A: I suppose that depends on just how in touch you all were in the first place. Was this a boyfriend, a really good friend,...
Girls' BFF
The Girls’ BFF is your BS filter. He’s like a sweet and sour gummy bear. He’ll tell you if “he’s just not that into you” whether you want to hear it or not. But he’ll also give you a hug and tell you that you don’t need that guy anyway. The Girls’ BFF is the guy who will listen to what you have to say, tell you when you’re wrong, tell you when you’re right, and then suggest everybody have a drink because, what the hell, who doesn’t love a drink? Sometimes he’s a part of the problem, but he’s still always there to help you undo all of the (usually wrong) over-analysis you and your girlfriends can’t stop yourselves from doing. Basically, the Girl’s BFF is the guy who helps you figure out what’s really going on. But the next move? That’s all on you.
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Recent questions answered by the Girls' BFF:
A: Sounds like you need to be more vocal of your wants and needs and potentially take the lead in getting that sexual revol...
A: Weellllllllllll, why exactly were your feelings hurt? Based on what you're saying about him it sounds like it would be n...
A: Just be there for her. And hold her. That's about the most you can do. There aren't many words you can use or anything y...
A: Well, what else would it be? No man likes the other dude in the picture. One, we don't trust other men around or women. ...
A: This might sound a bit insensitive but he's at a porn convention. Just be glad he's not smanging anything. Putting his h...
A: The topic of intimidation is an interesting one because, well, I can't rightly imagine a mature man being put off becaus...
A: Probably not. Or at least not right now. Any time somebody makes a significant change from what people consider their no...
A: I kind of waffle on whether or not woman should ask out a man. Many people think that if you do all of the work up front...
Q: Have you ever been peed on by a woman during sex and were you grossed out by it?
A: Um, no. And eww. While I've never been peed on by a girl during sex I can almost assuredly promise you that I would be g...
A: Is something wrong with you? Not necessarily. But yes it is strange. If I had to venture an honest guess, I'd almost thi...
A: Booboo, there is so much wrong with this situation I don't even know where to start. No. He's not waiting for your call....
A: Awww, thank you. I really appreciate you taking the time out to say that. It means a lot. We pride ourselves here at Guy...
Q: why does my ex boyfriend post pics of himself with his new girlfriend on facebook?
A: I'm going to answer this question initially in two different "voices". The first will be how you want me to answer it. B...
A: Interesting that you assume that because you are in a town full of well-to-do individuals that these issues seem like th...
A: It could be a bit of both. And in the case of the addiction, at least you two are addicted to one another. Is it healthy...
A: Is your boyfriend an Occupy Wall Streeter?? If not, then it just sounds like he has some personal insecurity or feels th...
A: Here's the rest of this question: since moving to NYC from his small midwest town. He recently asked me out. But I'm con...
A: Well, trusting him again is going to have to be a choice you make and hold fast to. If you're going to stay with him any...
Q: What does it mean when your girlfriend don't want to have sex with you no more?
A: Well it could mean one of two things, grasshopper. 1. You're *CENSORED* up right now and need to find out what exactly i...
A: As a man, the sentence I hate hearing (and reading) the most in life is: "we need to talk." I'd rather that Roseanne Bar...
A: My guess is that the closer you get to having another man's baby (that is what's happening here right?) the more he's st...
A: Well, I think that your guy is cheating on you. With whom? I have no clue. But if you're finding that stuff and there's ...
A: You mean the guys aren't lining up to take you out, wine and dine you, and propose to you? I also love that asking a gay...
A: Interesting question. Ultimately you wonder if your ex will always be insanely attracted to you? From a strictly physica...
A: What a sucky situation. Here's my question for you: that information that was divulged to you, is it a make or break typ...
A: This is a good question because it fits squarely into the realm of "talking about expectations." I've learned that many ...
A: I'm going to assume that you are somewhat young because at my age, that is not only cheating, thats a stabbable offense ...
A: I absolutely think that our ideals of beauty change as we age and want different things. But its not even just our ideal...
A: From what it sounds like, he is and he isn't. I know, another mixed signal. What it ultimately sounds like is that he's ...
A: You're right. It's an odd request. You know what I've learned about people over my some 30-plus years on this planet? Pe...
A: Inconsiderate, yes. Emotional abuse? That's taking it a bit too far. Maybe its just semantics but when you start tossing...
A: It is definitely okay to ask what a guy is looking for romantically. But I do think that it needs to come up organically...
A: Look, its possible. Man landed on the moon. I've seen people fly. With the aid of airplanes of course, but flight did ha...
A: While it's not "stupid" per se, it is probably overly optimistic at best and also highly unlikely. For most of us men, w...
A: No, you're not being unreasonable. If he has a person who he's still got feelings for and its impeding your relationship...
A: Well aside from just hoping you don't run into him (highly unlikely), you're heading straight for Awkwardsville no matte...
A: Well you're going to have to be straight up with him and risk it anyway. You admit you led him on. He's not going to be ...
A: Well it depends on the loss. So let's look at two of the prominent: death and end of a relationshiop. How do we deal wit...
A: That is an odd problem to have, but probably not as uncommon as I want to believe it is. This may seem odd, but I almost...
A: Hmmm...to be quite honest, I think that she's going to just have to come around on her own. Look, she doesn't like you. ...
A: Given the limited amount of info here, my guess is that he is probably a little afraid to say something like that. Or he...
A: Psychotic...I don't know if I'd go that far. It's definitely a red flag though. And he's definitely full of sh*t. Here's...
A: I know this wasn't supposed to be funny. But it was funny. I'm not laughing at your man's expense. I'm laughing at the w...
A: This question confuses me (well aside from the lack of an actual question), but I decided I wanted to address this one a...
A: Honestly, in this situation the only thing that you can do is let him know that you're there for him. Let's be real, dea...
A: The importance of labels depends on the persons involved. Now, to me, labels aren't as important as knowing who I am to ...
A: I've got two names for you: James Carville and Mary Matalin. If those two can make it work for nearly twenty years, I'm ...
A: Can we just talk...me and you? Well, and the additional thousands of people who will read this? Good, mmkay. Have a seat...
A: Um...seriously, that's the best suggestion that I have on this one. For one, the question is interesting. So it's like, ...
A: You have impeccable taste my dear. I am wise beyond my years. It's true. Oh right, this is about you. Sorry. You ask an ...
A: You've been waiting on them meeting again because you're nervous about how it's going to go...and you've been dating for...
A: Not at all. I'm fairly certain that your reaction is a common one for individuals who go from being engaged to single on...
A: Funny you should ask that because there's a very good chance that he is. Well, not compensating for the friendship, but ...
A: My guess is that he's psyching himself out now and become a victim of performance anxiety. It has nothing to with you so...
A: My guess is that he felt like you were different. Or wherever he met you intimated to him that somehow, if you were part...
Q: My man loves to have sex first thing in the AM. Are all guys like this?
A: Pretty much, yes. But most women I know are like that too. In fact, if the individuals like to have sex, then chances ar...
Q: if ur boyfriend is getting naked pics of his ex wife is he cheating?
A: Well I guess this depends on your interpretation of the age old question: what constitutes cheating? From where I'm sitt...
A: Personally, I think its exhausting. Not that I even live this lifestyle, but the mere thought of dating beaucoup people ...
A: Well you need to take a two pronged attack. 1) you need to just stop. Like literally. Actually stop doing it. Easier sai...
A: There are two schools of thought here. In my opinion, the smart man would focus on taking care of what he feels he needs...
A: Hmm...too pushy? I'm not sure that's the right term. You were definitely telling him to make a choice, either you all co...
A: You mean the commercials for match.com and eHarmony.com don't make you all warm and fuzzy on the inside? Look here, sist...
A: I typically try to stay away from explicit material. I'm not completely sure why. But you called me gorgeous. Even if th...
Q: i think i may be attracted to girls, does that make me a lesbian?
A: Not necessarily. Hell, you said you think you may be. If anything, you're more confused than any particular label. What ...
A: It could have been the thrill of the chase. Or it could be that once he finally won you over, you weren't the person he ...
A: Um, I mostly want to tell you that you're ability to be that graphic in 300 characters is impressive. Kudos. Here's the ...
A: Eh, I don't know if I'd be worried necessarily. While the situation definitely sounds odd. It almost sounds like he's be...
A: It means that he has an odd rooting in what he thinks comprises manly behavior. Namely, he thinks that all of his action...
A: Well, glad you asked. I was also confused about this campaign for men to grow out their mustaches until I came across th...
A: Well, you basically just have to ask him. There's no way to nuance, finesse, or trick him into answering that question a...
A: No, you shouldn't feel bad for only wanting to hang with guys but I will say that I'd be leary of any woman I'm dating w...
A: Well yes and no. See, when we are going through a sexual dry spell, we probably think about our exes a lot because we wa...
A: This is a good question. And before I go any further, PLEASE keep your optimism. Nothing lures men in like a woman who h...
A: I had to answer your question strictly because you made me look up a word I'd never heard before. So thank you for teach...
A: It's a common misconception that only women get babies on the brain. Some men really do get baby fever. Your boyfriend i...
