One of the most frequent questions I've received here at Guyspeak revolves around the issue of "the callback". What is "the callback"? It's the call that a woman receives after engaging in a spontaneous act of coitus with a male suitor. The wait for the call back can be equal parts anxious and annoying. The same post-self gratifying guilt seeps in as you wonder if you've been one night standed. It's tough, cookie.
Well, Panama Jackson is here to help save you the whales trouble of wondering if a guy you boned is going to be calling you back. Truth is, if a guy is interested (and more likely to actually call you back) you'll know. It's like pr0n, you know it when you see it.
What do I mean? Glad you asked.
1. If he doesn't kiss you good bye
If I don't like a woman, I'm not going to kiss her, no matter what she just got finished doing to or for me. I'm just not going to do it. I don't care if you just gave me a kidney, I'll give you a hi-five and a card that says, "thanks for the memories". Call me evil, I'm unbelievable. I MIGHT go for the kiss on the cheek, but I almost feel like that's more disrespectful than the "thanks for coming by" as I escort you out move. Yeah, no kiss and your chances of a call back are at snowball's chance in hell levels.
2. If he doesn't invite you to spend the night
If I really like a woman, I wouldn't put her out after she, ya know, put out. I'd let her stay over as I'd like to wake up to her and maybe do what we done did when we did what we'd done done again. If you get put out (pun) at 2 a.m. then the guy REALLY didn't want you there in the first place. No call backs.
3. He doesn't get your phone number...afterwards (obviously)
In today's day and age, you can communicate with somebody without ever having their phone number. Between Twitter, BBM, Facebook, etc you can carry on a real conversation and friendship with somebody whose voice you've never heard. Thing is, that doesn't work in romantic relationhips of any kind. If you are leaving and dude kisses you on the cheek and tells you that he'll hit you up on Twitter...he's not calling you back.
4. He doesn't mention wanting to see you again
If a dude is interested, he's going to want to see you again. We're drawn to our interests like a moth to a flame. Do you know what we're not drawn to? Chicks we boned because we could but regretted as soon as the condom came off. Harsh, I know. But true. And that leads to, "thanks for a coming thru", a kiss on the cheek, and a business card without a number but our Twitter handle.
No call for you.
Well those are four ways to know if the guy you're wondering about will call you back. If any of those things has happened, it's not going to happen. Take heed.
It was written.
I've been dating this guy for nearly 7 months, we see each other often, we've slept together... we are both single parents (his daughter is 2 years older than mine, and they love each other to death!) and we get the girls together whenever he has his daughter. (I'm a widow, he's divorced so his daughter is with him every other week, for the full week, then she goes back to her moms for a week)
he does all the "boyfriend" things for me... BUT he doesn't kiss me. When I recently asked him about it he said "I've got some shi* in my head that I need to work out... it's not you, it's me. Honestly, its not you" and we met up later for a movie, his idea...
I'm confused by this... I'm obviously not a one night stand, he's got my number, he asks me to stay all night long when we get naked with each other :o) and he invites me (and my daughter) over often...
so whats the deal with the "no kiss"??? wft?!
I've been dating this guy for nearly 7 months, we see each other often, we've slept together... we are both single parents (his daughter is 2 years older than mine, and they love each other to death!) and we get the girls together whenever he has his daughter. (I'm a widow, he's divorced so his daughter is with him every other week, for the full week, then she goes back to her moms for a week)
he does all the "boyfriend" things for me... BUT he doesn't kiss me. When I recently asked him about it he said "I've got some shi* in my head that I need to work out... it's not you, it's me. Honestly, its not you" and we met up later for a movie, his idea...
I'm confused by this... I'm obviously not a one night stand, he's got my number, he asks me to stay all night long when we get naked with each other :o) and he invites me (and my daughter) over often...
so whats the deal with the "no kiss"??? wft?!
These are all true for women, as well. Signs She's Not Calling After...
1. She doesn't kiss you goodbye.
2. The sex is subpar.
2. She leaves afterwards, or kicks you out. She goes back to the party.
3. She doesn't get your phone number.
4. She doesn't mention wanting to see you again.
I hate the flippant attitude of this post, as it seems to assume that these rules don't go both ways.
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About a week ago I came out of a 6 year relationship which was very upsetting but a relief at the same time. At the weekend I met this guy very randomly and both got quite drunk, and I ended up at his place where we kissed and a little more… I couldn’t stop thinking about him all weekend as he aroused something very powerful in me and I texted him on Sunday and asked if he wanted to meet up. I went over to his place and after a little bit of resistence on my part, we had amazing sex, which I think I regret now. He is a very emotionally withdrawn person and also just got out of a relationship where he was badly hurt. I wasn’t looking for a relationship, I was looking forward to a few weeks of peace, but I find this guy so attractive, its like I’ve been hit by a bus. Anyway, he was very warm physically but very closed emotionally and didn’t really take much interest in getting to know me or complimenting me, even though he was very nice and respectful. I took it to either mean that he is just not into me, or he is scared of getting hurt again. I got a nice kiss goodbye and he said 'see you sometime maybe.' We had exchanged numbers the day before and I couldn't stay the night cos of my pets so I left. It's been one day now. What are the odds of him calling?