A: Perhaps. But what it really means is that the rumor about you or that rash you are alleged to have had has finally been ...
Girls' BFF
The Girls’ BFF is your BS filter. He’s like a sweet and sour gummy bear. He’ll tell you if “he’s just not that into you” whether you want to hear it or not. But he’ll also give you a hug and tell you that you don’t need that guy anyway. The Girls’ BFF is the guy who will listen to what you have to say, tell you when you’re wrong, tell you when you’re right, and then suggest everybody have a drink because, what the hell, who doesn’t love a drink? Sometimes he’s a part of the problem, but he’s still always there to help you undo all of the (usually wrong) over-analysis you and your girlfriends can’t stop yourselves from doing. Basically, the Girl’s BFF is the guy who helps you figure out what’s really going on. But the next move? That’s all on you.
Featured: Panama Jackson
Recent questions answered by the Girls' BFF:
Q: So... 6 dates.... no smooch.... lots of texting and calls between dates, but no smooch.... WTH?
A: WTH and WTF indeed. Either you're dating the most conservative man in America or he's a really, really big fan of women ...
Q: is it ok for a girl to wait for her man while he is in prison.
A: Okay gets into a morality/judgement thing. And since I'm only human, flesh and blood, a man (ahem...), I'll just say tha...
Q: Is skin of all types attractive to men?
A: Absolutely not. Look, men are visual creatures. If you have skin that resembles those lizard people on "V", most men are...
Q: What part of the woman's body attracts men the most?
A: Oh that's simple: her heart. As a guy, I'm most attracted to the heart of a woman. While it's not a standard body part, ...
A: To truly understand why many Black guys are indeed infatuated with lighter-skinned Black women, we'd need to delve into ...
A: "Love ya" is one of those feeling out statements that people use when they're perhaps feeling a certain way but they're ...
A: The only way somebody truly changes behavior is if some drastic consequence occurs because of their behavior. Being upse...
Q: What does a guy really mean or want when he says "text me later?"
A: While the scholastic fortitude of say, Plato, often eludes me, I'd bet all of the money in my pocket and yours that what...
A: So let me get this right, you're not even sure you were officially together, and you're worried about breaking off this ...
A: Well, you should decide what you want to do. Oh yeah, and ask, why? It seems that for your boyfriend he's made some deci...
A: If you knew that your bank was giving earning you 10 percent interest on your saving but was going to go bankrupt in two...
A: I'm sorry, I'm a bit confused. Let me get this right, your boyfriend prides himself on his body and spends a lot of time...
A: What it means is that he will have to call you back because chances are, he's going to want those drawz and socks back. ...
Q: How do you know if you're in a guy's friend zone?
A: One surefire way to know is if he brings up other women to you casually and talks to you about issues or problems he's h...
A: Well generally that depends on if the recipient of your statement said, "no take backs" after you said it. If they did, ...
Q: Why do black men prefer woman of the opposite race?
A: Interestingly worded question. Your question is really, why do Black men prefer to date white women. And the answer here...
Q: How do you feel about prenups? Yea or nay?
A: You know, I used to be against prenups and what they allude to - the possibility of an end to a marriage both people are...
A: You will know when he tells you, flat out. In very clear and uncertain terms. Basically, until he uses the words *______...
Q: How do I know a guy wants more than just sex?
A: This is probably one of the most popular questions asked in any forum, so let me take my crack at helping to illuminate ...
A: Naw. I think he'll think you're boring if you are, well, boring. I have plenty of friends who don't really drink and the...
A: What he means is that he likes you, a lot, and perhaps even wants to love you long time, but the truth of the matter is,...
A: If by "fianceé", you mean women he is pledging to spend the rest of his life with then I totally feel you. The nerve of ...
A: Probably because he doesn't want you at his house. I'm not sure it could be any more simple than that. Unless... Unless ...
A: Expectations, fair lady, only lead to disappointment. However, it would be nice if the guy would at least make attempts ...
Q: What does he mean we need to end this?
A: Great question! I too often struggle with this ever-elusive notion of "this". Especially when somebody says to me, "we n...
A: It's completey okay to surprise me...AS LONG AS you have some idea of what I might like to eat or what I'm allergic to. ...
A: You take him at his word and thank him for saving you from heartache and pain. In a world where SO many women complain t...
Q: do guys compare current girlfriends with their exes ? Physically, in bed, or emotionally ?
A: Yes and no. Don't you love dichotomous answers? Don't you ALSO love that I used the word dichotomous ALREADY in this pos...
A: If I had a guess, I'd say that your boyfriend is an attention whore and really enjoys the attention he gets from other w...
A: Not very memorable are we? I can definitely see that being a problem of sorts. Let's fix that. You want to know how to s...
A: Let me be clear about this upfront: I think breaking up with somebody to prove a point is the absolute dumbest thing you...
A: Well if you're not happy in your current relationship, how could the grass be any less green in a new one? While I under...