A: So the other day I walked outside and I noticed it was raining and I said to myself, "Self, it's raining" to which I rep...
A: Well the first thing to recognize is that though it might be immature, it's also very common. Some people address things...
A: You really think that people hate you because you're pretty? I don't even know you and I hate you. Not because you're pr...
A: Based on the question, I'm assuming that your parents were separated or divorced, no? It seems like it would be odd if t...
A: Allow me to answer this question by asking you a question. Let's say you go out and buy yourself a nice new car. It's al...
A: This might be rough to hear, but one reason he stopped saying it could be because that's not how he feels anymore. Guys ...
A: I think a better question is are you ready to spend the rest of your life with somebody who might tend to attempt to mak...
A: Given the age of his children, no, you definitely shouldn't be taking a back seat. I'm going to assume that you all neve...
A: You've got to learn how to manage expectations. And to be fair, that's a common problem for everybody, man or woman. We ...
Q: What is the best polite way for a woman to suggest girth surgery to her man?
A: Good question. I have no freakin' clue because, well, I'm just not that familiar with male wang enhancement surgery. In ...
A: Why not make youre Facebook status "single" too? That way if he takes issue with it and brings it up, then he is being i...
A: Because of my other website, I've been recognized a lot now but never as a Guyspeak guy. Now, that could be because so m...
A: Yeah, I definitely think that there is a social pressure for women to be in relationships. But I think it's moreso that ...
A: Well, because he doesn't really mean it. I mean, he means it in terms of he wants you back, he just doesn't mean it in t...
A: It's time for another episode of: Why'd you ask that question when you already know the answer? Le sigh. So you and your...
A: Sounds like your problems are bigger than him. Look, sister, this guy is not for you. He's not interested. Keep it movin...
A: Let me be very clear with this here: a man telling you that he loves you but doing all of the things your husband has do...
A: So wait, did he tell you that he was gay? Or bi? Or are you just projecting because you're pissed? Because nothing else ...
A: You can change if you want to. Hell, the first part of making a change is acknowledging the problem. And if you don't th...
A: You're saying a whole lot in the way you worded your question. For one, you are implying that loud, flirtatious women ar...
A: I'm gonna say that no, there are no signs unless dude is a douchebag in the first place, you knew it, and if you married...
A: Serious question time, given those complaints, why exactly are you dating him? After only a month, those are some fairly...
A: I find it odd that you feel replaceable when this man has decided to ask you to marry him and bring you into the very fa...
A: Not to be all existentialist here or anything, but what exaclty constitutes "normal" when it comes to feelings and emoti...
A: I think it could be a bit of both. I think most women always want an ex to realize or at least think that he made a mist...
A: Desire for revenge...for what? Do you still have some unresolved issues with him? Further, do you think that sleeping wi...
A: Well, it all depends on how you answered that question. Granted, you were uncomfortable. I'll go ahead and give you the ...
A: This only happens because you're paying attention to it and you have a guy you want who isn't paying you any attention. ...
A: In a word, yes. You don't even know if that dude still wants you and you're considering trying to pursue something that ...
Q: Have you ever, not just loved, but fell in love with one of your BFF girl friends?
A: I have actually. She's the mother of my daughter. We met during our freshman year of college. hung with the same people,...
A: I used to think that only women paid attention to women's shoes (kind of like how men wear new and cool shoes to impress...
A: Well, you definitely have a valid concern. But it's mostly that he's not being very considerate of your feelings. I'm su...
A: I wonder why you'd want to pursue something with somebody who has a direct problem with people you consider friends. In ...
Q: What is the protocol for eye contact during sex? Is it hot or awkward?
A: Much like with everything sex related, there is no protocol. What's good for one person might suck for another. Pun inte...
A: Well given your obvious lack of belief in your friend (as evidenced by your "thinks she is bisexual" line), I'd say that...
A: While I can't say that being all hogwild into depressing stuff makes on depressed, my guess is that it is possible to pr...
A: Well, it would seem that perhaps your new guy is either extremely naive, inconsiderate, a dbag, or the smartest man on t...
Q: It's been three years and I want something back from my ex. Is it kosher to ask for it back?
A: Interesting question. It brings up a few issues and questions. Let's start with the obvious one: did it really take you ...
A: Can I ask why you care? Are you asking because you still want more so you're looking for any reason to believe this man ...
A: Hate to say it, but you do sound like you might be at the end. When guys are interested, we find ways to spend as much t...
A: I have no idea what his deal is. So let's just ramble through this one a bit. You hook up with a guy who has had a crush...
A: Yeah, I wouldn't buy that. There's NO good reason to put up anything new on a dating site if you've decided that you've ...
Q: is talking annoying during sex ?
A: Well that all depends. Let's say we are about to get our coitus on, right, and as we begin to do the do...I ask you what...
A: You know, we could easily flip this question and ask (similarly) why do all the women go for the same guys and the answe...
A: Let's clear something up. All breakup excuses are legit. And let me tell you why. If a dude decides to breakup with you ...
Q: Hi, why won't my boyfriend poo in front of me?
A: I think the better question is why does it matter? And I'm going to try to make it thru this entire response without onc...
A: Sounds like you're trying to think yourself right out of happiness. The fact of life is that the longer you live the mor...
Q: do most black guys with no job date white girls to take care of them?
A: I'll just ignore the obvious ignorance of the question and answer it anwyay. I'm feeling generous today. So this sounds ...
A: Believe it or not (Ripley), I have heard men say this before. Well, not the message, or massage (I assume you mean massa...
A: The fact that you don't understand this baffles me more than her behavior. But this is something I've noticed about most...
A: I can't say that I've ever fallen in love with two people at once. I actually don't think people have that capacity. Now...
A: You treat like normal and move through life assuming and hoping for the best. You basically have two choices in life: 1)...
A: You're right to question it too. Who moves stuff OUT of a house while their kids are sleeping? You can't leave. It isn't...
A: My question for you is: how are you exactly finishing last if these guys are just going for easy girls? They're not call...
A: I have a question for you...what exactly are you falling for? You barely see him and you go to the movies or the bar. Is...
A: I wish I spoke 100 different languages so I could say "hell no, you shouldn't contact his ex" in all of those different ...
A: Why he's being so cruel is unimportant. I can't even pretend to know aside from some sort of latent jealousy of his frie...
A: I actually don't understand why you're worried at all. Nothing that you've said in your question implies that you're on ...
A: I hate situations like those. And we've all been there. I think that the only way to get over him is to accept that it w...
A: It's not sad but the fact is if you aren't "feeling" it anymore then you're making an already uncomfortable situation wo...
A: Way to stumble on the contradictory nature of man. It's actually a bit of both. Or more like this, a guy WON'T say anyth...
A: I guess that depends on if you think the ends justify the means. Not sure if that fits here perfectly so let me try a di...
A: Or maybe he accidentally packed it. Who knows? Methinks that you could be reading a bit much into this. You could always...
Q: Why does he keep looking at my lips and checking out my ass if he has a girlfriend?
A: Why do you look at clothes at the store when you've got clothes in your closet? Why do you walk by a bakery and look at ...
A: I'm often amazed at how many wome have no idea how to flirt. It's like the female condition is to overthink everything, ...
A: Good call. That's probably exactly what he's trying to do. Unless of course he's just the most insecure chap on the face...
A: Pretty sure he's a perv. In fact, on the perv batting average scale, he's batting a perfect 1.000. Unless of course... ....
A: You should never assume why anybody is holding back. But yes, in theory, if you want a guy to notice you, or pay attenti...
A: Yes. That's exactly what it means. If a guy NEVER ever ever calls you first then it means he's not that interested. So l...
A: It means that it took him two years to ask you for a nude pic of your boobs. Seriously, why are women alarmed by men ask...
A: No, it means he's not freaked out by the idea of having kids period. Unless he's specifically talking about having child...
A: Maybe it just means that the two of you aren't compatible. It happens all of the time. Just because you get along doesn'...
A: You absolutely should give him his money back and tell him to kick rocks. I don't know what he was doing or why, but he ...
A: It means that at some point or other during your three-year-dating life, you've managed to irritate and/or annoy him, As...
A: Absolutely. And it's the best kind too. It's the kind built on real feelings, interests, and emotions unjaded by physica...
A: You know, the only way to get it back is to go out there and dance like nobody's watching. Clichéd as that sounds (and i...
A: Well your simple solution is to merely stop hanging out with him when you know he's going to get drunk. I'm guessing you...
Q: If a guy wants sex ALL the time is he using it to cover up pain?
A: Gonna take a leap here and say that you probably read too many books about psychology or watch too much day time televis...
A: You should absolutely encourage her to move on. I'll never understand why women will meet a man who's in a relationship ...
A: You got me. The only way I'm "cuddling" is its determined that's all that's happening and truth be told I'm going to at ...
A: I love these "lost in translation" questions. Mostly because we all usually know what it means but just need to hear it ...
A: Guys do want hte "cool" girlfriend, but we also (I understand this will be confusing) are conditioned to believe that if...
A: How exactly is he sending mixed signals? Oh, and heeeeeeeeeeeeey DC boo! So yeah, mixed signals? I don't see 'em. For on...
