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The Chic Geek is equally comfortable amongst the hipsters at a Grizzly Bear concert or at home playing Wii Bowling with his friends, or if lucky enough, his girlfriend, on a Saturday night. Sure, he may have been shoved into the occasional locker back in middle school but that’s all in the past now that geek is “in.” He’s always up on the latest gadget or Lost rumor and he’s your go-to guy on everything from Star Wars-themed weddings to proper dating etiquette in the iPhone generation. (If only there was an app for love!) Ready to get your geek on?

Recent questions answered by the Chic Geek:

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Q: When guy says he wants mental day off from a job, what does they mean?

A: A new game came out and he wants to play it. It's the day after the Super Bowl and he is really hungover and queasy from...

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Q: has anyone ever put spyware on someones cell phone? why? and what is the best cellphone spyware?

A: Wait, are you trying to spy on your boyfriend or husband? Why do you want to know the best spyware program? I'm not goin...

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Q: omg. christina aguilera. wtf? gross

A: Oh come on now. It was spray tanner. In case you don't know what we're talking about, look at the photo of Christina Agu...

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Q: Help, I am deathly jealous. I can't do anything with my boyfriend. We can't go out, we can't watch television, we can't play video games. I hate that everyday my boyfriend drives to work and sees billboards with slutty women on them. I feel like I'm ruining my life and his. I'm so tired that I want to kill myself.

A: Well, I'm no doctor, but the first thing I would prescribe is a giant "chill pill." As in, relax and take one. And then ...

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Q: I cauhgt my wife sexting with another man. When I asked her about it she lied at first. Then used the Tiger Woods excuse "you shouldn't look at my Blackberry." I don't have a problem with it and it really makes her horny. She calls it her porn. Just don't like the sneaking around and lying.

A: That's understandable. You're giving her a LOT of leeway with the "whole sexting with another guy" thing. The fact that ...

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Q: What happens in a private booth of a strip club?

A: A dumb guy pays several hundreds of dollars for more lapdances and an overpriced bottle of cheap champagne. Strip c...

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Q: What are some ideas for a guy for Valentine's Day? I'm broke, so I usually do some creative baking, but I wanted to add something extra special. My bf is kind of geeky and loves video games, but I hate them, so I need some help. What's a dude version of flowers and chocolate?...other than a festive bj (already included)

A: Great question! Valentine's Day can be tricky when it comes to gifts for your guy. There aren't as many obvious go-tos l...

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Q: My bf of 6 mos has a bday coming up. As part of his gift I want to register for a breast cancer run in memory of his mom who died of breast cancer 10 yrs ago...but since it's still a new relationship (and since I never met her) I can't tell if I would come off as sweet and caring or just morbid/creepy. Thoughts?

A: That's a really sweet gift. Very thoughtful. It shows you care and acknowledge that his mom is still a part of his life....

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Q: I had an affair(I'm married) with my ex, I want to see him again for some nsa sex, how long should I wait to contact him so I don't look desperate?

A: How soon can you file for divorce? Tell your husband you want a divorce, go through the proper filing. If you have kids,...

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Q: My boyfriend of 1 year and I spend 90% of the time together. I truly believe he hasn't cheated on me, he's always with me, but I've seen flirty texts on one specific girl, (they've been friends for 9 years, kissed once, she's interested in him), and his ex, (he's only had one serious gf, for 4 years). Why does he?

A: Well, this may be the way he's always talked to his female friend and his ex and he thinks it's harmless. Or it could be...

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Q: What does a guy mean when he says "I want to have babies with that woman...erection!" in a joking way.

A: It means he needs to stop using the word "erection" as an exclamation. Who is he, Quagmire from Family Guy? "Great sandw...

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Q: Dear guyspeak masterminds, how do I keep a relationship friendly with a neighbor who wants to hang out romantically? He's alluded to wanting to try a romantic relationship, but that's not what I want. From what I can tell, there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with him, I'm just not attracted to him that way. Help!

A: Well, you can just be honest like you would with any guy. Tell him you're not looking to date right now, or you don't wa...

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Q: SOPA was shot down by the House, but the equally scary Protect IP Act is still up for consideration. What are your thoughts, CG? I hope people protest PIPA as hard as they did with SOPA!

A: Thanks for the question. Touched on this briefly in yesterday's question, but I think it's worth expanding on. As y...

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Q: Dear GC, I'm upset at my BF. I wanted to watch "The Adventures of Tin Tin" and he said "Why pay for it when you can download it?" I told him I wanted to watch it in 3D for the cool effects and he said my reason to watch it at the theater was stupid!! I found his response offensive. Am I being unreasonable?

A: There's nothing wrong with wanting to do the right thing and pay for your entertainment instead of stealing it online. P...

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Q: My bf and i have been together for 5 years now. We have one child togather and have been living togather for 5 years. I am currently 20 weeks pregnant and he doesnt even acknowledge I'm pregnant. He said if i was, it wasnt his cause he pulled out. I've not brought it up since i was 8 weeks. What should i do?

A: I know we say this a lot here, but it really needs to be said right now: WHY ARE YOU STILL WITH THIS GUY??? Really,...

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Q: Would you mind being with a girl who doesn't drink?

A: Nah. Most guys don't care. As long as you're cool with him drinking responsibly, if that's what he's into, I wouldn't wo...

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Q: If you are breaking up a relationship after living together and adopting a beloved pet together at the exact same time and are both equally attached to the pet, as well as equally splitting the expenses, who gets to keep the animal? Say it was something big like a dog or a cat and not just a goldfish or hamster.

A: Wow. This one is hard. Well, my chivalrous side thinks he should let you keep the pet, but then the other half that love...

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Q: My boyfriend didn't acknowledge me as his girlfriend online. On Facebook, he is listed as single. Being extremely handsome, talented, intelligent, and charismatic, he has both men and women flirting constantly, but he didn't mention me. When I told him it made me feel bad, he yelled at me for not trusting him. Help?

A: Time to ask him if he really wants to be your boyfriend. Because he's not acting like it. He wants to get attention onli...

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Q: A guy I have been seeing and I broke a condom during sex. Now, I am six weeks late. Should I tell him?

A: Yes. Why go through this alone? It's bad luck that the condom broke, but you shouldn't have to deal with the consequence...

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Q: Slept with my BFF's brother on NYE. Never got a phone call or anything. It's really out of character for him. I've known him for 15 years & he's not a player. Would it be out of line to get feedback from my friend? Normally, we commiserate over my awful taste in guys. Don't want to trash the bro, just want answers.

A: I think you can bring it up to your friend. Presumably she knows you slept with her brother, right? Maybe say,"yeah, jus...

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Q: I'm kind of tall and have bigger feet. But I love heels, and I always figured that I should wear higher heels because of the proportion of heel to my height/leg. I look odd in pictures with my shorter friends, either crouch or look like the skyscraper in the skyline. Does this translate to looking weird in real life?

A: My girlfriend is tall and sometimes wears heels, so I wanted to get her take first.Chic Geek's Girlfriend says: How...

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Q: Okay, this is all sick, but i need advice. My fiance recently tried to get nude pictures from my mother. Well obviously i left him, but i still care for him (i dont know why). He's been calling/texting since i left and will just sob and cry about how he misses me and he wishes he had never hurt me. What to do?

A: What's sick is that you want this guy back. Well, that and the fact that he asked your mom for nude pics. (UGH. I feel i...

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Q: Looking for some cool thoughts/quotes/life lessons/goals to live by this year/line my diary with lol. Non cheesy/cliche ones. Got any goodies? Commenters suggestions would also be awesome! Thanks and Happy New Year!!xx

A: I like this question, because I am also in need of some positive thoughts to enter into the new year. 2012 as a concept ...

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Q: Would it be cheating if I flirt and cuddle with another guy?

A: Your boyfriend probably thinks so. For most people, cheating doesn't necessarily mean sex. It can be as simple as sendin...

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Q: Lovers turned friends. Do you still greet each other during the holidays?

A: Sure. It really depends on how friendly you are on a normal basis. Remember that the holidays brings up all kinds of emo...

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Q: How do you figure out the line between not being creepy with your advances but not seeming unconfident?

A: The great thing about being creepy is that you'll know if you're being creepy. Because you'll suddenly be all alone. Wom...

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Q: What does it mean if a man asks his daughter if it's okay to give his number to a lady?

A: It means he is concerned about his daughter's feelings. Perhaps he's recently divorced, and making sure his daughter fee...

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Q: A woman said some horribly racist remarks directly to me at a baseball game (i'm mid eastern), and my boyfriend just sat there(he's white) didn't even bother standing up for me even though I was very upset, hurt and crying. He hates conflict, but would it have killed him to tell that lady to just leave me alone firmly?

A: Yeah, he committed a serious boyfriend fail. Standing up for you is part of his duty. Unfortunately we live in a world w...

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Q: My dad has loads of porn in his computer. He's 60 something. My mom and he have been married for over 25 years. She's not into computers so I'm guessing she has no idea. I know this is supposed to be "normal" but I still think it's weird.

A: Of course it's weird. He's your dad. No one wants to think about their parents that way. But what are you going to do? S...

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Q: I cut my boyfriend off from all the little niceties. I refuse to buy him food when I buy for myself, and I no longer let him use my netflix (amongst other things). This came about because of the way he has acted the last month. Was it right for me to cut him off until things get better, or was it childish?

A: Yeesh. No, not a fan of this. You're acting more like his mom than his girlfriend. Cutting him off from the normal thing...

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Q: I don't see myself as likeable/attractive/dateable, so I can't image that any man would. I'm 27, but feel that men think of me like an eccentric old neighbour - female but not in sexual/romantic way. I feel like an "untouchable" - a girl in a lonely, ignored category. How do I know if I'm right (and change, if I am)?

A: First off, you're wrong. Men don't see you as the "eccentric old neighbor" or the "best gal pal" or whatever. Those are ...

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Q: My personal philosophy: One does not simply walk into Mordor. How excited are you for The Hobbit? I cannot contain myself!!

A: SO EXCITED. What with The Dark Knight Rises trailer also out this week (yes, Bane is hard to understand it still looks a...

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Q: What is up with this new "Timeline" Facebook thing? It is so confusing and makes stalking exes (in a normal, non-creepy way) that much harder!

A: Yeah, I'm not a fan. Why fix what isn't broken? Oh, wait, it's Facebook. And of course I'll join everyone else in compla...

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Q: What do you think about a girl proposing to a guy? My bf of 2+ years is sweet and shy and it takes him forever to make a decision about anything. We are facing a situation where we will be living in other countries. I feel like it's now or never! Is it flattering or emasculating for a girl to propose? Thanks! xo

A: I think it's sweet. Most guys would agree. It sounds like something needs to happen in this relationship before the long...

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Q: What do you do if your fat but dont wanna do workout videos?

A: Well, there's always the gym. And, uh, walking more. Or jogging. Sorry, but this question cracks me up. The idea that wo...

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Q: Why is my 7 month old baby so ridiculously cute and happy all the time?

A: Because he doesn't know the meaning of the word "Kardashian." Ah, youth...(Seriously, they're some of Barbara Walte...

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Q: How often should i shave down there? I have sensitive skin and don't want to get irritation, as that is just gross, but i am wondering how often someone without sensitive skin would shave and how often is the generally accepted time period. thank you!

A: You know, I was just reading an interesting article in The Atlantic about how more and more women are shaving their...

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Q: I really just need to know if underwear (like designer boxer briefs) are a good christmas gift for my boyfriend. (As like the small gift along with the bigger gift that he really wants.)

A: Designer boxers briefs are a nice gift. Underwear as a gift should be chosen like any other piece of clothing -- get him...

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Q: I read an article from Yahoo that revealed the results from a men's health magazine poll about the hottest women of all time and Jennifer Aniston was number one. Seriously? Of all time? I wouldn't even put her on my top ten. So then I got to wondering what do you think of the list? Do you think it's accurate?

A: Ha! What year was this poll taken? 1998? The poll was conducted by Men's Health and is SUPER BORING and dated. Here are ...

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Q: Who is your best friend?

A: Well, I could be cheesy and say my girlfriend, but that isn't true. My girlfriend is great, but it dawned on me that I'v...

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Q: My husband and I have only been married a little over a month. But I found that he is looking and signing up for casual sex on a dating site. My feelings are so hurt. Any advice? Please do not advise divorce.

A: Okay...I won't advise divorce. How about a trial separation? Seriously, aren't you feeling more than hurt feelings right...

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Q: What do you think of the TLC "Virgin Diaries" show on virgins at 30? I'm 25 and a virgin, it just hasn't happened, not a big deal to me, it will when I fall in love. But TLC is making me feel like if I don't loose it soon then I'll be a freak. I'll be someone to be made into reality tv!!

A: Well, first off I wouldn't compare yourself to reality TV. The show, which claims to celebrate celibacy, is of course go...

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Q: So much good music was nominated for Grammies this year! Wilco, Bon Iver, Fleet Foxes, The Decemberists, Mumford and Sons... but I had a frivolous question. Do you think Bon Iver or Mumford and Sons can take on the powerhouse that is Adele and win?

A: There's no way anyone can beat Adele at the Grammys. She's that combination of talent and mass appeal that Grammy voters...

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Q: What do men think about a woman with short hair? I wear my hair in a very short style. It's convenient for me, and I think I look good in it. I'm very feminine: I wear make-up, do my fingernails, wear dresses a lot, etc. But I keep reading that most men don't like women with short styles. True, or false?

A: False! Many, many men love women with short hair. In fact, there's an entire Tumblr (NSFW title) called F-- Yeah Girls W...

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Q: Spent Thanksgiving w/ bf's family. I look young and his bro said I look like a little girl and should sit at the kids table. He was joking but it still hurt. Bf didn't do a thing. Days later, he said he talked to his bro. I'm so upset and hurt that he didn't say anything in front me when it did happen. Break up or not?

A: First off, I hope you said something to the brother later. You shouldn't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Don't just ...

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Q: Does it make me a snob to only want to wear nice clothes? I went to target recently and was blown away by how expensive things were. I can go to Macy's or Neimans and if I shop smart I pay the same for classier stuff. When friends go on about how cute/cheap the clothes are I think "really you'd pay good money for that?"

A: Wanting to wear nice clothes doesn't make you a snob. Judging your friends for liking Target? Well...Doesn't really seem...

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Q: I de-friend guys I stop dating because its easier for me to move on. One of them wrote me to ask if I de-friended him and told me it was "harsh." We hadn't spoken in months. Why would he care?

A: Sounds like he's trying to get a rise out of you. Maybe he misses you and is trying to get your attention. Yes, he shoul...

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Q: I know that Snoopy is shady and stupid. But I knew something was up. I looked through my boyfriends phone and saw emails he's sent to other women and seen that he searches the craigslist personal ads. It seems as though he hasnt cheated yet but is trying to. Do I confront him? How do I do it?

A: Of course you confront him. You say, "Why are you sending emails to other women and searching craigslist personals when ...

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Q: GC, I've loved your advice in the past, but I need your help. My guy got gastric bypass surgery a year ago. He's dropping weight and looks great, but he only eats meat and carbs now bc he's convinced that that's the healthiest. Looked online, eating veggies and fruits at this point is ESSENTIAL. How do I tell him??

A: Tell him that you're worried about his health long-term and that too much meat is bad for his cholesterol and blood pres...

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Q: What would you think if a girl you were interested in didn't have a Facebook? Red flag?

A: I'd think, "What year is this? 2003? Did I fall into a time vortex and end up in an era before Facebook? Are OutKas...

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Q: Is admitting to getting a blow job different than admitting having sex with another woman? How much different? If someone admits to getting a blow job from amother woman, does it mean that he will admit to having sex? If not, why?

A: Not really. If you start defining what does and doesn't constitute cheating, you start down a slippery slope. "Well, the...

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Q: My bf of 9 months is visiting his family in another state for Thanksgiving & Christmas. He didn't mention this to me until my mom asked what his holiday plans were while we were at dinner. I assumed that I'd be meeting his family and invited to come. How can I let him know this? I'm really hurt but know it's his choice.

A: Well, clearly this is a case of you both being at different stages in the relationship. He thinks (not unreasonably, I m...

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Q: Zooey Deschanel or whatever her name is ANNOYS ME TO NO END on that show "New Girl" but everyone thinks it is the greatest show ever. I do not see how! The jokes and storyline SUCK and her acting is poor. What are your thoughts on the show?? Great or worst show ever??

A: I caught half an episode and realized it's not for me. I like Zooey Deschanel. She's cute, funny and has a pretty cool w...

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Q: One of my sorority sisters is my enemy. She said some really messed up stuff behind my back and to me 5 months ago and I cut her out of my life. My some other sisters are planning a thanksgiving weekend dinner and want me to go. I'm not even close to the others anymore,we really don't talk. I really don't want to see her. Should I go?

A: If you aren't close to your other sorority sisters, why bother? It would be one thing if you wanted to see your other fr...

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Q: Have you ever read The Hunger Games? What are your thoughts on the new trailer?

A: Saw the trailer. Looks interesting. I like dystopian/post-apocalyptic sci-fi and enjoyed Jennifer Lawrence's performanc...

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Q: My boyfriend calls other girls hot right in front of me. After he says that, he looks toward me, as if he wants to see my reaction because if I don't comment, he sometimes nudges me for my attention. What do I do? It really bothers me that he does this. Does he just want to see the jealous side of me ?

A: You should dump him. Even if he's trying to make you jealous, he's going about it in a crappy way. Who does that? He's s...

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Q: How do I tell my boyfriend I smoke? I don't know if he would be okay with it. But I'm scared to tell him.

A: Well, if he's been close to after you've smoked, chances are the cat's already out of the bag on that one. Smoke tends t...

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Q: Have you seen the trailer for Snow White and the Huntsman? Could Kristen Stewart really ever be fairer than Charlize Theron? I think they might have cast the Queen too well and then fell a bit short of the mark with Snow.

A: Yeah, seriously. Everyone has been saying that. Watch the trailer and let's discuss.First off, YES PLEASE. It's lik...

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Q: What does it mean when a guy pulls your hair?

A: The Definitive Guide to Hair Pulling-- Ages 6-12: He's a little punk who thinks girls are icky and is being mean. Maybe ...

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Q: I get really depressed when I look at Facebook. I feel like everyone is doing great and their life is so wonderful and I am just barely surviving. Does anyone else feel this way!? I can't be the only one. I don't go on anymore, but seriously, I hate how egotistical everyone is!

A: It happens. "Facebook depression" seems to be one of those things that has crept up in recent years. It used to be we w...

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Q: Is it possible to get pregnant by dry humping if your fluids touched but there was no penetration??

A: Wow. I don't even know where to start with this one. Okay...technically, "dry humping" usually involves having your clot...

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Q: I just slept w/ my ex. He has a girlfriend, but says he "melts" and "folds" when he see's me...

A: Sorry, but it sounds more like you "melted" and "folded" for him. He sweet-talked you into sleeping with him behind his ...

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Q: Pulling back or in the midst of getting dumped with "the fade-out" approach? How can a girl spot the difference? ...or is the pull-back just when a man/woman changes his/her mind?

A: There are a few signs that he's "fading out." Pulling back means maybe you see each other once or twice a week instead o...

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Q: Who came up with No-Shave November? Was this a collective male attempt to piss off girlfriends everywhere?

A: Well, it started as the far catchier "Movember," which is a movement for guys to grow a beard or mustache to raise ...

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Q: My boyfriend liked his female friend's picture on Facebook that is a picture of her halloween costume. Should I be worried?

A: Well, that's kind of a grey area because Halloween is the one time of the year when even the most conservative woman dre...

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Q: Dear Chic Geek, how important are formal weddings to men? I tried to convince my fiancé to elope, have just our immediate family, but he said we should do a proper wedding. We're at the point of no return, I hate the planning and wish we had eloped.

A: It depends on the guy, but this sounds like a case of your guy wanting to please his family. "I think we should have a b...

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Q: I sent a drunk email of me in my underwear to an acquaintance that has been texting me.he said "if that's you ,wow, send more." the next day I sent an "oops", & he said "no worries:)". Can I ask him out for something casual?

A: Whoa! Dial it back a notch, sister. You want to go from drunk emailing him a racy photo to "let's grab a cup of coffee a...

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Q: I just rewatched the movie "Closer" and it really shook me emotionally (more than on the first viewing). Have you seen it, and if so, do you think it holds some truth about romantic relationships? (also, do you have a theory on why Natalie Portman's character changed her name, because I do, sort of)

A: Yeah. Great movie. I remember being really affected by it when it came out. And the Damien Rice music! Just rewatching t...

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Q: Graduated in May. Smart, plenty of internships. Wanting to go into writing. Interning again, but still unemployed. Highly disheartened and trying SO hard to get a job. Help? Tips? =(

A: Keep interning, but pick a place that you like. Is there a website, magazine, TV show, book publisher, etc., that you lo...

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Q: I'm 95 and my girlfriend is 18.

A: Congrats! It's impressive enough that you lived this long. And then to score a girlfriend who is 77 years your junior? W...