A: Confidence is really a mental thing. So in order to be more confident you have to identify which areas are keeping you f...
A: I wouldn't be turned of at all. I'm one of those people that believes everybody probably needs to see a therapist about ...
Q: How do you get a guy when your best friend is much more attractive than you?
A: I don't quite see how these two things are even remotely connected. Perhaps you and your friend go everywhere together a...
Q: How do I turn an ex that I'm over into a friend with benefits?
A: This is probably much easier than you think, assuming you two ended under amicable circumstances. If you two hate eachot...
A: Wow. That is a good question. If I were you, I'd be concerned as well. I mean, even when me and my girl get into argumen...
A: I think padded bras are evil incarnate, actually. While I recognize that men can be lying in the "packing" department an...
A: Well, my initial reaction was that you need to get shorter. But then I realized that wasn't going to happen. THEN I thou...
A: Initially, yes, you're father is right. The majority of men approach women who they find physically attractive. And in t...
A: Interesting question. The simple solution? Either stop being a webcam model or if that doesn't suit you, stop letting pe...
A: Not sure why, but this question literally made me bust into laughter. I'm sure its seeing the words "feel me up" actuall...
A: You know, you have to remember one thing here: he chose to be with you. In any conversation that you have with him, you ...
A: I'm curious as to why you think he would be warm and welcome you back with open arms. You broke up with him because you ...
A: I think that you may underestimate how much men like seeing boobs. Even boobs we've seen before, we love to see them aga...
A: This is one of those slippery slope questions that I think more women should ask men. You see, you are attempting to com...
A: This may be one of the eternal questions when it comes to dating. For such a simple "yes or no" question, it sure has a ...
A: You asked two totally unrelated questions, that perhaps were some way connected in your mind. That is EXACTLY how I felt...
Q: How could I tell my best friend that I like her boyfriend? They just started dating.
A: No dis here, but you're not much of a "best friend" if you're actually considering telling your best friend that you lik...
Q: what do i do if my crush has a girlfriend?
A: This is a common and recurrent situation when it comes to l'amour. No matter who you are, at some point in your life you...
Q: Can men be faithful or is cheating is something that will happen eventually in a relationship.
A: The answer to whether all men cheat truly depends on who you talk to and on what day. I know plenty of men who have neve...
A: Um, no. For one, a grown man who isn't a virgin yet is waiting to have sex with the woman he loves is a saint in my book...
A: So you just up and sent some guy you were "talking to" some naughty pictures? And he was upset? Who were you dating? The...
A: Um, what in Sam Hill does it mean to have a guy as a boyfriend for a night? Is that some new trend I'm just not up on be...
A: I'll say is bad. Do you realize how short he was? And from what I hear (through some SERIOUS hear say - we're talking at...
A: I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I'm prone to believe that birds of a feather flock together. Do you realize how...
A: Wow. Kind of impatient, aren't we? But since we're being impatient, what the hell, let's answer the question. So how soo...
A: Perhaps this particular chap has taken a shining to you but it goes no further than him thinking your just an awesome do...
A: While the answer to this question seems like common sense to me, I know plenty of women who seem to ask similar question...
A: Well I suppose this depends on if the server is a man or a woman. But I have some free time, let's look at both scenario...
A: I think this all depends on the guy you're dealing with. And age is a large part of it. Younger guys would probably be l...
Q: What is a guy's view on makeup?
A: Good question. It really is a different strokes for different folks kind of thing, though. For instance, I'm a big no ma...
A: Oh that's easy, guys (much like people in general) are territorial as hell. It might be strange logic but even if you're...
A: I had to consult three monks, two defrocked priests and Google to make sure that your guy wasn't making any sense whatso...
A: Well, that probably means that he got what he wanted and is on to the next one (no Jay-Z). See, this is the problem with...
Q: Why do guys always put there phone on silent or on vibrate when they are with their girl?
A: The reason for this is twofold: 1) When we're with you, you tend to prefer to not hear our phones ring constantly as to ...
Q: What does it mean when he says he wants to marry me one day and live with me someday?
A: While I'm neither clairvoyant nor a middled-aged Black woman of questionable Caribbean descent who constantly tells peop...
A: For the life of me, I don't understand why women tend to get upset that men are looking at other women, even in the mids...
A: You know, my default answer is HELL YEAH! Except, it's not totally true. Not for all men anyway. You'll often hear men s...
A: There are two kinds of sex issues in a relationship: 1) when the couple is having non-bedroom difficulties and sex becom...
Q: Why do men want sex all the time?
A: Why do animals hunt prey? Why do birds fly? Why did everybody and their grandmother go see New Moon on opening weekend? ...
A: The deal with that is that you're probably too afraid to make him label the relationship, so he doesn't and he treats yo...
Q: My boyfriend says he wants to let me decide when we kiss, what does this mean?
A: Quite honestly, that might be one of the strangest things I've ever heard. I'm guessing you do all the initiating when i...