A: It's not a turn off to 99 percent of the male populace. In fact, I feel like your guy gave you the hightest of high comp...
A: Let's just keep this one ALL THE WAY FUNKY. You're not calling BS on anything. At all. You've been there for 11 years? W...
A: I can't decide if this is real or if you're floating an idea for a potential Lifetime Movie. I'm really on the fence abo...
A: Let's be clear here, pumpkin, you're problem isn't because of men. Your problem is your internal indecision and general ...
A: You know, men and women are really emotionally and mentally stunted a lot of times when it comes to dating. And this cou...
A: Well, what it probably means is that you put into his head that a certain life changing situation was about to happen an...
Q: Kissing at red lights or in traffic, acceptable or no? I'm talking at just about every light.
A: And yes folks, this is a real question. I couldn't NOT answer this one. Um, I'm going to say that it's acceptable but re...
A: Call me crazy, but I'd rather deal with a person who does crappy things (words changed for the kiddies) and admits it wi...
A: I think that guys look for hot chicks in any situation, whether it be just for kicks, sex, or marriage. I do think that ...
A: Sista girl...there is no right or wrong time or any particular indicator that you should use to help you determine when ...
A: Well based on what you've stated here, it seems that your ex has decided he wants to get his life together before he bri...
A: Given the fact that is just dinner right now, I think that you can probably cool your jets on worrying about it right no...
Q: What does it mean if a guy gives you a fist bump?
A: Oh glory day, the possibilities. Perhaps he was excited by something that you did and he felt, nay, was compelled to giv...
A: Why don't you really believe him? I'm not into them and frankly don't desire to ever participate in one. Do you believe ...
A: Well here's the vital question: how did you find out? If he got busted then I wouldn't trust him further than I could th...
A: I think that you just tell your grandparents that this is a decision you are making and one that they don't have to like...
Q: Any advice for a girl who is going to see her ex?
A: Hmm...good question. Going to see an ex can be a traumatic or fun experience but it all depends on what expectations you...
A: Obviously it isn't, he's your boyfriend and I doubt this was brand new behavior that just popped out of anywhere. Here's...
A: So here's my question, why is his wife still there? Granted the man should "man up" and stop being a bad husband and ste...
A: Can us menfolks change our minds? Sure. Should you expect it to happen? Not at all. If that man says he's not getting ma...
A: I'm gonna go ahead and say, no. I'd scream it from the top of a tall building but I live in DC, our buildings are tiny. ...
A: You had me at sexy boothang! And yes, I do see what you did there. The reason why your ex boothang keeps keeping you in ...
A: Congratulations, you're dating a man. From the sounds of it and your question, I'm guessing your still young. And just t...
A: You are being a crazy girlfriend. And it sounds like you might have some insecurity issues that you need to address. I c...
A: Don't be skerred. Sorry, couldn't resist. Is it too fast? Possibly. Possibly not. The only people who determine that are...
Q: Why would a man not mention he has a child? Or talk about his child?
A: Interesting question. Probably because he thinks that by talking to you about his child or mentioning his child, it will...
A: I think you just need to tell him that you'd like more time with him. Sometimes we just don't realize that we're not spe...
A: Well basically, he's a douche. Plain and simple. He's probably a bit selfish...but mostly he's a douche. He is trying to...
A: Hmm...good question. I think that the best way to approach is to do it without trying to manipulate him into telling you...
A: Much like soft pr0n and a rascal flat, I'm not sure that one can truly define a "good hug" or quantify its quality. It's...
A: Why are you so torn up to find out that men rate you. I'm not even quite sure what list that you're talking about, but t...
A: Well, my suggestion for you would be to go the types of places you like to go. There's no magic formula for meeting nice...
Q: What does it mean if your boyfriend never invites you over to his house?
A: It means that he is not your boyfriend. Of course, this is all hinging on how long you have been dating, but just in gen...
Q: What does it mean when a guy keeps pushing to sing a romantic karaoke song with you at a bar?
A: You know, I think you're asking the wrong question. The question isn't what it means if he wants you to sing a song with...
A: There are three types of girls at bars: The fierce and calculating Tiger Girl who struts it up, begs for attention and i...
A: Compliments will get you everywhere! Now regarding your crush, he's doing what he actually needs to be doing right now. ...
A: You get the award for question taking a turn that I didn't see coming. Really, why are some guys so skinny? You kilt me ...
A: I think you're both right, however, if I have to take sides to settle an argument: then they win. It takes a whole lot f...
A: While I'm not sure it means he doesn't care as much (though you'd be well within your rights to feel that way), it does ...
A: Well, it seems that you recognize that you have a problem which is the most important part of fixing any problem. As far...
A: So why do you feel compelled to tell him now? Do you think he needs to know that so that going forward he can hopefully ...
A: Practice really. Look, being "naughty" and "talking dirty" is an acquired taste unless you're just a perv to begin with....
A: I have no idea how old you are, but I decided to answer this one anyway. I figure you're probably in your late teens but...
Q: What does it mean when a guy says "don't fall in love with me"?
A: You know, despite how simple this is, this is actually a good question. And here's why. Rolled up (no Wiz Khalifa) into ...
A: I don't think that any guy minds as long as he actually likes you. Much like any interaction in life, regardless of gend...
A: I'm confused. Nicknames are moving to quick but Skyping right away isn't? Maybe I'm just an old fogey, but unless he's c...
A: Well either your boyfriend is most inconsiderate summammab***h ever or he's the least affectionate person on the planet....
A: I wish I could tell you that it was complete and total BS but I actually believe it to be true. While all men don't have...
A: He was absolutely your emotional tampon and now that he's got somebody else to dote on, you're feeling threatened or pos...
A: Good question. And fairly straight forward and simple to boot: a guy who is laid back about making plans will suggest th...
A: Well....this one is tricky. I mean you decided to date a man five months off a marriage (is he actually divorced at this...
A: Girl, you betta work it. Do YO thang. I don't know that there's ever a wrong time. He will love to get those pictures at...
A: Really?? You were conditional friends. More than likely the kind of friend that he was interested in seeing nude. As soo...
Q: When should I tell a guy that I have a child?
A: Good question. I'm almost sure that there's never a right time and truthfully, it all depends on the guy you're dating. ...
Q: Sometimes he likes me to be big spoon... weird?
A: That's so weird that I honestly have no clue what the hell you're even talking about. But it's Friday (Friday, Friday......
A: Good question. I think men fall into two separate groups: 1) those who won't look at your Facebook page at all; or 2) th...
A: Congratulations. You've just won the award for possibly the most chaotic question I've read since starting here at Guysp...
A: I see no issue at all with online dating. Hell, as we speak, I'm getting my online pimp on across the nation. Area codes...
A: I guess I'm slightly confused. You broke up with him but you're asking if it's a lost cause? You weren't happy so you to...
A: How is it that you weren't snooping? From where I'm sitting, you look like a text book snoop. And you're absolutely righ...
A: You're not alone in your quest for more affection. Many women complain of the same thing. The good news is that yes, it ...
Q: Why is my boyfriend so apathetic about becoming an uncle?
A: Because it's not his kid? And are you reading his lack of excitement as total apathy? Is he obligated to be bouncing off...
A: While I absolutely think that beautiful women - and people in general - have it much easier in life than the rest of us,...
A: Some guys will definitely notice a pedicure. I'm not one of them unless some zany color schemes or eccentric designs are...
A: Well, unfortunately, that's exactly what you're going to have to do. You'll need to practice, practice, practice. I'm ki...
A: Interesting question. And I think you may be pretty spot-on accurate. If a guy refers to you as merely "beautiful or pre...
A: You know, sexting is one of those things that is either great or terrible. You've just got to determine what is for you ...
A: No, you shouldn't. But you also need to tell your partner that you aren't really feeling the loving the way you need to....
A: Just start out by saying, " we need to talk about what happened." If he says "nothing happened and there's nothing to ta...
A: Well, aren't you the "don't tell me the truth, tell me what I want to hear" type. So here a few ways you can try (that w...
A: While I've definitely come across some women who absolutely stunned me with how gorgeous they were - this actually happe...
A: I'm sorry, but I'm confused as to how you could be used when you're in an admitted FWB situation? So you've gone some ti...
A: It's definitely not too serious. The man needs underwear and is obviously not going to get them on his own. He'll probab...
A: Yeah, its suspicious. Any time somebody is hiding something from you, it's because they don't want you to know about it....
A: No. There aren't. And any way that you might try would be manipulative and potentially evil and could cause you severe b...
A: What exactly constitutes stupid things? I don't think you need an ego boost, what I think you need is to take some time ...
A: I think it is a normal (and unfair) reaction from a lot of guys. He's probably got a lot going on in his mind and he doe...
Q: What is up with guys poking girls constantly on Facebook???
A: I've never understood the poke function Facebook. At all. Is it just to let somebody know that you're thinking about the...
A: I'd rather have the woman with an average body and a lot of self-confidence. Every time. This is a good question because...
A: How about some years from now? See, you messed up by trying to make a point. Then you realized how trivial that was and ...
Q: when a guy says "no" when you ask to look at his phone what does that mean?
