Chic Geek

The Chic Geek is equally comfortable amongst the hipsters at a Grizzly Bear concert or at home playing Wii Bowling with his friends, or if lucky enough, his girlfriend, on a Saturday night. Sure, he may have been shoved into the occasional locker back in middle school but that’s all in the past now that geek is “in.” He’s always up on the latest gadget or Lost rumor and he’s your go-to guy on everything from Star Wars-themed weddings to proper dating etiquette in the iPhone generation. (If only there was an app for love!) Ready to get your geek on?

Recent questions answered by the Chic Geek:

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Q: I've been talking to this guy for the last 6 weeks, and about a week ago he tells me he wants to be with me. I replied by saying "Let's see what happens." In the last few days he has not been calling at night, even though we text & talk throughout the day. What's up with that?

A: He's not calling because you kind of blew him off. "Let's see what happens" might be your way of saying you want to get ...

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Q: Can an uncircumcised man orgasm during sex with a condom?

A: Yes. Of course. Don't let him tell you otherwise. "I can't feel anything with a condom" is the oldest dirtbag trick in t...

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Q: Is it weird to have pet names in the form of Pokemon? I have an odd habit of doing this to almost every guy I want to get romantic with. First, it was Psyduck. Then it was Growlithe. Now I'm all over Mightyena. Would you get turned off by immaturity or be intrigued by slight creativity?

A: Uh, if the guy's really into Pokemon, he might be cool with it. (You aren't doing this in public, right?) Otherwise, he ...

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Q: What are the signs you're just a rebound?

A: The signs will be similar the ones given off by a guy who is just looking for sex, only with slightly more emotions invo...

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Q: How much of Lyfe Jennings' "Statistics" do you agree with?

A: First off, that song is tremendous. (Listen to it here, or go here to watch the video.) Second, Lyfe Jennings is for rea...

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Q: I'm very patient with my Scorpio man but he's so stubborn and mean. Should I leave or stay?

A: Oh, Scorpios. I don't put all that much stock in astrology, but Scorpios can definitely be mean. (I should know-- I'm re...

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Q: I met my boyfriend online. I want to do a background check on him for peace of mind for me & my family. How do I ask him if that's ok? Its understandable, right?

A: Yes, it's understandable. You work for the FBI and he's applying for a job, right? No? It's just your boyfriend? Then do...

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Q: I sent an email via Facebook to a guy I knew 20 years ago. I just recently found him on FB and all he could say was, "OMG! How are you?" Why so few words considering how long it's been?

A: Because it's been 20 years and he is a completely different person with a whole new life. He might have a wife and kids,...

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Q: I met this guy a month ago and said I was a sports fan (using the term liberally and trying to impress him). He messaged me talking about sports stuff that I didn't really care about before transitioning into regular conversation. Does he like me or is he just looking for someone to talk sports with?

A: He likes you. The sports stuff was just to break the ice. If he was just looking to talk sports, he has about a bajillio...

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Q: How do you know when a guy only wants you for sex? What are the signs?

A: Here's ten signs: 1. He doesn't want to cuddle, spoon, snuggle or do anything that doesn't involve putting his penis in ...

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Q: This sounds like an easy solution but I'm struggling- I like sex, and when I meet an attractive guy it usually is only 2 dates before I go for it. I always enjoy it right then and for a few days after but then I have Put-Outers-Remorse. Not sure why. Do I stop?

A: "Put-Outers-Remorse." That's funny. And true. If you feel bad about it, that's a sign you should slow things down. You l...

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Q: Is it normal for my husband to only be friends with women and spend hours on the phone with them?

A: Hours on the phone? Is your husband a 14-year-old girl? I start to get antsy if I'm on the phone for more than ten minut...

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Q: My boyfriend tells me he refuses to get married until he's 35. This is 9 years away and i would be 38. Is it worth staying hoping that he may reconsider his timeframe or should I cut and run if that does not work for my time frame?

A: I'd give it some more time. "I'm not getting married until I'm 35" is what every twenty-something guy says at some point...

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Q: My affair of one year was discovered by my hubby of 20 years. My lover and I were going to get divorces and move in together. Now that we are caught, he won't do it. I never thought of leaving before, and with my "out" gone, I've nowhere to go. Why do I still want to leave?

A: Because you're unhappy. You were unsatisfied in your marriage, and you cheated. For a year. Not a one-night stand that y...

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Q: From a heterosexual female: if I get turned on by myself, am I vain?

A: Uh...no? I suppose that doesn't necessarily make you vain. Though you might want to question the whole heterosexual thin...

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Q: I just turned 36 and am not married. When I tell people I want kids they ask "are you going to adopt or do artificial insemination?." Are they serious? I'm not too old for a guy to want to marry me and father my children, am I?

A: You're not too old to have kids. Don't forget that woman in India who gave birth to triplets at the age of 66. While the...

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Q: What does it mean when a guy will only come to your apartment and won't take you out?

A: It means you're his booty call. Or booty text. Possibly his booty IM or booty Skype if he doesn't feel like using his mi...

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Q: My boyfriend has to travel a lot for his job. One of his newly added friends on Facebook is a girl from a city he stayed in last week. Should I be worried?

A: Is it a coworker? If so, then you shouldn't worry. He's traveling, making professional contacts. Facebook can be a netwo...

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Q: I am a very tall girl with brown hair, I'm also very curvy. Here's my problem: Not one guy will go out with me. They're always staring at my size 40D boobs and my hazel eyes, They act sweet around me, they seem interested in me, but the wont go out with me. I've never had a boyfriend, and I don't understand why.

A: Wow. Frankly, I'm kinda stumped. I have never heard of a tall, curvy gal with gorgeous eyes having trouble finding a guy...

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Q: After 4 months of a great relationship, why would a guy just stop calling? Seriously, everything "appeared" to be going great...but now he stopped calling, won't return my calls or texts. What's going on?

A: Sadly, I think you know what's going on. He's done with the relationship and too chicken to tell you. It's particularly ...

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Q: Ok, this may sound stupid but here goes...I want to find a wealthy woman who can pay me for my time. Yes, you probably know where this is going. I cannot find a job and I am running out of ideas.

A: Man, I hear ya. That's the dream, right? Who doesn't want to be a kept man for some wealthy socialite? Lounging by the p...

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Q: I recently got a pixie cut that I love. I do have feminine features (big lips/eyes) and there's no way you could mistake me for a boy but I'm still worried guys will prefer women with long hair or wonder if I'm gay. Will the price of super cute hair be a bit of a drought in the dude department?

A: Go for it. That hairstyle is super trendy right now. All the stars are sporting it. Rihanna, Katie Holmes, Justin Bieber...

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Q: I love Mad Men and as a girl who has always been unusually curvy, I love Joan and her style. Recently I've been Joan-ifying my wardrobe. But just out of interest, are only women loving the early 60's look on women, or do men like it too? (Also, do you only like it FOR women, or are you all dying to sport fedoras?)

A: Men definitely like the retro '60s Mad Men look. It's a welcome return to the time before Spanx and emaciated hipster Am...

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Q: If your geeky guy-crush-friend says he's "flattered and touched" (I quote) to hear you have a crush on him, but he's currently not looking for any relationship, is there any hope at all or am I equivalent to guy-buddy/sister material?

A: Ouch. I'm afraid you're stuck in the friend zone. On the plus side, he told you in the nicest way possible. I don't thin...

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Q: Do guys really care if girls have stretch marks? Like BAD ones that are purple and gross and old ones that make your legs look like cellulite city.

A: No. Stretch marks are a part of life, like acne or pesky nose hairs that make you sneeze when you pull them out with a t...

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Q: No questions about Twilight Saga: Eclipse, Nick? Or have you managed to avoid it?

A: Oh, I saw it. Took the girlfriend a while back. She knows it's bad, but still enjoyed the books. (Well, except for Break...