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Q: Wonderful chic geek, please help! I was invited to go on a weekend vacation + concert with my bf + his fam. When I told my bf I would pay him back the cost of the ticket, he said he wouldn't let me. I tried to suggest that I pay for dinner or something to at least make up part of the cost, but still he says no! HELP!

A: Let him treat you. He wants to do something nice for you in front of his parents. Maybe it's important to him. Or maybe ...

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Q: How do you apply for My Fair Wedding?

A: First, read my interview with David Tutera. You'll learn a lot about his thoughts on hot wedding dresses like the Kate M...

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Q: if you were married would you close a FB message to a high school friend "love, your name" if you hadent seen or heard from her in 13 or more years? And never spoke her name or anything in your whole relationship with your wife?

A: Uh, no. That seems weird. At the very least, he has a strong attachment to her that he doesn't want to share with you. E...

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Q: I've been seeing a guy for a month now and we finally had sex a couple days ago... and he didn't finish. He didn't cum the next time, or the time after that. What's wrong??

A: Could be nerves. He's psyched himself out from the build up. It could be that he rarely or never climaxes during sex. I ...

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Q: A guy I just began dating called me "foxy." Can't say I get that one very often. What is your favorite adjective for women you find attractive?

A: Foxy! I love it. Like the Jimi Hendrix song "Foxy Lady." That's a nice compliment. I like: GorgeousSexyAmazing...

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Q: Is a haunted house a good get-to-know-you date? (Not the very first date).

A: Yes indeed. Haunted houses, carnivals, apple picking...all fun fall stuff. In fact, 80% of haunted house attendees are c...

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Q: I have two children with my boyfriend. I got pregnant last year and had an abortion but now I am pregnant again but it's not my boyfriend's. I can't justify what I did but it happened and the other guy wants nothing to do with the baby because of what his family may think. I've made a mess of everything! :(

A: That is a difficult situation. But it all comes down to whether or not YOU can handle another child. Forget the guy you ...

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Q: I'm in a long term relationship and my guy wants to take sexy video via gchat - is this secure? Or will other people see it? He also downloaded a screen shot program.

A: As long as he doesn't accidentally invite anyone else to the Gchat session, it'll be private. Sure, someone could hack h...

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Q: I watched UP with my boyfriend and he didn't cry. Should I break up with him?

A: What? He didn't even tear up a little? Not even during the first few minutes? When I saw that opening montage with Carl ...

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Q: Chic Geek, I love you. And I'm not just sucking up. I think you're great. So. In your opinion, do men in general tend to lie about small things, so as to avoid arguments? Is that to be expected, and if a man lies about one thing, does it necessary mean he'll lie about other (bigger) stuff too?

A: Awwwww. Flattery will get you everywhere. Or at least get your question answered. Well, I wouldn't say that all men lie ...

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Q: Is Masturbation A Sin?

A: Heck yeah masturbation is a sin. It's sin-sational! Am I right, folks? I'll be here all night. Try the waiters, tip your...

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Q: Ever been to or heard of a dayglow paint party? My boyfriend wants to go with his friend and it looks like a bunch of girls wearing nothing will be there. Please tell me it's more than that.

A: Dayglow paint party? Can't say that I have. Off to the old Google machine...Huh. So this is a thing? Looks like a rave w...

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Q: There is a saying "Bros before hoes." But how come my fiancee's friends don't really have his back? They think it's ok to get blazed all day, drink and drive. So is that saying only true if a girl comes between friends, and not when that bro will ruining his life all for the sake of a good time?

A: Typically "bros before hos" means that you side with your guy friends over your lady. However, most guys eventually outg...

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Q: Who never wears a shirt?

A: Usher. That dude hates shirts. What did shirts ever do to you, Usher?? Also, Matthew McConaughey. And of course.. You're...

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Q: I study computer science. I'm the only girl in my lab. I feel uncomfortable when I wear a skirt or a tank top because I'm afraid they might judge me on my physical appearance instead of my work. My boyfriend says I shouldn't worry. What do you think?

A: I agree with your boyfriend. If the guys in your lab are going to judge you based on your appearance, they are jerks and...

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Q: if a guy friend tells you, its to dangerous for you to be his friend.. what does this mean?

A: Could mean a few things...1. One, he is attracted to you and wants to sleep you with. BUT, he doesn't want a relationshi...

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Q: Chic Geek, need your help. How do I dump a sensitive writer geek who has been my BFF for years? We tried the dating thing, he's smitten and I'm miserable. Thanks!

A: You have to be honest with him. As his former BFF, you owe it to him to be straight-up and say it just isn't working for...

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Q: Do you think that all rich men cheat? My fiancée is very well off and all of my friends and family are telling me that adultery is going to be guaranteed and that I should except it. I love him and i know he loves me and i don't think that he would ever cheat on me. Is some truth to what they are saying?

A: No, not at all. Geez. Apparently money buys you crummy friends. Who are these friends who are telling you to expect your...

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Q: What's the deal with Emma Stone? Why do so many guys have a crush on her? I just don't get it.

A: Well, she's funny for one thing. I liked her in Easy A and Crazy, Stupid, Love. And, now that I think about it, her brie...

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Q: OK, so I am going reality TV here, but you know that Taylor Armstrong woman whose husband JUST committed suicide off of 'Real Housewives of Beverly Hills'? Well, all week long I have been seeing her giving all these interviews. WTF? She seems to totally be playing the victim and who the hell does that after something so tragic?

A: Yeah, I find this story (and the Real Housewives trend in general) really gross and depressing. Now Taylor Armstrong is ...

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Q: The girl who bullied me in grade school, causing me to drop out, just friended me on Facebook! (We're 23 now.) Should I accept? If I do, should I bring up the bullying? I don't want to hold a grudge for something that happened 15 years ago.

A: No, you don't have to friend her. While it's good for your own sake to let the past be the past, there's no reason why y...

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Q: Does having a drunk makeout session with a crush hurt my chances of something happening with him in the future?

A: Not necessarily. At least you know he's interested. And you didn't sleep together, so there's still some mystery. The tr...

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Q: So did you have the chance to see "Drive"? Wasn't that one of the best thing ever? And the soundtrack...Jeeeeez. That would have been a perfect date movie for me, too bad I went by myself.

A: Yeah, it was pretty amazing. Reformed Player and I were actually talking about it in the Emmys chat last night. Best mov...

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Q: Hi CG! Hook me up. I have an amazing boyfriend, but he had gastric bypass surgery and burps a lot. He also has a lot of excess skin. I get mad at him because I wished his great personality matched his outsides. I've been having crazy dreams with dating random men in my life too. Is this a sign we should break up?

A: If you're dream-dating random men and can't look past your boyfriend's short-term physical ailments, then yes, you shoul...

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Q: Why didn't he call me after our date?

A: Several reasons: 1. It's only been a couple days and he's waiting the traditional three days to call. Some guys do this ...

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Q: Is it bad to do oral sex on a girl with their period?

A: Not if you're a vampire. Then it's probably tasty. Sorry! I couldn't resist. (Speaking of, did you see the new Twilight ...

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Q: The Cure vs The Smiths?

A: Wow, that is a tough one. You might as well have asked me if I prefer air or water. Well, if I had a gun to my head (I d...

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Q: Why do nice, genuine girls finish last?

A: Because they let jerks walk all over them. There's nothing that jerky guys love more than to find a nice girl, reel her ...

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Q: I read through some older comments & someone wrote: "once a breakup is done, the exes don't have any obligation morally to support or help." Is this always true? I felt depressed last year & told an ex. He wasn't very supportive. I don't know if I have the right to be angry with him & it still REALLY eats away at me.

A: Overall, I would agree with that comment. While some exes can remain friends and be there for each other in small or lar...

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Q: When do you think it's time for a guy to take down his online dating profile?

A: Well, that depends. Are you exclusive? If he's your boyfriend, there's no reason why he can't take the profile down once...

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Q: Do you guys like lip and eyebrow piercings?

A: Some do, yes. There are definitely more guys into eyebrow piercings than lip, but plenty find lip rings attractive. More...

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Q: So today, I had coffee with this guy I've been interested in. Before I left, he said he wanted to "hang out" again, and we made plans to go to a show on campus together. How do I tell if this is a legit date, or if he's just being really friendly?

A: That sounds promising date-wise. He made specific plans that same day. It wasn't like you suggested the show and he went...

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Q: My BF made the comment "stop losing weight, I don't want a twiggy GF." (Lost 2 lbs doing yoga) I thought guys like skinny girls. Isn't that why all Playboy models, strippers, and most porn stars are skinny? Plus guys love Victoria's Secret models, they're all skinny. If guys don't like skinny why do they lust after those skinny girls?

A: Who says all guys like Playboy models and porn stars? All guys aren't Charlie Sheen, David Spade, and other gross celebr...

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Q: If I like depressing things, I.E movies, studying different personality disorders, into dark poets and musicians, then does that make me a depressed person?

A: Nah. It makes you an interesting person. Sure, if you're staying inside all day with the blinds closed reading Sylvia Pl...

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Q: I'm doing some nude modeling. How can I make my guy comfortable with it? The photographer is gay, I'm not recognizable in the photos, the pics are all for galleries (erotic art not porn), and the pay is great (and I need the money). What can I say to reassure him?

A: Well, you made a pretty good case already. That sounds like the best possible scenario. It's not like you're posing in s...

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Q: Hey Chic Geek. I've been hearing about a trend going around groups of guys (usually teenagers) where the guys troll through one member's Facebook friends and find 10 girls that the challenged has to get nudes from. It's usually a bet for large sums of money. Have you heard of this and what do you think of it?

A: I think it's pretty awful. (If it's even true.) When I have a daughter, she won't be allowed on Facebook until she's 35....

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Q: I have a good online friend whom I used to have phone sex with a lot. One day he sorta acted like he didn't wanna do it anymore and I never asked why. We are still great friends and talk for hours a day. I suppose I am just wondering why he would want to stop. He doesn't have a girlfriend, and I suppose I miss doing it.

A: It could be that he started to feel awkward once things crossed from friends into racy, 1-900 number territory. Maybe he...

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Q: I broke almost 60 days of No Contact to cuss out my ex when I found out he had a new girlfriend.I told him I hated him and never wanted to talk to him again and that he was the worst thing to ever happen to me.I had taken the high road and feel like I completely embarrassed myself and look pathetic.What should I do?

A: First off, don't worry. It happens. Yes, it wasn't the best way to handle the situation. But clearly you had some unreso...

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Q: My husband is amazing, very caring and loving. He has ADHD and it's hard to have a serious conversation/discussion with him because he starts thinking about something else or he talks about random topics. It's frustrating at times. How can I best deal with him or the situation and avoid any insensitivity from my part?

A: That's a tough situation. Many people think that ADD (attention deficit disorder) and ADHD (attention deficit and hypera...

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Q: I am kinda embarrassed to be asking this but Is there any danger to swallowing sperm?

A: As long as he doesn't have any STDs, you'll be fine. In fact, there are some (highly controversial) studies that suggest...

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Q: What do you think of that 'Maggie Goes on a Diet' children's book?

A: In case you haven't heard, Maggie Goes on a Diet is an upcoming children's book encouraging young girls to become diet a...

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Q: Hi, I need an honest opinion. I am 35, soon to be 36. What is the 'oldest' man that I should date (within reason)? Another question, being older, is it to late to get my 'top portion' done? Thank you for your answer.

A: Hold up a second. This question took a weird turn about halfway through. By "top portion," do you mean your breasts? You...

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Q: I have a friend who is nearing his mid-life. He's just beginning to realize that he is gay and won't come out to me yet. Is there a way I can accelerate him coming out to me so he won't feel so lonely? He knows that I'm really accepting; we also have some history.

A: Nope. The worst thing you can do is to push him out of the closet. It's taken him half of his life to come to this point...

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Q: How much is too much when it comes to texting your man sexy pics?

A: Less is definitely more when it comes to photo sexting. Think of it like the appetizer before the main course. (Sex is t...

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Q: Thoughts on sugar daddy relationships? For me it seems perfect no-strings simple, monetary benefits. I have a lot going for me though. How bad is it of an idea in terms of people judging me and my future? Do you feel like today's culture has become more open-minded and accepting of a basic reality of younger women with older men?

A: Well, the good news is that older man/younger woman relationships are pretty common these days. More likely, people will...

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Q: My guy doesn't like horror movies! I LOVE them! Even the bad ones. He says they're boring. Have any truly amazing horror movie suggestions to maybe sway his opinion?

A: Zombie movies are a good gateway drug into the horror genre. The Night of the Living Dead, Dawn of the Dead (original or...

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Q: Hi Chic Geek, my boyfriend has been ignoring me for the past week. When I went to his apartment, everything was gone. His roommates haven't seen him either. Now, i don't know what to do. I know life is tough sometimes, but why would he up and leave without saying goodbye? This is emotionally draining and painful for me

A: Are you sure he's okay? Have you checked with his friends or coworkers? What about his family? Maybe I've been watching ...

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Q: My boyfriend doesn't like the movie The Big Lebowski. How can he not????

A: What?? Check his pulse. Is he alive? I have never met a guy who doesn't like The Big Lebowski. (Did you see the photos f...

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Q: What does "it's complicated" actually mean? Like what do people think when they see it on Facebook?

A: Good question. I addressed the meaning of "It's complicated" in my guide to the new dating terms, but I think it's worth...

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Q: What the hell does "I'm sprung" mean?

A: Well, according to the T-Pain song of the same name, "I'm sprung" means you're so in love with a woman, that you'd basic...

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Q: I found a text on my boyfriend's cell phone, "Thanks for a great time champ." It leads me to think he's cheating, but he won't admit anything. He won't even tell me if I'm wrong and there's nothing to worry about but he won't come clean at all. If I'm wrong, why can't he tell me and I'll apologize for being wrong.

A: That is a weird text. Who calls someone "champ"? Is he sleeping with his high school football coach? Honestly, that soun...

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Q: Carefully designed YouTube playlists as the long distance, modern equivalent of mix tapes/CDs. Yay or nay? What's your take on this sort of gesture?

A: Definitely yay. That's a nice idea. You can send a playlist of music videos or funny videos or clips from your TV shows ...

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Q: Why do men pee in the shower?

A: The same reason why they pee in bushes, in alleyways while drunk, and into empty Coke bottles while on long road trips d...

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Q: My boyfriend and I just broke up, and now he is asking for the PlayStation 3 back. I don't have a lot of money but I paid for half of it + games and it has always stayed at my apartment. He is saying it was a gift to him so he'll get legal with me if he has to. Can he do this? Is that fair? Should I just give it to him?

A: Sounds like you're getting a bad deal here. If the PlayStation 3 was a gift, then why did you pay for half of it and hal...

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Q: My husband’s friend is very cruel to me when my husband isn’t there. He says my husband doesn’t find me attractive, sex with me is a chore, he doesn’t understand why anyone would want me, etc. (Its only gotten worse since i became pregnant). I know he's lying but why is he being so cruel? Should I tell my husband?

A: Of course you should tell your husband. And then your husband should punch this guy square in the jaw and never speak to...

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Q: Do guys ever appreciate girls' lingerie? My bf and exes always can't wait to tear off my lingerie when we get down to the business. They just never pay attention to it, they said they just want to see my body. Is it normal or they just don't like my lingerie?

A: No, guys appreciate lingerie. Tearing it off you is the ultimate compliment. What, you want him to stop and admire the l...

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Q: I went on a great date with this great hipster guy...until the conversation steered towards music. He was such a snob about the bands he liked and basically rolled his eyes anytime I said I liked music that could be considered "mainstream." Is this something that can be changed with time, or this just the way he is?

A: That's probably the way he is-- a bit of a pretentious dbag. He doesn't have to like everything you like, but rolling hi...

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Q: Ever been to Six Flags Great Adventure and Hurricane Harbor in New Jersey? It is real fun, I went this week. A great place to bring a date, because there are fun roller coasters and waterslides for literally all ages. Just a suggestion for any people in the area looking for summer fun with their honeys :)

A: I have! Fun place. Been to a few Six Flags actually. Also Disneyland, Disney World, Epcot, both Busch Gardens, King's Do...

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Q: I'm a 22 year old widow. I want to start dating again, but my in-laws get so hurt at the mention of it (they informed me I won't be ready for another 5-10 years). They also want a chunk of my life insurance money. I love them, but they stress me the hell out. Would I be a ginormous pud to walk away from them?

A: Very sorry to hear about your loss. That is extremely rough, particularly at such a young age. But I agree-- your in-law...

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Q: The morning after a drunken hookup that included cuddling and lots of sweet words, I proceeded to throw up on the way to breakfast. It wasn't on him or in his car... still, how high are the chances I am now viewed as "that girl who threw up"? How embarrassed should I be?

A: Aww. I wouldn't worry. It happens to everyone. This one time I got really drunk at a family reunion. The next morning, I...

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Q: Okay, serious question. I have been dating this guy for 2 months now. I am starting an egg donation. So for about a month I will be a bit cranky, tired, and not able to drink due to the medicine. I don't live with him & we only see each other on weekends for now. Should I tell him I am doing an egg donation or not?

A: If you trust him and feel like it's something you want to share, go for it. He probably will notice a change while you p...

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Q: My boyfriend hates condoms and is terrified of child support. I was a few days late in starting the pill and he refused to have sex for a month and a half. His willpower was better than mine. Now he is in the habit of staying up till 6am playing games and we have NO sex. He is so zoned into this game it's crazy.

A: Hang on a second. Ever heard the expression "buried the lede"? In the newspaper business, it's when you ignore the meat ...

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Q: Why do some men want to cuddle after sex? Can't we just get on with our day?

A: You must date a lot of sensitive emo dudes. Just kidding. If he wants to cuddle after sex, and he's not your boyfriend o...

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Q: One of my best friends is a guy. He's a major player and breaks girls' hearts all the time. But when he's with me he doesn't act like that. And I think i love him, but I don't want to date him because hes a player, but I don't want to not date him because I love him. What should I do?

A: You know what to do. There is no possible scenario where dating this guy is a good idea. Because the second you start da...

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Q: Okay okay, so men don't care or talk about women's boobs being different sizes, BUT what if a woman's nipples (well technically areolas) are HUUUUGE!!!! I'm talking so big that they even surprise (negatively) my own self sometimes!

A: Giant nipples are awesome! So are small nipples, and medium-sized nipples. Nipples in general are pretty amazing. Some g...

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Q: Do most men realize that women's breasts are not identical? I mean, are they out there telling their friends about a women they were with that had one breast larger than the other?

A: Every man who has seen a naked woman in the flesh knows that breasts come in all shapes and sizes. Unless his sole expos...

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Q: Hi Chic Geek! I'm new to the dating scene, but the guy I have been seeing casually mentions his exes in 1-2 sentences, not comparisons but more informative...Is this normal? I don't feel like asking follow questions because I'm afraid I'd start comparing myself to them. I'd love to hear your words of wisdom!!

A: Well, it's good that he's open and all, but it seems a little soon to be talking exes. In general, bringing up your exes...

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Q: Are the woman in comic books just as bad as the girls in porn? I know they are cartoons but they have completely unrealistic bodies too and he read comics all the time.

A: Well, on the one hand, you do have a point. There are a lot of absurdly-proportioned Pamela Anderson/Jenna Jameson-types...

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Q: I tried to initiate sex while my man was playing 'Call of Duty.' I don't care at ALL when he plays video games but I was in the mood for a little spontaneous fun... I was completely shut down. He says he just wasn't in the mood. I felt like he didn't want me. Am i crazy? Can a guy truly prefer video games over sex?

A: While I don't want to sell out a fellow geek here, it is pretty lame that he didn't take a break from the game for you. ...

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Q: What do you think about J-Lo and Marc Anthony splitting up??

A: JLo and Marc Anthony split up??? But they seemed so happy together. Consulting the Internet...Oh. Yes, it seems that Jen...

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Q: You guys are all amazingly articulate at relating the 'guy's' take on life. I realize this is why you got this gig... but my question is... do you think are representative of guys between 15 - 50? Or are you an elite bunch of emotionally intelligent writer types?

A: First off, thank you. We appreciate your kind words. That said, while we're all highly evolved specimens of sensitive du...

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Q: I went though my boyfriend's old computer files and came across old pictures of his exes and him with his exes. I'm upset because when he was transferring files a few months ago I thought he would have deleted those pictures. I was devastated when I found them. Should I be?

A: If you're devastated, that's your thing. I'm not going to tell you how to feel. But you're not entirely without fault he...

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Q: My twin brother and I are blonde, blue-eyed and muscular and "well-endowed." We're in college and the offer we just received is kind of hard to pass up--$25,000 to "perform" sexually for a porn film producer. Should we do it?

A: Do you want a career in porn? Because if you and your brother take that check, you've all but guaranteed that you'll spe...

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Q: I have been dating a girl for 1 year and 4 months. In that time I used her mom so I could be with Cassidy (my gf) more. I had sex with her 50 year old mom so she would like me more so I could be with her daughter more. My whole mind set was it's for Cassidy do it and go.....Bottom line, how do I tell my ex Cassidy?

A: Wait, what?? On the list of "ways to get your girlfriend's mom to like you," I can't imagine why you went with "sleeping...