A: It means that he does not want you looking at his phone. Well thats just the main meaning. There could be several subser...
A: Based solely on the information that you provided, I have no idea why no guy seems to want you. I will say this though, ...
A: Well this particular guy is sending you mixed signals because you're letting him. You are waiting for him to decide he w...
A: I'm not sure I actually agree with your general premise. I don't know that Black or Latino men are more upfront than whi...
A: You know, there are much worse people he could be talking about all the time. What if he had an insane crush on, like, S...
A: No, you're not overreacting. While I understand what he's saying - to a degree - the fact is that if he always does it, ...
A: You've forgotten the third possible choice: he's a stalker. There's no coincidence in passing somebody four times in an ...
Q: Why does it bother me for my husband to look at other women?
A: Because you're a woman and obviously prone to unreasonable jealousy. And no, I don't think all women are prone to unreas...
Q: What's so great about lingerie if you're only going to take it off?
A: I'm with you. One hunred percent. I've never understood the whole concept of lingerie. For me, it's just like non-physic...
A: Well, your boyfriend is selfish. And you are an enabler. See, he tells you he won't do it, so he doesn't. However, you t...
A: Why are you assuming that you have to have that particular pet name for him anyway. Has he asked you to call him "babe"?...
A: I'm not sure what you're confused about. Based on your history, what you're dealing with seems completely logical. You h...
A: First of all, thank you for being a fan of Very Smart Brothas and for buying our book. That means a lot. It's also very ...
A: I'm gonna go with absentminded. I'm guessing he's not doing it on purpose, he just never learned the rules of social dec...
Q: If a guy introduces me as his girl does that mean he considers me his girlfriend?
A: Why not ask him? No, really. I have no clue. Chances are he definitely thinks more of you than not being his girl. If I ...
Q: "I'm just afraid of losing you altogether by failing you now." What does this mean please?
A: I'll take a stab at this. I think what this means is that, "I really value you as a person and I know I'm not ready to b...
A: Based on your statement, I'd say dude either has no clue you're into him or is trying to let you know that he's not into...
A: I don't think you were anything other than a friend. A good friend at that and the kind of friend he was happy to have a...
A: Well, that's because he didn't want to be with you in the first place. Sure, he liked/likes you but that's because you w...
A: Right or wrong implies that there is some overarching law governing text message decorum. While there should be, accordi...
A: You get nervous and just start blurting out obscene statements? Do you have Tourette syndrome? And I'm not joking, I'm b...
A: I'm kind of amazed that you had conversations with your (now) husband about kids and nobody EVER asked, "hey, how many d...
A: Yes, you are. While there are pleny of television shows and random jokes floating around about men bouncing on a chick a...
A: It's still messed up, but it probably is very common. I think the least you can do is peace somebody out via phone. But ...
A: It's not an unfair request given that the bedroom bojanglin' cleary matters to you. Now, I will say considering it a dea...
A: I'm not sure who generally recommends that. In fact, I'd recommend the exact opposite. I think you should be able to fin...
A: No it's not totally weird (though you might be insane for other reasons). Thing is, you've fallen in love with the idea ...
A: I think this counts as one of those times when if you have to ask the question, you might already know the answer. But l...
A: Ouch. I'm sorry to hear about your predicament. But here's what you need to do. You need to be straight up and very hone...
A: I can honestly say that this is the strangest question I think I've had here on Guyspeak. And truly, I'm unsure what's g...
A: Ask him. Unless of course I'm the sober friend you smashed off while drunk. In which case, nuh uh. Though, I'm not sure ...
A: I don't know, I'm kind of lost. So he took you to his place once. You've seen it. You know it exists. You've been inside...
Q: what do you guys mean when you say were cupcaking it?
A: It depends on the context, but generally speaking, cupcaking is a term that means he's smitten to the point of going out...
A: Perhaps he is...a little. You broke up with him because you had too much going on. Not to be a bad person, but that soun...
Q: Is it okay to ask a guy to prom as a friend if he's in a relationship?
A: I tend to stay away from questions from folks who have never heard of Reading Rainbow but I figure you need some real he...
Q: Can best friends be sex friends without any feelings?
A: Gonna go out on a limb here and say no. Everybody swears that they can cross that bridge and come out safely on the othe...
A: To question whether or not he was thinking with his penis would mean that perhaps he met some other woman after two mont...
A: Yeah, you have every right to be upset with your boyfriend about that. He's being a douche. While merely telling another...
Q: Why would a guy ask me if I like his best friend?
A: Because if you say yes, then he can come clean about the fact that he likes your best friend and he can safely suggest y...
A: Your particular brand of boyfriend is one of those who might not be so open to doing things he doesn't want to do, so in...
A: If you told him that you would let him know then you absolutely should bring it back up. Closed mouths don't get fed. Yo...
A: Quite simply, while he has a girlfriend all you can do is just stop dealing with him. Nothing more, nothing less. And ye...
A: I'm sure that the guy does like you. Nobody keeps in touch with somebody for two years without any shellacking unless th...
A: Very, very slowly and carefully. See, you're not just asking for traditional roles or something. Or for some ice cream. ...
A: Sasha Grey? Is that you? Are you still dating Vinnie Chase? I thought you broke it off with him. Scandal. Swindle. Your ...
Q: WHAT IF I THINK MY HUSBAND IS ON THE DOWN LOW? WHAT CAN I DO TO FIND OUT?
A: You know, that's an interesting question. I don't know if there's anything you can explicitly do-without breaking any la...
A: Absolutely, you should wait it out. For one, he has a girlfriend that you claim to respect, which means that he is off l...
Q: How do you tell a man you have been dating he smells?
A: You know, I can't tell you how many women I know who have told me that the man they were dating just, smelled. I find th...
A: This brings up an interesting point. I've had various debates with people about whether or not its "bom" or "bow". Every...
A: I guess I wonder why you feel foolish? Are you interested in him as a boyfriend? I suppose I get it from the, "just anot...
A: Hate to tell you that you're right, but you probably are. You might be a distraction for him from his real life with a w...
A: So, wait are things starting to get more serious on your end or his end? Trust me, if a guy says he isn't looking for a ...
Q: What's a good way to subtly ask a guy if he has a girlfriend? Please don't say 'just ask him'!
A: Okay. I won't say "just ask him". I'll just say, "inquire." How about that?...
A: It's in your best interest to find out what happened because how in the world will you know if you can have anything wit...
A: Interesting question. On a first date, a man is trying to figure out two things: 1) Is this a woman I genuinely like and...
A: Sure you can let him know that. But be prepared for some resistance. Not sure if you're aware of this but people don't r...
A: Hate to tell you this, pumpkin, but no man is going to leave you because you're too nice and too courteous. If anything ...
A: The butterflies are important to get you into the door, but its unfair to expect them to last forever. I'm sure it can h...
A: Yeah. Your life does suck. You win some. You lose some. But the fact that you can pay attention to his status updates me...
A: Hmmm...interesting question. Could his feelings have changed for you so suddenly? Maybe you're asking the wrong question...
A: So you can get him to commit to talking on the phone every night but not seeing you regularly? Who are you dating? The v...
Q: Any advice for a good girl stuck in an unhealthy cycle of bad boy love games?
A: So you know everything you are currently doing in relation to the dating world? Do the exact opposite....
A: Well, assuming that body hair even does gross out a guy - there is an entire segment of the male populace who actually l...
A: Take everything in this video and do the EXACT opposite. ...
A: You can either call him back until you get an answer and an explanation...which is likely never coming, or you can take ...
A: It's not a bad sign so much as it's a sign that he had no idea what to get you and went for simple, easy, and utilataria...
A: So he stopped seeing you, calling you, texting you, Facebooking you - so you decided to end it. Hate to tell you, sister...
A: I'm confused. Why are you trying to move on already? You said you don't want a title but you're ready to roll because yo...
A: Well I think that you might have answered your own question. Your guy might very well be interested in you, but he's als...
A: While I'm sure there are camps out there that would say, "sure, go ahead, it's innocent" I'm going to say, no. It is not...
A: I think people think men and women are so different because really, we are. If you troll any number of websites, forums,...
Q: Why are socks such bad gifts?
A: Since it's the holiday season and people are out shopping for gifts, I thought I'd specifically answer this question. So...
A: Interesting question. I think it depends on how we broke up. If it was mutual then I don't think I'd care one way or ano...
A: Looks like you have yourself a pickle. I've actually been in this situation before, or what I presume to be this situati...
Q: what happens when the pros and the cons of a person are exactly the same?
A: In my estimation, it's probably time to let that person go. Here's my thinking on this. If you're going to go so far as ...
Q: What does it mean when a guy can remember what you wore when you first met him 2 years ago?
A: It mostly means that he has an exceptional memory. But more than that, it could mean that you made THAT much of an impre...
Q: do most men want sons or daughters and why?
A: I think every man wants a son to continue on his alleged "legacy". There's something about having a son and keeping your...
Q: do man really stop wanting sex after moving in with their girl.
A: No. Man no really want stop sex after moving in with their girl. Man want more sex after moving in with girl. Man see gi...