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Q: I do Ironman triathlons, own my house, have a great career but am single at 33. I realize there could be other reasons I am single but could it be that men intimidated by my success and athleticism?

A: No guy worth meeting will feel intimidated by you. Why would a guy not want to be with someone who is fit, successful, a...

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Q: i asked out this guy at work and he said he couldn't hang out because it was his sister's birthday. Doesn't that sound like a lie?

A: Not necessarily. It could actually be his sister's birthday. That's not entirely outside of the realm of possibility. St...

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Q: How do you keep men whipped?

A: Be really good in bed. Also, make him nice pies. Or cakes, depending on his preference. ...

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Q: Today at work, I overheard my crush tell his friend he thinks it's strange that I always laugh at everything he says even when it's not intended to be funny. How do I fix this?

A: Stop laughing at everything he says. In fact, only laugh when he cracks a really funny joke. Unfortunately, now he think...

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Q: My friend is married to a guy that slept with someone a few days prior to them getting married. What advice should I give her? They are married now, but she found out after they got married.

A: You shouldn't do anything except support her in whatever she decides to do next. This is not an easy situation. How long...

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Q: I'm pregnant and I know the baby is not my boyfriend's. How do I tell my boyfriend? I don't want to hurt him, but I want to raise the baby with him. Should I even tell him it's not his?

A: Of course you should tell him it's not his. Why is not telling him even an option? Did I just fall into "opposite dimens...

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Q: My crush is really into rap music, but I'm definitely more into the indie rock/alternative scene. I wanna make him a mixed tape (he always makes fun of my music). Do you have any suggestions for something we could both listen to?

A: Kid Cudi. His recent album, Man on the Moon, features indie acts like MGMT and Ratatat and has a really eclectic sound. ...

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Q: I do everything for my boyfriend. I don't know what i am doing wrong! He always leaves me for his friends and lies a lot. He sometimes talks to other girls and flirts. I am beautiful. Help! What do I do to get his attention?

A: Dump him. That'll get his attention. Seriously, stop being his doormat. He knows he can treat you like garbage and you'l...

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Q: I don't know why, but all my life I've sucked my thumb. Not all the time just when I have TROUBLE sleeping. It's not something I'm partial to showing off, but I'm about to move in with my BF and he obviously doesn't know, waking up in the middle of the night to that is quite weird. Should i tell him? What will he think?

A: You should definitely tell him, and also let him know that you need help stopping. If he's about to move in with you, I ...

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Q: why do you look like such a douch in your picture?

A: But... a handsome douche, right? RIGHT? I don't know why I look like such a douche. I blame my face....

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Q: I absolutely HATE this necklace that my boyfriend always wears but he thinks it makes him look good. How do I make him STOP wearing it for good without bruising his ego?

A: I'll probably take flak for this, but I don't think guys should ever wear necklaces. (This is coming from someone who wo...

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Q: I broke up with a guy over a text. We only went on 2 dates so I didn't figure it was a big deal. All he said back was "k". Does this mean he really didn't care, or he's pissed at me?

A: Probably a little of both. Two dates warrants an email break up at the very least. Honestly, I'd rather someone just blo...

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Q: I'm planning my wedding, but my dad has been out of the picture my whole life. My first dance will be with my brother, and I was wondering if you had any suggestions for songs? Everything out there is about romantic love!

A: Awww! This broke my heart. Seriously, this is so sweet. There will not be a dry eye in the house at your wedding. As for...

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Q: Are guys afraid to date widows?

A: Immature guys who are afraid of emotions, sure. Everyone else? Nah. Would someone be cautious when starting a relationsh...

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Q: If a man has been cheated on in all of his previous relationships, will he ever learn to trust his (faithful) fiance fully or will he always have unwarranted suspicions?

A: Every previous girlfriend cheated on him? Yikes. Remind me to never get on the same plane as this guy, cause that is som...

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Q: My boyfriend adores Sheryl Crow to the point where he has kept all her pictures. He is 30 years old and it makes me doubt our relationship because I don't keep stuff like that around. Should I think I think it's nothing? Or am I just jealous?

A: So I assume he's dragging you to Lilith Fair this summer? Hey, I'm not judging. I went to the original back in the '90s....

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Q: I am dating my coworker. We teach inner city kids together and are keeping it very under wraps so it doesn't cause drama with the kids,faculty, etc. Problem is: his way of doing this is to flirt with EVERY other female teacher so no one suspects.

A: Dump him. He's using the need to keep the relationship on the DL as an excuse to womanize females. You're doing the righ...

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Q: I work at a summer camp. During one of the camp cheers, I accidentally slapped my male coworkers ass while waving my hands around. He now makes lewd comments around me, and I feel really uncomfortable. How do I address this?

A: Report him to your supervisor. He's made it a sexual harassment issue at this point. It doesn't matter that it's summer ...

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Q: Need help on dating a stripper

A: Listen to the T-Pain song "I'm in Love with a Stripper." The soulful, Auto-Tuned lyrics will tell you all you need to kn...

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Q: My hubby wants to have fun with loads of women as one night stands. He says that he is being honest and I should be understanding about it. We have been married for 14 years,its understandable he wants change. Please tell me that its alright to be heart broken.

A: Oh, well, at least he's being honest. Are you serious? Unless you want an open marriage, this is grounds for divorce. Of...

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Q: Guys, choose ONLY one to bring home: girl with good personality, good sense of humor, sexy body, beautiful face or amazing bedroom skills?

A: By "amazing bedroom skills," I assume you mean she always makes the bed neatly, doesn't leave crumbs under the covers, ...

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Q: I am Jewish and my fiancee wants me to become Mormon. I refused; however, he wants to have the wedding at a Mormon temple leaving non-Jews (i.e. my friends and family) out. What should I do?

A: Why not have an interfaith wedding? It's very common. I asked my friend Christine, who had a Jewish/Catholic ceremony, f...

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Q: I like one of my ex-boyfriend's friends. (Me and my ex have a lot of the same friends.) I've never hung out alone with this friend, just in group settings. What should I do?

A: Ah, the ol' friend switcheroo. It can be tricky, because it means potentially spending time with your ex. Even if you're...

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Q: A doctor gave me his cell and said to call over the weekend if I wanted. Is it inappropriate to ask the guy out or was he just being polite by giving me his cell?

A: Wow, that's a really nice doctor. Clearly he's concerned about your health. Don't call him unless it's an emergency. You...

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Q: If my husband wants to go to his class reunion without me am I asking for trouble? He keeps asking people about the marital status of the girl who owns the bar where it is being held, and says she was just the sweetest thing in high school. Am I just being too paranoid?

A: Yeah, that's not cool. Why doesn't he want you to go? The whole point of a class reunion is to show your former classmat...

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Q: A married ex told me he took a job six hours away. He lives there four days out of the week. Only married 18 months after being laid of for over a year. Does this sound weird to you? I lied and said I'm getting married in a year. He said, "Congrats. Marriage is Great! Married life is great." What does he mean?

A: He means he loves his wife and is happily married. The only part of this that sounds weird is that you lied to him about...

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Q: Why is it that single dads get dates quicker than single moms? I'm really baffled by this. And please don't say because the kids don't live with the dads.

A: Unfortunately, the answer is pretty simple: to women, a man with kids says "stability." For many single guys, however, a...

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Q: During a hot make-out session, my boyfriend (who isn't very experienced) stuck his finger down the back of my pants and up my anus instead of my vagina. I got kinda grossed out and stopped him. Was this an accident? Or is he trying to tell me he wants anal?

A: Ouch. Poor guy. (And poor you.) This instance should probably be filed in the "rookie mistake" category. He got excited ...

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Q: Is it annoying to ask my geek friend to repair my computer multiple times?

A: It's not annoying if he is cool with it, but I certainly hope you're buying him dinner or doing something else nice for ...

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Q: Is it that hard for guys to give a sincere apology?