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Q: I just recently got a Google+ account. Do you have one? What are your opinions on it? Especially in regards to other social media sites (ie Facebook, Twitter).

A: Yeah, I'm on it. Basically it's Google's version of Facebook, only with better sorting features. You can organize your f...

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Q: How do you feel about the new movie Friends With Benefits, coming out right after and being just like No Strings Attached? Ridiculous, no?

A: Yeah. It does seem like Hollywood just discovered the concept of "friends with benefits," doesn't it? It's like when Arm...

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Q: A guy a work started coming on STRONG (letters, poems, 24/7 calls) after he found out I broke up with my bf. I gently told him I got back together with my bf & that he was great friend but nothing more.Now he won't talk to me, deleted me from Facebook and work sucks, I hate going in. How can I make working with him bearable?

A: You need to email him and say he needs to keep his crush separate from work. Make it very clear that you are flattered, ...

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Q: OK...I'm going to a grind fest but I'm not very experienced at grinding. So I want a guys opinion on what is best to do while grinding.

A: Grind fest?? Like a festival for grinding? I assume you mean physically grinding on someone while dancing and not the ga...

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Q: What does it mean if you've found your boyfriend of six years has recently set up a profile on an "adult" dating site??? Curiosity? Intent?

A: I'm gonna go with intent here. Unless he's an investigative journalist writing a story on online dating, or a private de...

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Q: i recently joined a dating website and didn't post pics b/c I didn't want anyone I know to see me on there. I sent a couple guys I've been emailing with pics privately, then they stop emailing. Not to sound bad, but I'm told I'm pretty a lot and these guys aren't exactly the hottest things themselves! My confidence is fading :(

A: Sorry, but it sounds like you could stand to be knocked down a peg on the ego scale. These guys are putting themselves o...

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Q: Hey CG! This guy I like is the funniest, nerdiest, sweetest, guy ever. Been through everything with him, but one problem: he's dating. When we're together, I swear he likes me, but then he looks like he's really into his girlfriend. My friend says that I'm like this girl's understudy...what the heck is this supposed to mean?

A: It means that if ever breaks up with his girlfriend, you'd be on deck to take over. Like you're waiting in the wings for...

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Q: This may sound like an odd question, but is there a such thing as "Pre-Dating?" I've begun hanging out with a guy I was only mildly acquainted with, at the gym. There is no obvious flirting from either of us, but we ask each other semi-serious questions such as, at what age we each want to get married (not to each other).

A: Interesting question! Pre-dating is definitely a thing. You might also call it "getting to know each other" or "making s...

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Q: If you slap your boyfriend, is it okay for him to slap back?

A: Nope. Not okay. A double standard sure, but he still can't hit you back. It's just one of those things that guys can't d...

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Q: I fell in love with a guy who's recently gotten gastric bypass surgery. Although he's starting to drop weight and look good I am freaked out by the excess skin and remnants of love handles. I usually go for very thin guys. Am I being a jerk?

A: Well, I wouldn't say you're being a jerk, per se, but you're definitely not being very patient. You love this guy but yo...

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Q: Dearest CG - I'm jumping the gun on this question... Last year I got out of an abusive relationship and I'm doing fine - I'm very eager to start dating again. I'm a bit apprehensive about how to present this info to a guy if it gets to that point. I don't want to freak anybody out but I know it will come up.

A: Tell him once you feel comfortable enough to talk about past relationships. I wouldn't go into it on the first date, but...

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Q: I considered him as my older brother, until we cuddled one night. He told me he is afraid i might misunderstand. Still we slept in each other's arms. Now when we go out he kisses me awkwardly on the cheek. Is it possible to tell him i just want to have sex without jeopardizing our friendship?

A: Yeah, you're way past that point. You want a friends with benefits situation, and this guy, in the parlance of the Jerse...

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Q: New York City + Raising a family = What I want. Suburbs + Raising a family = What my fiance wants. Living in the suburbs goes against much of what I stand for. He doesn't want our kids growing up in the hard city. How can we come to an agreement without ruining our relationship? Are we just not meant to be? HELP!

A: Now this is a question I can relate to. While I don't have kids, I also live in the "city that only occasionally sleeps"...

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Q: Hey! I'd love some words of wisdom. I hang out with a strikingly gorgeous group of gal pals and I sometimes feel like I'm the gross-grape of the bunch. We all share the same level of high enthusiasm when meeting guys but I hardly ever get noticed when I'm around them. What should I do if I don't want to go out alone?

A: First off, never, ever refer to yourself as a "gross-grape" again. That's your first mistake. Now, when you're out, are ...

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Q: Clarence Clemons passed away. Being a huge fan of Bruce Springsteen and the E Street Band for years, this is a major heartbreak for me :(

A: Me too! Very sad. For those who may not have heard, Clarence "Big Man" Clemons, best known as the saxophonist in Bruce S...

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Q: For a LONG time, I have been hiding in the gay world avoiding the straight world, but now I am ready to get back into dating. Will my actions from the past turn straight men off?

A: No. Your past is just that-- in the past. Whether you were dating women, men, or both, if you say you're into men any de...

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Q: My first love died a little over two years ago, for a while I was depressed and certainly not ready to date, but now I feel I'm ready to move on. I find now, though, I'm not interested in very many guys, and they aren't interested in me. Is there a way to be/seem more open and willing?

A: First of, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. That is a very difficult situation, and I'm glad you are ready to star...

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Q: Whenever I start to get to know a guy, he always becomes detached and uses the phrase, 'You're just too good for me.' What gives?

A: Yeesh. As break-up lines go, that one has to be the new "It's not you, it's me." It's a backhanded compliment. "You're s...

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Q: I think my man has bondage fantasies. Every once in a while he'll bring it up casually, I think to test the waters. About a year ago he suggested a movie called 'Secretary' and I watched it. Do you think he's hinting at what he wants? The idea turns me on. I've never tried it before though. How do I get him to act on it?

A: Secretary, the movie where James Spader spanks Maggie Gyllenhaal for like a hour and a half? Yeah, he's definitely into ...

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Q: Why can't my girlfriend understand that I can Friend beautiful women on Facebook?

A: Hi Congressman Anthony Weiner! So glad to see you're a GuySpeak fan. Things are a little rough right now, huh? I'm kiddi...

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Q: Hey, I'm VERY close to my three cousins. They're like my sisters and my best friends. I would kill and die for them, no one else even comes close to the amount of love I have for them. So my question is, how would a guy feel about this? Would he understand, or feel inadequate? Thanks.

A: I don't think the guy will care. I mean, you're not inviting your cousins along on dates or anything, right? I assume he...

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Q: Does the no contact rule after a break up really work? If I want him to want me back will withholding all contact intrigue him or just make him give up hope that I'm still interested?

A: Unfortunately, if he's ready to move on, no amount of "absence makes the heart grow fonder" game playing will work. Also...

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Q: Is it unreasonable to ask my boyfriend to wear a condom for oral, until we both get tested to make sure we're STD free? I'm worried it would ruin the experience for him and he would think it a strange request as it seems most people don't bother with doing so.

A: It's not a strange request. In fact, it's a pretty smart move. There's nothing wrong with being safe. You're right-- man...

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Q: I have OCD, and I tend to want things really neat and in a particular place in my apartment. I'm starting to get serious with a guy, and when he comes over, I tend to nitpick about where he puts things. I don't know how not to drive him away or piss him off - especially if the relationship moves forward.

A: Are you getting help for your obsessive compulsive disorder? Therapy, medication, etc.? There are treatments and resourc...

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Q: Do you think it's okay for a girl to exercise in just a sports bra in public?

A: If it makes you feel more comfortable, go for it. Sports bras aren't particularly revealing. Remember a while back when ...

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Q: My sister and best friend both got engaged and now its like all eyes are on me to settle down too.I don't even have a boyfriend! I'm sick of the whispers, I'm not even thirty yet --- hardly an old spinster! Do men feel this same pressure to settle down when "everyone else" in their social circle seems to be doing it?

A: Everyone feels the pull to settle down, be it from external pressure (family, friends) or the inescapable march of Fathe...

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Q: My boyfriend is very controlling. But only when it comes to me spending time with my girlfriends. We ALWAYS fight when I talk to him about going out. Then when I go, I receive retaliation for it. I'm a very faithful/honest person. What can I do to make him trust me? PS. We've been together 2 years. HELP!

A: You've put up with this for two years? Haven't you proved to him by now that you're faithful? Clearly you need to leave ...

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Q: My boyfriend is an independent photographer and I'm the director of marketing for a large company. He could use help with his website and soliciting business in general, but he refuses my help. He's fine about me making more money, but apparently not fine with me helping him. Should I keep trying or just let him be?

A: Let him be. This sounds like a pride thing. He wants to feel like he's in control of his own career. As a freelancer, he...

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Q: Hi! I have a gift etiquette question for the experts. I've been seeing a single dad for the past three months and I'm not sure what the rule is on Father's Day gifts. I'm a little worried that if I get him a gift it will look creepy, but if not, I'd be a total jerk. This whole dad thing is new to me. Advice?

A: Awww! That's very sweet that you want to get your new guy a Father's Day gift. But your instinct is right-- it's too soo...

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Q: If a man cheats on his wife with the same woman for 4 years, hangs out with her occasionally, calls her, texts her, etc. (and tries to hide it), does that mean he has feelings for her? If so, why does he stay married?

A: No, he doesn't have feelings for you. Maybe he did at one point, but now you're just the person he has sex with behind h...

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Q: How do you get women to swallow?

A: Ask nicely. Don't hold her head down unless you never want her to go down on you again and/or go all "America's Funniest...

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Q: I've started doing online webcam modeling as a way to pay my bills. My job just wasn't cutting it. I've been talking to a very sweet dorky guy and I'm interested in him. He asked what I do for a living and I made a joke to change subjects. How do I tell him without blowing my chances?

A: I would just be honest and tell him it's something you're doing to make ends meet. It isn't a career, but something you ...

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Q: I started seeing this amazing guy. Tonight he told me he is on medication for depression. Should I expect more hardships being in a relationship with him? I'm especially concerned about his potential reaction if we ever do break up. Advice?

A: I don't think this should be a huge factor in your relationship. A lot of people are on medication for depression and th...

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Q: How do you stop being a serial cheater? I cant stop.

A: That's crazy talk. You can stop. Maybe you need help, but you can stop. People say they can't quit things all the time. ...

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Q: This guy at work figured out who I liked and said some pretty perverted stuff about it. What do I do if he goes straight to the source and tells my crush?

A: You won't have to worry about it, because pretty soon this jackass will never talk about your personal business again. W...

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Q: What does it mean when your ex says he wants to bang you, but he's in a relationship, but says sleeping with you would be different? Could it be possible that he is just trying to sleep with me since we never did when we were actually dating? Is it all physical...?

A: He wants to "bang" you? Stay classy, San Diego. Yes. It's entirely physical. He is absolutely just trying to sleep with ...

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Q: Why would a guy have sex and spend time with someone in their apartment but not ask them out for coffee, dinner, movie, bowling or something?

A: Because he doesn't want to date you or be your boyfriend. He's just looking for a f-buddy, a friend with benefits, or a ...

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Q: Do you think it's okay to break up with someone over political differences? I have in the past, but I always feel a little guilty, like I should be breaking up with them for some other reason. I shouldn't, though, since social issues (feminism, gay rights, other civil rights issues) are very important to me.

A: That's definitely a legit reason to break-up with someone. As you said, social issues are important to you, and how you ...

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Q: My border masturbates sooo loudly, I can hear his groans of pleasure in my upstairs bedroom. Last night he left his bedroom door open and I could hear the physical contact (slapping sounds). It is my home and he rents from me. What to do?

A: Wow, that's awkward. And thank you for the "slapping sounds" part. Now I won't be able to get that image out of my head....

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Q: What does it mean if my crush drunkenly texts me and says I'm his Waldo?(Yes the man in the striped sweater.)

A: It means you're that rare gem that's hard to find. Like Waldo, it was tough to find you, but when he did, it was totally...

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Q: I met this guy that I had noticed around campus. We became friends and I began to start crushing on him...until I found it he had a girlfriend! Since we met, all the signs point to "yes, he's into me" but I'm still wary. He's sending me so many mixed signals...and I'm not about to be a homewrecker! Suggestions?

A: He's giving you mixed signals because he's deciding whether or not to cheat on his girlfriend. Avoid at all costs. You s...

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Q: A while ago my bf and I exchanged virginities. Or so I thought. He told me that he'd started to have sex with his ex but they stopped because she felt bad. I know they didn't finish but that doesn't sound like a virgin to me. I'm really hurt he didn't tell me this beforehand. Is this a reasonable reason to be angry?

A: Well, I agree that he should have told you that he had sex with his ex, even if they stopped. At least for your own safe...

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Q: I know this is a dumb question but I was wondering something. When a guy walks or runs or even sits with his legs close together, what keeps him from crushing his testicles together? Since I don't have them I don't understand why they don't crush together all the time and wouldn't it be painful to run like that?

A: Unless the guy is literally hung like a horse, this isn't really a problem. What makes us not crush Bill and Ted (or Hue...

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Q: Ahhhhh! I've had it! I feel like I'm going crazy here, Chic Geek! I need an answer so that I can stop feeling so insecure! Why would a female friend tag my boyfriend as a good bf in this stupid Facebook app called: "r u a good bf/gf?" Should I not be upset about this? I felt too afraid to ask him and her about it.

A: I wouldn't worry. Like you said, it's a dumb Facebook app. It sounds like she's paying him a compliment. What, she's goi...

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Q: My bf used to online chat & met some ladies whom he was chatting for quite a while before we even dated. I learned that he actually lent some money ($600 to be exact) to a girl to supposedly "start her own business." I feel off on this, although its not my money but still... Am i wrong if I ask him not to?

A: Wow, either your boyfriend really wanted to sleep with this stranger or he's a total sucker. Did he ever get the money b...

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Q: Is it okay for two males to share a bed if it saves money on a room for a vacation to Amsterdam?

A: Yes, of course that's okay. You're in Amsterdam! Live a little. I assume you're staying at a hostel? Why not bring sleep...

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Q: My boyfriend of three years recently got a job on a cruise ship. He will be gone for 8 months with limited internet/phone access. I need advice on how to deal with his absence.

A: That's a tough situation. You want to support your boyfriend's career, but eight months with limited phone/Internet conn...

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Q: Is it my fault my boyfriend broke my iPhone? He says I acted too shady with my iPhone. So he had two choices: stop caring about me or get my attention by breaking my iPhone. I'm really hurt, but he is trying to fix my iPhone now. When we talk about him breaking it he always throws the attention back on me.

A: What?? What?? Hold on a second. I need to pick my jaw up off of the floor. Why are you you still with this guy? It is ab...

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Q: What does it mean when a guy says he isn't seeing anyone else but isn't into labels? is he scared?

A: It means he's not looking to get serious. He likes you, wants to keep dating, but isn't looking to be your boyfriend. He...

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Q: I got hit on by a married man in an ice cream shop. He was obviously with his wife and kid! And hitting on me, I pretended not to notice and I was blushing because that was so rude to his wife, who was fuming with anger. My question, what idiot does this IN FRONT of his wife?!

A: This guy is pure slime. In front of his wife and kid??? His poor wife. She shouldn't put up with that. I hope she leaves...

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Q: My friend wants to set me up on a date with her friend's friend. I've never been on a blind date. I'm kind of freaking out. What if he's not my type? (Hate to sound shallow, but what if he's not...physically attractive?) HELP HELP HELP! I need your opinion about first time blind dates!

A: Try not to worry. For one, he's probably thinking the exact same thing. Blind dates are so quaint! These days with onlin...

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Q: Would a straight man wake up at 4:00 in the morning to watch the royal wedding? My boyfriend did and he will never get up early to see me. I called when he was re-watching the wedding in the evening on CNN and he did not want to talk. Help me make sense of this. Is he gay?

A: Ha! No, he's not gay. Or maybe he is, but not because he watched royal wedding coverage. As a straight man who was up at...

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Q: I have an older male prof who I consider a good friend. I am about to graduate. We even went out to lunch once, and he even helped me with a huge college project, which required us meeting alone on campus a lot. I have his number and want to talk to him/hang because I'm sick of the formal b/s emails. How do I go about this?

A: Wait until after graduation to do anything. For one thing, he might have a (smart) policy against dating students. Even ...

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Q: My bf will be temporarily living with me (and my roomies) over the summer. People keep saying we'll get sick of each other since we'll have so much free time. I don't really believe it, but I'm getting a little worried. Will it change our relationship? What can we do to keep things fun, but also have our own space?

A: It'll change your relationship a little bit, sure. You'll have to get used to cohabiting and melding your possessions an...

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Q: My boyfriend says he is not into me but more into my friend. What should I do?

A: Dump this guy so fast his head spins. What a terrible way to break up with someone. Even if he's being honest about his ...

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Q: I have a boyfriend who hits me. But I really truly love him and he is convincing me that he will change.

A: And...that's how abusive relationships start. He crosses a line that no guy should EVER cross, says he's sorry and will ...

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Q: Is it crazy to pose as someone else on MySpace to talk to my high school sweetheart? Not trying to find anything out I just miss our conversations. We where together for 3yrs. He was my best friend. The break-up didn't go well that's why I'd pose as someone else. Its been 4yrs since the break up.

A: Yes. That is absolutely crazy. Who uses MySpace anymore? The last time I logged into my profile, Bush was president. (In...

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Q: Why do guys like catfighting?

A: Well, there's always the possibility that clothes will come off. They never do, but if you've watched enough professiona...

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Q: Dear Chic Geek, my boyfriend has 4 tattoos. I was neutral about the first 3, but he recently bought a new one that is tacky and I really dislike it. I still love him, but I do have to sleep with him and his ugly tat. Should I tell him I dislike it? I'm worried now that he will get more tacky tattoos! What should I do!

A: Does the tattoo have personal meaning to him? Or is it just something stupid? If it has personal meaning, you might have...

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Q: I have a phobia where I am afraid to eat in front of other people if they are watching me. I can't sit across the table with someone - just the two of us- and eat. It makes dating difficult,and I usually order something small and eat at home. I'm now getting serious with a guy - how do I explain this to him?

A: Well, now you're at the point where you can tell him straight. You've gotten past the initial dating awkwardness. If you...

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Q: If a girl was starting out on her first animated Batman adventure, where would you suggest she start?

A: Definitely start with Batman: The Animated Series, easily one of the best depictions of Batman in any media and one of t...

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Q: My best guy friend slaps my butt, touches my boobs, and jokes around about having sex with me, and I really don't mind as long as he doesn't take it too far...but now I'm wondering what it means since he does it so often...what should I do?

A: It means he's a scummy jerk. A real friend wouldn't take advantage of you like that. Clearly he wants to hook up, but he...

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Q: He says he's committed, for good... so why does he still have dating site profiles? Albeit ones that he doesn't log into and that show his relationship status. Those can be disabled, so if he's really committed, why not disable them rather than just state that he's in a relationship?

A: Wait, how do you know he's on these sites? Do you have a profile as well?? Were you surfing for dudes and your guy came ...

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Q: Boyfriend is scared that I may be missing out on other guys...wtf. Should I dump him now or dig a little deeper to see if its his own emotional issues?

A: Dump him. Telling you that you're missing out on other guys is his way of saying he wants to, as the Jersey Shore gang s...

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Q: HELP!!!! I just found out that the guy I've been dating for 2 mos has herpes and he confessed to me when he had an outbreak. I feel betrayed because he should've told me first before we jumped into bed. He said he completely forgot about it. I really like him and devastated. I also worry that I might get infected. What do I do now?

A: Go get a STD test. Immediately. If you were having safe sex, you might be okay. If you didn't have sex when he had an ou...

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Q: I'm pregnant from a one night stand. Definitely can't have this baby and going to have an abortion. Do I still tell the guy?

A: You do whatever you need to do to get through this. Tell him, don't tell him. It's your decision. If he's a good guy, he...

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Q: Hey Nick! I'm curious to know what your opinion about the former UCLA student Alexandra Wallace is?

A: The "Asians in the library" blonde? She dug her own grave. Why put that sort of thing online? Of course people are going...

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Q: Any hopes for a group chat soon??

A: Hopefully soon! We're also discussing a possible Facebook chat for the folks over there. (Have you "liked" us yet? Now's...

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Q: It's been a month since I've responded, but he keeps texting me (from "I love you, I miss you, I want you" to "I hate you, I hope you get hit by a bus"). He's doing anything to get me to respond. I still have feelings for him but I refuse. I want to move on. How much longer do I need to deal with this?

A: Allow me to rant about texting for a second. As much as I appreciate the convenience, that sort of crap would never have...

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Q: This sucks: my husband cheated, then brought the other woman and her spouse into our circle of friends. Our friends are important to us & fun. We vacation together. I can't stand the humiliation of being in the same room w/the other woman though & shes always included. Do we need to give up our friends & vacation?

A: No, you need to give up your husband. Oof. This guy is the worst. So let me get this straight: - He cheated on you. - Yo...