A: You know, there's really no good answer for this one. Some guys just...mess up. Look, any person with even an iota of co...
A: Honestly, you should probably reconsider your relationship. Everybody knows that the very beginning of a relationship is...
A: Hey, boo, thanks for the question. Quite honestly, I have no clue. But I'm guessing you do. Pay attention to the way he ...
A: Just to make sure I'm getting this right, you're quest to lose your pooch is making you want to not let a man see you di...
Q: If a guy friend tells you about another girl is he just trying to make you jealous?
A: Well that depends on who you are to him. For instance, are you all dating, talking, hanging out, or are you just his coo...
A: Finding the answer to this question is much like locating the Loch Ness Monster, Big Foot, and whatever they were trying...
A: There are two possible reasons that come to mind as to why your boyfriend would say such a thing: 1) He actually feels R...
A: An "illusion of separation"? I think I've heard it all at this point. Look, guys spend a lot of time finding new and cre...
A: Well that totally depends. Just how frequently is he currently calling you and texting you? And by your actual question,...
Q: Why do guys go to strip clubs if they are happy with you and your relationship?
A: Probably for the exact same reason guys like pr0n - the fantasy of another woman that you can't touch so therefore it's ...
Q: How can i tell if a guy is gay?
A: This has long been the subject of much debate, inquiry, tastelessness, and all around shouldershruggism. There really is...
A: One of the difficult parts about being the Girls' BFF is that honesty is required. The problem with honesty is that some...
A: You're ability to get him back is directly correlated with why he broke up with you in the first place. Period. Lots of ...
A: Ah, the waiting game and the eventual, should I or shouldn't I mental quagmire. Relationships are fun, no? So you want t...
A: Absolutely yes, you should. I think this is one of those situations where you should cut your losses now before it gets ...
A: Often times in life, you're confronted with questions and situations that leave you both perplexed and verklempt, many a...
A: Hate to tell you but I don't think the "girlfriend" tag is coming. At least not formally. If after 6 months you're still...
A: I, for one, am all for cougar love. It even has a great name: Cougar Love. That sounds like the name of a Courtney Love ...
A: Interesting question. Based on your self-description I'm guessing part of it is that in the eyes of many in the Black an...
A: Good question. While I'm definitely no advocate of leading people on, and sometimes "innocent" hanging can be doing just...
A: I've always found this question of female intimidation to be a bit odd. For one, it's not 1950 and we're not all in an e...
A: I'm not even sure if this is a fair question or not. You're asking a man about boobs or bricks. But hey...you asked! I'm...
A: Ah, the infamous dilemma of guyspeak. I'd wager that comments like this are the VERY reason sites like this one exist in...
Q: Why is he waiting so long to make the first move?
A: I love questions like these. I really do. The waiting woman wishes the wholesome warrior would wact! (Sorry, couldn't co...
A: Ah, the age old conundrum - the Black girl without the stereotypical hind parts of love. Just to get it out of the way, ...
A: This is a good question as both men and women are on this constant quest to find out where the "good" partners are. I al...
A: You should definitely dump him. Quickly. And don't think twice about it. You're jolly ole fellow is probably already che...
Q: Why do guys feel like they have to control everything?
A: Interesting question. You can blame it on the rain. You can blame it on the al-al-al-alcohol. Blame it on Kanye West. Bu...
A: I think you are absolutely insane, actually. Let's get this right. You cheated on your boyfriend with a guy who pretty m...
A: No, he's trying to regain the freedom and space he had before you all moved in together. And that's a problem. Though I ...
A: I know some guys will tell a woman that they respect her desire to wait until marriage for sex. In fact, we respect the ...
A: Hmm...so let me get this right: you actually get solo special friend time with your best guy friend despite the fact tha...
A: Seems to me that your friends are probably very shallow if they can't get past the way ole boy looks. I'm guessing you w...
Q: My boyfriend doesn't like to hang out with my friends. Is this a bad sign for our relationship?
A: It's a terrible sign for your relationship. In fact, in the pantheon of signs that a relationship is heading towards now...
A: This is quite simple actually. You've got to somehow convince (or coerce, your pick) your boyfriend that it is in his be...
A: In a word, yes. For one, is this guy your best friend? If so, why not try to find a way to get your groom to let him be ...
A: I've had this same problem with my woman. And by same problem, I mean her buying me terrible gifts. No lie, I got a frea...
A: Despite the fact that both men and women abhor game playing, a bit of Milton Bradley-ism is necessary during the early s...
A: What makes you think he's keeping it quiet at the office? I for one let the good times roll to the tune of at least 7 ti...
Q: my boyfriend hates sandra bullock and won't see any of her movies. is this a dealbreaker?
A: This isn't a dealbreaker per se, but it should definitely give you pause. Let's start at the top with this one. Though I...
A: This is actually a really good question, especially considering the current economic climate. One thing you have t...
A: This is one of the age old relationship dilemmas: best friends of the opposite sex. I'm sorry to say that yo...