A: One month you say? Hate to tell you but this dude is doing exactly what he'll do the entire duration of your relationshi...
Q: what does the saying blame it on the rain mean?
A: Well the saying is a reference to the 1989 hit song of the same name by Milli Vanilli. It was a huge single and made it ...
A: Negativity sucks, plain and simple. It can't be easy at all dealing with somebody who's makes Eeyore look like an optimi...
Q: What does "I care for you" mean?
A: Good question. "I care for you" can mean any variation of the following: 1. I really like sleeping with you but that's a...
Q: what does it hug with two hands? Always touching you guy hugs you?
A: Of all of the questions I've received here at Guyspeak, this is hands down the most befuddling. So I'll simply say that ...
A: Sounds like you have the kind of chap that believes in traditional gender roles. That might be a stretch as you only gav...
Q: Do guys make mix CDs for girls they have no interest in?
A: Absolutely not. Do you know how much time and effort goes into making a proper mix CD? Any guy worth his weight in salt ...
A: It's time for a little honesty and some things you don't want to hear that you won't like. Heeeeeeeeeeeeeere we go. A gu...
Q: What are some signs that my boyfriend wants to marry me in the future
A: Good question. He tells you he wants to marry you. I'm here every Friday. Thank you and good night....
A: In the pantheon of questions I really never expected to read here at Guyspeak, this has to be at the top of the list. Se...
A: My inclination is to think that in the short term (and assuming that there is some desire to get back together) the dump...
A: Not at all. We hate them more than we hate promotions, nice cars, democracy, and success in life....
A: Is it wrong? No. Absolutely not. However, the fact that you're even questioning whether you should leads me to believe t...
Q: how do i know when a guy is going to ask me out?
A: Because I feel adventurous, let's see if I can expand the actual answer of, "When he asks you" into 300 words. Are you r...
Q: Why would my husband lie to me about seeing his ex girlfriend in a store?
A: Let me preface this by saying, THIS WILL MAKE ABSOLUTELY NO SENSE TO NINETY-EIGHT PERCENT OF WOMEN. The other two percen...
Q: What is the best way to keep a man from wanting to have sex outside of the relationship...
A: Hate to tell you this, but you can't. There's nothing you can do to stop your man from straying. It has to be a personal...
Q: what is your opinion on taking a month long break in a relationship
A: I think that if you're taking a month-long break, you are effectively broken up and have permission to go smang somebody...
A: Well I think women want attention all the time because, well that means that a man is thinking about you. To be fair, I ...
Q: why does my bf always talk to me about marriage and kids?
A: I don't purport to be a genius. I don't understand anything that happened in Matrix 2. I remember once in my Linear Alge...
Q: why do men answer a question with well see and not give a yes or no answer?
A: Men answer with "we'll see" as a courtesy to the women we love. See, generally, when you ask a question of us that elici...
Q: Is it ok to send a guy flowers?
A: Sure it is. It's okay to do a lot of things. For instance, it's okay to run naked through a park near your home. Will yo...
A: Let me tell you sister, if you're giving off an aurora you really should go get that checked out posthaste. Like pronto....
Q: Do guys stills view fishnet tights as something only prostitutes wear?
A: While fishnets are no longer strictly associated with women of the night, there is still a certain, I don't know - as th...
A: You ask an intriguing quesion. Why the hell are you still single? Deep. Such profound study has intrigued men for eons. ...
Q: If you're in a serious relationship you should have contact every day. Your thoughts?
A: By contact do you mean physically seeing one another or do you just mean some sort of contact like via text, phone, Skyp...
A: It is possible? Sure. I'm reminded of the eloquent statement on love: It takes a minute to like someone, an hour to love...
Q: Do guys like it when girls make a lot of noise in bed?
A: I think its more of a personal preference thing on the "noise" in bed thing. However, one thing most men (and women for ...
A: There's no law that says women are supposd to want the family life and men aren't. Your boyfriend is probably just think...
A: Just between me, you, and everybody else reading this: why WERE you looking through your internet history? Were you tryi...
A: My rule on ultimatums is not to give them. Ultimatums are not for the faint of heart. The only time you should give one ...
A: I'm not sure I'd trust anything that anybody said while they were drunk, high, stoned, Tiger Woods, or all of the above....
A: You ask a very good question and a very difficult one to answer. When somebody cheats on us and we decide to take them b...
A: For starters, good luck! As far as pointers go, here are a few that might work for you. It's quite courageous to be a wo...
A: Smart man. He pulled a classic chick move. I can't tell you how many times I've witnessed a woman basically pull the plu...
A: I think you're going to be in a pickle here. The only way to discuss this is to bring it straight to the table as it is:...
A: If by domestic disclipline you mean a relationship where one party (usually the husband I assume) has the authority over...
A: The only way you can, you specifically ask him if he's bisexual because you know that he's been out making out with othe...
A: Considering that the relationship is new, it's possible that he means exactly what he said. It could be an age thing. Pe...
A: Just between me and you, the last time I physically appraisenced somebody, two squirrels bit the dust. Oh and to answer ...
Q: OK im a Book hoarder... is that bad?
A: What exactly do you mean that you're a book hoarder? Caveat: For some reason, the show Hoarders has totally gone mainstr...
A: Right or wrong, I think your boyfriend is just doing what men do. He has a goal he wants to see through in order to feel...
A: Dear Friend held in "highest esteem" - Your guy friend was very nicely telling you he views you as a friend. You know wh...
A: How do you know he never did it with his exes or with anybody else? I'm almost positive he mentions it in passing to peo...
A: This is actually a pretty terrible idea. You said it yourself that he's rarely on Facebook anyway, so you'd just be post...
A: Perhaps a text or an email - something that doesn't require him to talk to you or answer your calls but that he is very ...
A: Flattery will get you everywhere. :) As far as your question goes, I think that you should confront him about it and giv...
Q: what if a guy tells you that you're fat? does he mean it?
A: I don't know. I guess it depends on if you're fat or not. And I mean that in the nicest way possible....
A: I'm not even going to pretend to understand this question. Were you all shagging for hours and right around 6am he reali...
Q: why do girls always think they're the exception?
A: Ego. Plain and simple. Women refuse to accept the fact that they're not different from every other woman. Every chick be...
A: I think online dating is a totally viable way to find a date. Shucks, I know two people who found their husbands via onl...
Q: What does a guy mean when he writes, "I was glad to read your email"?
A: Friday came early this week kiddies. It's time for an other edition of WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?!?! But since I'm of benevole...
A: My first question to you is why are you and your ex - who you're attracted to - attempting to maintain a platonic relati...
Q: Why do Y'all Take So Long To Tx Back
A: Because Texas is REALLY REALLY far....
Q: what does it mean when your boyfriend says you have a beautiful face?
A: You know, I love questions like these, and for a few reasons. For one, I'm assuming this person is either 12 or EXTREMEL...
A: Sounds like game to me. Heck, if it works, I'd like to make sure I send that out to as many guys as I know as a means of...
A: Hmm...I'm going to go ahead and say that most of the time, if a guy says, "I appreciate you" it means just that but it A...
Q: can i ask my ex what went wrong in our realtionship?
A: You sure can. As long as you don't expect answers, you can ask him anything you want. Shucks, you can ask him what he wa...
A: It is if you have a tremendous ego. It's not like you said the first to make you feel like a natural woman. You said the...
Q: What can I do to make him kiss me more?
A: Glad you asked. There are lots of things you can do to get more smoochey in your life. 1) Ask him to kiss you more. Mayb...
A: While I realize its easier said than done, you have to stop comparing yourself to her. For one, he's not with her anymor...
A: While I don't know if I can legally say that you should or shouldn't marry this guy I will say this: until he is a husba...
A: No, a guy won't ask a coworker out because he's smart. Forget fear of rejection of fear of a sexual harrassment charge (...
A: Wow, I didn't realize all the guys in Finland were shy. How tragic. Perhaps you should head on over to Sweden or Norway....
A: While it might be nervewracking, there really is no better way to determine if a guy is in a relationship than by asking...
A: The law of averages alone tells you that it will pay off at some point. Here's the thing about taking chances - there's ...
A: Worth pursuing and pursuable are two different monsters. Sure it's probably worth pursuing. The chance to meet a new per...
A: Perhaps you should stop taking their calls OR go out on the dates and TANK them. When people refuse to believe what you ...
A: There are two schools of thought to this question, kind of like Economics with Classical and Keynesian theory. Except no...
A: I think the better question is are you for real? Do you really want to take on the job of dating a man with a 4-year old...
A: You answered your own question: it's not a deal-breaker. He doesn't like doing it for whatever reason and you never made...
A: Oh...why not. I'm going to assume his habit isn't his headdress and gear and he's really a nun. In which case, no, you c...
A: Heya Caitlin, thanks for asking. I'll take a stab at this one. While there are definitely more than three things that an...
A: I'm confused as to why you think that men are intimidated because you won three episodes of Jeopardy. I'm confused as to...
A: Sure, I'll be your BFF for one minute! As if! Well what you do is ask your homegirls to introduce you to guys that they ...
Q: My S.O. wants to "take care of me". What does he mean?