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Q: Bruce Springsteen or Bon Jovi?

A: Wow, that's a tough one. And I'm not even from Jersey! Let's weigh the pros and cons. Bon JoviPros:  "Livin' on a P...

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Q: My brother seems to lack "life skills." He doesn't know how to sleep, eat, study etc. He got kicked out of two high schools and is flunking college. My parents are desperate. I think volunteer work abroad might help. What can we do to make him realize he needs to change?

A: Volunteer work is a step in the right direction. He needs what the French call "le kick in the pants." There are a few o...

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Q: If a guy asks for advice on another girl, am I automatically in the friend zone?

A: Pretty much. Sorry. At best, you're a fallback plan. Sure, it would be nice if life played out like an '80s movie and th...

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Q: How do I convince my boyfriend to pay more attention to me? He smokes a lot of pot, that doesn't bug me, its when we go somewhere, and he is always high, I can't even take him to my work dinners because I will get fired. He sells pot also, and it has basically become his life, but I want some attention too.

A: Sounds like he's got two girlfriends: You and sweet Mary Jane. I kid, I kid. Seriously, that's a tough situation. We've ...

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Q: My boyfriend breaks my stuff whenever he is mad at me. What should I do?

A: Pick up your phone. Type this as a text message: U SUK. GO AWAY 4 EVR. Then never speak to him again. Seriously, that is...

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Q: On a scale of premium to 42, how much do guys like The Princess Bride?

A: 42! Princess Bride is one of those movies that helps you determine whether or not a person is worth knowing. If they can...

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Q: We were on a break....now we're not and he just found out he has a child with a woman he slept with during the previously mentioned break. What's a girl to do? We were planning our own baby, by the way.

A: Wow. How long was the break?? I imagine it went down something like this:Him: Honey, what did you do during our break? Y...

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Q: You seem like a sensible guy so I wanna ask: Do you have rules for buying clothes? I feel like I have a closet full of clothes but nothing to wear and was just wondering how guys decide what to buy.

A: Comfort is definitely a big concern for guys, from the most stylish clotheshorse to the filthy slob who dresses like a r...

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Q: So i'm a slut. I don't want the "that title degrades women" speech, because honestly it's gotten to the point where I blow guys before even kissing them. I don't think I have low self esteem, just something's obviously wrong and I can't understand it. Please help

A: First off, give yourself a high five. No, seriously, do it. I'm not kidding. I'll wait. So...Chris Brown, huh? I wouldn'...

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Q: My boyfriend adds on FB a lot of women he doesn't know personally, whose profiles claim they're artists of some kind & have revealing pictures. I haven't said anything yet, but it makes me feel odd. I do remember him saying he adds a lot of fellow artists (networking). I'm not at all sure if I should be bothered by this...?

A: Eh, I don't know. You probably don't have to worry but it does seem kind of lame. On the one hand, I can't knock him for...

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Q: Any good song recommendations from your ipod right now? I've been working a lot and while I drive I just resort to listening to the radio - but I miss good music!

A: Now that the weather is FINALLY getting warmer, I've been getting my spring mix on. Here are some hot jams and albums I'...

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Q: Is it embarrassing to go back to school at 27 and possibly be a 29/30 year old intern?

A: No, not at all. Particularly now. The economy being what it is, all bets are off in terms of what you should and shouldn...

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Q: Umm...have you heard that Rebecca Black song? And can you believe it's actually doing well? Love your music choices so I thought I'd ask about this.

A: Oh, I've heard it. And it's the worst/best thing ever. In case you aren't familiar with this new classic, Rebecca Black ...

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Q: I was completely in love with this hipster-geek. We had the same taste in music, movies - everything. After a couple dinners and hang-outs, he told me he had a girlfriend. He stopped talking to me for months after he told me about her and now is texting me again. He is still with her. What does he want?

A: To cheat on his girlfriend. He brought up the fact that he had a girlfriend after what sounds like two dates? Maybe that...

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Q: I'm transgendered (biologically female, male-identified) and attracted to men. I have no plans to transition. Would (straight) men be comfortable with the idea of dating someone who doesn't see themselves as a "girl"? Would they even take me seriously? I have the body, but I feel like I'm deceiving guys I might date.

A: I think it depends on the person. Love is an amazing thing. If a guy falls for you, the gender you identify yourself as ...

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Q: Why do men complain about women with body issues, but don't understand the connection to their porn viewing? Men say it's "just a fantasy", but how do they expect women to not compare themselves to the women they look at and be fine with it, and not feel inadequate that their man feels the need to look at porn?

A: You raise some good points. However, I think it goes deeper than your man's porn viewing habits. Unless he's Charlie She...

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Q: How many men do you think would be turned off by a woman who underwent a bilateral mastectomy (breasts were taken off for cancerous purposes) and now sports scars all along the new implants?

A: First off, bravo. You are a survivor. I cannot imagine what you're going through right now. A friend of mine went throug...

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Q: I'm a feminist, and passionate about gender issues. Guys have told me that I lecture/"get preachy" when I try to start discussion. Don't get me wrong, it's not like I'm bashing hetero men, I believe these aren't just "women's issues" so I try to start honest dialogue. How can I share my passion without alienating the guys?

A: Just be yourself and don't be an a-hole. Who cares if they think you sound preachy? They're probably boring and have not...

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Q: I hate movies that are gory and am willing to watch basically anything else my boyfriend picks out, but he won't even sit through ONE movie that I pick because he hates the actor (seriously, like EVERY actor..), thinks it has a horrible plot, or decides it's just boring. What are some guy worthy movies I could handle?

A: Your boyfriend sounds like a cranky-pants! He won't watch one movie of your choosing? That's not cool, Broseph. Sometime...

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Q: What kind of excuse is "it just doesn't feel right," anyways? Sounds like a cop out, if you ask me.

A: Does it, though? If being in a relationship with you doesn't feel right to him, wouldn't you want to know? What if the t...

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Q: Ok, boyfriend is perfect, but i went to visit him and we were play wrestling (I was opening a note I found in his room). He started hurting me (holding my wrists too tight, not hitting). I told him and he kept apologizing while it was happening. We didn't talk for the four days I was there, no apologies! I broke up with him. Am I overreacting?

A: No way. You were smart to dump him. What he did was not okay. He got physically abusive with you because you looked at a...

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Q: If a guy hasn't text me in 9 days and I start missing him and I text him "I miss you" and then I ask honestly "did you miss me?" he says "kinda" what does that mean?

A: He's not interested. There are few worse responses to "Do you miss me?" than "kinda." Sure, "no" is worse, but who is go...

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Q: My husband is a liar and a cheat and he has me trapped so I can't leave with my kids.

A: Get a lawyer. If you can't afford one, consult the Legal Aid chapter in your area. There is always a way out. If he's ch...

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Q: Why doesn't my boyfriend stick up for me? He never has. Like if a guy was to try and start a fight for me, he probably would have nothing to say. He loves me, but even last weekend his friend grabbed my boobs and all he could say was "I cant control him, no one can" when we were in private.

A: WHAT? That is so not okay. I've never been in a fight in my life, but if one of my friends did that to my girlfriend I'd...

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Q: I'm an ex-slut who's trying to forget about her past and move on and better myself, but my bad reputation makes me really worried about the future of my love life. I really like this guy, but my history is still kind of haunting me and I don't want him to think of me of the way I use to be. What should I do?

A: All you can do is let him know that you want to be monogamous and then actually be monogamous. You can't change your pas...

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Q: Boyfriend and I had sex twice, no condom, birth control, he ejaculated. Same night I slept with someone else, no condom, no ejaculation. I told him the next day and we worked through it, I am now pregnant and the date leads back to that day. I wish I could explain more, but do you think it is my bf's son? We do.

A: I'm assuming that you and this second guy used the "pull-out method"? You realize that even if he didn't ejaculate insid...

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Q: I'm attracted to creepy intense sometimes insane men, not the Edward Cullen type, but like Peter Lorre in "M." But in real life. The problem is, I never see it. My friends have to tell me and they actually worry a bit that I was born without a "creep-dar" as they put it. I'm worried too, that I'll never see it coming

A: Ha. That's the first time I've heard of anyone having a Peter Lorre in M fetish. I'm sure you're not alone in your prefe...

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Q: Is it wrong to go through my guy's phone? I've never done it before, but I'm just so tempted! I know it's an invasion of privacy, but aren't I better off knowing if something is going on behind my back?

A: Do you think he's cheating or are you just curious? If you think he's cheating, you should talk to him about it. Has he ...

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Q: Can guys pull off green chinos?

A: Uh, is it St. Patrick's Day? Then, sure. Every other day of the year? Eh, not so much. A guy in green pants just screams...

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Q: I have terrible anxiety - especially when I have to speak in public. I have to give my first oral presentation at work, and it is in front of my crush/coworker (amongst other people). Seriously, is there anything I could do during the presentation that would make him think less of me?

A: Short of erupting into a Mel Gibson-esque racist rant, I can't imagine there's anything that you could do during the pre...

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Q: My boyfriend of 4 years slept with someone else about a year ago. Until that point we had been each other's only sexual partner. Our relationship has been fine (better even) since he confessed, but I'm still not over this. He hates to talk about it but I really feel like we need to. Time to talk or let it go?

A: Time to talk. You understandably are still hurt and have some unresolved feelings about what he did. He doesn't like to ...

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Q: Does the silent treatment work?

A: No. It's passive-aggressive and stupid. It's like a child holding their breath until they get what they want. You're say...

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Q: He says he's a virgin....he's 25!! And a little too smooth at life to be a virgin in my eyes...he's still in college, getting his masters, plenty of sex everywhere, and he tells me he's not getting any???! Is he telling the truth, or should I put up a mental red flag?

A: I can't imagine there's a 25-year-old guy alive who would lie about being a virgin. What would he have to gain? Perhaps ...

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Q: After watching The Social Network, I came to the idea that most people, post break-up, have to prove themselves. Some girls cut their hair off, or run a marathon...but I never realized that guys react similarly, too. Is this the guys way of trying to win her back?

A: Sometimes. Though most of us don't write blog posts about how our ex is a b-word and then go create a sexist "Hot or Not...

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Q: This valentine's day I spent forever planning something nice for my bf (of a year) and he didn't do ANYTHING. Not even a card or a backrub. I ended up crying b/c he didn't put any effort in at all. He said he loves me but this made me question it.What was he THINKING? Did this kill the relationship, or am I just picky?

A: Yeah, he screwed up. Big time. This is your first Valentine's Day, the one that sets the precedent for all future Valent...

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Q: What's wrong with me? The guy I've liked for over a year sent me flowers anonymously for Valentine's Day (I know this for a fact), so clearly he likes me, but ever since then, I haven't felt the same toward him. I'm not getting butterflies or anything! What's the deal???

A: You are experiencing one of the great ironies of life: Sometimes when we finally get what we want, we no longer want it....

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Q: Right, there's a girl who works in a pub I know (or a bar if you're a damn American) and she's hot. I have yet to say hi to her or anything. What do I do now?

A: Here's what you do: 1. Go to the bar often. Become a regular, though not in a stalker-y way. Bring friends with you. Tel...

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Q: I'm a normal weight, 5'6/138 lbs. My mom, however, is overweight, though not grotesquely so... Probably a size 14 (she's 5'4). I'm 20, and worried about introducing my boyfriends to my funny, intelligent, caring mother because I'm worried they'll think I'm going to get fat and break up with me. Am I being irrational?

A: Yes. Extremely irrational. No guy you would ever want to date would make an assumption like that. If he judges you based...

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Q: What does it means when a guy takes you out to eat and he only eats a salad?

A: He's manorexic. No, I'm kidding. Maybe he's a vegetarian, or perhaps he had a big lunch and wasn't very hungry. Or maybe...

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Q: My daughter wants to start dating. She's a 13 1/2 year old responsible young woman. I think she has to wait until she's 16, but she keeps telling me that all of her friends are dating and I should let her. What do you think?

A: Well, I'm not a father, but the universal rule of teenagers throughout time is that if you tell them not to do something...

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Q: We've been dating for six years. He has never given me anything. He pays when we go out. (I offer too.) But he hasn't even given me a card. I cant stand it.

A: Wow. Six years and not a single present on your birthday or during the holidays? No flowers on Valentine's Day? Not even...

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Q: My new boyfriend teaches at an all-girls high school. I was looking at a website where students review teachers, and the comments revealed that he had a relationship with a senior last year. Should I be worried? Are 32 year old men even interested in 16,17, and 18 year olds?!

A: Well, first you should get confirmation as to whether or not he actually had an affair with a student from something oth...

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Q: If a girl is really short, would that matter to a guy??

A: Nah. I don't think guys really care all that much about height. It's seems to be more important to women. You rarely see...

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Q: Is it weird that my boyfriend of 5 months still has pictures of his ex on Facebook (ie from their vacations), still sporadically talks to her, and refuses to tell her that hes dating me because he might "hurt her feelings"? Also he refuses to let me go on his Facebook or go through his phone.

A: Yes, that is all very weird. And--more importantly-- hurtful to you. In fact, I would say what you have is not a real re...

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Q: So are nerdy white guys truly afraid of black girls? Its an impression I've held for years based on personal experience. haha What say you my bespectacled counselor?

A: Absolutely not afraid. Based on personal experience, I can say that quite the opposite is true. I've dated black and bir...

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Q: What does it mean when a man who claims to be interested in you wont give you his home address or home phone number and only calls while he's at work?

A: It means he's married, engaged, or has a girlfriend. There are few more obvious signs of a cheater than a guy who won't ...

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Q: I've been in recovery for anorexia (therapy helped) I'm mostly good but I know my triggers. The problem is, so does my dad. He likes to make "harmless" comments about my eating and exercise habits. I've tried to explain to him that these comments aren't good for me but I can't make him stop. What will make him understand?

A: Wow. That is really rough. Anorexia is a serious condition. Even though you're in recovery, you still need support from ...

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Q: I have a gay buddy that I had invited to come visit over the Christmas holidays. Me, my boyfriend and my buddy were drinking that night. My boyfriend was in a blackout and went to bed with my gay buddy. He says he thought he was in bed with me. Do you think my boyfriend could be gay? My gay buddy loves seducing straights.

A: No offense, but this question made me laugh for like half an hour. It's like a scene from one of the American Pie movies...

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Q: GEEK QUESTION!!! Who's your favorite Robin? For that matter, who's your favorite Bat'?

A: Tim Drake. While he's not the most popular choice, Tim Drake was Robin during the '90s when I first started reading Batm...

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Q: I'm falling hard for this guy at work, but every time I talk to him, the "funny" guy at work comes over and makes fun of me. And, if I'm talking to someone else, he'll say, "Stop cheating on ____! He'll be devastated!" I think he's just kidding around, but it's really annoying and turning my crush off (I think). Help?

A: Yeah, shut that down. Take him aside and let him know he's being annoying. Either he likes you, and is jealous of the at...

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Q: I like him. I'm in my early 20s, hes 35 and living with this fiancée (shes 40). He is hitting on me, seems to be genuinely interested, and I like him, should I just go for it?

A: No. Walk away now. When you see a hornet's nest, do you kick it and hope you won't get stung? Because right now you're a...

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Q: Even after much convincing, my boyfriend of 3 years still doesn't like any sci-fi (apart from Doctor Who, my greatest conquest), including but not limited to Star Wars, Star Trek, Stargate, and even Hitch-hiker's Guide to the Galaxy. Should I give up and just admit he'll never be a geek like me?

A: There's a guy out there who doesn't like Star Wars?? I thought everyone with a penis was required to like Star Wars, The...

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Q: iPhone or BlackBerry? I own a BlackBerry but am thinking of changing. What would you suggest?

A: BlackBerry, but the iPhone is definitely tempting. I've held out because I like my phone to, you know, actually make pho...

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Q: i just need a quick simple answer, i promise! :) What is the the hottest way for a girl to act at a big party, to all males?! Any tips will help, thank you thank you!

A: Dance! Have fun. Be yourself. Don't worry about being attractive to every guy at the party. That's impossible. Some guys...

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Q: When a random guy compliments my necklace and goes on to say, after I've thanked him, "It's very nice, I like it..." (It's just another necklace...nothing too special here), does this mean he is gay, checking out my boobs, or sincerely liked my necklace?

A: He's probably trying to flirt and stumbling for conversation topics. Maybe he legitimately liked the necklace, or maybe ...

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Q: Parents = divorced. Neither has ever made efforts towards an active family life. Now my dad's aunt is sick and dying (I barely know her) & he passive-aggressively hints that I should want to road trip with him to say goodbye. It feels crass to say I have more important things to do. What are your thoughts? Am I obligated?

A: This is a tough one. On the one hand, it's probably your dad's way of trying to connect with you. He's sad about his aun...

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Q: My live in boyfriend of a year and a half is amazing. Everything is great-- except his ex wife shows up every now and then where we hang out. Most recently she joined a Tuesday night pool league that he participates in and manages. This bothers me but I can't tell him to stop now. Help!

A: Yeah, that's weird. Why does she need to be such a big part of your life together? This is not "yeah, they're cool with ...

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Q: My bf said I have a cute little butt. What does that mean? Isn't that a weird thing to say? Why do guys look at girls' butts? Also, I'm 21, not a 12 year old totally naive girl. I just still don't get the butt thing. Break it down for me Chic geek.

A: Well, maybe you have a cute butt. What's wrong with that? Doesn't seem weird to me, as long as he didn't say it at your ...

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Q: What's your opinion of adult nursing relationships?

A: You mean like dating when you have a full-time career as a nurse? I can imagine it's difficult to maintain a relationshi...

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Q: Is it possibly to faint from orgasm? I've never experienced "the big O," but was masturbating in the Jacuzzi the other night and as things were getting super good, I swear I blacked out for just a few seconds. When i came to, my fingers and toes were tingling like they'd fallen asleep. Weirdest thing ever.

A: (Yes, I realize that Mystery Man already answered this one. But we GuySpeak guys are all beautiful snowflakes--no one an...

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Q: My Nana died in late Oct. and I suffered an emotional breakdown. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months. A week and 1/2 later, I snapped out of it, but it was too late. He'd 'found what he was looking for.' I don't get it. Did he really move on that fast, or did I hurt his pride? I'm devastated, I still love him.

A: First off, I'm very sorry to hear about your grandmother's passing. But you can't beat yourself up over this. If nothing...

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Q: Did you see Black Swan? What did you think of it?

A: Really great! A creepy portrait of obsession. It definitely showed the darker side of professional ballet (the physical ...

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Q: If you're pregnant, can the man's penis hit the baby during sex?

A: If the guy is really large, yes. You know when the mom feels a kick in her stomach? That's the baby getting revenge for ...

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Q: You're the expert. I'm a relatively normal-looking girl considering that I have a very hourglass figure (38DDs and a small waist), and I have curly blonde hair and blue eyes. I really like those skinny hipster guys who just don't look like my type. Do those kinds of guys ever dig "all-American girls" like me?

A: Ha, yeah. Hipsters like curvy blondes. Don't worry. Skinny hipster guys don't exclusively date skinny hipster girls. It ...

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Q: For some reason, you're asshole attitude makes you a total candidate for a one night stand (and that's it.) Wanna f*ck?

A: Pass. I'm taken. Also, you should stop having one-night stands with a-holes. It's your first step towards meeting a nice...

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Q: My boyfriend told me that he masturbates to porn and sometimes real girls that he has class with or sees in the street. Um, wtf? Is this normal for guys? Does this mean that, given the chance, he would hook up with these girls?

A: What??? What???? No. Telling you about other women he fantasizes about is not normal. That is flat-out messed up. Porn, ...

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Q: Why do guys say condoms are uncomfortable?

A: Because they're trying to trick you into having unprotected sex. "Condoms are uncomfortable." "I can't feel anything wit...

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Q: What does it mean when a guy leaves the bathroom door open when he pees?

A: It means you're married. Congratulations! Or it means he's very, very comfortable with you. If it's early into the relat...

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Q: My boyfriend and I have been dating for over six months and I was a bit surprised when I didn't get a holiday gift. I gave him a thoughtful, but not expensive gift, and I thought I would at least get a card in return. Is this a sign of bad things to come?

A: Not necessarily. He definitely dropped the ball here (six months warrants at least a card), but he might not have realiz...

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Q: How do you feel when you wake up beside a girl who has makeup smudged all over her face. Do you think she's ugly?

A: Of course not. Because if she fell asleep with her makeup on, that means we had wild, crazy, probably drunken sex the ni...

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Q: Every year, I stay in for New Year's Eve and pop champagne with my best friend. This year, we were invited to a party by our friends who tell us that the reason we're still single is because we'd rather do what's comfortable than get out there. We love our typical NYE, but we realize you can't meet anyone in your living room.

A: Why not do both? If the party sucks, you can always bail with your friend, pop the champagne and watch Ryan Seacrest awk...

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Q: My girlfriend has cut me off from sex until marriage and I'm having a difficult time trying to stay faithful. Sex plays a huge part in a relationship for me. I'm a guy who can't go 2 days with out it. How can I find a way to calm these urges and stay faithful?

A: That's a tough situation, but an easy answer: obviously you should be faithful. I assume she's cutting you off for relig...

