A little while back, I asked you nice folks if your guy was good at taking care of you when you are a snotty, coughing, headache-y mess. With literally everyone currently suffering from/getting over/likely being exposed to the flu, I figured it was a good time to look at some of the responses my question got.
Much to my surprise, it got quite a response. I discussed how I’m old fashioned when it comes to taking care of your sick significant other. This is what I said a guy should do when his girlfriend/wife/person he’s seriously dating is sick:
“And I don’t mean just making them chicken soup. I
mean hold their hair back if they’re puking. Make sure the house is
stocked with medicine, juice, Gatorade, etc. plus any other supplies
they need to make them feel better. This can include, but is not limited
to, books, DVDs, comics, vitamins, tissues, video games, and whatever
else they need. Maybe get them flowers too, provided they aren’t
This led to a wide variety of responses.
Some people shared stories of good boyfriends and hubbies:
Cared-for reveals: Yes he takes care of me, massages, keeping an eye on my temp and
determining if this is ER material or not, soup and fluids as well as
letting me know he still finds me sexy and if needed, even cleaning up
Lilz said: My bf is an EMT so he goes a little overboard when I’m sick It’s
really sweet but sometimes I just don’t feel like having someone all up
in my pancakes when I don’t feel good. Last fall I got sick and he drove
me f’ing nuts asking when he could bring soup over. I don’t like to
have others around when I don’t feel good, I want to just be in bed and
blow snot into kleenexes, take hour long showers, and be free to sleep
if I need to…
While others had sadder tales:
That Lady said: I take care of him every time he’s sick or even has a tooth ache or “has
a headache” its a different story with me though, all he does is look
at me unsympatherically and says “do u want to go to the hospitol?”. and
keeps watching tv.
Lisa said: nope.. not even a phone call. He told me he didnt get a chance to come
around and see me.. and sorry. Its depressing… my family does me the
A guy, Perry, chimed in and revealed that he takes good care of his girlfriend when she’s sick, but she barely does the same. He says, “This is a bit unequal–but what we’ve settled into.” He goes on to recount a moving tale about how his mom takes care of his ill dad and how he doesn’t think he would feel comfortable having his girlfriend be in that position.
Dominique asked: Here’s a question – at what point in a relationship do you let that nurturing side out?
If you’ve gone on a few dates and like the guy and your nurturing side is coming out, don’t fight it. If he gets scared off, well, that’s his loss.
Silkysly asks: What about the guy who is there holding your hand at the pet hospital,
when you dog is hit by a car & requires surgery? (I’m still trying
to figure this one out.)
Now that one’s a keeper.
So in this cold and flu season, are you taking care of someone? Is someone taking care of you? Are you taking care of yourself? Share your stories.