A: What?!  Guys can't apologize?? How dare you ask such a thing?? Why, the nerve of some people-- I'm sorry. Didn't me...

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Q: I've been out with this guy about 10 times and he has not offered to pay for our dates once! It's always just a split down the middle.. I'm not picky about guys paying, I mean he doesn't have a job right now.. but come on.. not paying ONCE! What do i do?.

A: Has he offered to make dinner for you? Suggested cheap dates like nature hikes, free museum nights, etc.? Ten times with...

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Q: How do I get a geeky boyfriend? I'm a biology major and future scientist, and I'm tired of dating normal guys that frankly are dumber than me. I'm not tech savvy nor do I buy comic books, I don't know where to meet nerdy guys. Plus what if they're too shy to ask me out?

A: Great question. Many readers have asked where they can meet a nice, geeky guy. Therefore, I present the secret hideouts ...

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Q: I found text msgs between my husband and his ex. He told her about me, but he also told her he loved her. When confronted he said that he hurt her badly and needed her forgiveness to move on, and she wouldn't talk to him if she knew we were married, but that he loves me and has never cheated. Should I believe him?

A: Well, I don't think he handled this well, but it all sounds pretty legit. He should have told you he was communicating w...

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Q: My boyfriend complains about my weight all the time. What should I do?

A: Dump him. Change the locks. Leave his stuff out on the lawn. Even if he's concerned about your health, he's being a jerk...

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Q: Why do men always neglect to use a GPS or Mapquest?

A: Well, if every stand-up comedian I've ever seen is to be believed, men hate asking for directions. And in our modern age...

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Q: My husband made a Tagged.com profile and there's just a bunch of girls on his friends list. Should I be worried?

A: I'm worried that I've never heard of Tagged.com. I thought everyone was doing Foursquare now. Hold on, let me look at it...

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Q: We were at the mall and my boyfriend went to order food from Arby's and didn't even offer me anything. Then he just sat there and ate it in front of me.

A: Dump him. First he's making you watch him scarf down a Big Beef and Cheddar, then he's forgetting your birthday and "lik...

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Q: I've been divorced for over 5 years and we are still friends without benefits. It seems I just can't find a woman.

A: Stop being friends with your ex-wife. You will be amazed how the world opens up to you once you ditch your obvious bagga...

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Q: One thing that bothers me about my boyfriend is he has had 30 partners before me and he just turned 20. I'm a virgin. He told me he is done living like that and I'm IT for him. I just cant fully believe that. He has held out over a month for me, It's summer, and I don't know what to do when he goes back to the #1 party school in August.

A: 30 partners?? And he's only 20? How can the guy stand upright? Does he walk into a room, trip and fall into the girl, an...

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Q: Do you have to be dumb to get a guy?

A: To get a dumb guy, yes. Dumb guys hate smart girls. When they meet a brainy lady, they get confused and punch the neares...

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Q: Why would my boyfriend's soon-to-be ex-wife (they have been separated for ten years and living in different states) take an assumed name and befriend me on FaceBook? I have had absolutely no interaction with her (ever) and I am really puzzled by her behavior. Is she trying to cyber stalk me? What gives?

A: She's absolutely cyberstalking you. This is like something out of a movie! How did you figure out that Jane Doe (or what...

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Q: My best friend is OBSESSED with her boyfriend. They are sooo clingy, and frankly, it creeps me (and everyone else) out. I've tried telling her to tone it down before, which she does for about a week. Is there any way to tell her, nicely, to quit acting in a way that makes me want to vomit?

A: This one is sort of a lose/lose situation. If you say something to her, she'll get defensive and just think you're jealo...

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Q: Recently my boyfriend asked me not to shave (down there) and the thought of not shaving completely grosses me out. I wanted to do it at least once for him just to make him happy but it makes me feel repulsive. I hate the way it looks, feels, and just knowing that its there. What should I do?!

A: Your boyfriend is living proof that some guys like it wild and woolly down there. We get this question a lot, and the an...

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Q: Do guys not like curly hair?

A: Curly hair is awesome. You can run your hands through it. It says, "I'm a wild, uninhibited person who doesn't play by s...

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Q: I might sound like a psychotic, jealous gf but I don't like it when my bf has tickle wars with other girls he knows. It's not so much the tickling as WHERE he tickles. The mid to high thigh areas are a no-no for me but I know that he and I are from different sides of the spectrum with physical openness. What do I do?

A: You aren't psycho-- he's a douche. He shouldn't be having tickle fights with anyone but his girlfriend. (I can't believe...

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Q: I see that you've done the top 5 romantic Christmas songs, the best sex songs, the top 10 break up songs. So can you create a list of the best seductive dance songs?

A: Great suggestion! Check out previous installments in the "GuySpeak Mega Awesome Mix" series below and leave your picks f...

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Q: Nick, this isn't a question but a statement for you. Thank you for the good advice you gave me about my ex-boyfriend. You are right, he was a jerk for asking me to get a breast augmentation and pay for it. I told him no, and he said "no augmentation then no marriage." Oh well his loss...thanks again!!

A: You're welcome! Glad to help. (Read her question here.) I also have to give credit to our readers for their great commen...

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Q: I really this guy, but I recently found out he doesn't like Asian girls. What should i do?

A: Forget him. It's his loss. Who rules out an entire ethnicity? Oh, right, racists. He's racist, or, at the very least, ov...

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Q: Is there ever really such a thing as bad timing for a relationship? Even if a guy is really into a girl?

A: Oh, absolutely. He could fall madly in love with you, and you could be still getting over someone. You could meet him, f...

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Q: I've been seeing a nice guy for a month. Unlike the selfish men that I usually date, he's romantic and giving. Recently he's asked me to go on a trip overseas and he wants to pay for everything. I'd love to go but told him it makes me uncomfortable and I'd like to pay for my share. He got mad at me. What should I do?

A: Well, I was going to say go for it and let him pay for you (how often do you get swept away overseas?) until you mention...

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Q: Is it weird to be insecure/jealous about my boyfriend's beautiful sister? Does it change anything about how he views me? I'm worried because I look completely opposite. Thanks!

A: You shouldn't worry. There's a reason why you are the opposite of his sister: he doesn't want to date his sister. Becaus...

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Q: I have acne and slight scarring from chicken pox. The guy I'm seeing didn't seem hesitant to kiss me when I didn't wear make-up for the first time on one of our dates. Is acne not as big a deal to guys? Should I go back to wearing less make-up since I don't normally wear it?

A: Man, I remember the first time I got chicken pox. It was my birthday, and my family took me to my favorite Japanese hiba...

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Q: I am 45 and my boyfriend is 53. He's asked me to not only get a breast augmentation, but wants me to pay for it. I told him I wasn't comfortable with that and he reminded me that his last three exes got an augmentation. What do i say or do?

A: First, you should introduce his face to the palm of your hand. Then you should plant your foot in his ass and send him i...

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Q: Does a guy's perception of a girl change when he finds out she's a mom? I know all guys are different, but in general does she become more attractive, less attractive or does it matter? When should she tell him about her bundle of joy?

A: You should tell him right away. Preferably before the first date. That's not something you want to wait to reveal when h...

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Q: I put some Bengay on before my boyfriend came over. We started kissing, and he told me I smelled really amazing that day. What?!

A: Grandma fetish, perhaps? Perhaps he's still on a high from Betty White's hilarious SNL episode. Next time you're making ...

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Q: My boyfriend is mad that I don't text him throughout the day to let him know if I'm busy or free. My days are a bit chaotic and very stop-and-go, why can't he just assume that I'm busy when I don't answer him right away? I feel like I'm reporting to some higher authority with every text and it's quite irritating.

A: I can relate. I don't love texting. I accept that it's part of the way we communicate now, but if I have to punch button...

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Q: What do guys think about receiving flowers?

A: Wow. No one's ever sent me flowers. I'm not sure how I would react to that. I would probably think that somebody had die...