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Q: I met a guy through online dating and I've asked him to be my date to a New Years party. The problem is I don't want to tell my friends how we met. Is it okay for me to ask him to lie to them and say we met at a bar or something if they ask?

A: Why are you embarrassed about online dating? Everyone does it. Match, OK Cupid, eHarmony, etc. It's one of the ways we m...

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Q: I was diagnosed with herpes a month ago. We've been faithful and I told him right away, I was mortified.I'm the only girl he's ever slept with; I on the other hand kind of got around before we started dating. I feel so guilty now- I feel like I brought this upon myself by being a whore and now I don't deserve him. Help!

A: There's no reason to feel guilty at this point. You were faithful to him, and told him right away, so you've done everyt...

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Q: So this guy in my class wanted me to sit in his lap. Why does he want me to do that?

A: Maybe he wants to know what you want for Christmas. Perhaps he's Santa Claus in disguise! Or, you know, he likes you, an...

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Q: Why is my friend's boyfriend so weirdly interested in my sex life? And I don't just mean who I'm dating. I think it's inappropriate and creepy for him to ask me or her about it constantly. Are all guys like this?

A: Yeah, that's skeevy. He's probably attracted to you, and maybe bored in his relationship. Or he's just an inappropriate ...

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Q: What is the best way to ask a girl for nude pics?

A: There is only one way to ask your girl for nude pics. See below. And don't say I never did anything for you, men of the ...

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Q: Does it mean anything special when a guy IMs you as "hey you" rather than just "hey" or "hi"?

A: That's a tough one to call over IM. It could be like "Hey, yooooou" said all slow and smooth in order to be flirty. (Sor...

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Q: My guy hates when I put make up on and when I have cleavage. What does that mean?

A: It means he's a jealous, controlling douchebag. Who doesn't want their lady to look like the kind of smoking hot mega-fo...

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Q: Is grinding on another girl considered cheating?! I hate the thought of my boyfriend going out with his guy friends and grinding up on someone! Should I worry when he goes out with them? They say they watch my back but I know he is their best friend not me so obviously they'll let him cheat since he has before with me.

A: Yeah, grinding is a form of cheating. It might not be as bad as sleeping with someone else, but the intent is still the ...

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Q: My boyfriend and his ex had a great love. They had it publicized all over Facebook. Kissing pics, mushy statuses, and comments back and forth to each other. He does none of that with me, were not even listed as in a relationship. i know he loves me more than anything, even her. I'm jealous, but i cant tell him I snooped.

A: Stop. Back away from Facebook. No good will come from comparing the relationship he had with his ex to yours. You know t...

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Q: Why are guys threatened by lesbians?

A: Uh, by "threatened," you mean "turned on," right? I don't know any guys who feel threatened by lesbians. We don't go aro...

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Q: What the heck is going on in the media today? No matter the topic, or the product, the man always seems to lose out to the girl. It could be anything from aspirin to insurance. The girl always ends up with the right choice. Is there a reason the girl is never wrong on ANY commercial?

A: Well, it could be that women are inherently smarter than men. Or maybe it's a global media conspiracy (perpetrated by th...

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Q: Hey can you guys do a blog post about how to enjoy the holidays, if your single. Not all of us are in relationships, thanks!

A: Simple: Parties, parties, and more parties. Accept every party invitation that comes your way. Go to work parties, parti...

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Q: Is it a bad idea to start dating someone new during the holiday season?

A: Not at all! The mistletoe, the twinkling lights, the tipsy office parties...the holidays are a great time for new love. ...

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Q: I got felt up by a friend at work who is 10 years older than me at a party where we were both drunk. I don't know how to act when i go back to work, i feel really violated, but then again I let it happen.

A: No. Stop that thinking immediately. If it wasn't consensual, then you didn't let it happen. You feel violated because yo...

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Q: How important is it to have a man cave?

A: I prefer to call it my "nerd cave" or "nerd lair." "Man cave" sounds like a gay bar from the '70s. ("Mantuary" is a litt...

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Q: My boyfriend bought me a sweater as an early Christmas present, and I want to wear it, but it's not my style and doesn't look good on me at all! What should I do?!?!?!? Please answer!

A: Ouch. Did you have a sudden onset of "present face"? That's a rough one. We've all been there. Okay, here's the thing......

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Q: I am a total bibliophile and have been single for a year but I am ready to find myself a bibliophile to date. I'm 20 and at a good college but it seems impossible to find an intelligent guy. Where are all the bibliophiles hiding other than the book stores and the libraries?

A: Why not try author readings? Keep an eye out for readings at your local indie or chain bookstore. They're good for mingl...

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Q: I have a crisis! My boyfriend loves classical music and always tries to 'convert' me away from my love of The Shins, and similar bands. I can appreciate classical music for what it is, but he makes fun of my tastes. Is this need to 'improve' me flattering or bad news? Should I just finish it?

A: Man, pretentious classical music buffs are the worst. I like Handel's "Messiah" as much as the next NPR nerd, but I also...

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Q: Why is my husband more emotionally in tune with me and affectionate after he has a few drinks? He used to be more emotionally in tune with me and affectionate when we were dating but without the alcohol. Now, why am I not as appealing as I used to be unless he has a few drinks? It makes me feel rejected in some ways.

A: Unfortunately, this has nothing to do with you and everything to do with the fact that your husband has a drinking probl...

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Q: Hi Chic Geek. Remember last month the question about drunk kissing the guy with the girlfriend, and him staying the night? Well you had good advice. She asked me tonight if anything happened and I told her the truth. Then douchebag denies it TO ME and calls me undesirable. Is this just cause to punch him... hard?

A: In this case, I hate to be right. (See the original answer here.) But now you know that he is not someone you want in yo...

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Q: I cheated on my boyfriend of a month. We're both young. Thing is, I don't regret it. I'm a very conservative person and my boyfriend, he's also very shy. When I cheated, it pushed me out of my shy shell and gave me tons of confidence that he NEVER did. Am I horrible for not feeling horrible and telling my boyfriend?

A: Congrats on gaining some confidence. Too bad it came at the expense of someone who cared about you. If you're not carefu...

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Q: ASAP! Please! This is prob really ridiculous & crazy BUT this guy just called my office & sounded ADORABLE (he's British. Yes, it IS that easy.) and we can't offer him a job but I took his contact info anyway. Is it super SUPER weird if I call him after work and see if he's down for a blind date? Say no please say no...

A: Sorry to burst your crush bubble, but I'm not sure asking him out is such a good idea. For one thing, your employer migh...

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Q: My roommate Laura wants to know if men actually like ATM.

A: They're okay, I guess. Well, except the one at the deli down the block from me. That one is the worst. Always out of ser...

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Q: Will my c-section scar be a turn-off/unattractive to my husband?

A: Nah. Presumably the wonderful, amazing child (or children) that sprang from his loins emerged from that scar. Nothing wr...

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Q: I just learned yesterday that my ex that I dated many years ago, had recently got engaged. I tried e-mailing him a few months back but he didn't respond. I'm just really confused about as to what she has and what I don't have.

A: Uh, him? Sorry. I don't mean to get all Mystery Man on you, but you need a little tough love. You broke up many years ag...

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Q: Would you think I'm a terrible person if I said I usually don't think blond guys are attractive? Would that put me in the same class as the guy who has the Asian fetish (from the question you answered today)?

A: No, that's different. (See the original answer here.) That's preferring one hair color over another, not an entire race ...

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Q: I love boobies. That's all.

A: Can't argue with that. Every once in a while, you just gotta let the world know how wonderful boobies are. Men, women, b...

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Q: What do I do when my husband takes an unexpected job 1/2 way across the US, didn't communicate until the last day before leaving, and blames me because he's overly obsessive about my weight, while he's underweight, and also hangs me out to dry when it comes to having a lack of spirituality, when he himself does not?

A: What do you do? You file for divorce immediately. Right? And maybe sue for emotional distress and abuse. Let me see if I...

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Q: I'm white and my boyfriend is white also but he told me that he prefers to date Asian women. Am I wasting on time on someone who will never be truly happy with me because I'm not his preference? Would he feel like he is missing out on other things because I'm white and not Asian?

A: You are absolutely wasting your time. Why be with someone who openly tells you that he prefers to date other types of wo...

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Q: My ex broke up with me two months ago and since then I've been going through this emotional cycle, trying to be friends but we end up having sex and I get attached again. What should I do?

A: Take a break. A serious break. No getting together for a casual drink that turns into you getting drunk and waking up in...

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Q: HELP! I'm El Desperado for an answer here. I'm going kinda crazy...so if you spend a night making out with a guy and there's chemistry, and he ends up getting your number (he asked) how many days until you write him off if he hasn't tried to contact you?

A: Two days. After that point, he's probably not going to call. Someone who is interested is going to act pretty fast. At t...

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Q: Guys with girlfriends always approach me. Why do I have "slut" written across my forehead?

A: It's their fault. Some guys are just skeezy. Swat 'em off like flies. You're probably friendly, and they take that as a ...

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Q: Why do some men put up with the women who are ridiculously controlling? I'm talking about the women who forbid them to hang out with friends without her, the ones that give you a curfew, etc. I realize this is probably a result of lack of trust issues on the woman's part, but why put up with it?

A: Three reasons: 1) They have no backbone. 2) They want a mommy, not a girlfriend. 3) They're so in love/lust with her, th...

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Q: if he asks me to send a picture for his phone's photo ID should it be slutty-ish or just normal cute? I like him.

A: What's wrong with cute? Since when did cute become a bad thing? Why isn't "cute" the default for a photo? Slutty should ...

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Q: What's a good conversation starter for me to say to a hipster geek?

A: "Which is better: The Walking Dead comic or the TV show?" "Did a hipster d-bag bomb go off in here? It's wall-to-wall V-...

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Q: My friend has a girlfriend. Friday night they had "problems." He came over. We cooked. We got drunk. We kissed. We confessed how attracted we are to each other, then he called himself an asshole and cried in my closet. Then we fell asleep together. Now he acts like it never happened. What is going on? Should I ask?

A: He feels guilty. That's why he's pretending like your little romantic evening never happened. Because he knows that if h...

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Q: I have a HUGE crush on this hipster/geek. I want to invite him to do something fun with me, but I feel like whatever I suggest wont be interesting enough to him. Do you have any good ideas? Also, I already looked up good concerts in the next month, and I can't make any of them.

A: Skip concerts. That's more of a second or third date thing. Concerts aren't really conversation-friendly. You can talk b...

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Q: My boyfriend's father thinks poorly of me based on the decisions my dad made when he was in high school (they knew each other). And he's quite mean to me. I would like to confront him on this as it is causing problem in my relationship and its hurting my feelings quite a bit. Any great ideas as to how I might do that?

A: Wow. Your guy's dad sounds awful. He takes out a high school grudge on you? That's the mark of a terrible, petty person....

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Q: Do guys still like the idea of fishnet stocking and a garter belt? And what kind of panties would turn him on more?

A: This might not be a popular opinion, but I think fishnets are due for a comeback. They shouldn't just be for truck-stop ...

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Q: I met a guy from a dating website. We went on two dates and one thing led to another and we hooked up. Now he blows up my Facebook, texts me all the time and tells me how he turns down "sluts" because he found me. I'm flattered, but I don't feel nearly the same way. How do I break it to him without crushing his soul?

A: He turns down sluts for you? That's the ultimate honor. How can you pass on this prize? He's literally fighting off slut...

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Q: Meeting at a Halloween party, he gives me his card and asks me to give him a call. Does he really want me to call?

A: Maybe. You have to assume he hands out cards to a lot of people for both personal and professional reasons. Handing you ...

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Q: I found out that my husband has been poking holes in our condoms and now i am pregnant. I told him that i never wanted kids when we started dating and he never had a problem with it. I'm devastated. Why would he do this to me? What should I do? (Abortion is not an option.) How should i confront him?

A: Wow. That is unbelievably wrong. And also grounds for divorce. A good divorce lawyer could sue him for all he's worth so...

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Q: He tickles, then hug.

A: You're talking about Elmo, right? He's the worst. "Tickle me!" "Play with me!" So annoying. Look at what happened with K...

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Q: My boyfriend cheated on me and got a girl pregnant. When I confronted him he turned the argument around to try and blame me. Should I dump him or try to work it out? Will he cheat again if I stay?

A: He will absolutely cheat on you again. The only absolutes in life are death, taxes, and that creeps who cheat on you, ge...

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Q: Ok multiple choice question! My med school crush told me to call him to hang out, but when i did he said he was busy studying for an exam. He is... a.) not interested b.) actually busy, try once more c.) interested but playing hard to get d.) none of the above, need more info

A: B, with a hint of A. As med students, I'm assuming you guys get crushed studying-wise fairly often. Chances are he actua...

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Q: I have a friend, and he invited me to his house for sex. I get there, and he proceeds to tell me that "he can't because he has a lady friend that he has been seeing for 3 weeks". This blew me away!!! He still calls me and makes little hints. What should I do??

A: Stop hooking up with him. Ignore his booty calls, booty texts, booty IMs, booty Facebook messages, booty Tweets. This gu...

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Q: What does it mean if a guy started holding one of my hands while I was going down on him?

A: It means he's a romantic. Ain't love grand? ...

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Q: Why do guys joke about infidelity?

A: Why do guys joke about the Holocaust? Or rape? Because they're insensitive and/or enjoy pushing the boundaries. As a com...

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Q: Why is a guy asking me out on another date when he is leaving the country for a year next week? Yes, he's really leaving, it's not a lie. I really like him and think we click. We've only been out once before. Help!

A: He probably likes you and wants to see you again before he leaves. Or, he wants a brief fling before he takes off for a ...

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Q: We've been dating for 3 years. Why won't he make a move and make out with me?

A: Are you sure you're actually dating? Sounds like you're just really good friends. Unless he's secretly gay, I can't imag...

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Q: What's the nicest way to let a guy know you're not interested? This *really nice* guy has a crush on me and I hate to be a bitch and just ignore him. Truth is I'm not interested in anyone right now, it's all on me, he's great. I just can't think of a way to tell him, as he hasn't "made a move" yet.

A: You know what to say. Tell him you're not interested in dating anyone right now. You need some solo time. "I'm flattered...

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Q: My boyfriend is a physics major, I'm a fashion major. One of his good friends (a girl who is "in love" with him) is a physics major too. I can't help but worry that over the years he'll become attracted to her since they have that similar interest.

A: Highly doubtful. If my eighth grade science teacher taught me anything, it's that opposites attract. The fact that your ...

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Q: You know when you're handing something to someone and you try really hard not to accidentally touch his/her hand because that's just freaky? Well, I try not to. Does it mean anything when a guy (a guy that I like who may or may not know I like him) doesn't seem to mind one bit if our hands touch?

A: Maybe. But you might be reading too much into his reaction. No offense, but this sounds like more of a personal quirk. S...

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Q: What name do you call a guy that sleeps with a lot of women?

A: Interesting question. "Man whore" or "himbo" are the go-tos. But these are just terms used to insult women reappropriate...

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Q: Red Dead Redemption or my boyfriend? Cause right now only one of them is looking more appealing. Can you guess which one? Hint: it doesn't breathe.

A: This is a tough one, considering that I'm currently in the middle of Red Dead Redemption and literally cannot think abou...

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Q: What does it mean when a man loves you because you remind him of Justin Bieber?

A: It means you have a short haircut. And possibly a singing voice pitched at a level that only dogs can hear. Oh, what a s...

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Q: Do girls like "The Shocker"?

A: Not if you don't ask first. Nobody likes a surprise Shocker. Though I guess that's sort of redundant. The name implies t...

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Q: Chic Geek, I've been wondering this for a while now: why are women with cats always painted as lonely and desperate? I seriously don't get this, can you please enlighten me?

A: The whole "lonely single woman with cats" thing has become sort of a cliche. It's also pretty sexist. Guys with cats don...

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Q: Is this for real?

A: Nope. It's a dream. Right now you are asleep on a train while Leonardo DiCaprio, Ellen Page, and Joseph Gordon-Levitt ru...

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Q: I'm a 30-something 5'11" former model who still fits into clothes I once modeled. I run my own business, have 2 M.A.s, a killer wit, and agree with my friends that I'm "the package." So why do I have such a hard time finding GOOD dates? It's not a lack of confidence. Is there something I can do to seem less intimidating?

A: Man, I wish I still fit into the clothes from my modeling days. Those sailor suits were adorable. Everyone said I was th...

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Q: I was drugged in Vegas and ended up having sex w/ someone I really like (long time friend). Problem is, I can't remember any of it. He can, and is really embarrassed that he took advantage of me. I'm afraid that we are going back to "friend only" status. I'm very embarrassed, too. How to salvage this nightmare?? HELP!!

A: Yikes. This one is a loaded gun. Okay. First off, you should know that what your so-called friend did is wrong. Some mig...

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Q: Do you like X-men comics? If so, how do you feel about Wolverine becoming a vampire?

A: Of course I like the X-Men. They were some of the first comics I read as a kid. I love all the classic stories ("Days of...

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Q: What do guys mean when they say "she isn't even that cute"? Doesn't that mean he finds her somewhat attractive?

A: "She isn't even that cute" is what a douchebag troll with a tiny weenus says after a girl fails to fall for his Ed Hardy...

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Q: What are your views on drunk calls? Are things said in a drunk call honest and can be taken seriously?

A: Oh, there's plenty of truth to drunk dials. In fact, that's all there is-- pure, unadulterated truth. Booze has a way of...

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Q: I was doodling in my notebook the other day, it turned out to literally be the best drawing I've ever done. I want to show it off on Facebook with all my comics, only I'm afraid this guy who always comments on all my art/videos will see it. It happens to be based on an old artsy pic of his, where he looks so kissable.

A: What are you afraid of? Seems like the perfect icebreaker. If he likes your art, that means he has some level of interes...

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Q: I really like a geeky guy that I meet every couple of months to do geeky stuff with. He's told me that he talks to me more than everyone else put together. I asked him out but he said he had "recently started seeing someone..we'll see how it pans out." Don't think he's had a girl before. So why that response?

A: Ouch! How do you know he's never had a girlfriend before? Has he told you, or are you just assuming that because he's a ...

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Q: Should I not make a big deal about my boyfriend looking at another woman in front of me? For example, we were at church and this woman in front of us stands up and my boyfriends eyes become glued to her butt. Should I let this bother me?

A: Yes, it should bother you. Every guy knows that you take a quick glance, and then immediately focus on your girlfriend. ...

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Q: Nick..I've caused an EPIC FAIL. Dating a guy 5 wks. He's a man's man, w/ an ego. We went out Sunday, and he said let's have dinner on Tues. I didn't hear from him by Tues at noon, so I called. And texted. And Emailed. Several times. No reply. I'm really NOT needy, but like him. What do I do to get him back?

A: Why do you want him back? He made plans, and then completely blew you off without even a call or text. Sending him a bun...

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Q: I'll admit I need work: I'm loud, overwhelming, and I talk too much about myself. See, my first sentence was all about me! There's a guy I met at the gym that I've been talking to a bit (a lot) lately though he's far less outspoken. How do I get him talking about himself when we head out for tea after working out?

A: Ask questions. When he talks, listen. Don't just wait to talk. When he's finished talking, ask more questions. This may ...

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Q: On Sunday, my boyfriend and I were heavy petting on the sofa while the football game was on. As I reached for the condom, he asked "How do you want it?" I replied with, "Reverse cowgirl so you can watch the game, silly!" No question here, just wanted some props for being such a good girlfriend.

A: Props! Now he should go down on you while you watch Glee. It's only fair. (Kim from The Frisky adds, "How about they com...

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Q: I am always complaining about how guys don't like me, and now when one finally does, I am not interested in him! Should just suck it up and date him anyway knowing that this kind of thing only happens to me once every 5 years or so? Or should I hold out for someone I'm attracted to and lose my right to whine about it?

A: You should absolutely not date him just to date someone. He deserves better than that. Think about how you would feel in...

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Q: Do you think it's okay to "block" guys on a dating website that you went out with and then mutually didn't click? I don't bear them ill will but I feel self-conscious editing my profile and being online when they know me "in real life".

A: That's definitely okay. Block away. This is one of those instances where online life should act like real life. If you m...

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Q: My boss from just broke up with me because he is stressed with work. What should I do?

A: Focus on your job and hope that things don't get weird. This is one of the many complications that comes with dating the...

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Q: I am seeking your awesome music matching skills Nick! I am getting married to an awesome guy, but we are having trouble finding the right kind of music to play for the recessional part of the ceremony (after the kiss). I suggested "Wouldn't It Be Nice" but my guy wasn't too sure about it. Help please!

A: "Wouldn't It Be Nice" is a great idea. Friends of mine used that as their recessional song. Another friend used "I'm Int...

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Q: Is going to a dominatrix ballet class cheating? It would just be about the discipline/structure/catharsis and learning more ballet, especially since I don't find women attractive. I'm planning on asking my bf if it's ok before I go, but I won't do it at all if it seems likely that he'll get mad or not trust me if I ask.

