Tag: Communication

Q: Hey handsome...quick question: what's the best way to approach a guy when you need to talk? If you want to minimize freakout on his side that is. Text before? Tell him you should talk soon? Or just get to it directly?

A: As a man, the sentence I hate hearing (and reading) the most in life is: "we need to talk." I'd rather that Roseanne Bar...

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Q: Hey FG! I have OCD & when I was younger I used to skin-pick & I still have to control myself sometimes about skin-picking. I'm casually seeing this guy, so should I ever mention this? If yes, then when should I mention it & how can I not make it awkward? Thanks!!

A: This depends. Are you bringing it up historically like "When I was younger I used to pick?" Are you bringing it up anecd...

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Q: My boyfriend is about 10 years older than me and we have a great friendship, great sex and a great thing going on. But sometimes he tells me that his ex girlfriends were totally too beautiful for him and describes me with a great heart and great personality. I feel so horrible. Should i not take it personal?

A: You "feel so horrible". That's exactly how you are feeling. And so that's exactly how you "should" be feeling. Emotional...

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Q: I popped a blood vessel in my eye from giving a guy a blow job. Now it's all bloody and looks like I've been punched in the face. Crazy, strange, but true. I have a date with him tonight. What do I do? When we go on the date do I explain why my eye is bloody or would that just freak him out?

A: I'm going to go ahead and believe your story. Why? Because I'd like to. But I must say, I do have a nagging feeling that...

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Q: I do good job of not "blowing up" a guy's phone but when i don't txt or call for a day or two and wait for him to contact me in his own time he manipulates my lack of contact "so you're not talking to me anymore?" How do i respond to that?

A: Start by spinning it into a joke, "What, you'd rather I text you every hour?" and then see if he's really being serious ...

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Q: Okay Panama. What is the deal! This guy and I have been steadily texting everyday for over a month, shamelessly flirting mind you, and we have talked on the phone for hours and hours on end. Then, via a random FB update, I find out he is "In a relationship" What gives?! Did all of that mean NOTHING?? HELP :(

A: I guess that depends on if you think the ends justify the means. Not sure if that fits here perfectly so let me try a di...

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Q: I have diagnosed PTSD from the military, and one of the conditions that had stemmed from it is dermatillia. Basically, when I get anxious, I pick skin on my back. It gets horrible and I am scared to tell any potential guys about it. I feel they'll reject me. And yes, I'm getting help, but its a difficult condition.

A: Two things off the bat strike me as very positive. One: you are already seeking counseling and being proactive towards h...

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Q: I am so horny for my BF, EXCEPT, that is, when he gets off work and makes it over to my place and it's already 11pm and I've been up since 6 and have to be up at 6 the next day and frankly am just to darn tired to fool around. So we really only have sex once a week (weekends). Is that horrible?

A: Fatigue is the godfather of cock blocking. No, belligerent frat boy or needy friend holds a candle to the great Satan th...

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Q: Am I obligated to tell guys that I am dating more than one person if none of them asked or even implied that they wanted to be exclusive with me?

A: Think for a minute how'd you feel if one of them casually mentioned another woman he was seeing, and when you say "Why d...

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Q: I was raped when I was 12 and when I found the courage to tell my parents, my Dad told me I was lying and my mother kind of brushed it off. I told my boyfriend about my past and it triggered some sad memories for me this week. Now I'm depressed and I don't really feel like my boyfriend is being very supportive.

A: I am very sorry this happened to you. Please know two things: one, it's a positive thing that you're opening up about th...

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Q: I lost my virginity by rape when I was 13, 7 years later I'm still scared. I have a boyfriend and he really wants to, but the mere thought of sex scares me. I never told anyone, so I don't know how to bring it up and I'm scared that he'll leave me because he has better offers. How do I tell him?

A: First, let me just say that what happened to you was awful. It must have been incredibly difficult to just ask this ques...

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Q: My boyfriend is going to try cocaine. I don't feel like it's my place to tell him not to do it, but it will bother me a lot if he does do it. I haven't talked to him about this yet. Advice?

A: You've come to Guyspeak for what R. Kelly calls' Real Talk', and so I'm not going to waste your time talking about "ooh ...

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Q: My boyfriend of 4 years slept with someone else about a year ago. Until that point we had been each other's only sexual partner. Our relationship has been fine (better even) since he confessed, but I'm still not over this. He hates to talk about it but I really feel like we need to. Time to talk or let it go?

A: Time to talk. You understandably are still hurt and have some unresolved feelings about what he did. He doesn't like to ...

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Q: Does the silent treatment work?

A: No. It's passive-aggressive and stupid. It's like a child holding their breath until they get what they want. You're say...

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