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Q: Do you think Kristen Stewart is hot?

A: Eh...not really. She was kind of hot in The Runaways, I guess. She was also pretty good in that movie, and did a little ...

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Q: Hey, Nick, do you guys get grossed by scars? I had a near-fatal car accident 1.5 year ago, and that left me with a huge scar across my back (from spinal surgeries). Next week I'm going on a second date with this sweet man. Is it too soon to tell him about the scar?

A: I would wait a few more dates. Swapping scar stories is more of a fourth or fifth date thing. Freaking him out really is...

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Q: What are the top 10 break up (moving on) songs in your opinion?

A: This is a great follow-up to last week's question about the "sexiest sex songs." Here are ten (okay, 12) songs to get yo...

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Q: If in a committed relationship, do men consider it cheating if they get say "a happy ending" from a massage parlor?

A: While I'm sure some guys wouldn't consider it cheating, their girlfriends or wives will definitely feel otherwise. Cheat...

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Q: Hi, so I'm bisexual, and I have a fbuddy who's a girl. But, I met this guy, he's boyfriend material, he's hot, and he promises he has a big junk. I am in a dilemma because I want to keep my relationship with my fbuddy, but I'm thinking of actually settling down. Should I take the plunge?

A: Take the plunge! He promises to have a big junk. What more do you need? And if there's one thing that guys never lie abo...

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Q: Best sex songs?

A: Best songs about sex, or the sexiest songs of all time? Let's do a list for each. Best Songs About Sex"In the Kitchen," ...

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Q: My boyfriend is planning on moving into a house with two of his mates and a Playboy Bunny wannabe. I really don't want him to. What shall i do?

A: Wow, that sounds like the premise of a terrible movie. I suggest you sell your story to Hollywood right now, dump your b...

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Q: Should married couples take separate vacations?

A: Uh...No? This seems like a very bad idea. Are you taking a "stay-cation," with one of you camped out in the living room ...

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Q: There are always tons of guys hitting on me. I'm also getting my PhD. For some reason, the guy I want to be with, who isn't in college and spends most of his time smoking pot, wants to hide his relationship with me. WHY?

A: I have a question for you: Why do you want to be with a guy who hides the fact that you're dating? You're a smart PHD st...

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Q: Hey Nick! Can you help? You seem NICE. ..so is the guy I'm seeing (shy, technology dude) and we've been dating 6 wks (talk daily, meet up 2x/wk). We're both young 40s. He doesn't want to have sex yet though! Otherwise VERY affectionate. I sleep over-we cuddle. I *made* him touch my boob and he looked awkward. WHATS UP?

A: Uh, I don't want to play the easy "he's probably gay" card here, but, uh, you might have a new gay bestie. Six weeks and...

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Q: What can I do to get my man back? He left me for someone younger. I am 38 and he was 20. He said he wanted more "experience in life" but would always love me. I was his first. Do I have a chance?

A: No. You should move on. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but he ain't coming back. He said he needs more "experience...

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Q: Who would you rather marry, Alicia Keys or Beyonce? And why?

A: Let's play "boff" or "marry"! This one is easy. I would boff Beyonce because, come on. Who wouldn't, male or female? (So...

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Q: How do I get my girlfriend to like anal sex?

A: Just jam it in there and see what happens. Of course I'm kidding! Don't do that. Seriously. You've gotta get all Phil Co...

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Q: I'm sick of being 'cute'. What would it take to be viewed as hot?

A: Why are you sick of being cute? Being cute is awesome! Hotness comes and goes, but cute lasts forever. You'll still be c...

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Q: How do I get a guy to respond to my messages on dating sites?

A: Examine the messages you're writing. Are you writing something too casual ("Hey, you seem cool. Write me back sometime")...

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Q: I just watched He's Just Not That Into You and I have to know...what's a guys perspective on all that stuff?? It seems like a girl's version of a guys point of view.

A: Well, having sat through that movie with my girlfriend, I have to first say that while Ginnifer Goodwin is adorable, her...

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Q: When the groom gets a lapdance at his bachelor party, what really goes on?

A: This is what goes through most grooms' minds during a lapdance. Get ready to have your mind blown! -- Oh, they got a str...

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Q: I'm a perfect hourglass. 32DD boobs, 23 inch waist, 33 inch hips. I love my body, but is it as good for others as it is for me?

A: Probably not. While I'm sure plenty of men (and maybe women) appreciate your body, no one will ever love it as much as y...

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Q: I'd been casually dating this guy for about 2 months when he disappeared citing "a series of unfortunate events" (Lemony Snicket anyone?). 4 months later he resurfaced, excuses in hand. I want to be his friend but find myself pissed off when we're together--it so wrong to want him to just fess up & be honest about it?

A: Why are you still friends with him? This dude pulls a Keyser Soze, disappearing into thin air, and then comes back with ...

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Q: When a guy says to his buddy he needs "unfiltered female talk," it's to womanize females and dis them, isn't it?

A: Totally. Every time I hang out with my guy friends, we womanize females something fierce. If there's a female within our...

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Q: I bar hop with 3 guys. Once the drinks starts flowing all they talk about are boobs. Meanwhile, I'm there with a good amount of cleavage showing, trying to pull up my neckline. (I'm large in that area.) How do I jokingly join in the convo when I'm not too comfortable with it? Be more of one of the guys?

A: Call them out for their sexist banter. Give them crap (in a playful manner) for being sexist pigs. Tell them how much wo...

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Q: Nick, you're pretty Bombtastic so naturally, I come to you for advice. I just started dating this awesome guy (over a month, still very new) and his birthday is coming up in May - he's mentioned it playfully. I love to bake, so I'm going to bake him something, but should I also buy him a gift or is this too much?

A: Thanks! I've never been called "bombtastic" before. That's awesome. Also awesome is baking something for your new guy's ...

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Q: Would a guy be turned off if a woman watched/read porn or hentai (pornographic Japanese comics), or is that something she should keep to herself?

A: No guy would ever be turned off by a woman who watched porn. If anything, he would want to watch it with you. Watching p...

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Q: HELP! A friend that I'm crushing on just told me (after I confessed) that he's always seen me as family, because I remind him so much of a female relative. He's been hooking up with an ex friend but not dating her, so I'm wondering - do I still even have hope? Can I get out of the technical "friend zone" one day? How?

A: Ouch. Unless he has some sort of creepy Flowers in the Attic-type crush on the female relative you remind him of, it's s...

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Q: I lost my virginity just over a year ago to a guy I met on the internet (I know, I know..) Afterwards I got scared and wouldn't have sex with him again, just oral. He got mad and said it's too late to go back. Am I wrong in thinking he's being a jerk?.

A: Wow, what a line. He's a creep-- get rid of him. Sleazy dude, meet the curb. You don't have to do anything that makes yo...

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Q: I caught my boyfriend calling phone sex lines but we have an amazing sex life and even have phone sex whenever he wants. I confronted him about it and he said he doesn't know why he does it. Is this a gateway to cheating and other bad things? Should i be worried about our future? We're supposed to get married soon.

A: Not knowing why he does it is a problem. That means it's an addiction, or at the very least a compulsion. Phone sex is l...

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Q: I snoop on my boyfriend and it needs to stop. I realize that what I'm doing is horrible. I'm betraying his trust and its no way to treat the man that I love. I also understand that If I go looking for trouble, I'll find it. The problem is that I can't quit. What can I do to stop this destructive, crazy girl behavior?

A: Yep, you are looking for trouble. Specifically, he's going to dump you for being paranoid and untrustworthy. Why do you ...

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Q: From one geek to another- I just got accepted into an amazing, out-of-state college. Problem is, I really love my bf of 1.5 yrs. and I'm afraid to leave him behind. What do I do?

A: Go to college. No question whatsoever. Do not turn down an amazing, life-changing experience for a relationship. It is m...