A: I'm going to file this one under "not cheating," particularly if you tell your boyfriend about it. In fact, he might wan...

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Q: Am I too thin? I train horses and work hard every day, so I get an automatic workout, but my boyfriend keeps trying to make me gain weight. I have a D chest, a tiny waist, strong arms, legs, and abs, and a curvy backside, so I'm happy with my body, and I'm NOT skin and bones. Should I gain some weight for him anyway?

A: Wow, this is the opposite of the questions we usually get. See readers, some guys do like curvy women. Don't gain weight...

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Q: I want to know the rules and regulations with regards to dating your ex-boyfriend's friend? Is anything kosher here or should this sort of romantic rendezvous be avoided (alongside songs like "Jessie's Girl")?

A: I love "Jessie's Girl"! But Jessie was still with his girl when smooth Rick Springfield decided that he wanted to "make...

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Q: My boyfriend just got back from Florida and his female friend wrote on his Facebook wall "I wish I could have gone with you!" He wrote back and said he was going back next semester and she should definitely come along....why is he doing this publicly?!

A: Because he's a super turbo douche-troll who has zero respect for you. Even if he's just being friendly, he shouldn't do ...

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Q: How can you meet good guys at a bar?

A: That's a tough one. You can certainly meet a guy at a bar. (All you have to do is stick around until last call and you'r...

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Q: Do most people find their first love in college? If so I'm screwed. I haven't found anyone. Not that I'm looking, but as a junior in college with no first love found yet, I'm beginning to feel lonely and frankly worried.

A: Don't worry. Most people don't find their first love in college. Some do, but for others it takes a little longer. Most ...

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Q: Which is worse for a married man to have ... an emotional affair or a physical affair?

A: Honestly, it depends on the person. Some people would say emotional is worse, since a  physical affair is ostensibl...

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Q: I'm a lesbian. So... how much of the advice on this site do you think applies to women who are trying to understand other women in the context of lesbian dating relationships?

A: Most of it! While we might not have a ton of insight into the lesbian dating experience, we do have plenty of stuff to s...

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Q: I've been talking to this guy for the last 6 weeks, and about a week ago he tells me he wants to be with me. I replied by saying "Let's see what happens." In the last few days he has not been calling at night, even though we text & talk throughout the day. What's up with that?

A: He's not calling because you kind of blew him off. "Let's see what happens" might be your way of saying you want to get ...

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Q: Can an uncircumcised man orgasm during sex with a condom?

A: Yes. Of course. Don't let him tell you otherwise. "I can't feel anything with a condom" is the oldest dirtbag trick in t...

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Q: Is it weird to have pet names in the form of Pokemon? I have an odd habit of doing this to almost every guy I want to get romantic with. First, it was Psyduck. Then it was Growlithe. Now I'm all over Mightyena. Would you get turned off by immaturity or be intrigued by slight creativity?

A: Uh, if the guy's really into Pokemon, he might be cool with it. (You aren't doing this in public, right?) Otherwise, he ...

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Q: What are the signs you're just a rebound?

A: The signs will be similar the ones given off by a guy who is just looking for sex, only with slightly more emotions invo...

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Q: How much of Lyfe Jennings' "Statistics" do you agree with?

A: First off, that song is tremendous. (Listen to it here, or go here to watch the video.) Second, Lyfe Jennings is for rea...

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Q: I'm very patient with my Scorpio man but he's so stubborn and mean. Should I leave or stay?

A: Oh, Scorpios. I don't put all that much stock in astrology, but Scorpios can definitely be mean. (I should know-- I'm re...

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Q: I met my boyfriend online. I want to do a background check on him for peace of mind for me & my family. How do I ask him if that's ok? Its understandable, right?

A: Yes, it's understandable. You work for the FBI and he's applying for a job, right? No? It's just your boyfriend? Then do...

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Q: I sent an email via Facebook to a guy I knew 20 years ago. I just recently found him on FB and all he could say was, "OMG! How are you?" Why so few words considering how long it's been?

A: Because it's been 20 years and he is a completely different person with a whole new life. He might have a wife and kids,...

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Q: I met this guy a month ago and said I was a sports fan (using the term liberally and trying to impress him). He messaged me talking about sports stuff that I didn't really care about before transitioning into regular conversation. Does he like me or is he just looking for someone to talk sports with?

A: He likes you. The sports stuff was just to break the ice. If he was just looking to talk sports, he has about a bajillio...

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Q: How do you know when a guy only wants you for sex? What are the signs?

A: Here's ten signs: 1. He doesn't want to cuddle, spoon, snuggle or do anything that doesn't involve putting his penis in ...

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Q: This sounds like an easy solution but I'm struggling- I like sex, and when I meet an attractive guy it usually is only 2 dates before I go for it. I always enjoy it right then and for a few days after but then I have Put-Outers-Remorse. Not sure why. Do I stop?

A: "Put-Outers-Remorse." That's funny. And true. If you feel bad about it, that's a sign you should slow things down. You l...

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Q: Is it normal for my husband to only be friends with women and spend hours on the phone with them?

A: Hours on the phone? Is your husband a 14-year-old girl? I start to get antsy if I'm on the phone for more than ten minut...

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Q: My boyfriend tells me he refuses to get married until he's 35. This is 9 years away and i would be 38. Is it worth staying hoping that he may reconsider his timeframe or should I cut and run if that does not work for my time frame?

A: I'd give it some more time. "I'm not getting married until I'm 35" is what every twenty-something guy says at some point...

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Q: My affair of one year was discovered by my hubby of 20 years. My lover and I were going to get divorces and move in together. Now that we are caught, he won't do it. I never thought of leaving before, and with my "out" gone, I've nowhere to go. Why do I still want to leave?

A: Because you're unhappy. You were unsatisfied in your marriage, and you cheated. For a year. Not a one-night stand that y...

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Q: From a heterosexual female: if I get turned on by myself, am I vain?

A: Uh...no? I suppose that doesn't necessarily make you vain. Though you might want to question the whole heterosexual thin...

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Q: I just turned 36 and am not married. When I tell people I want kids they ask "are you going to adopt or do artificial insemination?." Are they serious? I'm not too old for a guy to want to marry me and father my children, am I?

A: You're not too old to have kids. Don't forget that woman in India who gave birth to triplets at the age of 66. While the...

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Q: What does it mean when a guy will only come to your apartment and won't take you out?

A: It means you're his booty call. Or booty text. Possibly his booty IM or booty Skype if he doesn't feel like using his mi...

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Q: My boyfriend has to travel a lot for his job. One of his newly added friends on Facebook is a girl from a city he stayed in last week. Should I be worried?

A: Is it a coworker? If so, then you shouldn't worry. He's traveling, making professional contacts. Facebook can be a netwo...

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Q: I am a very tall girl with brown hair, I'm also very curvy. Here's my problem: Not one guy will go out with me. They're always staring at my size 40D boobs and my hazel eyes, They act sweet around me, they seem interested in me, but the wont go out with me. I've never had a boyfriend, and I don't understand why.

A: Wow. Frankly, I'm kinda stumped. I have never heard of a tall, curvy gal with gorgeous eyes having trouble finding a guy...

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Q: After 4 months of a great relationship, why would a guy just stop calling? Seriously, everything "appeared" to be going great...but now he stopped calling, won't return my calls or texts. What's going on?

A: Sadly, I think you know what's going on. He's done with the relationship and too chicken to tell you. It's particularly ...

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Q: Ok, this may sound stupid but here goes...I want to find a wealthy woman who can pay me for my time. Yes, you probably know where this is going. I cannot find a job and I am running out of ideas.

A: Man, I hear ya. That's the dream, right? Who doesn't want to be a kept man for some wealthy socialite? Lounging by the p...

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Q: I recently got a pixie cut that I love. I do have feminine features (big lips/eyes) and there's no way you could mistake me for a boy but I'm still worried guys will prefer women with long hair or wonder if I'm gay. Will the price of super cute hair be a bit of a drought in the dude department?

A: Go for it. That hairstyle is super trendy right now. All the stars are sporting it. Rihanna, Katie Holmes, Justin Bieber...

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Q: I love Mad Men and as a girl who has always been unusually curvy, I love Joan and her style. Recently I've been Joan-ifying my wardrobe. But just out of interest, are only women loving the early 60's look on women, or do men like it too? (Also, do you only like it FOR women, or are you all dying to sport fedoras?)

A: Men definitely like the retro '60s Mad Men look. It's a welcome return to the time before Spanx and emaciated hipster Am...

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Q: If your geeky guy-crush-friend says he's "flattered and touched" (I quote) to hear you have a crush on him, but he's currently not looking for any relationship, is there any hope at all or am I equivalent to guy-buddy/sister material?

A: Ouch. I'm afraid you're stuck in the friend zone. On the plus side, he told you in the nicest way possible. I don't thin...

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Q: Do guys really care if girls have stretch marks? Like BAD ones that are purple and gross and old ones that make your legs look like cellulite city.

A: No. Stretch marks are a part of life, like acne or pesky nose hairs that make you sneeze when you pull them out with a t...

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Q: No questions about Twilight Saga: Eclipse, Nick? Or have you managed to avoid it?

A: Oh, I saw it. Took the girlfriend a while back. She knows it's bad, but still enjoyed the books. (Well, except for Break...

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Q: I do Ironman triathlons, own my house, have a great career but am single at 33. I realize there could be other reasons I am single but could it be that men intimidated by my success and athleticism?

A: No guy worth meeting will feel intimidated by you. Why would a guy not want to be with someone who is fit, successful, a...

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Q: i asked out this guy at work and he said he couldn't hang out because it was his sister's birthday. Doesn't that sound like a lie?

A: Not necessarily. It could actually be his sister's birthday. That's not entirely outside of the realm of possibility. St...

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Q: How do you keep men whipped?

A: Be really good in bed. Also, make him nice pies. Or cakes, depending on his preference. ...

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Q: Today at work, I overheard my crush tell his friend he thinks it's strange that I always laugh at everything he says even when it's not intended to be funny. How do I fix this?

A: Stop laughing at everything he says. In fact, only laugh when he cracks a really funny joke. Unfortunately, now he think...

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Q: My friend is married to a guy that slept with someone a few days prior to them getting married. What advice should I give her? They are married now, but she found out after they got married.

A: You shouldn't do anything except support her in whatever she decides to do next. This is not an easy situation. How long...

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Q: I'm pregnant and I know the baby is not my boyfriend's. How do I tell my boyfriend? I don't want to hurt him, but I want to raise the baby with him. Should I even tell him it's not his?

A: Of course you should tell him it's not his. Why is not telling him even an option? Did I just fall into "opposite dimens...

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Q: My crush is really into rap music, but I'm definitely more into the indie rock/alternative scene. I wanna make him a mixed tape (he always makes fun of my music). Do you have any suggestions for something we could both listen to?

A: Kid Cudi. His recent album, Man on the Moon, features indie acts like MGMT and Ratatat and has a really eclectic sound. ...

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Q: I do everything for my boyfriend. I don't know what i am doing wrong! He always leaves me for his friends and lies a lot. He sometimes talks to other girls and flirts. I am beautiful. Help! What do I do to get his attention?

A: Dump him. That'll get his attention. Seriously, stop being his doormat. He knows he can treat you like garbage and you'l...

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Q: I don't know why, but all my life I've sucked my thumb. Not all the time just when I have TROUBLE sleeping. It's not something I'm partial to showing off, but I'm about to move in with my BF and he obviously doesn't know, waking up in the middle of the night to that is quite weird. Should i tell him? What will he think?

A: You should definitely tell him, and also let him know that you need help stopping. If he's about to move in with you, I ...

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Q: why do you look like such a douch in your picture?

A: But... a handsome douche, right? RIGHT? I don't know why I look like such a douche. I blame my face....

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Q: I absolutely HATE this necklace that my boyfriend always wears but he thinks it makes him look good. How do I make him STOP wearing it for good without bruising his ego?

A: I'll probably take flak for this, but I don't think guys should ever wear necklaces. (This is coming from someone who wo...

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Q: I broke up with a guy over a text. We only went on 2 dates so I didn't figure it was a big deal. All he said back was "k". Does this mean he really didn't care, or he's pissed at me?

A: Probably a little of both. Two dates warrants an email break up at the very least. Honestly, I'd rather someone just blo...

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Q: I'm planning my wedding, but my dad has been out of the picture my whole life. My first dance will be with my brother, and I was wondering if you had any suggestions for songs? Everything out there is about romantic love!

A: Awww! This broke my heart. Seriously, this is so sweet. There will not be a dry eye in the house at your wedding. As for...

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Q: Are guys afraid to date widows?

A: Immature guys who are afraid of emotions, sure. Everyone else? Nah. Would someone be cautious when starting a relationsh...

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Q: If a man has been cheated on in all of his previous relationships, will he ever learn to trust his (faithful) fiance fully or will he always have unwarranted suspicions?

A: Every previous girlfriend cheated on him? Yikes. Remind me to never get on the same plane as this guy, cause that is som...

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Q: My boyfriend adores Sheryl Crow to the point where he has kept all her pictures. He is 30 years old and it makes me doubt our relationship because I don't keep stuff like that around. Should I think I think it's nothing? Or am I just jealous?

A: So I assume he's dragging you to Lilith Fair this summer? Hey, I'm not judging. I went to the original back in the '90s....

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Q: I am dating my coworker. We teach inner city kids together and are keeping it very under wraps so it doesn't cause drama with the kids,faculty, etc. Problem is: his way of doing this is to flirt with EVERY other female teacher so no one suspects.

A: Dump him. He's using the need to keep the relationship on the DL as an excuse to womanize females. You're doing the righ...

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Q: I work at a summer camp. During one of the camp cheers, I accidentally slapped my male coworkers ass while waving my hands around. He now makes lewd comments around me, and I feel really uncomfortable. How do I address this?

A: Report him to your supervisor. He's made it a sexual harassment issue at this point. It doesn't matter that it's summer ...

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Q: Need help on dating a stripper

A: Listen to the T-Pain song "I'm in Love with a Stripper." The soulful, Auto-Tuned lyrics will tell you all you need to kn...

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Q: My hubby wants to have fun with loads of women as one night stands. He says that he is being honest and I should be understanding about it. We have been married for 14 years,its understandable he wants change. Please tell me that its alright to be heart broken.

A: Oh, well, at least he's being honest. Are you serious? Unless you want an open marriage, this is grounds for divorce. Of...

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Q: Guys, choose ONLY one to bring home: girl with good personality, good sense of humor, sexy body, beautiful face or amazing bedroom skills?

A: By "amazing bedroom skills," I assume you mean she always makes the bed neatly, doesn't leave crumbs under the covers, ...

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Q: I am Jewish and my fiancee wants me to become Mormon. I refused; however, he wants to have the wedding at a Mormon temple leaving non-Jews (i.e. my friends and family) out. What should I do?

A: Why not have an interfaith wedding? It's very common. I asked my friend Christine, who had a Jewish/Catholic ceremony, f...

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Q: I like one of my ex-boyfriend's friends. (Me and my ex have a lot of the same friends.) I've never hung out alone with this friend, just in group settings. What should I do?

A: Ah, the ol' friend switcheroo. It can be tricky, because it means potentially spending time with your ex. Even if you're...

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Q: A doctor gave me his cell and said to call over the weekend if I wanted. Is it inappropriate to ask the guy out or was he just being polite by giving me his cell?

A: Wow, that's a really nice doctor. Clearly he's concerned about your health. Don't call him unless it's an emergency. You...

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Q: If my husband wants to go to his class reunion without me am I asking for trouble? He keeps asking people about the marital status of the girl who owns the bar where it is being held, and says she was just the sweetest thing in high school. Am I just being too paranoid?

A: Yeah, that's not cool. Why doesn't he want you to go? The whole point of a class reunion is to show your former classmat...

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Q: A married ex told me he took a job six hours away. He lives there four days out of the week. Only married 18 months after being laid of for over a year. Does this sound weird to you? I lied and said I'm getting married in a year. He said, "Congrats. Marriage is Great! Married life is great." What does he mean?

A: He means he loves his wife and is happily married. The only part of this that sounds weird is that you lied to him about...

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Q: Why is it that single dads get dates quicker than single moms? I'm really baffled by this. And please don't say because the kids don't live with the dads.

A: Unfortunately, the answer is pretty simple: to women, a man with kids says "stability." For many single guys, however, a...

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Q: During a hot make-out session, my boyfriend (who isn't very experienced) stuck his finger down the back of my pants and up my anus instead of my vagina. I got kinda grossed out and stopped him. Was this an accident? Or is he trying to tell me he wants anal?

A: Ouch. Poor guy. (And poor you.) This instance should probably be filed in the "rookie mistake" category. He got excited ...

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Q: Is it annoying to ask my geek friend to repair my computer multiple times?

A: It's not annoying if he is cool with it, but I certainly hope you're buying him dinner or doing something else nice for ...

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Q: Is it that hard for guys to give a sincere apology?

A: What?!  Guys can't apologize?? How dare you ask such a thing?? Why, the nerve of some people-- I'm sorry. Didn't me...

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Q: I've been out with this guy about 10 times and he has not offered to pay for our dates once! It's always just a split down the middle.. I'm not picky about guys paying, I mean he doesn't have a job right now.. but come on.. not paying ONCE! What do i do?.

A: Has he offered to make dinner for you? Suggested cheap dates like nature hikes, free museum nights, etc.? Ten times with...

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Q: How do I get a geeky boyfriend? I'm a biology major and future scientist, and I'm tired of dating normal guys that frankly are dumber than me. I'm not tech savvy nor do I buy comic books, I don't know where to meet nerdy guys. Plus what if they're too shy to ask me out?

A: Great question. Many readers have asked where they can meet a nice, geeky guy. Therefore, I present the secret hideouts ...

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Q: I found text msgs between my husband and his ex. He told her about me, but he also told her he loved her. When confronted he said that he hurt her badly and needed her forgiveness to move on, and she wouldn't talk to him if she knew we were married, but that he loves me and has never cheated. Should I believe him?

A: Well, I don't think he handled this well, but it all sounds pretty legit. He should have told you he was communicating w...

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Q: My boyfriend complains about my weight all the time. What should I do?

A: Dump him. Change the locks. Leave his stuff out on the lawn. Even if he's concerned about your health, he's being a jerk...

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Q: Why do men always neglect to use a GPS or Mapquest?

A: Well, if every stand-up comedian I've ever seen is to be believed, men hate asking for directions. And in our modern age...

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Q: My husband made a Tagged.com profile and there's just a bunch of girls on his friends list. Should I be worried?

A: I'm worried that I've never heard of Tagged.com. I thought everyone was doing Foursquare now. Hold on, let me look at it...

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Q: We were at the mall and my boyfriend went to order food from Arby's and didn't even offer me anything. Then he just sat there and ate it in front of me.

A: Dump him. First he's making you watch him scarf down a Big Beef and Cheddar, then he's forgetting your birthday and "lik...

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Q: I've been divorced for over 5 years and we are still friends without benefits. It seems I just can't find a woman.

A: Stop being friends with your ex-wife. You will be amazed how the world opens up to you once you ditch your obvious bagga...

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Q: One thing that bothers me about my boyfriend is he has had 30 partners before me and he just turned 20. I'm a virgin. He told me he is done living like that and I'm IT for him. I just cant fully believe that. He has held out over a month for me, It's summer, and I don't know what to do when he goes back to the #1 party school in August.

A: 30 partners?? And he's only 20? How can the guy stand upright? Does he walk into a room, trip and fall into the girl, an...

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Q: Do you have to be dumb to get a guy?

A: To get a dumb guy, yes. Dumb guys hate smart girls. When they meet a brainy lady, they get confused and punch the neares...

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Q: Why would my boyfriend's soon-to-be ex-wife (they have been separated for ten years and living in different states) take an assumed name and befriend me on FaceBook? I have had absolutely no interaction with her (ever) and I am really puzzled by her behavior. Is she trying to cyber stalk me? What gives?

A: She's absolutely cyberstalking you. This is like something out of a movie! How did you figure out that Jane Doe (or what...

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Q: My best friend is OBSESSED with her boyfriend. They are sooo clingy, and frankly, it creeps me (and everyone else) out. I've tried telling her to tone it down before, which she does for about a week. Is there any way to tell her, nicely, to quit acting in a way that makes me want to vomit?

A: This one is sort of a lose/lose situation. If you say something to her, she'll get defensive and just think you're jealo...

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Q: Recently my boyfriend asked me not to shave (down there) and the thought of not shaving completely grosses me out. I wanted to do it at least once for him just to make him happy but it makes me feel repulsive. I hate the way it looks, feels, and just knowing that its there. What should I do?!

A: Your boyfriend is living proof that some guys like it wild and woolly down there. We get this question a lot, and the an...

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Q: Do guys not like curly hair?

A: Curly hair is awesome. You can run your hands through it. It says, "I'm a wild, uninhibited person who doesn't play by s...

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Q: I might sound like a psychotic, jealous gf but I don't like it when my bf has tickle wars with other girls he knows. It's not so much the tickling as WHERE he tickles. The mid to high thigh areas are a no-no for me but I know that he and I are from different sides of the spectrum with physical openness. What do I do?