A: Hmmm...good question. This could mean any number of things, as the term "take care of me (you)" is as old as history its...
Q: How can I know a guy is a player by looking at him?
A: Have you looked at the picture of John DeVore? Of course you have. Well he's a reformed player. So I suppose that means ...
A: Some guys do. I've heard songs that have reminded me of women in my life or times in my life full of romance, etc. Thoug...
A: I'm not a rocket surgeon or anything, but I'm guessing he's willling to pay for it because you can't afford it and he ca...
A: I can honestly say that I've never been called King before. Even playing Checkers, nobody would respect my crown. Those ...
A: Quite the opposite actually. If a guy wasn't into you, he definitely wouldn't want to hang out a third time - unless you...
A: You did miss something, homey. It's not that she didn't want to be in a relationship, it's that she didn't want to be in...
Q: why do people always ask the same questions on this site?
A: You ask a good question. I'm guessing the reason most folks are asking the same questions over and over is that, well, e...
A: Avoid him at all costs? Or her? Hell, it doesn't matter if its him or her...just avoid them. Perhaps pick up a hobby as ...
Q: why do men look at other women when they are with you?
A: Because other women exist and will continue to do so. Our eyes wander because the world is filled with a lot of things t...
Q: do guys call you back after they stonewall you for months?
A: While the answer to this seems obvious, I can't tell you how many variations of this question I've seen here at Guyspeak...
A: Yeah, it's perfectly fine to do so. There's no way to apologize wrong. Well that's not true. If ALL you do is just apolo...
A: I think it all depends on the tattoo. You're right, its almost odd to find a woman (or a man for that matter) without a ...
Q: How do u know if a man enjoyed sex with u, but doesn't say anything?
A: I think that 9 out of 10 dentists would tell you that if man has sex, he enjoys sex. Now, its not to say that all sex is...
Q: is it weird to ask a guy about his past relationships ?
A: I don't think so. In fact, it's only natural to ask him about his past relationships. In further fact, it's weird to not...
Q: How do I save my best guy friend from being whipped?
A: I don't think you can. Have you seen what a whipped man looks like? That is a man who is fully engulfed in anti-manlaw b...
A: WTF indeed. So he effectively broke up with you, but you argued with him that you all should make a more definitive spli...
Q: I'm 29 and never been in a relationship. Is that normal?
A: No. While I don't think you need to have been in twelve or fifteen serious relationships, having a few serious relations...
A: Well I think all you can do is keep apologizing and hope that perhaps he'll decide to give you another chance. I mean yo...
Q: When a guy says you're expensive, but it is a good thing?
A: Generally no. In fact not even generally no. It's not a good thing ever if a guy thinks you're expensive. Even a very, v...
A: The way that you describe yourself doesn't sound like you're too nice. It just sounds like you're a woman who can take c...
Q: How can I figure out whether my best guy friend that i've known for 7 years wants to date me???
A: I love Fridays. And do you know why I love Fridays? I love them because they're almost Saturday but not quite Thursday. ...
A: From where I'm sitting I think that you should absolutely bring it up. But not just with your gay best friend (gbf) but ...
Q: What do guys think about the first time their girl farts in front of them?
A: Probably, WOW, what did she eat? Look there are entire schools of thought dedicated to women farting and burping around ...
A: He's not being too shallow at all. Bad breath is not like an extra long toe nail. I'm pretty sure that countries have fa...
Q: What does a married guy mean when he says he wants to spend the night with you?
A: I have to be honest here, I suck at nuance. That could very well be because I'm a guy, but when folks are all cryptic an...
A: Good question. There are a lot of potential ultimate guy flicks. I've always been partial to The Terminator series (with...
Q: Would a guy friend modificate his behaviour around you if he discovered that you're into him ?
A: I can't lie, I went STRAIGHT to dictionary.com to find out of modificate was a word. And it turns out it is, in Spanish....
A: Every so often we get questions that make me realize that women have ABSOLUTELY no idea what in the world is going on wh...
A: I'm so lost. So you and your close friend are like brothers - which makes you a dude...right? But he has a girlfriend. A...
Q: Are little dogs good choices for pets?
A: Sure, why not? Though this largely depends on your lifestyle. I'm completely against having a tiny dog around. I have lo...
A: I find it curious that you're wondering who the idiot is here when you are the one who sent an unwanted drunk text to so...
Q: In what way exactly should I hug a guy in order to turn him on?
A: Great question. Nobody really cares about the intricacies of a proper sensual hug anymore. Nowadays it's all just hugs a...
A: Here's the thing. Good girls might now win while us men are younger and more interested in experiencing life. But in the...
A: Seeing as physical therapy is generally a requirement for back pain, I don't know that you should automatically be think...
Q: What do men notice in a girl first (physically), and what makes them hooked for good?
A: Men do exactly what you think we do. The first things we physically notice about women are the ladyparts. Boobs stand ou...
A: That fact that your boyfriend's best friend keeps cracking these jokes signifies to me that your boyfriend has some boun...
A: Well I think you suck it up and realize that your boyfriend is not his family. If he's a good dude, he'll make sure to d...
Q: is it okay to say i love you first?
A: It is. Somebody has to say it first, why not let it be you? While I understand the hesitation and the prevailing notion ...
A: I can't see any reason to let your boyfriend no. Short of wanting a reaction out of him, there's no need. I'm a firm bel...
Q: how do i get through toa thug
A: My first suggestion is by collect call to whatever correctional institution he might be staying in. Then perhaps a lette...
A: I think that your guy is lucky to have a woman like you who can actually cook AND do laundry. Let me tell you, I've been...
A: Is it not possible that we are just really fond of memories? Why do you hate love? By the way, I love a good disconnect....
A: Seems like your boyfriend has control issues. He doesn't mind having the conversation on his terms so long as he's comfo...
A: Good question. It is also an interesting one since I'd assume this would stereotypically be the other way around. For st...
A: I'm not sure how you get him to want to have sex again, since I'm pretty sure he's having sex somewhere. Not to be the b...
A: Every so often I read questions that remind me that I'm either completely behind the times when it comes to slang and us...
A: Well, there are two possible scenarios here. The first scenario is that he still has feelings for his ex and is possibly...
A: Sweetie, you do realize that he's not coming back right? At least not back for anything more than a late night booty cal...
A: I understand that you're not having fun with your single friends when you go out with them, but unless I missed somethin...
A: Maybe he doesn't tell you what he likes and loves about the experience that you all just had because he's a) still relis...
A: Maybe you can give him a rebel yell or something? I assume he means that you are to quiet when you are doing the do. If ...
A: I have no clue but I sure do hope you called him back. Anybody calling 48 times MUST have something important to say. He...
A: Well this depends on the context: are you a tease because you are an overzealous flirt who will tell a guy that you want...
A: It is most certainly a male pride thing. And if he insists, well, then yes, you should let him pay for whatever he wants...
A: I don't think any man would expect you to shave everyday, but why is "groom" in quotes? Like what does it mean to "groom...
Q: Plain and simple: do guys find "bacne" unattractive?
A: I think every Friday, I'm going just answer a question that doesn't need answering. Yes, I think that's what I'll do. Ki...
A: I'm guessing he's doing a bit of both because he's self-conscious about it - probably from watching too much pr0n or som...
Q: Do men view women with child/children different to women without chil/children?
A: This all depends on the man and where he is at in life. I'm guessing a 20-year old would view a woman with kids differen...
A: I'm confused as to what you're confused about. You are in swoon with a guy going to jail for five years. I'm glad that y...
A: My advice would be to have sex with him. That should shut him up. Plus, then you have the built in excuse of him putting...
A: Good question, glad you asked. Here are a list of dos and don'ts for the men's bathroom. Do use the bathroom. There is n...
A: I assume you are referring to the age old woman quandry of why men leave the toilet seat up. And yes Virginia, it is tri...
Q: is it possible that my boyfriend could be cheating on me with someone that can be his moms age?
A: Man, I always get the hard questions! Let me think long and hard on this one (no Bang Bros)... Yes. Whew. That took a lo...
A: Maybe your body is giving off extra coldness or something that is covered by your pjs in the winter time. So your naked ...
A: I assume that you are using the word "boyfriend" loosely. There is no way in Hades that you can be dating somebody serio...
Q: How can i tell my Long Distance Boyfriend we have no future together unless he moves back?
A: I think the best way would be to say "we have no future unless you move back." Yeah, I think that does it. Succint and t...
A: Why do you still want a relationship with a guy you just started dating considering that you are on the way out of town ...
Q: Is self - injury a deal breaker for guys?
A: If by self-injury you mean injuring yourself for pleasure (?) then, yes. For most guys I'm guessing that would be a majo...
Q: Do you mind if a girl bites her fingernails?
A: I couldn't care less if a girl bites her fingernails. If you bite schlongs, trees, or bats,THEN Portland, we have a prob...
A: Despite what most people think, it is harder to find just a f*buddy, for women specifically. The guys you'd think would ...
Q: If I get off to girl on girl porn, does that make me a lesbian?
A: Not at all. In fact, I addressed a similar idea in this post here. Some women are just able to appreciate the female for...
A: I won't say never, because you really never know. There could be some non-religious guy out there in his late 20s who wi...
