I was wondering how many of you are currently dating or married to someone who would not win any beauty pageants? Not ugly per se, but just a real out on a limb “type.” A type that happens to drive you wild. Yesterday I found myself Googling Paulina Porizkova in a moment of throw-back nostalgia and remembered she was married to one Rick Ocasek.
There are many reasons to fall in love and marry someone. Among them are a person’s heart, their wit, soaring spirit, humor, talent or wisdom. And all of these things, in my estimation, are meaningful and should trump someone’s looks. But damn if I wasn’t thrown for a minute when taking in the visual juxtaposition of supermodel Paulina Porizkova and Ocasek side by side. Yes, this isn’t a perfect example as Ocasek is a world class rock star and Ms. Porizkova was only 19 at the time of their courting — and swept off her feet/mind by a man nearly double her age. But now, some 20+ years later, Paula states that her husband is the sexiest, most handsome man she knows, and that George Clooney doesn’t hold a donkey’s whisker to her adonis-like Rick Ocasek.
And so I wonder out loud who reading this is married or dating his or her own Ocasek? Or, who among us, is their couple’s identified Ocasek. Married as I am, I’d be lying if I said me or my wife fill this role. I’m not saying we are a pair of matching Paulinas, but we seem to straddle the same looks latitude, if you will. I imagine for those couples that don’t – is this “a thing” that had to get addressed at some point? Did a nosey friend ever point it out? Did a co-worker, a few vodkas in, ever say something rude to you or insinuate that there was a real visual mismatch going on?
Finally, I would think it true that more often than not couples that fall into this category showcase a woman with a peculiar looking man (see Lyle Lovett and Julie Roberts). Where the hell are all the examples in Hollywood or your town’s main street of objectively handsome men with… left-of-center wives?