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Q: So, I hate, and I mean despise my boyfriend's best friend. We had this huge argument, and I threatened to call the cops so he'd get arrested for the drugs in his house as payback. Which is a little rough, but I'm big on revenge. Anyways, now my boyfriend of over a year wants to end it. He's seriously picking him over me?

A: Well, it sounds like your boyfriend is the sort of guy who puts his "best male friends" before his "ladies of the evenin...

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Q: I recently read in an article on a women's magazine website that there is no such thing as closure - that it is just clinging on to some false hope. Should I move on even though my ex-boyfriend seemed to pull away with no real reason?

A: First of all, I disagree with the claim that there is no such thing as closure. What about looking up an old boyfriend y...

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Q: Found out my bf's got a profile on match.com. He said he joined last year to just check things out for the 3 months free period but turns out match charged his card automatically for the year and that's why he's still got the profile. We've been dating for 2yrs. What's your thought?

A: This sounds a little fishy to me. On the one hand, guys are lazy, so I could see how maybe he signed up for a free trial...

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Q: I cheated on my BF who i really care about, it was a one time thing, I fessed up, and now he refuses to talk or even look at me, anything i can do to fix it. I honestly feel terrible.

A: I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but there is really nothing you can do now. You messed up, and now he holds all the...

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Q: Why do guys like to cuddle after sex?

A: Uh, is this a problem? Usually we get the opposite question. But, hey, that's cool. Plenty of women just want to hook up...

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Q: I'm scared my boyfriend will find someone else once he starts community college. Should i tell him my fear or will that make him think I'm not confident in myself?

A: You should absolutely share your fears and concerns with him. Even if he's going to school in the area, he's going to be...

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Q: Do guys like to hear poetry a woman has written for them or about them, or is that a little too creepy?

A: It depends on two things. One: are you any good? Are you Maya Angelou...or are you Jewel? It's like if a guy writes a te...

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Q: Hot dude without a job. Keep 'em or dump 'em?

A: Keep 'em. Lots of people are out of work now; nothing to be ashamed about. If you like him and have fun together, don't ...

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Q: I live with my ex and he has a girlfriend, but he messes around with me. I got tired so i told him never to do anything again. He usually comes at night to kiss my forehead or to wrestle with me. I just dont get him if he loves somebody else why does he bother me and what can i do to stop it?

A: Have you heard about this site called Craigslist? It's this amazing place where you can get anything. Like, say, a cheap...

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Q: Would most guys have sex with a girl who has their period?

A: Yeah. What? You've done it. Put a towel down. If you're up for sex during your period, that's not going to stop us. Thin...

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Q: My guy has a temper. He's only yelled at me twice in the 1+ yrs we've been together, but he gets angry (and violent) over the smallest things. I hate it! I get scared sometimes and have to leave the room. Is this something I can help change? How?? I know he loves me and wouldn't hurt me but I worry about it sometimes.

A: There are two things you can do to help him. One: tell him to get anger management counseling. He needs to talk to someo...

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Q: Why do so many men in their late thirties and forties refuse to give any woman out of their twenties a chance?

A: Simple: because women in their twenties will date them. If the twenty-something women of world would band together and c...

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Q: Why does almost every guy go for the skanks???

A: Here's a little secret about skanks: they're easy. And many guys are lazy. But there are plenty of guys out there who do...

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Q: My "ex" boyfriend will blow me off and act like he doesn't care for days on end. And I'm not the type to text or call him if he doesn't call me, but randomly he'll tell me he loves me, misses me, etc. When I reply and ask where it came from I never get an answer...WHAT IS GOING ON!?!?!?

A: What's going on? Your ex is playing head games and you are falling right into his trap. He's like a James Bond villain, ...

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Q: What is the definition of an "open" marriage?

A: This is an interesting (and timely) question. I was wondering the same thing when I watched Oscar winner Mo'Nique discus...

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Q: I like to go deep when giving a blowjob but my man always grabs my hair and likes when I stay there ( making it hard to breathe). I've tried telling him to let me breathe, lol. But he gets to excited. How do i get him to relax and enjoy it at the same time?

A: You should tell him that you can't breathe, and that you might choke or puke (two things he doesn't want to happen while...

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Q: What is a guy's opinion to when girls curse frequently? Is it a turn off?

A: I think it's kind of hot, actually, and funny. I mean, cursing someone out isn't funny (unless they're an a-hole* who de...

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Q: What is a guy's view on dirty texts, and what is appropriate and what is not? Thanks!

A: My opinion on "sexting" (I hate that phrase with a fiery passion) is that less is more. An occasional filthy text about ...

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Q: Why is it guys you used to date want you back when your about to get married???

A: Isn't that always the case? One of life's absolutes-- along with death, taxes, and Kelsey Grammar making yet another TV ...

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Q: What are your suggestions for learning to be alone? Or at least, how to make it more bearable. Please forgo the "Plan a night with your girlfriends and paint each others' toenails!" route of advice. I'm not looking for distraction, I'm looking for peace of mind.

A: Have you tried inviting some girlfriends over for a night of Jennifer Aniston flicks and toenail painting? I kid, I kid....

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Q: How do I get my boyfriend to buy me tampons?

A: Tell him to man up. Or "HTFU," as my Wise Ass pal Cary would say. Occasionally buying tampons is part of being a good bo...

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Q: Can a really romantic movie persuade or even change a guy's mind about you when he sees it? Does it even affect guys?

A: You know, I would like to think that movies have the power to affect people in that way. But I don't think romantic movi...

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Q: is it unattractive to be sweaty at the gym?

A: Uh, no. That's why you go to the gym. To work up a nasty sweat and feel awesome afterwards. Wait, are you one of those p...

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Q: What's horchata?

A: It's a beverage, popular in Spain and Mexico, usually made with rice, milk, cinnamon, and sometimes vanilla. Usually ser...

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Q: Double dates. What are your thoughts?

A: Tons of fun once you're in a relationship. Early on, it can be tricky. I would say double dates shouldn't start until a ...

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Q: I am an attractive, educated, and intelligent female who after 15+ years of marriage is now divorced. I am shocked to learn that my ex has now decided to pursue a gay lifestyle. Although I have nothing to do with his decision. I have to wonder what guys think about ME when they learn my ex is now gay ?

A: You're right: his decision has nothing to do with you. And the fact that you're worried about what guys will think of yo...

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Q: What are your thoughts on long distance relationships? Are they worth the work it would take?

A: Anything or anyone you care about is worth the work. Is it easy? Rarely, if ever. I've known plenty of people in long-di...

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Q: If a guy tells you he wants a "committed, yet casual and exclusive relationship" what does that mean?

A: I think he's feeding you a line of what my grandpa used to call "malarkey," or what is commonly referred to as "B.S." Ho...

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Q: When (and how) in a relationship do you reveal that you were once obese, but have lost weight due to weight loss surgery? And would it be a turnoff to you?

A: You should treat it as you would any major surgery. Maybe don't bring it up on the first date, but a few weeks into the ...

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Q: Is it normal for guys to have a white residue on "themselves" before they shower or when they wake up? And I'm not referring to any white residue from ejaculation. I mean otherwise.

A: ...What? Is he a ghost? There is so much going on here. Okay, first...what do you mean by "themselves"? Why is that in q...

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Q: How can I ask a guy that I'm hooking up with for the night if I can spend the night?

A: Well, first of all, stop hooking up with guys who make you leave right after you've done the deed. Who are these d-bags ...

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Q: I'm scared if I tell him I want a relationship, I'll lose him as a friend. We have been "friends with benefits" for a year now, and I thought that was enough but it's not.

A: Well, you're already in danger of losing him as a friend now that you've crossed over into the "with benefits" realm. Se...

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Q: I just started dating a guy I met online. Every time an attractive girl comes around, my date stares at the girl until there's eye contact. I'm actually surprised he hasn't broken his neck yet! I figure it's a bad sign if he's not trying to hide it out of respect for me. Am I right?

