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Q: 3 months ago, my best friend was beaten by her ex. He's back in town and they're reconciling. She's told me she knows it's nuts but that she's SO happy. She swears it's because of drugs and alcohol and that he's changed. How can I be a supportive friend when I want to mutilate the "love of [her] life?"

A: You're in a predicament and she's in danger. Unfortunately, both are true. If a man beats his girl he needs heavy, heavy...

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Q: My whiteboyfriend says to me "Keep your hood ass on your hood block where you belong. He is also an out of work brick layer, semi emotinally abusive and has NO friends. We havent spoke since last Friday...Is it over? Why do I care so much and constantly look at my phone for a text from him? Is he waiting for my call?

A: Booboo, there is so much wrong with this situation I don't even know where to start. No. He's not waiting for your call....

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Quick Answers Of The Month, Vol. 21

Asked and answered.What kind of guy would say "bye bye" to you?The kind of guy who's leaving?Boyfriend doesn't invite you to the work partyThat's okay. I didn't invite him to mine, either.Does fingering the lady (virgin) makes her less tight...

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Q: My husband treats my son--his stepson--like crap. He treats our daughter like royalty and my son like a loser. He has been nasty and uncaring to him from the day he met him when my son was 4 years old. Now he's 24 and having panic attacks and feels useless as an adult after all the abuse. What do I do?

A: I wish you had thought to ask someone this question twenty years ago before the damage was done. There's not a lot that ...

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50 Things I'd Rather Do Than Remove My Mother's NuvaRing

This morning on my drive into work I heard THE most disturbing thing I may have ever heard..like ever. The radio show I was listening to was trying to determine which man was the worst mama's boy and one particular...

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Q: I like a guy who says he likes me too, but he told me he doesn't want to be in a relationship because he says he gets stressed with family issues and school and so forth and when he gets stressed he takes it out on people, but he only says that because that's what happened w/his last gf, will he ever be ready for me???

A: Realistically, what you're talking about here sounds a lot like he becomes emotionally abusive when he's stressed out. I...

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Q: I often find myself annoyed with my bf when he drinks too much. His temper soars whenever I express anger & our fights sometimes end with me being pushed to the point of hitting him due to him calling me "bitch" and "stupid." I feel pushed to my limit when he calls me names and I don't know how to prevent this scenario.

A: At the risk of stating the obvious, your boyfriend has a drinking problem. His boozing is clearly the cause of all the o...

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Quick Answers Of The Month, Vol. 20

You know the drill.When a guy offers to let a woman drive his car, does he like her?Either that or he needs a designated driver.Why does he love his mum more than me!Because she's his mother, duh. Did you squeeze...

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Q: A man I was having sex with slapped me during. Dead square on the face, hard. He didn't ask me, he just did it. It shocked me and I don't know what to think. I am totally ok with a little roughness (i.e; hair pulling, spanking) but dead on the face? Does this mean anything? Like future abuse... or??

A: Not cool. Does it mean anything? Yes--it means he is abusive and inconsiderate. What is he, a pimp? Who the heck just ha...

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Why did he send a lame post-date text? Why does he think I'm too loud during sex? Why do guys pick me up - literally? GuySpeak's Best of the Week!

He sent a lame text after our awesome first date - should I panic? I'm overweight - will men still pick me up? I'm not small - why won't men stop picking me up? I was in an abusive relationship...

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Q: Dearest CG - I'm jumping the gun on this question... Last year I got out of an abusive relationship and I'm doing fine - I'm very eager to start dating again. I'm a bit apprehensive about how to present this info to a guy if it gets to that point. I don't want to freak anybody out but I know it will come up.

A: Tell him once you feel comfortable enough to talk about past relationships. I wouldn't go into it on the first date, but...

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Q: My boyfriend is very controlling. But only when it comes to me spending time with my girlfriends. We ALWAYS fight when I talk to him about going out. Then when I go, I receive retaliation for it. I'm a very faithful/honest person. What can I do to make him trust me? PS. We've been together 2 years. HELP!

A: You've put up with this for two years? Haven't you proved to him by now that you're faithful? Clearly you need to leave ...

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Q: My Husband is abusive. I want to leave but I feel so guilty. A few of years ago (before the abuse) I had a serious surgery and he was my donor. I feel as though I owe him my life (which I technically do) and that im some heartless b*tch who left the man that saved her life and risked his own. What should i do?

A: Get out. You owe him nothing. It doesn't matter what he's done for you, he is putting your health and safety at risk by ...

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Q: Is it my fault my boyfriend broke my iPhone? He says I acted too shady with my iPhone. So he had two choices: stop caring about me or get my attention by breaking my iPhone. I'm really hurt, but he is trying to fix my iPhone now. When we talk about him breaking it he always throws the attention back on me.

A: What?? What?? Hold on a second. I need to pick my jaw up off of the floor. Why are you you still with this guy? It is ab...

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Is he playing you, planning on you or not so into you? GuySpeak's Best of the Week!

This week in class, we learned how a player seduces, how to get more PDA, how to tell a laid-back lad from a not-so-into-you-dude, how to move on from your first, how much is too much mystery and how to...

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Q: I have a boyfriend who hits me. But I really truly love him and he is convincing me that he will change.

A: And...that's how abusive relationships start. He crosses a line that no guy should EVER cross, says he's sorry and will ...

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Q: Help! My fiance was physically abused by his parents growing up(hitting, kicking, etc.), but he doesn't see anything wrong with being raised this way. How do I tell him it will NOT be okay to do this with our children without sounding insulting to his parents?

A: Leave his parents out of the equation: he's a grown-up. He's the one who needs help here. The parents are going to have ...

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Q: My boyfriend breaks my stuff whenever he is mad at me. What should I do?

A: Pick up your phone. Type this as a text message: U SUK. GO AWAY 4 EVR. Then never speak to him again. Seriously, that is...

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Q: Ok, boyfriend is perfect, but i went to visit him and we were play wrestling (I was opening a note I found in his room). He started hurting me (holding my wrists too tight, not hitting). I told him and he kept apologizing while it was happening. We didn't talk for the four days I was there, no apologies! I broke up with him. Am I overreacting?

A: No way. You were smart to dump him. What he did was not okay. He got physically abusive with you because you looked at a...

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Q: if ur broken on the inside from yrs of emotional & physical abuse from ur x husband,add alot of sexual abuse in early childhood.currently single two years & wonder if i am to broken 2 go in2another relationship?will someone want someone who flinches at being touched or cnt b told something nice cos it scares me

A: OK. This took me six tries to get near right. Yes. To be totally honest, you are still too damaged at the moment. Abused...

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