A: Ah, the close friend who watches his homegirl slore her way through life but never gets the pudding. One word for you pa...
A: I'm not even sure men are better at hiding it. How many women have had an ex call you up after months JUST to say hello ...
Q: what did you think of erykah badu's window seat video, PJ?
A: I thought it was a pretty overblown from an artistic standpoint and frankly pretty boring. Well, all except the faces of...
Q: How do you guys like your sex
A: (It's Friday, might as well have fun.) I prefer mine stir-fried. But I cannot claim to know all the best ways to have yo...
A: Nope. If you know he's not interested, you're just putting him in an unnecessary awkward position to have to tell you th...
A: I'd be remiss if I didn't just ask this upfront: why are you dating a guy that you think is gay? Perhaps that's just you...
A: Hm, how exactly does one end up dating somebody - officially - with whom they're not sexually compatible. And make no mi...
A: I'm going to wager that they're pretty high. In a perfect world, you could frolick nude and bare as the day is long and ...
A: I'd think he's either from a place where arranged marriages happen OR he's REALLY got to grab his nuts and man up. Not t...
A: Certainly. It is my pleasure to let you know what happens at strip clubs on a Saturday night to married men. Ahem. First...
A: Interesting question. I'm going to go ahead and say that about 98 percent of guys don't care about nipple size, they're ...
A: Yes it annoys us for a few reasons: 1) You already know the answer. So why are you asking? Unless you decide to put on a...
A: You're not being ridiculous at all. A lot of the trust issues that most women have with men comes directly from the rela...
Q: Why do men shut down when women get angry with them or fight with them?
A: Because we don't want to be arguing or fighting with you. We shut down because we don't enjoy the annoying complaint ses...
Q: he doesn't want to engage in foreplay. why not?
A: Because he's selfish, plain and simple. You're dating the dude whose sole purpose is get his rocks off. Has he always be...
A: Well this truly depends on how old you are. If you are under-18, this means that he thinks he loves you because, what el...
A: Anytime both parites can win, its a good day to be alive. Or American. Or alive in America. Do you know what totally suc...
A: Unless you work in Hollywood, I'd wager that it's probably not best to date the boss. By the way, this question went abo...
Q: What do I do if I've been with my girl a year or more and she still doesn't trust me?
A: Well, hombre, my advice would to be get another girlfriend. Okay, that might be jumping the gun a little but let's delve...
A: So you've been faking it the whole 2 years? Wow. What a trooper. I don't understandt he resentment part, considering how...
A: Thanks on the congratulations. It was a long, hard trail. Kind of like a happy trail, except the exact opposite. Actuall...
Q: How do you get a guy to become better at eating out their girlfriend without hurting their ego?
A: While the male ego is a truly sacred national treasure, it can be overcome with nuance. Finesse is also a great way for ...
A: While I completely understand that want him to open up to you and express his feelings, that's not the guy that you have...
A: You know, you need to ask certain questions, but maybe not the ones you think. For instance, you mostly need to find out...
Q: how can i get my guy to lick my butt?
A: Ah, the old tossed salad. Good question as I imagine most men (and women, for that matter) would probably be less than i...
A: Well there are probably two problems here: 1) You aren't that interesting. If you were more interesting, guys wouldn't j...
Q: How do I try and get my guy to try new moves in the bedroom with me?
A: Broaching the topic of monkey chandelier sex can be a difficult one. You don't want to suggest too much too soon or your...
Q: If a guy confines a girl to the friend zone, does that always mean he finds her unattractive?
A: Not at all. You can be the most attractive woman on Earth and be relegated to the friend zone. You see, you might ALSO b...
A: Sounds like your dude's personal rule but I mean, it isn't mandated in the Constitution or the Bill of Rights or anythin...
A: While you're not leading him on - yet - you are definitely sending him a mixed signal. If you're not interested, why did...
Q: how do you tell your boyfriend that you have an std?
A: Probably via text, depending of course, on whether or not you contracted it from him. If you didn't have an STD before y...
A: Um, no? And what do you mean you're not sure. Can't you just, ya know, ASK somebody? Perhaps a parent or somebody who mi...
Q: is flirting with other guys while in a relationship good?
A: Generally it's frowned upon, much like sleeping with other people, flashing other people, wrestling with other people wh...
Q: How do I get my boyfriend to get rid of the hair on his back?
A: I'm guessing you're going to have to run up on him when he gets out of the shower with some scissors and some clippers a...
A: Perhaps. But what it really means is that the rumor about you or that rash you are alleged to have had has finally been ...
Q: So... 6 dates.... no smooch.... lots of texting and calls between dates, but no smooch.... WTH?
A: WTH and WTF indeed. Either you're dating the most conservative man in America or he's a really, really big fan of women ...
Q: is it ok for a girl to wait for her man while he is in prison.
A: Okay gets into a morality/judgement thing. And since I'm only human, flesh and blood, a man (ahem...), I'll just say tha...
Q: Is skin of all types attractive to men?
A: Absolutely not. Look, men are visual creatures. If you have skin that resembles those lizard people on "V", most men are...
Q: What part of the woman's body attracts men the most?
A: Oh that's simple: her heart. As a guy, I'm most attracted to the heart of a woman. While it's not a standard body part, ...
A: To truly understand why many Black guys are indeed infatuated with lighter-skinned Black women, we'd need to delve into ...
A: "Love ya" is one of those feeling out statements that people use when they're perhaps feeling a certain way but they're ...
A: The only way somebody truly changes behavior is if some drastic consequence occurs because of their behavior. Being upse...
Q: What does a guy really mean or want when he says "text me later?"
A: While the scholastic fortitude of say, Plato, often eludes me, I'd bet all of the money in my pocket and yours that what...
A: So let me get this right, you're not even sure you were officially together, and you're worried about breaking off this ...
A: Well, you should decide what you want to do. Oh yeah, and ask, why? It seems that for your boyfriend he's made some deci...
A: If you knew that your bank was giving earning you 10 percent interest on your saving but was going to go bankrupt in two...
A: I'm sorry, I'm a bit confused. Let me get this right, your boyfriend prides himself on his body and spends a lot of time...
A: What it means is that he will have to call you back because chances are, he's going to want those drawz and socks back. ...
Q: How do you know if you're in a guy's friend zone?
A: One surefire way to know is if he brings up other women to you casually and talks to you about issues or problems he's h...
A: Well generally that depends on if the recipient of your statement said, "no take backs" after you said it. If they did, ...
Q: Why do black men prefer woman of the opposite race?
A: Interestingly worded question. Your question is really, why do Black men prefer to date white women. And the answer here...
Q: How do you feel about prenups? Yea or nay?
A: You know, I used to be against prenups and what they allude to - the possibility of an end to a marriage both people are...
A: You will know when he tells you, flat out. In very clear and uncertain terms. Basically, until he uses the words *______...
Q: How do I know a guy wants more than just sex?
A: This is probably one of the most popular questions asked in any forum, so let me take my crack at helping to illuminate ...
A: Naw. I think he'll think you're boring if you are, well, boring. I have plenty of friends who don't really drink and the...
A: What he means is that he likes you, a lot, and perhaps even wants to love you long time, but the truth of the matter is,...
A: If by "fianceé", you mean women he is pledging to spend the rest of his life with then I totally feel you. The nerve of ...
A: Probably because he doesn't want you at his house. I'm not sure it could be any more simple than that. Unless... Unless ...
A: Expectations, fair lady, only lead to disappointment. However, it would be nice if the guy would at least make attempts ...
Q: What does he mean we need to end this?
A: Great question! I too often struggle with this ever-elusive notion of "this". Especially when somebody says to me, "we n...
A: It's completey okay to surprise me...AS LONG AS you have some idea of what I might like to eat or what I'm allergic to. ...
A: You take him at his word and thank him for saving you from heartache and pain. In a world where SO many women complain t...
Q: do guys compare current girlfriends with their exes ? Physically, in bed, or emotionally ?
A: Yes and no. Don't you love dichotomous answers? Don't you ALSO love that I used the word dichotomous ALREADY in this pos...
A: If I had a guess, I'd say that your boyfriend is an attention whore and really enjoys the attention he gets from other w...
A: Not very memorable are we? I can definitely see that being a problem of sorts. Let's fix that. You want to know how to s...
A: Let me be clear about this upfront: I think breaking up with somebody to prove a point is the absolute dumbest thing you...
A: Well if you're not happy in your current relationship, how could the grass be any less green in a new one? While I under...
A: Confidence is really a mental thing. So in order to be more confident you have to identify which areas are keeping you f...
A: I wouldn't be turned of at all. I'm one of those people that believes everybody probably needs to see a therapist about ...
Q: How do you get a guy when your best friend is much more attractive than you?
A: I don't quite see how these two things are even remotely connected. Perhaps you and your friend go everywhere together a...
Q: How do I turn an ex that I'm over into a friend with benefits?
A: This is probably much easier than you think, assuming you two ended under amicable circumstances. If you two hate eachot...
A: Wow. That is a good question. If I were you, I'd be concerned as well. I mean, even when me and my girl get into argumen...
