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No commented on
ive been out with this guy about 10 times and he has not offered to pay for our dates once! its always just a split down the middle.. im not picky about guys paying, i mean he doesnt have a job right now.. but come on.. not paying ONCE! what do i do?.
*Praying for a lack of double/triple posts, as this is the third time I've tried to submit a comment, but the site is being glitchy.* --- I agree with Nick completely. If the guy never pays for his date (especially after ten dates, and especially if he's the one who asked you out), then that's a serious red flag, or at least a yellow one. 99% of the time it means that he's either a very thoughtless person, or thinks that he's just so awesome that he doesn't even have to try. I feel somewhat passionately about this, as my...
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Kate McG commented on
ive been out with this guy about 10 times and he has not offered to pay for our dates once! its always just a split down the middle.. im not picky about guys paying, i mean he doesnt have a job right now.. but come on.. not paying ONCE! what do i do?.
I don't know why, but I've always been uncomfortable with the guy paying on the first date. Or second date, or third. It feels like I owe him something, and that I might be expected to pay this debt horizontally. Until I'm really comfortable with the guy (to the point where I'm not feeling any of that pressure), I like to pay for my own half of the date. I want to do the fun stuff with him because I choose to, not because I feel obligated to. I may have an overdeveloped sense of obligation, but otherwise, I can...
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Lunita commented on
ive been out with this guy about 10 times and he has not offered to pay for our dates once! its always just a split down the middle.. im not picky about guys paying, i mean he doesnt have a job right now.. but come on.. not paying ONCE! what do i do?.
I agree with Nick. My boyfriend paid for lunch on our first date, and dinner and the price of our admission on our second date. I bought us coffees on the second date. Since then, he's paid for the majority of our outings, but I do pay for dinner, etc. as well once in awhile. I like this. It's a give and take, and it seems more natural than splitting things down the middle every time....
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Anonymouse commented on
ive been out with this guy about 10 times and he has not offered to pay for our dates once! its always just a split down the middle.. im not picky about guys paying, i mean he doesnt have a job right now.. but come on.. not paying ONCE! what do i do?.
Jess, read over my last couple of paragraphs. I think you'll find we agree!...
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Anonymouse commented on
ive been out with this guy about 10 times and he has not offered to pay for our dates once! its always just a split down the middle.. im not picky about guys paying, i mean he doesnt have a job right now.. but come on.. not paying ONCE! what do i do?.
I never said common courtesy goes out the window. In fact, I said exactly the opposite. I said that both sexes should be equally courteous to each other. Not both treat each other like crap, as you seem to be implying I think. Sorry you misunderstood. I know it was a long comment, but still... (And yes, I know we DO have the vote and some of us DO treat men like date-providing cash machines, but it doesn't mean we should, if that's the double standard way in which some of us behave! Oy vey...)...