Tag: Communication Skills

Q: My boyfriend looks at other girls online before having sex with me. Is this common? It makes me feel really crappy about myself.

A: Nothing says I want you like masturbating to girl-on-girl porn. That sentence doesn't make much sense and neither do his...

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Q: I was pregnant and unforunately had a miscarriage. Since I put on some weight and went from a size 6 to a 10. My boyfriend randomly/always seem to mention my weight and keeps comparing me to old pictures. What does this mean?

A: This means your man is being a dickhead. Either on purpose or somehow without being fully aware he is insulting, disresp...

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Q: My BF recently started doing some oral and digital anal activities w/ me. While I like it, there are some days when my behind feels more bathroom than bedroom - like, say, after a particularly greasy meal. How can I let him know to stay away on certain days w/out grossing him out & turning him off those deeds forever?

A: I find that the other hole in the body -- the mouth -- is quite an effective tool in the realm of communication. Next ti...

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Q: Anytime I talk to guys I always make them laugh. I've been told many times that I'm the funniest girl they've met. So why can't any of these guys ask me out? Is my humor standing in my way? I don't think I'm hideous or anything....

A: Comedy, nay, a sense of humor itself can take you quite far in life. It can take you to the brink of many good things, b...

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Q: Would it be weird to ask my boyfriend for "a surprise"? I want a surprise. Of some sort. Anything. Just SOMETHING that shows he thought of me and planned/did something special for me. That's all! Flowers. Dinner. A surprise appearance on a night we weren't supposed to hang out. A love email. ANYTHING!! JUST SOMETHING!!

A: The words "ask for" and "surprise" don't belong in the same sentence. Much like "blowjob" and "hot sauce;" nothing good ...

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Q: My BF needs to reel in his drinking just a little bit. He's fine, but at our typical weekend gathering with all our friends over, he gets a bit too drunk and it's a turn off. I really don't want to be a nag. My mom constantly nags my dad about drinking too much & it's lame. I wish he'd just know his limit! Any advice?

A: Well, as long as you use language like "nag" to describe what you're doing you will see it as such. There's nothing nagg...

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Q: Dude. My girlfriend is mad at me for something I said to her in her dream...HELP.

A: Dude, this is an interesting predicament you find yourself in. My advice is break into her dream tonight, wearing a tuxe...

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Q: How do you, an American, perceive arranged marriages? I grew up in an arranged marriage home in the US, but how do guys perceive that when they here about something like that?

A: A portion of guys in America will react to your arranged marriage home in the exact same way you suspect. They will scof...

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Q: Me and my boyfriend were messing around ie:making out/grinding(were not having sex i have my boundaries and he respects them) but afterwards he just sat next to me wouldnt hug/kiss/hold my hand or even talk to me, and then he was being rude. did i miss something? he seemed to be having a good time? were both 20.

A: Yes, you missed something. More so his body missed something - a completion to his arousal. What you are explaining and ...

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Q: What is the best way to hold a girl?

A: Girls, until the age of roughly 22-24, need their necks supported at all times. For they do not yet possess the necessar...

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Q: FG, you answered a question about a BF who wont drive better for his GF who was in a car accident. But what of the rest of us who havn't been in an accident but still think our BF drives poorly? I ask mine to stop earlier at lights but he just tells me to "trust him." Is it still reasonable to demand better driving?

A: Of course it's reasonable. Your boyfriend needs to have enough common sense to understand its not about "trusting" him; ...

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Q: I was in a very serious car accident about 10 months ago and still have fears when driving in similar situations. My boyfriend knows this but still speeds and sometimes drives pretty aggressively when I am in the car with him. I ask him to stop but he just tells me "Relax." I can't relax how do I make him grasp this??

A: I'm sorry you were in a serious car accident. Its current emotional impact on you is a very common repercussion.. After ...

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Q: I've been dating a guy for 6 months. We get along great and the sex is amazing. He's VERY committed to his family and it leaves very little time for us to see each other. He says I'm only his 3rd serious relationship (he's 33) and it's all starting to make sense now because family is 1st with him. Should I bail now?

A: Your amazing sex with this man is of no consequence to this question, but I thank you for the heads up. You have stumble...

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Q: How can I get my boyfriend to buy me a piece of diamond jewelry without outright asking him?? We've been together 4 years, and we're not looking into marriage anytime soon so I'm not talking about an engagement ring here; I just think that after 4 years, it's time for some sparkly jewelry, darnnit!!!

A: Any time you work towards "getting" something in a relationship it sort of ruins the point, no? Gifts, material or other...

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Q: I have Crohn's disease, which is not what we can call a glamourous condition. I'm not ashamed of it but obviously it has to come up at some point with guys (I'm gonna get sick and can't just disappear), how, and at which point do i share this? is this a Deal Breaker?

A: Here's the thing about people: we can be picky and unrealistic. Anything can be a deal-breaker. Even "glamorous conditio...

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Q: Am I supposed to be flattered when somebody tells me, "You're my stress relief"?

A: Unless you're a punching bag, tub of Vaseline or a pedicurist, no this isn't flattering... on its own. But it's importan...

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Q: I have told this girl multiple times i do not like her. But she is persistent on trying to get me to like her. I just don't. She is an amazing friend but i really do not know how to get her to stop with out ruining a friendship. Help?

A: This question speaks to what I think is an across the board sentiment: As much as getting dumped sucks, usually dumping ...

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Q: Why is it taking a man who's just graduated college, has a job lined up and has been in love with me for three years taking so long to put this into full gear? We've been dating on and off for forever, and Im ready to work towards marriage. Help!

A: Because he might not be on the same page? I've got two contradictory pieces of information here: on the one hand, I've g...

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Q: I have a really high sex drive and my bf has a really low sex drive. In the last two weeks we've gotten busy twice, and I've gotten off once. I told my bf last night that I wanted to have sex, and he told me I was worse than my cat (who's in heat) and told me to try a cold shower. How do I deal with my frustration?

A: "God, Betty. You're like a goat." One of the many memorable lines from Revenge Of The Nerds. Stan (the handsome king of ...

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Q: My boyfriend hasn't been to the dentist in years. His gums sometimes bleed and I'm worried they're infected. I've told him I'm worried about it, but he shrugs it off. I think he's embarrassed. How do I get him to go to the dentist?

A: How do I get him to go to the dentist? Wrong question. Correct question? How do I get you to understand that pleading fo...

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