A: You aren't psycho-- he's a douche. He shouldn't be having tickle fights with anyone but his girlfriend. (I can't believe...

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Q: I see that you've done the top 5 romantic Christmas songs, the best sex songs, the top 10 break up songs. So can you create a list of the best seductive dance songs?

A: Great suggestion! Check out previous installments in the "GuySpeak Mega Awesome Mix" series below and leave your picks f...

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Q: Nick, this isn't a question but a statement for you. Thank you for the good advice you gave me about my ex-boyfriend. You are right, he was a jerk for asking me to get a breast augmentation and pay for it. I told him no, and he said "no augmentation then no marriage." Oh well his loss...thanks again!!

A: You're welcome! Glad to help. (Read her question here.) I also have to give credit to our readers for their great commen...

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Q: I really this guy, but I recently found out he doesn't like Asian girls. What should i do?

A: Forget him. It's his loss. Who rules out an entire ethnicity? Oh, right, racists. He's racist, or, at the very least, ov...

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Q: Is there ever really such a thing as bad timing for a relationship? Even if a guy is really into a girl?

A: Oh, absolutely. He could fall madly in love with you, and you could be still getting over someone. You could meet him, f...

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Q: I've been seeing a nice guy for a month. Unlike the selfish men that I usually date, he's romantic and giving. Recently he's asked me to go on a trip overseas and he wants to pay for everything. I'd love to go but told him it makes me uncomfortable and I'd like to pay for my share. He got mad at me. What should I do?

A: Well, I was going to say go for it and let him pay for you (how often do you get swept away overseas?) until you mention...

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Q: Is it weird to be insecure/jealous about my boyfriend's beautiful sister? Does it change anything about how he views me? I'm worried because I look completely opposite. Thanks!

A: You shouldn't worry. There's a reason why you are the opposite of his sister: he doesn't want to date his sister. Becaus...

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Q: I have acne and slight scarring from chicken pox. The guy I'm seeing didn't seem hesitant to kiss me when I didn't wear make-up for the first time on one of our dates. Is acne not as big a deal to guys? Should I go back to wearing less make-up since I don't normally wear it?

A: Man, I remember the first time I got chicken pox. It was my birthday, and my family took me to my favorite Japanese hiba...

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Q: I am 45 and my boyfriend is 53. He's asked me to not only get a breast augmentation, but wants me to pay for it. I told him I wasn't comfortable with that and he reminded me that his last three exes got an augmentation. What do i say or do?

A: First, you should introduce his face to the palm of your hand. Then you should plant your foot in his ass and send him i...

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Q: Does a guy's perception of a girl change when he finds out she's a mom? I know all guys are different, but in general does she become more attractive, less attractive or does it matter? When should she tell him about her bundle of joy?

A: You should tell him right away. Preferably before the first date. That's not something you want to wait to reveal when h...

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Q: I put some Bengay on before my boyfriend came over. We started kissing, and he told me I smelled really amazing that day. What?!

A: Grandma fetish, perhaps? Perhaps he's still on a high from Betty White's hilarious SNL episode. Next time you're making ...

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Q: My boyfriend is mad that I don't text him throughout the day to let him know if I'm busy or free. My days are a bit chaotic and very stop-and-go, why can't he just assume that I'm busy when I don't answer him right away? I feel like I'm reporting to some higher authority with every text and it's quite irritating.

A: I can relate. I don't love texting. I accept that it's part of the way we communicate now, but if I have to punch button...

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Q: What do guys think about receiving flowers?

A: Wow. No one's ever sent me flowers. I'm not sure how I would react to that. I would probably think that somebody had die...

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Q: Do you think Kristen Stewart is hot?

A: Eh...not really. She was kind of hot in The Runaways, I guess. She was also pretty good in that movie, and did a little ...

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Q: Hey, Nick, do you guys get grossed by scars? I had a near-fatal car accident 1.5 year ago, and that left me with a huge scar across my back (from spinal surgeries). Next week I'm going on a second date with this sweet man. Is it too soon to tell him about the scar?

A: I would wait a few more dates. Swapping scar stories is more of a fourth or fifth date thing. Freaking him out really is...

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Q: What are the top 10 break up (moving on) songs in your opinion?

A: This is a great follow-up to last week's question about the "sexiest sex songs." Here are ten (okay, 12) songs to get yo...

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Q: If in a committed relationship, do men consider it cheating if they get say "a happy ending" from a massage parlor?

A: While I'm sure some guys wouldn't consider it cheating, their girlfriends or wives will definitely feel otherwise. Cheat...

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Q: Hi, so I'm bisexual, and I have a fbuddy who's a girl. But, I met this guy, he's boyfriend material, he's hot, and he promises he has a big junk. I am in a dilemma because I want to keep my relationship with my fbuddy, but I'm thinking of actually settling down. Should I take the plunge?

A: Take the plunge! He promises to have a big junk. What more do you need? And if there's one thing that guys never lie abo...

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Q: Best sex songs?

A: Best songs about sex, or the sexiest songs of all time? Let's do a list for each. Best Songs About Sex"In the Kitchen," ...

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Q: My boyfriend is planning on moving into a house with two of his mates and a Playboy Bunny wannabe. I really don't want him to. What shall i do?

A: Wow, that sounds like the premise of a terrible movie. I suggest you sell your story to Hollywood right now, dump your b...

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Q: Should married couples take separate vacations?

A: Uh...No? This seems like a very bad idea. Are you taking a "stay-cation," with one of you camped out in the living room ...

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Q: There are always tons of guys hitting on me. I'm also getting my PhD. For some reason, the guy I want to be with, who isn't in college and spends most of his time smoking pot, wants to hide his relationship with me. WHY?

A: I have a question for you: Why do you want to be with a guy who hides the fact that you're dating? You're a smart PHD st...

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Q: Hey Nick! Can you help? You seem NICE. ..so is the guy I'm seeing (shy, technology dude) and we've been dating 6 wks (talk daily, meet up 2x/wk). We're both young 40s. He doesn't want to have sex yet though! Otherwise VERY affectionate. I sleep over-we cuddle. I *made* him touch my boob and he looked awkward. WHATS UP?

A: Uh, I don't want to play the easy "he's probably gay" card here, but, uh, you might have a new gay bestie. Six weeks and...

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Q: What can I do to get my man back? He left me for someone younger. I am 38 and he was 20. He said he wanted more "experience in life" but would always love me. I was his first. Do I have a chance?

A: No. You should move on. I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but he ain't coming back. He said he needs more "experience...

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Q: Who would you rather marry, Alicia Keys or Beyonce? And why?

A: Let's play "boff" or "marry"! This one is easy. I would boff Beyonce because, come on. Who wouldn't, male or female? (So...

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Q: How do I get my girlfriend to like anal sex?

A: Just jam it in there and see what happens. Of course I'm kidding! Don't do that. Seriously. You've gotta get all Phil Co...

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Q: I'm sick of being 'cute'. What would it take to be viewed as hot?

A: Why are you sick of being cute? Being cute is awesome! Hotness comes and goes, but cute lasts forever. You'll still be c...

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Q: How do I get a guy to respond to my messages on dating sites?

A: Examine the messages you're writing. Are you writing something too casual ("Hey, you seem cool. Write me back sometime")...

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Q: I just watched He's Just Not That Into You and I have to know...what's a guys perspective on all that stuff?? It seems like a girl's version of a guys point of view.

A: Well, having sat through that movie with my girlfriend, I have to first say that while Ginnifer Goodwin is adorable, her...

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Q: When the groom gets a lapdance at his bachelor party, what really goes on?

A: This is what goes through most grooms' minds during a lapdance. Get ready to have your mind blown! -- Oh, they got a str...

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Q: I'm a perfect hourglass. 32DD boobs, 23 inch waist, 33 inch hips. I love my body, but is it as good for others as it is for me?

A: Probably not. While I'm sure plenty of men (and maybe women) appreciate your body, no one will ever love it as much as y...

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Q: I'd been casually dating this guy for about 2 months when he disappeared citing "a series of unfortunate events" (Lemony Snicket anyone?). 4 months later he resurfaced, excuses in hand. I want to be his friend but find myself pissed off when we're together--it so wrong to want him to just fess up & be honest about it?

A: Why are you still friends with him? This dude pulls a Keyser Soze, disappearing into thin air, and then comes back with ...

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Q: When a guy says to his buddy he needs "unfiltered female talk," it's to womanize females and dis them, isn't it?

A: Totally. Every time I hang out with my guy friends, we womanize females something fierce. If there's a female within our...

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Q: I bar hop with 3 guys. Once the drinks starts flowing all they talk about are boobs. Meanwhile, I'm there with a good amount of cleavage showing, trying to pull up my neckline. (I'm large in that area.) How do I jokingly join in the convo when I'm not too comfortable with it? Be more of one of the guys?

A: Call them out for their sexist banter. Give them crap (in a playful manner) for being sexist pigs. Tell them how much wo...

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Q: Nick, you're pretty Bombtastic so naturally, I come to you for advice. I just started dating this awesome guy (over a month, still very new) and his birthday is coming up in May - he's mentioned it playfully. I love to bake, so I'm going to bake him something, but should I also buy him a gift or is this too much?

A: Thanks! I've never been called "bombtastic" before. That's awesome. Also awesome is baking something for your new guy's ...

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Q: Would a guy be turned off if a woman watched/read porn or hentai (pornographic Japanese comics), or is that something she should keep to herself?

A: No guy would ever be turned off by a woman who watched porn. If anything, he would want to watch it with you. Watching p...

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Q: HELP! A friend that I'm crushing on just told me (after I confessed) that he's always seen me as family, because I remind him so much of a female relative. He's been hooking up with an ex friend but not dating her, so I'm wondering - do I still even have hope? Can I get out of the technical "friend zone" one day? How?

A: Ouch. Unless he has some sort of creepy Flowers in the Attic-type crush on the female relative you remind him of, it's s...

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Q: I lost my virginity just over a year ago to a guy I met on the internet (I know, I know..) Afterwards I got scared and wouldn't have sex with him again, just oral. He got mad and said it's too late to go back. Am I wrong in thinking he's being a jerk?.

A: Wow, what a line. He's a creep-- get rid of him. Sleazy dude, meet the curb. You don't have to do anything that makes yo...

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Q: I caught my boyfriend calling phone sex lines but we have an amazing sex life and even have phone sex whenever he wants. I confronted him about it and he said he doesn't know why he does it. Is this a gateway to cheating and other bad things? Should i be worried about our future? We're supposed to get married soon.

A: Not knowing why he does it is a problem. That means it's an addiction, or at the very least a compulsion. Phone sex is l...

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Q: I snoop on my boyfriend and it needs to stop. I realize that what I'm doing is horrible. I'm betraying his trust and its no way to treat the man that I love. I also understand that If I go looking for trouble, I'll find it. The problem is that I can't quit. What can I do to stop this destructive, crazy girl behavior?

A: Yep, you are looking for trouble. Specifically, he's going to dump you for being paranoid and untrustworthy. Why do you ...

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Q: From one geek to another- I just got accepted into an amazing, out-of-state college. Problem is, I really love my bf of 1.5 yrs. and I'm afraid to leave him behind. What do I do?

A: Go to college. No question whatsoever. Do not turn down an amazing, life-changing experience for a relationship. It is m...

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Q: So, I hate, and I mean despise my boyfriend's best friend. We had this huge argument, and I threatened to call the cops so he'd get arrested for the drugs in his house as payback. Which is a little rough, but I'm big on revenge. Anyways, now my boyfriend of over a year wants to end it. He's seriously picking him over me?

A: Well, it sounds like your boyfriend is the sort of guy who puts his "best male friends" before his "ladies of the evenin...

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Q: I recently read in an article on a women's magazine website that there is no such thing as closure - that it is just clinging on to some false hope. Should I move on even though my ex-boyfriend seemed to pull away with no real reason?

A: First of all, I disagree with the claim that there is no such thing as closure. What about looking up an old boyfriend y...

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Q: Found out my bf's got a profile on match.com. He said he joined last year to just check things out for the 3 months free period but turns out match charged his card automatically for the year and that's why he's still got the profile. We've been dating for 2yrs. What's your thought?

A: This sounds a little fishy to me. On the one hand, guys are lazy, so I could see how maybe he signed up for a free trial...

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Q: I cheated on my BF who i really care about, it was a one time thing, I fessed up, and now he refuses to talk or even look at me, anything i can do to fix it. I honestly feel terrible.

A: I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but there is really nothing you can do now. You messed up, and now he holds all the...

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Q: Why do guys like to cuddle after sex?

A: Uh, is this a problem? Usually we get the opposite question. But, hey, that's cool. Plenty of women just want to hook up...

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Q: I'm scared my boyfriend will find someone else once he starts community college. Should i tell him my fear or will that make him think I'm not confident in myself?

A: You should absolutely share your fears and concerns with him. Even if he's going to school in the area, he's going to be...

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Q: Do guys like to hear poetry a woman has written for them or about them, or is that a little too creepy?

A: It depends on two things. One: are you any good? Are you Maya Angelou...or are you Jewel? It's like if a guy writes a te...

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Q: Hot dude without a job. Keep 'em or dump 'em?

A: Keep 'em. Lots of people are out of work now; nothing to be ashamed about. If you like him and have fun together, don't ...

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Q: I live with my ex and he has a girlfriend, but he messes around with me. I got tired so i told him never to do anything again. He usually comes at night to kiss my forehead or to wrestle with me. I just dont get him if he loves somebody else why does he bother me and what can i do to stop it?

A: Have you heard about this site called Craigslist? It's this amazing place where you can get anything. Like, say, a cheap...

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Q: Would most guys have sex with a girl who has their period?

A: Yeah. What? You've done it. Put a towel down. If you're up for sex during your period, that's not going to stop us. Thin...

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Q: My guy has a temper. He's only yelled at me twice in the 1+ yrs we've been together, but he gets angry (and violent) over the smallest things. I hate it! I get scared sometimes and have to leave the room. Is this something I can help change? How?? I know he loves me and wouldn't hurt me but I worry about it sometimes.

A: There are two things you can do to help him. One: tell him to get anger management counseling. He needs to talk to someo...

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Q: Why do so many men in their late thirties and forties refuse to give any woman out of their twenties a chance?

A: Simple: because women in their twenties will date them. If the twenty-something women of world would band together and c...

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Q: Why does almost every guy go for the skanks???

A: Here's a little secret about skanks: they're easy. And many guys are lazy. But there are plenty of guys out there who do...

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Q: My "ex" boyfriend will blow me off and act like he doesn't care for days on end. And I'm not the type to text or call him if he doesn't call me, but randomly he'll tell me he loves me, misses me, etc. When I reply and ask where it came from I never get an answer...WHAT IS GOING ON!?!?!?

A: What's going on? Your ex is playing head games and you are falling right into his trap. He's like a James Bond villain, ...

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Q: What is the definition of an "open" marriage?

A: This is an interesting (and timely) question. I was wondering the same thing when I watched Oscar winner Mo'Nique discus...

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Q: I like to go deep when giving a blowjob but my man always grabs my hair and likes when I stay there ( making it hard to breathe). I've tried telling him to let me breathe, lol. But he gets to excited. How do i get him to relax and enjoy it at the same time?

A: You should tell him that you can't breathe, and that you might choke or puke (two things he doesn't want to happen while...

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Q: What is a guy's opinion to when girls curse frequently? Is it a turn off?

A: I think it's kind of hot, actually, and funny. I mean, cursing someone out isn't funny (unless they're an a-hole* who de...

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Q: What is a guy's view on dirty texts, and what is appropriate and what is not? Thanks!

A: My opinion on "sexting" (I hate that phrase with a fiery passion) is that less is more. An occasional filthy text about ...

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Q: Why is it guys you used to date want you back when your about to get married???

A: Isn't that always the case? One of life's absolutes-- along with death, taxes, and Kelsey Grammar making yet another TV ...

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Q: What are your suggestions for learning to be alone? Or at least, how to make it more bearable. Please forgo the "Plan a night with your girlfriends and paint each others' toenails!" route of advice. I'm not looking for distraction, I'm looking for peace of mind.

A: Have you tried inviting some girlfriends over for a night of Jennifer Aniston flicks and toenail painting? I kid, I kid....

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Q: How do I get my boyfriend to buy me tampons?

A: Tell him to man up. Or "HTFU," as my Wise Ass pal Cary would say. Occasionally buying tampons is part of being a good bo...

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Q: Can a really romantic movie persuade or even change a guy's mind about you when he sees it? Does it even affect guys?

A: You know, I would like to think that movies have the power to affect people in that way. But I don't think romantic movi...

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Q: is it unattractive to be sweaty at the gym?

A: Uh, no. That's why you go to the gym. To work up a nasty sweat and feel awesome afterwards. Wait, are you one of those p...

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Q: What's horchata?

A: It's a beverage, popular in Spain and Mexico, usually made with rice, milk, cinnamon, and sometimes vanilla. Usually ser...

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Q: Double dates. What are your thoughts?

A: Tons of fun once you're in a relationship. Early on, it can be tricky. I would say double dates shouldn't start until a ...

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Q: I am an attractive, educated, and intelligent female who after 15+ years of marriage is now divorced. I am shocked to learn that my ex has now decided to pursue a gay lifestyle. Although I have nothing to do with his decision. I have to wonder what guys think about ME when they learn my ex is now gay ?

A: You're right: his decision has nothing to do with you. And the fact that you're worried about what guys will think of yo...

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Q: What are your thoughts on long distance relationships? Are they worth the work it would take?

A: Anything or anyone you care about is worth the work. Is it easy? Rarely, if ever. I've known plenty of people in long-di...

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Q: If a guy tells you he wants a "committed, yet casual and exclusive relationship" what does that mean?

A: I think he's feeding you a line of what my grandpa used to call "malarkey," or what is commonly referred to as "B.S." Ho...

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Q: When (and how) in a relationship do you reveal that you were once obese, but have lost weight due to weight loss surgery? And would it be a turnoff to you?

A: You should treat it as you would any major surgery. Maybe don't bring it up on the first date, but a few weeks into the ...

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Q: Is it normal for guys to have a white residue on "themselves" before they shower or when they wake up? And I'm not referring to any white residue from ejaculation. I mean otherwise.

A: ...What? Is he a ghost? There is so much going on here. Okay, first...what do you mean by "themselves"? Why is that in q...

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Q: How can I ask a guy that I'm hooking up with for the night if I can spend the night?

A: Well, first of all, stop hooking up with guys who make you leave right after you've done the deed. Who are these d-bags ...

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Q: I'm scared if I tell him I want a relationship, I'll lose him as a friend. We have been "friends with benefits" for a year now, and I thought that was enough but it's not.

A: Well, you're already in danger of losing him as a friend now that you've crossed over into the "with benefits" realm. Se...

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Q: I just started dating a guy I met online. Every time an attractive girl comes around, my date stares at the girl until there's eye contact. I'm actually surprised he hasn't broken his neck yet! I figure it's a bad sign if he's not trying to hide it out of respect for me. Am I right?

A: What? He's staring down random girls until they look back at him? Dump him. That's the worst thing I've ever heard. Okay...

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Q: I can't stop cyber-stalking my boyfriend's ex! He won't talk to me about his ex, so everything I know about her, I found out online. How can I stop obsessing over this?

A: You've gotta stop. Get one of those programs that offices use to block certain sites and block her Facebook page, Twitte...

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Q: Me and my best guy friend have this bet where we don't call each other. If I win, he has to give me a musical performance and if he wins he gets to take artsy and possibly nude photos of me. It's been a couple of weeks, could you give me insight into his thoughts or should I just call him and lose the bet?

A: He's thinking, "She's totally going to fold and call me, and I'm going to get to see her naked." He's also thinking, "I ...

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Q: i pretended to be someone else on facebook and talked to my boyfriend, and now he's totally in love with her. Should I confront him or shouldn't I?

A: You need to break up with him right now. You need to say, "I'm sorry, this isn't working out. See you never." Because no...

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Q: What do guys think about a girl who plays guitar and electric guitar, even when he can't play anything?

A: ...What? Oh, I'm sorry. I was just thinking about how hot it is when a girl plays guitar. I'm going to have to say this ...

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Q: Saw an email that stated: Nice pictures Mr. Boneder...what does this mean? Is this Mr. Boneder a saying among guys and does that mean hes sending sex pictures to his friends?

A: Ha! Mr. Boneder. I've certainly never heard that saying before. But it's going in the GuySpeak Dictionary. What does it ...

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Q: Do guys REALLY believe in love at first sight? Or is it just a bunch of crap?

A: Here's a better question: does anyone believe in love at first sight? I, for one, do not. But I do believe in lust at fi...

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Q: My guy and I are poor college students. We've been fwb's since October, made it facebook official last month.Currently, he's broke. Is this a legit excuse for him to not give a V-day gift? Would it make him feel bad if I got/made him something? The best gifts are free, right? ;)

A: Agreed. Some of the best gifts I've ever received were handmade with love. They cost nothing, or were under $10. I think...