A: What? He's staring down random girls until they look back at him? Dump him. That's the worst thing I've ever heard. Okay...

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Q: I can't stop cyber-stalking my boyfriend's ex! He won't talk to me about his ex, so everything I know about her, I found out online. How can I stop obsessing over this?

A: You've gotta stop. Get one of those programs that offices use to block certain sites and block her Facebook page, Twitte...

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Q: Me and my best guy friend have this bet where we don't call each other. If I win, he has to give me a musical performance and if he wins he gets to take artsy and possibly nude photos of me. It's been a couple of weeks, could you give me insight into his thoughts or should I just call him and lose the bet?

A: He's thinking, "She's totally going to fold and call me, and I'm going to get to see her naked." He's also thinking, "I ...

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Q: i pretended to be someone else on facebook and talked to my boyfriend, and now he's totally in love with her. Should I confront him or shouldn't I?

A: You need to break up with him right now. You need to say, "I'm sorry, this isn't working out. See you never." Because no...

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Q: What do guys think about a girl who plays guitar and electric guitar, even when he can't play anything?

A: ...What? Oh, I'm sorry. I was just thinking about how hot it is when a girl plays guitar. I'm going to have to say this ...

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Q: Saw an email that stated: Nice pictures Mr. Boneder...what does this mean? Is this Mr. Boneder a saying among guys and does that mean hes sending sex pictures to his friends?

A: Ha! Mr. Boneder. I've certainly never heard that saying before. But it's going in the GuySpeak Dictionary. What does it ...

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Q: Do guys REALLY believe in love at first sight? Or is it just a bunch of crap?

A: Here's a better question: does anyone believe in love at first sight? I, for one, do not. But I do believe in lust at fi...

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Q: My guy and I are poor college students. We've been fwb's since October, made it facebook official last month.Currently, he's broke. Is this a legit excuse for him to not give a V-day gift? Would it make him feel bad if I got/made him something? The best gifts are free, right? ;)

A: Agreed. Some of the best gifts I've ever received were handmade with love. They cost nothing, or were under $10. I think...

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Q: My boyfriend is a fan of some porn model on Facebook. I guess I'm being immature and insecure with myself but it kind of bugged me. Do I say anything? Or just let it go?

A: Don't let it go. That's not cool. Here at GuySpeak, we get tons of variations on the "my boyfriend/husband/guy I'm datin...

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Q: What does it mean when my boyfriend does not invite me to go to a party with him and leaves me at home?

A: One of three things: 1. He wants a night out with his friends and doesn't want you around. If so, he's a big jerk for no...

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Q: Bachelor parties. Is it reasonable to expect my man not to go to a strip club? If im not allowed, then why should he be able to go to one?

A: He won't let you go to a strip club for a bachelorette party, or just in general? If he won't allow you to slip dollar b...

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Q: What does it mean when a guy writes your number down on piece of paper, but clearly has a phone?

A: It means that you're in the "maybe call" pile. Sure, he might put you in his phone later. But why not just add you right...

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Q: I like to smoke weed. My boyfriend hates that I do it. I love him and I'll stop if it's going to ruin our relationship. He's not over protective, he let's me do whatever I want, it's just the weed that's an issue. He says he's just looking out for me and wants me to focus on school. Should weed even be an issue though?

A: He is looking out for you. And that's a good thing. Because if your boyfriend is worried that smoking pot is affecting y...

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Q: My best friend and i have been hooking up for 6 months. We live together and spend all our time together. Everyone thinks we're a couple, except we agreed it's just FWB. I have feelings for him now, is it likely that he has feelings for me as well or can a guy keep it strictly physical?

A: Well, I got news for you: you're already in a relationship. You spend all your time together, hook up, live together, an...

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Q: After a bad break up, I went on a no-guy sabbatical to reevaluate my past missteps and to form a new, healthier perspective on what I want in a prospective mate (i.e not an ass-hat.) Its been a year now and I'm ready to date again. I'm just not sure how to do that. Help? Please?

A: First off, I have to applaud you on your dating sabbatical. I'm sure it was difficult to go cold turkey like that, but i...

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Q: Why do guys wear skinny jeans?

A: Because they're in an indie or emo band. Or they want to be in an indie or emo band. They think they look good, but they...

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Q: I'm 45 - he is 25. Why are younger men sometimes attracted to an older woman?

A: First off, I'm going to try to get through this without using the term "cougar." (That one doesn't count.) I refuse to u...

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Q: Do guys like girls who are bitchy and mean?

A: Not necessarily. But I'll throw the question back at you: do you fall for jerky, d-bag guys and then hate yourself in th...

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Q: If my husband of 10+ years looks up his ex-girlfriend's address on google map because he was just curious and didn't tell me (i was clearing the recent history and found out from the history of the search engine that he googled her and her husband), should I be concerned?

A: Uh...Yes. That's a little concerning. I'm not saying he's cheating, but, uh, I can't think of another legitimate reason ...

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Q: How do I know if I am a bad kisser?

A: He will stop kissing you and move on to other things. Like trying to get you naked. That old saying about how sex is lik...

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Q: My best friend, who's a guy, is pretty cool but he has recently started making sexual jokes like "Great, we have ten minutes. Enough time for a quickie". I usually just laugh it off, but what's his deal? Is he into me or something?

A: Well, first of all, he needs better lines. Not only are his jokes cheesy, but he's also implying that he's Speedy Gonzal...

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Q: How long is it appropriate for me to wait to be introduced to my new boyfriend's parents?

A: I would say six months to a year if his parents are local, 1-2 years if they're not. Any sooner could put unneeded press...

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Q: Are you scared of gay men and if so why?

A: Well, they keep trying to eat my brain for one. Wait, that's zombies. No, I am not afraid of gay men. Are you? You shoul...

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Q: How do I get my husband to agree to a 3-some with another woman?

A: Tell him it's just about sex. While you might think that the idea of being with two women at the same time is his ultima...

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Q: He says he wants to save money to buy a ring and we will get married this spring, but he has bought 2 vehicles since. Will he buy me a ring?

A: I'm going to let my girlfriend chime in on this one first. Nick's girlfriend: "Sounds like he needs to put a ring on it!...

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Q: If a girl is the one to ask out the guy then who pays on the first date? Should it be the guy still?

A: I think the guy should pay, regardless of who did the asking out. I believe a guy should ALWAYS pay on the first date. E...

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Q: I went to a drive through coffee shop where a very hot and pleasantly nerdy bro-ista struck up a conversation with me about the wonderful world of Marvel based on a bust of Wolverine I have affixed to my dash board. Here's the question: How the heck do I show him I'm interested? Keep in mind I'm on the very shy side.

A: Go back and ask him where you can find the nearest comic book store. Or if you already go to one, tell him you're lookin...

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Q: When men get old, do their penises shrink quite a bit??

A: Oh God I hope not. Getting old is hard enough. You forget where you put the remote, start calling Twitter "The Twitter."...

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Q: Why won't my boyfriend tell me how many women he has slept with?

A: Because it's either a spectacularly high number or an extremely low one. If it's high, he's worried you'll think he's a ...

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Q: I'm in a bar. Guy buys me a drink without asking. I think he's being pushy and rude. My girl friends say he's just trying to be nice, but I think they're being naive. What is a guy's true intention for buying a lady a drink without asking? Does he really think he's being a gentleman?

A: He thinks he's being smooth. He's trying be James Bond, or Don Draper from Mad Men. But he's actually being supremely ch...

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Q: What do you think of a guy that makes over $250k/yr, spends freely on himself but will not help a long term girlfriend out when she falls on hard times? P.S.--the girlfriend regularly prepares meals for him, does his laundry. Other than she is a doormat and he is a creep. Why do guys not help out financially?

A: Uh, yeah, he sounds like a creep of the highest order. By definition, a relationship means you support each other. Give ...

