Not at all. I'm fairly certain that your reaction is a common one for individuals who go from being engaged to single only to find out their former fiancee has ALREADY moved on. Truth is, he moved on a long time ago and only made it official recently. That's why you should feel fine about wanting to rip him to pieces.

Of course, as long as it's just a feeling, its fine. You can't actually do it, ya know.You do know that right?

It's okay though. Karma is real and people like that get theirs in the end.

You are not crazy - you are human! Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned! So recognize the way you're feeling...acknowledge it. Realize that it's normal to be hurt and furious. Then go for a long run and a long cry and surround yourself with people who love you. Do that every day for as long as it takes to heal yourself. Do not, not, not contact him. Ever. Because the best revenge is moving on and living a delicious life. You won't believe this now, but some day you'll forget this man had anything to do with you. He'll feel like a dusty chapter in a long-forgotten book. And you'll be utterly engrossed with a fresh new edition of your life.

If your man got a blow job from another woman, he cheated on you, and it's up to you whether or not you want to forgive him. That simple.

I admire the lengths we go to rationalize truths that we don't want to hear. Choose someone who recognizes your value - not someone who you'll have to debate the definition of "sex," "cheating," and "I didn't know she was a prostitute" with for the rest of your days. 

Man, your town is filled with some friggin' winners, huh? Well, I'm glad you extricated yourself from the toxic sludge of nasty boyfriend #1, but let's make sure you haven't done all that just to sink into some new, nasty sh*z with a new guy.

Anytime a person goes out of their way to throw a "Caps Lock" on a word, such as "MAJOR" in your case, I take it to mean, "Warning FG, I'm talking big-time stuff here."And, anytime a guy or gal in a new relationship tells you they are "totally done" with something that is a threat to themselves or the relationship, it's something to be wary about. Not that your guy doesn't want to be "totally done" with a sex addiction; not that he doesn't believe on most levels that being with you should be enough to stop him from serial strip, nude and porn indulging, but chances are... it won't.

Entering a relationship we all need to accept a level of personal baggage that is stubbornly strapped to our partner's core being; but is dealing with a new man's sex addictions the sort of backpack you want to be toting? I'm not saying he's a cheater or a complete disaster of a dude, but it might not be wise to jump into anything too soon. Yes, people can change and shift, no doubt. But for real change to take place, it takes more than a wish or a pledge. It takes dedicated time, discipline and yes, oopsies. People with compulsive behaviors need to unlearn a behavior that's wedged deep into their DNA and psyche.

Every time he takes too long at the supermarket are you going to be sniffing around his neck when he returns? Investigating for the scent of cheap perfume? It could all turn out well, but is that how you want to move forward?

His behavior is your only guide. If he shows up where he's supposed to be, when he's supposed to be - without body oil all over his pants - he may indeed be a changed man.(Also, how did you find out about his MAJOR past? The answer to that question is important.) But the moment you feel a sneaking suspicion, I'd take that as a serious red flag. You'll have to be patient and keep a close watch on your heart. In the meantime, I'd encourage you to spend your time dating lots of men...you have the power to pick the winner and not have to settle for someone who owns a rewards card for Scores.

I'd think, "What year is this? 2003? Did I fall into a time vortex and end up in an era before Facebook? Are OutKast topping the charts with 'Hey Ya!'? Is everyone watching "The Hampster Dance" video on RealPlayer because YouTube isn't a thing yet? Do I have any Friendster requests? Boy, I can't wait to see Return of the King! I wonder how they'll wrap up Friends. Four more years of George W. Bush???" 

Anyway, after I got over my initial shock and adjusted to the fact that I can't Facebook stalk her and see every time she changes her profile picture or have her show up in that annoying feed which tells me every "like," comment or Texas Hold 'em Poker request she makes, I would just look her up on one of the million other social networks available. And then I'd shrug it off and get to know her in the real world. 

There's no law that saws everyone has to be on Facebook. (Not yet, at least...) If she's not into it, more power to her. In fact, I'd find it refreshing that she was an iconoclast who bucked trends and went her own way. As long as she wasn't a jerk about it and judged me for being on Facebook and collecting friends like Pokemon, then I wouldn't really care whether or not she had a profile. Plus, it might make dating smoother. As we've seen time and time again here, Facebook causes drama. It is definitely fun, and a great social networking tool. But I would never rule someone out or judge them for not being on it. Though if they were on Google+ and not Facebook, I'd probably give them grief. 

Of course, all of you good people are on Facebook. That's why you should head over there right now and "like" our Facebook page. http://www.facebook.com/GuySpeak

Did she explain why she doesn't have a Facebook page? There are plenty of legitimate reasons. Her profession may frown upon it. She may entertain privacy concerns. She may be wanted for mass murder. You never know! But that's the thing about dating - you never really know until you're in the thick of things - and asking questions.   

I don't know about unreasonable, but I think it's a waste of time. Unless you have an atypically good relationship with your former in-laws, your pleas will fall on deaf ears. If your divorce is like most others, his parents made up their minds about you long ago--based on whatever he told them, true or not. You are the enemy, and families stick together against enemies. Yes, they should realize that you are only looking out for their grandchildren, but some people just can't see the forest for the trees.

Why dick around, anyway? I say get the lawyers after him. He deserves it. Guys who don't pay child support are the worst kind of bums. He doesn't deserve any breaks or patience. I don't know how far behind he is, but it doesn't really matter. Tell him to pay up or face legal action, then go ahead and get in contact with an attorney and start the ball rolling just in case.

Gal Pal says:

Lawyer up, my dear. Don't do him any favors.

Hooo - boy. Do I get the toughies.You do know this is something that has been discussed, debated and made the subject of laws both secular and religious for thousands of years, right? Still it isn't settled because the definition changes as society changes. Still, this definition works for me:

Truth spoken by a horrifically racist a*shole is still truth. Everyone should know at least some Kipling.

That's it for this week. We are so THANKFUL to all of our readers - Happy Thanksgiving!