Tag: Breakups

Q: Ex and I were hooking up then I couldn't anymore because I still had feelings. He tried even harder until I got upset with him. He apologized and is still friendly, but I feel uncomfortable. Not sure where to place him in my life now. I know it's an unavoidable situation, as we have too many ties to each other. Help?

A: Two words for you: clean and breaks. Clean breaks, people. I've said it here time and time again, and your situation is ...

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Q: BFF, please help me. My guy of 4yrs broke up with me 4months ago and took it back the next day. It was 100% out of the blue - we were happy. His answer to why he did it? "I don't know." Things are okay between us now except for the lingering memory of that horrible day that I can't get over. How can I trust him again?

A: Well, trusting him again is going to have to be a choice you make and hold fast to. If you're going to stay with him any...

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Q: BFF, I lead a guy on...only to realize I love him only as a friend and cherish our friendship too much to jeopardize it. But hes become very infatuated with me. I feel terrible. How do I tell him 'i screwed up, lets just be friends because I need that more than ever'? I dont want to lose him at all, hes a good guy.

A: Well you're going to have to be straight up with him and risk it anyway. You admit you led him on. He's not going to be ...

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Q: I de-friend guys I stop dating because its easier for me to move on. One of them wrote me to ask if I de-friended him and told me it was "harsh." We hadn't spoken in months. Why would he care?

A: Sounds like he's trying to get a rise out of you. Maybe he misses you and is trying to get your attention. Yes, he shoul...

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Q: We were engaged. Had to go long distance. (Germany/US) He broke up with me after 6 months (of being engaged); one week later, he's dating someone. Am I crazy for wanting to rip him to pieces?

A: Not at all. I'm fairly certain that your reaction is a common one for individuals who go from being engaged to single on...

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Q: ever since my boyfriend and i broke up he has been ignoring me since. i dont get it the break up was even. i broke up with him we got back together then i let him break up with me. its been three years and he hasnt said a word to me and i see him every day. did i do something to make him hate me?

A: Uh, yeah, you guys broke up. Just because it was "even" doesn't mean he's over it. People don't work like that. He could...

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Q: A man tried really hard and long to win me over. He finally did, then he bailed? What is up with that? Thrill of the chase?

A: It could have been the thrill of the chase. Or it could be that once he finally won you over, you weren't the person he ...

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Q: No contact after a break up. Yay or nay?

A: I vote yes, barring something important that needs to be discussed (i.e. health issues, financial issues, getting your s...

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Q: My ex and I broke up. When I get sad about it all I am really thinking about was how I liked hooking up with him and how im going to miss his body & the ease & comfort we had with each other when we hooked up...does this mean I wasn't that into him emotionally if that's the only reason im missing him? he dumped me btw

A: Yeah, I would say that if all you're missing is the sex, then you probably had an expiration date on your relationship, ...

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Q: We just got married last year. A month ago he walked out irratically saying he isn't happy and wants to end our marriage. He has a girlfriend he introduced to his mom as a "friend" when he took her over there for dinner. What the hell? We have a child we had before the marriage. He sends mixed signals says he loves me.

A: Let me be very clear with this here: a man telling you that he loves you but doing all of the things your husband has do...

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Q: Chic Geek, need your help. How do I dump a sensitive writer geek who has been my BFF for years? We tried the dating thing, he's smitten and I'm miserable. Thanks!

A: You have to be honest with him. As his former BFF, you owe it to him to be straight-up and say it just isn't working for...

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Q: Have you ever dated a girl, let her go thinking she wasn't the one for you then a while later ran into her and realized your mistake? Or is that just something every girl wishes would happen? real? or myth? lol

A: I think it could be a bit of both. I think most women always want an ex to realize or at least think that he made a mist...

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Q: I read through some older comments & someone wrote: "once a breakup is done, the exes don't have any obligation morally to support or help." Is this always true? I felt depressed last year & told an ex. He wasn't very supportive. I don't know if I have the right to be angry with him & it still REALLY eats away at me.

A: Overall, I would agree with that comment. While some exes can remain friends and be there for each other in small or lar...

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Q: Hey Mr. DCer! I had asked you a question about the guy I REALLY liked who was sending mixed signals so I sadly ended it. Well he came back, said he cared for me and asked to be my "friend." Can you confirm that this sorta means- "Can I please keep tabs on if youre moving on but continue to have no commitment?"

A: Can I ask why you care? Are you asking because you still want more so you're looking for any reason to believe this man ...

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Q: Girls' BFF - please share your advice!! I've been dating a guy for almost 3 months now. Everything's great! The past couple weeks he's been texting less and this week I didn't see him at all. Are we at the end? I heard guys don't have the balls to break it off with girls - is this true?? I don't know what went wrong!

A: Hate to say it, but you do sound like you might be at the end. When guys are interested, we find ways to spend as much t...

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Q: What kind of breakup excuses from guys are legit and which are not? For example, my ex says he wants to be alone no relationship with anyone, never wants to marry or have kids. We've been broken up for a year and no new girl in his life. Is his excuse true? or is it the right girl needs to come along scenario?

A: Let's clear something up. All breakup excuses are legit. And let me tell you why. If a dude decides to breakup with you ...

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Q: Hey BFF what is your unbiased opinion for a girl who has been in a long term serious relationship but is slowly falling out of love with her bf? I don't want to hurt him but I really don't think he's the one for me. I've been with him since high school so I don't even know if I can manage on my own...how sad is that???

A: It's not sad but the fact is if you aren't "feeling" it anymore then you're making an already uncomfortable situation wo...

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Q: what does it mean if a man keeps telling you if you want out just say it? it feels like he is trying to get me to end things because he doesnt have the balls.

A: Good call. That's probably exactly what he's trying to do. Unless of course he's just the most insecure chap on the face...

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Q: Boy meets Girl. Boy dumps Girl, but asks to be friends. Girl agrees. Boy starts dating New Girl. Girl is overcome with jealousy. Girl de-friends Boy because she realizes it's too much for her to handle. Boy is hurt and New Girl rips Girl a new one. Should Girl backtrack and try to be friends with Boy again, or GTFO?

A: GTFO. This is a perfect example of why I think clean breaks are necessary when a romantic relationship ends. The people ...

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