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Q: I found naked pictures of a woman in my boyfriend's special drawer. He cheated on me with her. Does this mean that I am being cheated on again?

A: Not necessarily. But it means he still has feelings for her. Or at the very least, he wants to sleep with her again. As ...

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Q: If my bf didn't get me anything for Christmas, what do I do? We have been going out for 8 months. More of a casual thing. I did get him a very nice gift already.

A: Ah, the old "how soon is too soon?" gift issue. This is a delicate balancing act in new relationships. What is the prope...

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Q: What turns a 17 year old guy on?

A: Victoria's Secret commercials. Blake Lively's low-cut dresses on Gossip Girl. Beer commercials. Scantily-clad video game...

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Q: Does he want to be my boyfriend or is he happy being snuggly pals?

A: Do we have to use the term "snuggly pals"? Can't he be your "guy who holds you in his manly embrace"? Does he want to be...

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Q: I'm a writer, but I can never get my bf of 3 years to consistently read my material. I know he's busy (he's a bball player) but even when he does read it he just does it to oblige me. Why?

A: He's probably worried about upsetting you. Every time you give him something to read, he probably thinks, "What if I don...

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Q: Is it bad if a girl can get a higher score in video games then her boyfriend?

A: This question comes up a lot. It seems some boyfriends and husbands out there don't like it when their gal beats them at...

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Q: I found gay porn under my boyfriend's bed. I'm really afraid of confronting him about it. What should I do??

A: You need to talk to him. Right after you read this. I don't care if Jersey Shore is on. They'll run it again in a couple...

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Q: If a guy takes me to his Company Christmas Party can that mean anything significant?

A: It could. It definitely means he likes you enough to want to introduce you to his coworkers. Maybe it's a test to see if...

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Q: What does it mean if a guy constantly has to check up on you all the time? (Checking cell phone, reading journal, calling to make sure I am where I said I was going to be... that sort of thing.)

A: It means he thinks you're going to cheat. He doesn't trust you, and he's paranoid. Does he have any reason to feel this ...

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Q: When a guy slaps you on the arm what does that mean?

A: It means there's a bug on your arm, and he's trying to kill it. Or you are about to get hit by a car and he's trying to ...

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Q: Do you think it's hot when girls Lolspeak?

A: Nope. Sorry. Actual, complete words are far sexier. Please, please save the Lolspeak for captioning photos of cats and n...

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Q: Why hasn't my 29 year old boyfriend of 8 weeks who I have known for over one year tried to kiss me?

A: Uh...You know, I thought really hard about this one, and I can't think of any legitimate reason other than maybe he does...

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Q: Would you be mad if your girlfriend of 7 years kissed another guy, while drunk, one night?

A: Yes, absolutely I would be mad. Would it end the relationship? I don't know. For some people, it might. Others might cha...

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Q: Dear fellows, I have a lot of limitations. How do I go about finding my special someone? Please give detailed step by step advice asap.

A: Ask and ye shall receive. Here is your ten-step plan to finding someone special...1. Stop telling yourself you have a lo...

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Q: Is it odd of me to be concerned that my boyfriend's favorite book is Catcher in the Rye (and only references that one book...he hasn't read anything else by Salinger)? I don't believe he's going to shoot John Lennon or anything.

A: Well, I'm not concerned about that either, considering we recently celebrated the 29th anniversary of John Lennon's deat...

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Q: Would a guy be intimidated or not even date a girl taller than him?

A: No, short men like tall women. Medium height men like tall women. Tall guys like-- well, I suppose tall guys like low ce...

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Q: I recently had a (mistake!) threesome with a guy who I don't even know if I like and my best friend's brother... I haven't told my friend about it, but it's killing me to keep a secret like that from her. How should I tell her?

A: Wait, you had a "mistake" threesome? Like you were walking into a room, tripped and...whoops! Threesome! Seriously, thou...

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Q: Do guys appreciate CDs/playlists their girlfriends make for them? Would he actually listen to one, even if it was totally not his music taste?

A: I definitely appreciate them. I've discovered a lot of great music from mix CDs or playlists girlfriends have given me, ...

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Q: I love that my boyfriend is a huge geek, but the one thing that bugs me is his toy collection! He has not only 1, but 2 cabinet full of toys, including statues of scantily clad women with removable clothes. When I bring it up, he compares it to my shoes.

A: First of all, you should tell him that your shoes don't have visible plastic boobies. While the shoes/action figure comp...

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Q: My boyfriend watches porn and lies about it. I've told him hundreds of times that I don't care that he watches porn and yet he STILL lies about it. Why?

A: Any number of reasons. Maybe he's ashamed. Maybe he watches some really hardcore porn that he thinks you'd wouldn't be i...

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Q: Do men care about christmas decorations?

A: I do. I can't get enough of them. In fact, I don't even care that they seem to come out earlier every year. Put up the t...

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Q: I started talking to this guy I met online, and I liked him at first. We recently talked on the phone, and the chemistry was just not there. Now he's wanting to meet. Should I tell him that I'm just not into him, or just slowly stop talking?

A: I'd say just phase it out over email. He'll get the idea. You've never met in person. Why lay the "I'm just not into you...

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Q: I'm a little bit overweight, vegetarian, percussion major and I love South Park and Colbert Report. I've got plenty of guy friends but I'm almost NEVER the object of affection. Be honest - if I don't lose the weight, do I have any chance of finding love?

A: First off, I decided to answer this question as a counter to Funny Guy's "So You're Fat" blog because I think it's impor...

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Q: We girls invest so much time and money on cute bras and panties. Do men really notice?

A: Yes, absolutely. Of course, we eventually want to get them off you, but we definitely appreciate it. In fact, there is a...

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Q: My Bf of 3 years is ADDICTED to video games, and sometimes it feels like he is choosing them over me. What should or can I do about this?

A: This has been coming up a lot lately. First of all, I blame the video games. Games today are just too awesome. They are ...

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Q: What does it mean when my boyfriend, who is 19, no children or financial responsibilities, in fact no responsibilities except school says," i am stressed". He says this at least once a week...

A: What, 19-year-olds can't be stressed? Guys have a lot of pressures at that age. For instance, how do you balance drinkin...

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Q: I asked my husband if he thinks about other hotter women when we have sex.....he said no....is he lying?

A: Wait, let me consult my magical device which tells me if guys are lying...Yes, he's lying. Or maybe he's not, and you're...

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Q: My fiance likes to "talk" during sex. Not dirty talk necessarily. I'm more quiet I guess but would like to be more vocal. I'm just so focused on making him feel good & what he's doing to make me feel good to come up with "talk." What do I do?

A: Wait. It's not dirty talk? What does he talk about? The weather? Fantasy football? What caused the blackout on FlashForw...

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Q: Ok, so I love letting the world know I love my boyfriend. So from time to time I post it on his Twitter or Facebook. But he like totally ignores it. What the hell is up? Please help me!

A: Maybe he's not into public displays of affection. And you can't get more public than Twitter and Facebook. Also, maybe h...

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Q: How shallow are men? Seems like every time i go to a bar, all i see are good looking men hitting on skinny blond girls. there has to be men out there that like brunettes right?

A: Stop going to cheesy, pretentious bars. That's the first step. Shallow, vain people tend to congregate together doing sh...

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Q: Which "Star Wars" movie is the best? Some guys at a party were debating (for three hours!!), and I only know that Jamaican alien is offensive, or annoying atbest. But I want to seem more in the know. I'll netflix one of them.

A: Empire Strikes Back. Oh, sorry, Star Wars Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back. Heavy sigh. I do not approve of George Luc...

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Q: An old bf found me online, I was his first back in the day & he started sending me flirty emails about his current life. He keeps asking me out for coffee, even though he knows I am married. Should I be concerned that he will try to make some "move"?

A: Yes, you should definitely be concerned that he will make a move. Because that's what he's doing. He's making a move. He...