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Q: My boyfriend is a fan of some porn model on Facebook. I guess I'm being immature and insecure with myself but it kind of bugged me. Do I say anything? Or just let it go?

A: Don't let it go. That's not cool. Here at GuySpeak, we get tons of variations on the "my boyfriend/husband/guy I'm datin...

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Q: What does it mean when my boyfriend does not invite me to go to a party with him and leaves me at home?

A: One of three things: 1. He wants a night out with his friends and doesn't want you around. If so, he's a big jerk for no...

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Q: Bachelor parties. Is it reasonable to expect my man not to go to a strip club? If im not allowed, then why should he be able to go to one?

A: He won't let you go to a strip club for a bachelorette party, or just in general? If he won't allow you to slip dollar b...

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Q: What does it mean when a guy writes your number down on piece of paper, but clearly has a phone?

A: It means that you're in the "maybe call" pile. Sure, he might put you in his phone later. But why not just add you right...

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Q: I like to smoke weed. My boyfriend hates that I do it. I love him and I'll stop if it's going to ruin our relationship. He's not over protective, he let's me do whatever I want, it's just the weed that's an issue. He says he's just looking out for me and wants me to focus on school. Should weed even be an issue though?

A: He is looking out for you. And that's a good thing. Because if your boyfriend is worried that smoking pot is affecting y...

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Q: My best friend and i have been hooking up for 6 months. We live together and spend all our time together. Everyone thinks we're a couple, except we agreed it's just FWB. I have feelings for him now, is it likely that he has feelings for me as well or can a guy keep it strictly physical?

A: Well, I got news for you: you're already in a relationship. You spend all your time together, hook up, live together, an...

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Q: After a bad break up, I went on a no-guy sabbatical to reevaluate my past missteps and to form a new, healthier perspective on what I want in a prospective mate (i.e not an ass-hat.) Its been a year now and I'm ready to date again. I'm just not sure how to do that. Help? Please?

A: First off, I have to applaud you on your dating sabbatical. I'm sure it was difficult to go cold turkey like that, but i...

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Q: Why do guys wear skinny jeans?

A: Because they're in an indie or emo band. Or they want to be in an indie or emo band. They think they look good, but they...

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Q: I'm 45 - he is 25. Why are younger men sometimes attracted to an older woman?

A: First off, I'm going to try to get through this without using the term "cougar." (That one doesn't count.) I refuse to u...

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Q: Do guys like girls who are bitchy and mean?

A: Not necessarily. But I'll throw the question back at you: do you fall for jerky, d-bag guys and then hate yourself in th...

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Q: If my husband of 10+ years looks up his ex-girlfriend's address on google map because he was just curious and didn't tell me (i was clearing the recent history and found out from the history of the search engine that he googled her and her husband), should I be concerned?

A: Uh...Yes. That's a little concerning. I'm not saying he's cheating, but, uh, I can't think of another legitimate reason ...

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Q: How do I know if I am a bad kisser?

A: He will stop kissing you and move on to other things. Like trying to get you naked. That old saying about how sex is lik...

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Q: My best friend, who's a guy, is pretty cool but he has recently started making sexual jokes like "Great, we have ten minutes. Enough time for a quickie". I usually just laugh it off, but what's his deal? Is he into me or something?

A: Well, first of all, he needs better lines. Not only are his jokes cheesy, but he's also implying that he's Speedy Gonzal...

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Q: How long is it appropriate for me to wait to be introduced to my new boyfriend's parents?

A: I would say six months to a year if his parents are local, 1-2 years if they're not. Any sooner could put unneeded press...

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Q: Are you scared of gay men and if so why?

A: Well, they keep trying to eat my brain for one. Wait, that's zombies. No, I am not afraid of gay men. Are you? You shoul...

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Q: How do I get my husband to agree to a 3-some with another woman?

A: Tell him it's just about sex. While you might think that the idea of being with two women at the same time is his ultima...

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Q: He says he wants to save money to buy a ring and we will get married this spring, but he has bought 2 vehicles since. Will he buy me a ring?

A: I'm going to let my girlfriend chime in on this one first. Nick's girlfriend: "Sounds like he needs to put a ring on it!...

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Q: If a girl is the one to ask out the guy then who pays on the first date? Should it be the guy still?

A: I think the guy should pay, regardless of who did the asking out. I believe a guy should ALWAYS pay on the first date. E...

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Q: I went to a drive through coffee shop where a very hot and pleasantly nerdy bro-ista struck up a conversation with me about the wonderful world of Marvel based on a bust of Wolverine I have affixed to my dash board. Here's the question: How the heck do I show him I'm interested? Keep in mind I'm on the very shy side.

A: Go back and ask him where you can find the nearest comic book store. Or if you already go to one, tell him you're lookin...

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Q: When men get old, do their penises shrink quite a bit??

A: Oh God I hope not. Getting old is hard enough. You forget where you put the remote, start calling Twitter "The Twitter."...

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Q: Why won't my boyfriend tell me how many women he has slept with?

A: Because it's either a spectacularly high number or an extremely low one. If it's high, he's worried you'll think he's a ...

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Q: I'm in a bar. Guy buys me a drink without asking. I think he's being pushy and rude. My girl friends say he's just trying to be nice, but I think they're being naive. What is a guy's true intention for buying a lady a drink without asking? Does he really think he's being a gentleman?

A: He thinks he's being smooth. He's trying be James Bond, or Don Draper from Mad Men. But he's actually being supremely ch...

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Q: What do you think of a guy that makes over $250k/yr, spends freely on himself but will not help a long term girlfriend out when she falls on hard times? P.S.--the girlfriend regularly prepares meals for him, does his laundry. Other than she is a doormat and he is a creep. Why do guys not help out financially?

A: Uh, yeah, he sounds like a creep of the highest order. By definition, a relationship means you support each other. Give ...

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Q: I found naked pictures of a woman in my boyfriend's special drawer. He cheated on me with her. Does this mean that I am being cheated on again?

A: Not necessarily. But it means he still has feelings for her. Or at the very least, he wants to sleep with her again. As ...

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Q: If my bf didn't get me anything for Christmas, what do I do? We have been going out for 8 months. More of a casual thing. I did get him a very nice gift already.

A: Ah, the old "how soon is too soon?" gift issue. This is a delicate balancing act in new relationships. What is the prope...

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Q: What turns a 17 year old guy on?

A: Victoria's Secret commercials. Blake Lively's low-cut dresses on Gossip Girl. Beer commercials. Scantily-clad video game...

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Q: Does he want to be my boyfriend or is he happy being snuggly pals?

A: Do we have to use the term "snuggly pals"? Can't he be your "guy who holds you in his manly embrace"? Does he want to be...

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Q: I'm a writer, but I can never get my bf of 3 years to consistently read my material. I know he's busy (he's a bball player) but even when he does read it he just does it to oblige me. Why?

A: He's probably worried about upsetting you. Every time you give him something to read, he probably thinks, "What if I don...

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Q: Is it bad if a girl can get a higher score in video games then her boyfriend?

A: This question comes up a lot. It seems some boyfriends and husbands out there don't like it when their gal beats them at...

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Q: I found gay porn under my boyfriend's bed. I'm really afraid of confronting him about it. What should I do??

A: You need to talk to him. Right after you read this. I don't care if Jersey Shore is on. They'll run it again in a couple...

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Q: If a guy takes me to his Company Christmas Party can that mean anything significant?

A: It could. It definitely means he likes you enough to want to introduce you to his coworkers. Maybe it's a test to see if...

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Q: What does it mean if a guy constantly has to check up on you all the time? (Checking cell phone, reading journal, calling to make sure I am where I said I was going to be... that sort of thing.)

A: It means he thinks you're going to cheat. He doesn't trust you, and he's paranoid. Does he have any reason to feel this ...

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Q: When a guy slaps you on the arm what does that mean?

A: It means there's a bug on your arm, and he's trying to kill it. Or you are about to get hit by a car and he's trying to ...

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Q: Do you think it's hot when girls Lolspeak?

A: Nope. Sorry. Actual, complete words are far sexier. Please, please save the Lolspeak for captioning photos of cats and n...

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Q: Why hasn't my 29 year old boyfriend of 8 weeks who I have known for over one year tried to kiss me?

A: Uh...You know, I thought really hard about this one, and I can't think of any legitimate reason other than maybe he does...

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Q: Would you be mad if your girlfriend of 7 years kissed another guy, while drunk, one night?

A: Yes, absolutely I would be mad. Would it end the relationship? I don't know. For some people, it might. Others might cha...

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Q: Dear fellows, I have a lot of limitations. How do I go about finding my special someone? Please give detailed step by step advice asap.

A: Ask and ye shall receive. Here is your ten-step plan to finding someone special...1. Stop telling yourself you have a lo...

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Q: Is it odd of me to be concerned that my boyfriend's favorite book is Catcher in the Rye (and only references that one book...he hasn't read anything else by Salinger)? I don't believe he's going to shoot John Lennon or anything.

A: Well, I'm not concerned about that either, considering we recently celebrated the 29th anniversary of John Lennon's deat...

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Q: Would a guy be intimidated or not even date a girl taller than him?

A: No, short men like tall women. Medium height men like tall women. Tall guys like-- well, I suppose tall guys like low ce...

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Q: I recently had a (mistake!) threesome with a guy who I don't even know if I like and my best friend's brother... I haven't told my friend about it, but it's killing me to keep a secret like that from her. How should I tell her?

A: Wait, you had a "mistake" threesome? Like you were walking into a room, tripped and...whoops! Threesome! Seriously, thou...

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Q: Do guys appreciate CDs/playlists their girlfriends make for them? Would he actually listen to one, even if it was totally not his music taste?

A: I definitely appreciate them. I've discovered a lot of great music from mix CDs or playlists girlfriends have given me, ...

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Q: I love that my boyfriend is a huge geek, but the one thing that bugs me is his toy collection! He has not only 1, but 2 cabinet full of toys, including statues of scantily clad women with removable clothes. When I bring it up, he compares it to my shoes.

A: First of all, you should tell him that your shoes don't have visible plastic boobies. While the shoes/action figure comp...

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Q: My boyfriend watches porn and lies about it. I've told him hundreds of times that I don't care that he watches porn and yet he STILL lies about it. Why?

A: Any number of reasons. Maybe he's ashamed. Maybe he watches some really hardcore porn that he thinks you'd wouldn't be i...

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Q: Do men care about christmas decorations?

A: I do. I can't get enough of them. In fact, I don't even care that they seem to come out earlier every year. Put up the t...

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Q: I started talking to this guy I met online, and I liked him at first. We recently talked on the phone, and the chemistry was just not there. Now he's wanting to meet. Should I tell him that I'm just not into him, or just slowly stop talking?

A: I'd say just phase it out over email. He'll get the idea. You've never met in person. Why lay the "I'm just not into you...

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Q: I'm a little bit overweight, vegetarian, percussion major and I love South Park and Colbert Report. I've got plenty of guy friends but I'm almost NEVER the object of affection. Be honest - if I don't lose the weight, do I have any chance of finding love?

A: First off, I decided to answer this question as a counter to Funny Guy's "So You're Fat" blog because I think it's impor...

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Q: We girls invest so much time and money on cute bras and panties. Do men really notice?

A: Yes, absolutely. Of course, we eventually want to get them off you, but we definitely appreciate it. In fact, there is a...

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Q: My Bf of 3 years is ADDICTED to video games, and sometimes it feels like he is choosing them over me. What should or can I do about this?

A: This has been coming up a lot lately. First of all, I blame the video games. Games today are just too awesome. They are ...

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Q: What does it mean when my boyfriend, who is 19, no children or financial responsibilities, in fact no responsibilities except school says," i am stressed". He says this at least once a week...

A: What, 19-year-olds can't be stressed? Guys have a lot of pressures at that age. For instance, how do you balance drinkin...

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Q: I asked my husband if he thinks about other hotter women when we have sex.....he said no....is he lying?

A: Wait, let me consult my magical device which tells me if guys are lying...Yes, he's lying. Or maybe he's not, and you're...

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Q: My fiance likes to "talk" during sex. Not dirty talk necessarily. I'm more quiet I guess but would like to be more vocal. I'm just so focused on making him feel good & what he's doing to make me feel good to come up with "talk." What do I do?

A: Wait. It's not dirty talk? What does he talk about? The weather? Fantasy football? What caused the blackout on FlashForw...

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Q: Ok, so I love letting the world know I love my boyfriend. So from time to time I post it on his Twitter or Facebook. But he like totally ignores it. What the hell is up? Please help me!

A: Maybe he's not into public displays of affection. And you can't get more public than Twitter and Facebook. Also, maybe h...

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Q: How shallow are men? Seems like every time i go to a bar, all i see are good looking men hitting on skinny blond girls. there has to be men out there that like brunettes right?

A: Stop going to cheesy, pretentious bars. That's the first step. Shallow, vain people tend to congregate together doing sh...

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Q: Which "Star Wars" movie is the best? Some guys at a party were debating (for three hours!!), and I only know that Jamaican alien is offensive, or annoying atbest. But I want to seem more in the know. I'll netflix one of them.

A: Empire Strikes Back. Oh, sorry, Star Wars Episode V: The Empire Strikes Back. Heavy sigh. I do not approve of George Luc...

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Q: An old bf found me online, I was his first back in the day & he started sending me flirty emails about his current life. He keeps asking me out for coffee, even though he knows I am married. Should I be concerned that he will try to make some "move"?

A: Yes, you should definitely be concerned that he will make a move. Because that's what he's doing. He's making a move. He...

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Q: Why does my husband REFUSE to take me to the new twilight movie even though he knows it will make me happy?

A: Funny you should ask, as I just bought tickets for myself and my girlfriend. (Don't tell her! It's a surprise.) Guys, ju...

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Q: Are guys turned off when their girlfriend is more educated than them?

A: Only the stupid ones. A guy who is turned off by a woman's intellect is also easily frightened by loud noises, and has d...

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Q: I'm kind of geeky, but i have this crush on a popular guy in school. He talks to me a lot, but i don't know if he likes me. (I know, I know, not another teen movie!) How do know?

A: Oh, high school. You would think society would've moved past the point of '80s teen comedies to a world where geeks and ...

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Q: I finally met this guy my friend wanted to set me up with. But at her party, he joked around w/ everyone but me. Later he facebook friended me and now is always the first to comment on my posts. Could this mean he likes me? He's def a gamer/dorky.

A: While I don't think you should pick out matching Rock Band guitars just yet, it does sound like he might be sweet on you...

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Q: What are some new up and coming bands that the cool kids are listening to?

A: There's actually a huge boom of quality bands in the New York City indie scene right now, particularly in the hipster en...

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Q: My husband is always driving and texting. He will not stop... even when our kids are in the car. It scares me. How do I get my message across?

A: Well, you can tell him that First Lady of California Maria Shriver got busted for doing it, so it's only a matter of tim...

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Q: I met this guy on a dating website and we've been emailing for about 2 weeks with no talk of meeting up. I don't want to make the move because I don't want to set a precedent of making things too easy for him. The convos are fun but what gives?

A: Yes, two weeks is too long to be emailing a stranger. For all you know, he could be a Nigerian prince who would be glad ...

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Q: My boyfriend is a self-proclaimed geek. He's into comic books, sci-fi, and video games. I don't mind doing these things, but I love shopping, cooking and watching trashy tv. How can we come together and really enjoy each other's hobbies?

A: Great question! And one that I think applies to all couples, not just "uber geek" and "not so geek." Couples don't have ...

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Q: This guy I like reads graphic novels, but they all look crowded and ugly to me. I don't see the appeal. Help!

A: What types of comics and graphic novels does he read? Perhaps he just needs to introduce you to more accessible material...

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Q: I want to get my boyfriend a really cool gadget for Christmas. We've only been dating for a little over 8 months, so honestly I don't want it to be toooooo expensive... any ideas?

A: Christmas already? Holiday shopping starts earlier every year. But it's probably wise to start shopping now, as the hott...

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Q: What would be your ideal first date? I've got a date with a self-proclaimed geek this week and I really want to show him that deep down, I'm a geek too.

A: Awww. You've warmed my robotic heart. I finally understand this thing you humans call love. I think it's great that you ...

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Q: Would it be wrong to ask an employee at my local Apple store out? He's handsome (albeit it wee bit geeky), so nice, and I get so turned on when he shows me all the little MacBook features. Would it be wrong to ask him out while he's working?

A: Wait a minute. You're telling me that a guy who works at the Apple Store is a wee bit geeky? I'm sorry, but that flies i...

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Q: Do you think a guy ever gets turned off by a girl that likes to just stay in, play some Wii Sports Resort and crack open some beers? Do you become "one of the guys" if you spend too much time like that? I'm talking about when you're first starting to hang

A: I think most single guys view every woman as someone they could potentially date and/or sleep with. From the new temp in...

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Q: Do you think the threat of ending up on the internet is reason enough to NEVER engage in bedroom photography/cinematography with your man (even if you're in a trusting, monogamous relationship)?

A: Yeah, the Internet has really put a damper on the whole home porno/naughty photo thing. Time was, all a guy needed to ta...

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Q: I've been trying out online dating and might finally meet up with someone. Should I expect this to be like a regular date? I pretty much always expect (though I always offer) the guy to pay for the 1st date. Is it fair for me to expect this?

A: It should absolutely be just like a regular date. Just because you met online, that doesn't mean he shouldn't fulfill al...

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Q: So Pepsico has this new free App that feeds men lines and helps them "score" with women. I think they just removed the app -- but still curious to get your take on this. Do men really need to consult their phone so you can get a quick pick up line?

A: I heard about this. Pepsi has indeed pulled the app amid widespread criticism. Basically, "Amp Up Before You Score" was ...

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Q: Whenever I go to the comic book store I am always the only woman inside. I feel like this would be a great place to meet other like-minded guys. But the only thing I get from those guys when I go in there is either fear or indifference. Any advice?

A: Thanks for your question. I've been waiting for a chance to discuss this very topic. First off, I need to address the lo...

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Q: To Twitter... or not to Twitter? That is the question!!! Is this a cool thing to do?

A: What, you don't Tweet? You don't update your friends, coworkers, family members, and random strangers on your every exci...

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Q: I want to keep my office romance under wraps... for obvious reasons. Any advice?

A: I'm always surprised when people are shocked by workplace romance. We're increasingly spending more and more time at the...

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Q: My husband is addicted to World of Warcraft - plays 3-4 times a week. Did I mention he's 40? As a WoW widow, how do I handle this?

A:  "WoW widow." I love it. Submit that to the GuySpeak dictionary post-haste, fair maiden. It's like you lost him in ...

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Q: Why don't guys like leggings on girls?

A: Who says guys don't like leggings? In fact, a certain skeezy hipster clothing company built their entire image on the as...

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Q: I'm a girl that loves to sit and play Wii on a Saturday night with my man and some friends. He always gets bored and ends up on the computer. Any suggestions for getting him more involved? He's got good geek potential, he's just not tapping into it.

A: I love this question. It's like a nerd My Fair Lady--how do you bring out his latent geek? The raw material definitely s...

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Q: I need a backpack to carry my laptop in because the messenger bag I bought is killing my back. Is there a cool site I could check-out? Or a store that has a great "Geek Chic" selection?

A: I can relate to the messenger bag issue. While stylish, those things are hell on your shoulders. We're all going to end ...

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Q: My husband spends hours researching speakers, TVs and "toys" online and then spends more time "tweaking" our home theater set up. I honestly just want to be able to watch TV with sound - I don't care if I can hear the water dripping in a scene.

A: You mean you don't want to hear every single ear-shattering explosion and brilliant gem of dialogue in Transformers 2? (...

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Q: I want to get into online dating (cause the bar scene is lame near me). Can you tell me which dating site is the best one out there?

A: Have you tried OkCupid? It seems to be the new Nerve/Alt/LavaLife--the hipster alternative to Match.com and eHarmony. I'...

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Q: A new guy recently friended me on Facebook (we have a mutual friend and he saw my posts on his wall). Apparently this guy thought I was cute. He lives far away and he's never initiated FB conversation. It's weird. I feel like I'm being watched.

A: Yeah, that's pretty weird. People who mistake Facebook for a dating site never fail to crack me up. Female friends of mi...

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Q: My mom just joined Facebook --- which is so lame. Now she's friending all of my friends. How do I make it stop?

A: Heavy sigh. I hear you, friend. This is becoming a serious problem. I'm of the opinion that if your son or daughter is o...

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Q: I've got tickets to a fantastic concert in two weeks...and had intended to go with this guy I've been dating. Things are cooling off with him: do I break up with him now or after the concert?

A: How about at the concert? Studies show that public places are the best venue for a break-up. He's less likely to make a ...

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Q: I've been dating a guy for a few weeks but find he'd rather text me than call. It's really annoying. I've told him I prefer he'd call so we can chat and get to know each other over the phone, but he seems more comfortable typing. What the hell?

A: Funny you should mention this, gentle reader. I just addressed this very same problem-- how texting, social networking a...

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Q: My boss is a huge geek and has every new tech item you can think of. So what do I get him for his birthday?

A: First off, kudos for wanting to get your boss something he would actually like instead of yet another meat and cheese ba...

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