A: I think padded bras are evil incarnate, actually. While I recognize that men can be lying in the "packing" department an...
A: Well, my initial reaction was that you need to get shorter. But then I realized that wasn't going to happen. THEN I thou...
A: Initially, yes, you're father is right. The majority of men approach women who they find physically attractive. And in t...
A: Interesting question. The simple solution? Either stop being a webcam model or if that doesn't suit you, stop letting pe...
A: Not sure why, but this question literally made me bust into laughter. I'm sure its seeing the words "feel me up" actuall...
A: You know, you have to remember one thing here: he chose to be with you. In any conversation that you have with him, you ...
A: I'm curious as to why you think he would be warm and welcome you back with open arms. You broke up with him because you ...
A: I think that you may underestimate how much men like seeing boobs. Even boobs we've seen before, we love to see them aga...
A: This is one of those slippery slope questions that I think more women should ask men. You see, you are attempting to com...
A: This may be one of the eternal questions when it comes to dating. For such a simple "yes or no" question, it sure has a ...
A: You asked two totally unrelated questions, that perhaps were some way connected in your mind. That is EXACTLY how I felt...
Q: How could I tell my best friend that I like her boyfriend? They just started dating.
A: No dis here, but you're not much of a "best friend" if you're actually considering telling your best friend that you lik...
Q: what do i do if my crush has a girlfriend?
A: This is a common and recurrent situation when it comes to l'amour. No matter who you are, at some point in your life you...
Q: Can men be faithful or is cheating is something that will happen eventually in a relationship.
A: The answer to whether all men cheat truly depends on who you talk to and on what day. I know plenty of men who have neve...
A: Um, no. For one, a grown man who isn't a virgin yet is waiting to have sex with the woman he loves is a saint in my book...
A: So you just up and sent some guy you were "talking to" some naughty pictures? And he was upset? Who were you dating? The...
A: Um, what in Sam Hill does it mean to have a guy as a boyfriend for a night? Is that some new trend I'm just not up on be...
A: I'll say is bad. Do you realize how short he was? And from what I hear (through some SERIOUS hear say - we're talking at...
A: I hate to be the bearer of bad news, but I'm prone to believe that birds of a feather flock together. Do you realize how...
A: Wow. Kind of impatient, aren't we? But since we're being impatient, what the hell, let's answer the question. So how soo...
A: Perhaps this particular chap has taken a shining to you but it goes no further than him thinking your just an awesome do...
A: While the answer to this question seems like common sense to me, I know plenty of women who seem to ask similar question...
A: Well I suppose this depends on if the server is a man or a woman. But I have some free time, let's look at both scenario...
A: I think this all depends on the guy you're dealing with. And age is a large part of it. Younger guys would probably be l...
Q: What is a guy's view on makeup?
A: Good question. It really is a different strokes for different folks kind of thing, though. For instance, I'm a big no ma...
A: Oh that's easy, guys (much like people in general) are territorial as hell. It might be strange logic but even if you're...
A: I had to consult three monks, two defrocked priests and Google to make sure that your guy wasn't making any sense whatso...
A: Well, that probably means that he got what he wanted and is on to the next one (no Jay-Z). See, this is the problem with...
Q: Why do guys always put there phone on silent or on vibrate when they are with their girl?
A: The reason for this is twofold: 1) When we're with you, you tend to prefer to not hear our phones ring constantly as to ...
Q: What does it mean when he says he wants to marry me one day and live with me someday?
A: While I'm neither clairvoyant nor a middled-aged Black woman of questionable Caribbean descent who constantly tells peop...
A: For the life of me, I don't understand why women tend to get upset that men are looking at other women, even in the mids...
A: You know, my default answer is HELL YEAH! Except, it's not totally true. Not for all men anyway. You'll often hear men s...
A: There are two kinds of sex issues in a relationship: 1) when the couple is having non-bedroom difficulties and sex becom...
Q: Why do men want sex all the time?
A: Why do animals hunt prey? Why do birds fly? Why did everybody and their grandmother go see New Moon on opening weekend? ...
A: The deal with that is that you're probably too afraid to make him label the relationship, so he doesn't and he treats yo...
Q: My boyfriend says he wants to let me decide when we kiss, what does this mean?
A: Quite honestly, that might be one of the strangest things I've ever heard. I'm guessing you do all the initiating when i...
A: You know, there's really no good answer for this one. Some guys just...mess up. Look, any person with even an iota of co...
A: Honestly, you should probably reconsider your relationship. Everybody knows that the very beginning of a relationship is...
A: Hey, boo, thanks for the question. Quite honestly, I have no clue. But I'm guessing you do. Pay attention to the way he ...
A: Just to make sure I'm getting this right, you're quest to lose your pooch is making you want to not let a man see you di...
Q: If a guy friend tells you about another girl is he just trying to make you jealous?
A: Well that depends on who you are to him. For instance, are you all dating, talking, hanging out, or are you just his coo...
A: Finding the answer to this question is much like locating the Loch Ness Monster, Big Foot, and whatever they were trying...
A: There are two possible reasons that come to mind as to why your boyfriend would say such a thing: 1) He actually feels R...
A: An "illusion of separation"? I think I've heard it all at this point. Look, guys spend a lot of time finding new and cre...
A: Well that totally depends. Just how frequently is he currently calling you and texting you? And by your actual question,...
Q: Why do guys go to strip clubs if they are happy with you and your relationship?
A: Probably for the exact same reason guys like pr0n - the fantasy of another woman that you can't touch so therefore it's ...
Q: How can i tell if a guy is gay?
A: This has long been the subject of much debate, inquiry, tastelessness, and all around shouldershruggism. There really is...
A: One of the difficult parts about being the Girls' BFF is that honesty is required. The problem with honesty is that some...
A: You're ability to get him back is directly correlated with why he broke up with you in the first place. Period. Lots of ...
A: Ah, the waiting game and the eventual, should I or shouldn't I mental quagmire. Relationships are fun, no? So you want t...
A: Absolutely yes, you should. I think this is one of those situations where you should cut your losses now before it gets ...
A: Often times in life, you're confronted with questions and situations that leave you both perplexed and verklempt, many a...
A: Hate to tell you but I don't think the "girlfriend" tag is coming. At least not formally. If after 6 months you're still...
A: I, for one, am all for cougar love. It even has a great name: Cougar Love. That sounds like the name of a Courtney Love ...
A: Interesting question. Based on your self-description I'm guessing part of it is that in the eyes of many in the Black an...
A: Good question. While I'm definitely no advocate of leading people on, and sometimes "innocent" hanging can be doing just...
A: I've always found this question of female intimidation to be a bit odd. For one, it's not 1950 and we're not all in an e...
A: I'm not even sure if this is a fair question or not. You're asking a man about boobs or bricks. But hey...you asked! I'm...
A: Ah, the infamous dilemma of guyspeak. I'd wager that comments like this are the VERY reason sites like this one exist in...
Q: Why is he waiting so long to make the first move?
A: I love questions like these. I really do. The waiting woman wishes the wholesome warrior would wact! (Sorry, couldn't co...
A: Ah, the age old conundrum - the Black girl without the stereotypical hind parts of love. Just to get it out of the way, ...
A: This is a good question as both men and women are on this constant quest to find out where the "good" partners are. I al...
A: You should definitely dump him. Quickly. And don't think twice about it. You're jolly ole fellow is probably already che...
Q: Why do guys feel like they have to control everything?
A: Interesting question. You can blame it on the rain. You can blame it on the al-al-al-alcohol. Blame it on Kanye West. Bu...
A: I think you are absolutely insane, actually. Let's get this right. You cheated on your boyfriend with a guy who pretty m...
A: No, he's trying to regain the freedom and space he had before you all moved in together. And that's a problem. Though I ...
A: I know some guys will tell a woman that they respect her desire to wait until marriage for sex. In fact, we respect the ...
A: Hmm...so let me get this right: you actually get solo special friend time with your best guy friend despite the fact tha...
A: Seems to me that your friends are probably very shallow if they can't get past the way ole boy looks. I'm guessing you w...
Q: My boyfriend doesn't like to hang out with my friends. Is this a bad sign for our relationship?
A: It's a terrible sign for your relationship. In fact, in the pantheon of signs that a relationship is heading towards now...
A: This is quite simple actually. You've got to somehow convince (or coerce, your pick) your boyfriend that it is in his be...
A: In a word, yes. For one, is this guy your best friend? If so, why not try to find a way to get your groom to let him be ...
A: I've had this same problem with my woman. And by same problem, I mean her buying me terrible gifts. No lie, I got a frea...
A: Despite the fact that both men and women abhor game playing, a bit of Milton Bradley-ism is necessary during the early s...
A: What makes you think he's keeping it quiet at the office? I for one let the good times roll to the tune of at least 7 ti...
Q: my boyfriend hates sandra bullock and won't see any of her movies. is this a dealbreaker?
A: This isn't a dealbreaker per se, but it should definitely give you pause. Let's start at the top with this one. Though I...
A: This is actually a really good question, especially considering the current economic climate. One thing you have t...
A: This is one of the age old relationship dilemmas: best friends of the opposite sex. I'm sorry to say that yo...