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Q: Why does my husband REFUSE to take me to the new twilight movie even though he knows it will make me happy?

A: Funny you should ask, as I just bought tickets for myself and my girlfriend. (Don't tell her! It's a surprise.) Guys, ju...

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Q: Are guys turned off when their girlfriend is more educated than them?

A: Only the stupid ones. A guy who is turned off by a woman's intellect is also easily frightened by loud noises, and has d...

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Q: I'm kind of geeky, but i have this crush on a popular guy in school. He talks to me a lot, but i don't know if he likes me. (I know, I know, not another teen movie!) How do know?

A: Oh, high school. You would think society would've moved past the point of '80s teen comedies to a world where geeks and ...

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Q: I finally met this guy my friend wanted to set me up with. But at her party, he joked around w/ everyone but me. Later he facebook friended me and now is always the first to comment on my posts. Could this mean he likes me? He's def a gamer/dorky.

A: While I don't think you should pick out matching Rock Band guitars just yet, it does sound like he might be sweet on you...

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Q: What are some new up and coming bands that the cool kids are listening to?

A: There's actually a huge boom of quality bands in the New York City indie scene right now, particularly in the hipster en...

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Q: My husband is always driving and texting. He will not stop... even when our kids are in the car. It scares me. How do I get my message across?

A: Well, you can tell him that First Lady of California Maria Shriver got busted for doing it, so it's only a matter of tim...

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Q: I met this guy on a dating website and we've been emailing for about 2 weeks with no talk of meeting up. I don't want to make the move because I don't want to set a precedent of making things too easy for him. The convos are fun but what gives?

A: Yes, two weeks is too long to be emailing a stranger. For all you know, he could be a Nigerian prince who would be glad ...

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Q: My boyfriend is a self-proclaimed geek. He's into comic books, sci-fi, and video games. I don't mind doing these things, but I love shopping, cooking and watching trashy tv. How can we come together and really enjoy each other's hobbies?

A: Great question! And one that I think applies to all couples, not just "uber geek" and "not so geek." Couples don't have ...

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Q: This guy I like reads graphic novels, but they all look crowded and ugly to me. I don't see the appeal. Help!

A: What types of comics and graphic novels does he read? Perhaps he just needs to introduce you to more accessible material...

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Q: I want to get my boyfriend a really cool gadget for Christmas. We've only been dating for a little over 8 months, so honestly I don't want it to be toooooo expensive... any ideas?

A: Christmas already? Holiday shopping starts earlier every year. But it's probably wise to start shopping now, as the hott...

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Q: What would be your ideal first date? I've got a date with a self-proclaimed geek this week and I really want to show him that deep down, I'm a geek too.

A: Awww. You've warmed my robotic heart. I finally understand this thing you humans call love. I think it's great that you ...

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Q: Would it be wrong to ask an employee at my local Apple store out? He's handsome (albeit it wee bit geeky), so nice, and I get so turned on when he shows me all the little MacBook features. Would it be wrong to ask him out while he's working?

A: Wait a minute. You're telling me that a guy who works at the Apple Store is a wee bit geeky? I'm sorry, but that flies i...

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Q: Do you think a guy ever gets turned off by a girl that likes to just stay in, play some Wii Sports Resort and crack open some beers? Do you become "one of the guys" if you spend too much time like that? I'm talking about when you're first starting to hang

A: I think most single guys view every woman as someone they could potentially date and/or sleep with. From the new temp in...

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Q: Do you think the threat of ending up on the internet is reason enough to NEVER engage in bedroom photography/cinematography with your man (even if you're in a trusting, monogamous relationship)?

A: Yeah, the Internet has really put a damper on the whole home porno/naughty photo thing. Time was, all a guy needed to ta...

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Q: I've been trying out online dating and might finally meet up with someone. Should I expect this to be like a regular date? I pretty much always expect (though I always offer) the guy to pay for the 1st date. Is it fair for me to expect this?

A: It should absolutely be just like a regular date. Just because you met online, that doesn't mean he shouldn't fulfill al...

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Q: So Pepsico has this new free App that feeds men lines and helps them "score" with women. I think they just removed the app -- but still curious to get your take on this. Do men really need to consult their phone so you can get a quick pick up line?

A: I heard about this. Pepsi has indeed pulled the app amid widespread criticism. Basically, "Amp Up Before You Score" was ...

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Q: Whenever I go to the comic book store I am always the only woman inside. I feel like this would be a great place to meet other like-minded guys. But the only thing I get from those guys when I go in there is either fear or indifference. Any advice?

A: Thanks for your question. I've been waiting for a chance to discuss this very topic. First off, I need to address the lo...

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Q: To Twitter... or not to Twitter? That is the question!!! Is this a cool thing to do?

A: What, you don't Tweet? You don't update your friends, coworkers, family members, and random strangers on your every exci...

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Q: I want to keep my office romance under wraps... for obvious reasons. Any advice?

A: I'm always surprised when people are shocked by workplace romance. We're increasingly spending more and more time at the...

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Q: My husband is addicted to World of Warcraft - plays 3-4 times a week. Did I mention he's 40? As a WoW widow, how do I handle this?

A:  "WoW widow." I love it. Submit that to the GuySpeak dictionary post-haste, fair maiden. It's like you lost him in ...

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Q: Why don't guys like leggings on girls?

A: Who says guys don't like leggings? In fact, a certain skeezy hipster clothing company built their entire image on the as...

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Q: I'm a girl that loves to sit and play Wii on a Saturday night with my man and some friends. He always gets bored and ends up on the computer. Any suggestions for getting him more involved? He's got good geek potential, he's just not tapping into it.

A: I love this question. It's like a nerd My Fair Lady--how do you bring out his latent geek? The raw material definitely s...

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Q: I need a backpack to carry my laptop in because the messenger bag I bought is killing my back. Is there a cool site I could check-out? Or a store that has a great "Geek Chic" selection?

A: I can relate to the messenger bag issue. While stylish, those things are hell on your shoulders. We're all going to end ...

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Q: My husband spends hours researching speakers, TVs and "toys" online and then spends more time "tweaking" our home theater set up. I honestly just want to be able to watch TV with sound - I don't care if I can hear the water dripping in a scene.

A: You mean you don't want to hear every single ear-shattering explosion and brilliant gem of dialogue in Transformers 2? (...

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Q: I want to get into online dating (cause the bar scene is lame near me). Can you tell me which dating site is the best one out there?

A: Have you tried OkCupid? It seems to be the new Nerve/Alt/LavaLife--the hipster alternative to Match.com and eHarmony. I'...

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Q: A new guy recently friended me on Facebook (we have a mutual friend and he saw my posts on his wall). Apparently this guy thought I was cute. He lives far away and he's never initiated FB conversation. It's weird. I feel like I'm being watched.

A: Yeah, that's pretty weird. People who mistake Facebook for a dating site never fail to crack me up. Female friends of mi...

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Q: My mom just joined Facebook --- which is so lame. Now she's friending all of my friends. How do I make it stop?

A: Heavy sigh. I hear you, friend. This is becoming a serious problem. I'm of the opinion that if your son or daughter is o...

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Q: I've got tickets to a fantastic concert in two weeks...and had intended to go with this guy I've been dating. Things are cooling off with him: do I break up with him now or after the concert?

A: How about at the concert? Studies show that public places are the best venue for a break-up. He's less likely to make a ...

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Q: I've been dating a guy for a few weeks but find he'd rather text me than call. It's really annoying. I've told him I prefer he'd call so we can chat and get to know each other over the phone, but he seems more comfortable typing. What the hell?

A: Funny you should mention this, gentle reader. I just addressed this very same problem-- how texting, social networking a...

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Q: My boss is a huge geek and has every new tech item you can think of. So what do I get him for his birthday?

A: First off, kudos for wanting to get your boss something he would actually like instead of yet another meat and cheese ba...

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