A woman who is essentially single from September to February because her guy forsakes her for football, whether it's pro, college, high school, fantasy, Canadian, arena or Madden '10 for XBox 360.
The football widows' support group meets every Sunday afternoon at 5 in the church basement.
I used to be a Football Widow but then I divorced his ass. True story.
I'm always happy to see a widow remarry.
Im going thru that now. Come March thru August I'm disappearing every Sunday!
Ladies, I must say - football is no reason to feel widowed! As a pure FEMALE football fan, I find it sad that women get so upset about something that is so harmless. If you really love your man, learn about the sport! It really gets exciting if you can share this with your man. Besides, he's not out doing other things you might enjoy LESS.
Would you want your man to break up with you because you love shopping or watching soap operas?
Totally agree MsDelray! I guess I would ask the Football Widows if they like any kind of sports though. If not, it might be a challenge to start. Do you like any kind of competition? That's what makes football fun. Without a competitive spirit, I don't know that they'll ever really enjoy football.
What about this though? Do you enjoy cooking? Football and food go hand in hand. Cook up a storm. Have your guy invite his buddies and their significant others over for a football party. Those that enjoy football should watch the game. Those that don't could, I don't know, play board games or card games in another room. So, you're all kinda together, but not bored just sitting there watching the other person having fun. The game will end eventually. Then you could all come together for games or cards, etc.
If you do enjoy sports or any kind though, I would recommend learning about football. It really is a great game. Then, you could learn about fantasy football. I got hooked on that 3 seasons ago and love it!
Before I got married (then divorced, but not related to sports), I came from a household that was the opposite. I was (and still am) a HUGE hockey fan. My guy (and all of his buddies) knew nothing about it. I had to teach them all everything (power plays, icing, shootout and much more). They felt silly at first, learning this from a girl, but they came around and realized how very cool I was (and still am).
I haven't been a true football widow because I've never been married, but I've dated a few guys who were REALLY into sports (and I am not, at all). I found that instead of harping on the guy or pitying myself, it really is best to try and see what he loves about the game. Personally, football strategies are mindblowingly complicated and even when I gave it a genuine try, I couldn't understand it. That created a newfound respect for my guy who could beat ANYBODY at one of those football video games. And as for soccer -- it's genuinely enjoyable to watch! Hot guys, crazy fans... fun! Same with snowboarding and basketball.
If you just truly can't find a single thing that makes you respect or enjoy your man's poison of choice, then think about the positive benefits his lack of attention will have: you can do whatever you want, his ass will be planted to the couch so he's very low maintenance, it's a great time to play the "My Girlfriend/Wife is FREAKING AWESOME" game by being a hostess (bring out the beers and hot wings, then retreat! ... and eat plenty of the hot wings without any judgment from your guy), etc etc.
And it's a good excuse to wear the jersey of your guy's favorite player (and nothing else)... they're really really super comfortable, your guy thinks it's sexy even though all it really is is comfy, and you score major bonus points with him!
Great advice, B. Thanks.
This is funny because my boyfriend is a football widower. I'm the one obsessed with watching the games!
I am a football widow... sort of. I just broke up with a guy because of football. We work overseas in Iraq. He wouldn't spend my favorite holiday with me (Halloween)... because of football. I had plans to dress up really sexy for him and enjoy the holiday the best way we could over here. Ditched. The straw that broke the camel's back; however, is when he said he would spend my birthday with me until his college football team made it to the championship game that took place around the time of my birthday. He then made vacation plans to go home and didn't invite me. When I told him that I hoped his team didn't make it to the championship, because I didn't want to break up with him, he said, "You might as well break up with me now. I am going home." I hope he has a good time touching himself during the game, because I will never date anyone who values football over their relationship.
I'm sorry but stop bitchin' ladies. If football, or any other sport for that matter, is something you bf's or husbands enjoy, let them watch the games! I'm a woman too and I understand a man needs some guy time. I admit I like football and other sports but I had to 'endure' a man being at a LAN party the whole weekend (a few hours is nothing compared to 3 days and I used it to make some time for myself!) and no that ain't why we broke up. So chill ladies, and give your man a few hours to relax, watch the game and drink beer.