Tag: Breaking Up

Q: If you are breaking up a relationship after living together and adopting a beloved pet together at the exact same time and are both equally attached to the pet, as well as equally splitting the expenses, who gets to keep the animal? Say it was something big like a dog or a cat and not just a goldfish or hamster.

A: Wow. This one is hard. Well, my chivalrous side thinks he should let you keep the pet, but then the other half that love...

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Q: Short story: my recent ex thought that we were still together. He still wants a relationship. I did a bad thing; slept with his best friend for the past 2days, whom we both see almost every day. The friend and I agreed to keep it secret. We have all hung out since(awkward) Confused, my ex deserves 2 better friends.HELP

A: You want my honest view on this? Suck it up and tell your ex. Look, it's like this: eventually he's going to find out. T...

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Q: I'm dying. My love of five years just broke up with me because he wants to concentrate on his career. We were perfectly happy--believe me when I say PERFECTLY happy. This is COMPLETELY out of the blue and I'm utterly heartbroken. I want him to realize he's making a huge mistake, I want to fight for him back. What do I do?

A: No, YOU were perfectly happy. He was not, obviously, or you would still be together. The career thing was just an excuse...

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Q: My boyfriend and I just broke up, and now he is asking for the PlayStation 3 back. I don't have a lot of money but I paid for half of it + games and it has always stayed at my apartment. He is saying it was a gift to him so he'll get legal with me if he has to. Can he do this? Is that fair? Should I just give it to him?

A: Sounds like you're getting a bad deal here. If the PlayStation 3 was a gift, then why did you pay for half of it and hal...

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Q: My boyfriend didn't come to my birthday party. He didn't call or text that he wasn't coming =he wasn't dying,etc. Been together for over a year. We have a family cruise planned in one month. I'm breaking it off with him. Should I allow him to go since he paid or pay him back and tell him no, he can't go on the cruise?

A: You absolutely should give him his money back and tell him to kick rocks. I don't know what he was doing or why, but he ...

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Q: how do you know when a guy is going to break up with you?

A: Ohhhh, tricky. As a general rule, a sign you're going to be broken up with is when he starts becoming more and more dist...

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Q: I have never broken up with anyone before, and I was wondering if you could give me some advice on how to do it kindly and cleanly. We were together for three years.

A: I'm happy to help you. Please check out past answers, as this question has been addressed numerous times by all of us. I...

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Q: What action do you recommend for a high school couple going to two different colleges?

A: Ugh. I've been there. It sucks. You want my honest answer? Break up now and get it over with, because it's only a matter...

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Q: just broke it off with a guy ive been seeing for 5 months via text message. messed up? or common these days?

A: It's still messed up, but it probably is very common. I think the least you can do is peace somebody out via phone. But ...

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Q: My ex-boyfriend ask his old love letters back. Why would he do that?

A: I can think of several reasons. If the breakup was ugly, it could be a parting shot, a final way to get back at you befo...

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Q: if you broke up with a girl and she didn't freak out, cry, or get emotional at all, what would you think?

A: I would be relieved. Why aren't you? Were you bluffing? Did you want her to be heartbroken and fall apart? Are you offen...

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Q: Just curious: When a couple splits up, who do you think is more likely to want to get back together and make the first move to: the dumper or the dumpee?

A: My inclination is to think that in the short term (and assuming that there is some desire to get back together) the dump...

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Q: What does it mean when a guy says to you "I'm glad we can still be friends," and then never has any contact with you ever again?

A: It means exactly what you think it means: he's not into you, never will be, and honestly hopes to live and die without h...

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Q: Why do guys go MIA. I'm not talking about, disapearing after a few dates, or the first month, I'm talking about over a year of dating. Then poof, just out of the blue gone. Enlighten me John. And don't pretend you've never done the disapearing act.

A: Of course I've pulled the disappearing act. But sometimes the disappearing act is also a tactical retreat. There are som...

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Q: I told him I didn't love him. He's hurt. I'm hurt. But it's true. What now?

A: Let me applaud you for doing the right thing. You were honest. The problem with the right thing is that it's not particu...

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Q: Until recently, I was engaged to an amazing man.The long distance didn't bother us, but his racism, jealousy, and lack of compassion for others hurt me. He was never cruel to me in any way, but refuses to change. Should I go back to him?

A: To be fair, can a jealous, racist who lacks any compassion really be amazing? I happen to think that the distance might ...

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Q: I broke up with my bf of three months via long email. But the prob is, he didn't acknowledge the break-up part in my email and said something else. What does he actually mean?

A: What does he mean by what? The "something else" he said? Hard to answer that without key information -- you know, like, ...

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Q: My boyfriend of four years dumped me. Days later, we met and as I cried, he hugged me, kissed my hands and cried too, said he was deeply sorry because he still cared about me, then took me for ice cream. Hope?

A: If there's one thing long-term relationships do, it's fall apart, then get back together, then fall apart, then get back...

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