During the course of a relationship, there are many questions and discoveries made. They start from the very first interaction, even if no words are exchanged. Love languages don't need to be verbal. The way a woman blinks or walks can tell a man everything he needs to know, even if more than half of us will fumble the freeby she just sent your way due to insecurity and downright imbecility.
In the movie Hitch, Will Smith's character "Hitch" says so eloquently that on a first date, as a man, your job isn't to get her to like you, its to not mess it up. Most men seem to forget that the woman has already agreed to be out with us so she's exhibiting some interest, even if it is just an interest in eating.
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Anyway, back to questions. Men and women have myriad questions that we'd like to know about one another so that we may glean whether or not the person opposite us is a suitable companion or intent to become just somebody that we used to know. I love that song. Still.
Thing is, its hard to know when to ask certain questions. I think for women its easier. The questions women have kind of need to be expressly stated on the first date. For instance, "are you single? married? divorced?"
Or, "do you have any children?"
Or, "are you employed?"
Men don't tend to have those types of questions. Or at the very least we're too slow to realize how important they are to know upfront. Though the only one that probably matters to most guys is the one about children. Naw, our curiosities are a lot more superficial and aesthetic in nature. And with that being said, they require a lot of nuance when asking so as not to annoy the woman or make her think you're some type of creep.
So given today's climate and the relative ease with which a person can alter their personal appearance that asking the question of all questions...
..."are those real?"...
...would cause quite a bit of anxiety. Is there ever a good time to ask such a question? Should you at all? I have a friend of the boob who claims that unless a woman mentions it to you, you shouldn't ever ask because if she wanted you to know she'd tell you. That's stupid. That's like me having an STD and because I don't feel like sharing said information with you, you don't need to know. Granted the stakes are higher for an STD so its not a perfect parallel, but the point is, sometimes you just want to know so you can base your decisions on something concrete.
Perhaps the guy doesn't like foobs. But here you go withholding that information because it's not his business. I suppose you could always just wait until you got to see her naked at which point its probably more okay to ask, but still, would that be a mood killer?
So I ask you ladies, when is the right to time to ask? And keep it real. Or "real".
Pun.
Posse out.
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Just another gem right there for your use.
Anyway, back to questions. Men and women have myriad questions that we'd like to know about one another so that we may glean whether or not the person opposite us is a suitable companion or intent to become just somebody that we used to know. I love that song. Still.
Thing is, its hard to know when to ask certain questions. I think for women its easier. The questions women have kind of need to be expressly stated on the first date. For instance, "are you single? married? divorced?"
Or, "do you have any children?"
Or, "are you employed?"
Men don't tend to have those types of questions. Or at the very least we're too slow to realize how important they are to know upfront. Though the only one that probably matters to most guys is the one about children. Naw, our curiosities are a lot more superficial and aesthetic in nature. And with that being said, they require a lot of nuance when asking so as not to annoy the woman or make her think you're some type of creep.
So given today's climate and the relative ease with which a person can alter their personal appearance that asking the question of all questions...
..."are those real?"...
...would cause quite a bit of anxiety. Is there ever a good time to ask such a question? Should you at all? I have a friend of the boob who claims that unless a woman mentions it to you, you shouldn't ever ask because if she wanted you to know she'd tell you. That's stupid. That's like me having an STD and because I don't feel like sharing said information with you, you don't need to know. Granted the stakes are higher for an STD so its not a perfect parallel, but the point is, sometimes you just want to know so you can base your decisions on something concrete.
Perhaps the guy doesn't like foobs. But here you go withholding that information because it's not his business. I suppose you could always just wait until you got to see her naked at which point its probably more okay to ask, but still, would that be a mood killer?
So I ask you ladies, when is the right to time to ask? And keep it real. Or "real".
Pun.
Posse out.
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Are fake boobs normal enough for this to actually be a problem?
Lemme answer your question this way, if a guy asked me that question, then he doesn't know me well enough to realize I would never do that. And I would find him very immature, therefore not worth my time.
I think it depends on the woman. Some women are very open, some not so much. I think after getting to know someone for a while, you'll know if you can ask. Basically, if you don't know her well enough to know if you can ask, don't!!!
I think it depends on the woman. Some women are very open, some not so much. I think after getting to know someone for a while, you'll know if you can ask. Basically, if you don't know her well enough to know if you can ask, don't!!!
Unfortunately, i think fake boobs ARE normal enough for this to be a problem. I have pretty large boobs that are real and I think I'd be fairly flattered if someone asked if they were fake. That would be they don't look like they're hanging at me knees! (A tremendous fear of mine.)
I have natural G cups on a size 4-6 body, so I get asked if they're real ALL THE TIME.
That being said, I think it's pretty easy to tell the difference between real and fake boobs, so if the guy can't tell, maybe he's not looking properly/enough.
Oh, and since I'm 18 (and what 18-year-old girl has implants, seriously), people using only ask if they're real to emphasise the fact that they're huge as opposed to it being a genuine question.