractured ribcage at the very least. Then there is the whole mechanics of it, which I would really prefer to not have had to think about today!
Sarcasm aside, I am gonna agree with RP. It's a load of cods. And no thanks. I prefer my women on the petite and delicate side. Always have.
Girls' BFF says:
Can't proclaim to be an expert in the slightest here but I've never really thought that the quality of the smangage would reduced by weight. Plus big pr0n teaches us that big folks, men and women, are able to engage in the thrills and joys of sex all the same. Unless we're talking about morbidly obese individuals I'm guessing every can enjoy the throngs even with extra weight. And for the record, I seriously doubt that plus size loving is on everyone's minds. In fact, I'm going to scoff at Kirstie Alley with vicious rhetoric for trying to make something that isn't a big deal a big deal. *scoffing* *scoffing with vicious rhetoric* At the end of the day, unless you physically can't make it happen, everybody's gonna do what it takes to get down with the get down, extra pounds or not. It's the American way, right. Or at least the Dallas in the 80s way. Bigger is better, right? Sometimes?
Gal Pal says:
Never once has a scale been an accurate predictor of sexual prowess. You want someone who's guaranteed to be good in that department? Check out the size of their confidence.
What do you think is hotter - fat sex or skinny sex?
Wow, this is a loaded topic. I think great sex is great sex. If you can dance, you can ****, as they say. I'm a big woman dating a short, stocky guy. I was always afraid of this combo, and it took me forever to want to sleep with him. I was so self conscious about it because I was used to tall skinny men that made me feel smaller. I recently learned that it was my self esteem, not so much my weight that got in the way. No matter what size, if the chemistry is right there can be fireworks! : )
As an aside, I think porn sets up unrealistic standards of performance for many women. Even if I was a size 2, I would not have contortionist sex (i.e. wrapping my legs around my head). Although, I have taught my thin friends a trick or two... : )
I think the under evolved man wants vapid arm candy, your average man wants the average woman, and the even more evolved man just wants the right woman.
Hey,
Look Who's Talking Now was a great movie....
Is it bad I'm more concerned about that than the topic? haha.
I think great sexual intimacy is one part physical preference one part science and one part personality.
In my personal experience, physique did not matter. I was fat, decided to get in shape, after a long period intense workouts and bland foods, I finally got a body that was in great shape; 170lbs, 8% bodyfat, visible abs. Only to find out from a Cosmos magazine article it's a man's facial attractiveness that's the most important. It was as if they told me "sorry old chap, everything you did was for nothing, all those long hours of working out, all those times you got up at 5:00AM, all the times you deprived yourself of your favorite junk foods, all the blood, sweat, and tears, all in vain, you might as well have stayed fat."
But, being in great shape is better, overall, than being a lardass.
As a former fat girl in training, skinny v fat is a joke. No extra or meager pounds make you a better lover or worse, but confidence is the key. Fat people seem to have this in aboundance, what women does not love having extra bobbs when the lights are low? I for one am not missing the love handles on my side, except when the doggy style is taken once again ( damm those ribs can't take the beating). So as my new shape starts emerging and my cuffing season is upon me, I'm happy to report I will have more energy, thank you insanity/P90x and spinning, more beautiful skin thank you raw food/water and dry brushing and more sleep. As being fat meant I had time to have better sex, being trim takes a lot more hours out of your day, which places sex on the back burner, but don't worry winter is upon us and then means more food and more cuddling xxx