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Q: GBFF I would love your insight! it was his idea to "keep in touch" when he moved a few hours away but I haven't heard a thing. Does keeping in touch merely mean "when it works for me" or did he suddenly lose interest??

A: I suppose that depends on just how in touch you all were in the first place. Was this a boyfriend, a really good friend,...

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Q: My BF has a female bestfriend. He really is a sweetheart, good to me and 100% trustworthy and faithful. He decided to share something about his female friends boobs to me.I did tell him it hurt my feelings, however he thinks it's fine,doesn't understand why I'm upset by it. Should I let him slide for it? She's married.

A: Weellllllllllll, why exactly were your feelings hurt? Based on what you're saying about him it sounds like it would be n...

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Q: How do I comfort a girl who is crying? She's not my girlfriend. Just a good friend, and she has panic attacks about going to sleep and they make her really emotional sometimes

A: Just be there for her. And hold her. That's about the most you can do. There aren't many words you can use or anything y...

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Q: Reading your description of Girls' BFF, totally describes who I am. I'm always stuck in a situation where I am a threat to the girls bf. Those girls come, go, then come back to say sorry you were right. I love who I am, but going through friends like that blows. How can I justify to myself that being girls bff is good?

A: Well, what else would it be? No man likes the other dude in the picture. One, we don't trust other men around or women. ...

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Q: Dear Wise Ass, four months ago my brother passed away from cancer and I have been severely depressed, and also very lonely. I really want to be with someone but I feel as though they will be turned off by my depression. Would anyone be interested in someone like me?

A: I'm truly sorry for your loss. Only someone who has been there knows how brokenhearted you are feeling right now. If I w...

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Q: If I hooked up with a guy off of craigslist does that make me pathetic?

A: It's only pathetic if you feel pathetic doing it. No one else's opinion really matters. I'm more concerned about the saf...

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Q: ok so my bf went to Vegas to a porn convention and took a pic with a porn star...and he put his hands on her butt!!! Kind of upset me, but he was very honest about it! Should I be upset, is this cheating??

A: This might sound a bit insensitive but he's at a porn convention. Just be glad he's not smanging anything. Putting his h...

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Q: BFF, would most men decide not to date a woman if he sensed she earned a better living than he did? Guy pals have told me that while I'm friendly & approachable, men are likely intimidated because they can tell I'm financially independent and can take care of myself. (I don't discuss things like money on dates)

A: The topic of intimidation is an interesting one because, well, I can't rightly imagine a mature man being put off becaus...

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Q: Hi Panama! I'm trying to be more confident these days, and I want to be ballsy and ask out my crush. But my brother says even a shy guy will work up the nerve to ask a girl out if he likes her enough/thinks she's interested, and asking him out will make me look too available. What do you think?

A: I kind of waffle on whether or not woman should ask out a man. Many people think that if you do all of the work up front...

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Q: I love my BF. That's the #1 item on my list of pros and cons for staying w/ him. The cons involve him having a crappy job, no ambition, still living at home, afraid to commit, etc. The pros are: I love him, he isn't threatened by me (women's equality), we have fun together. More cons than pros, but does love outweigh all?

A: Only the person in love can answer that question. I think true love can conquer many obstacles, but it also depends on t...

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Q: Dear guyspeak masterminds, how do I keep a relationship friendly with a neighbor who wants to hang out romantically? He's alluded to wanting to try a romantic relationship, but that's not what I want. From what I can tell, there doesn't seem to be anything wrong with him, I'm just not attracted to him that way. Help!

A: Well, you can just be honest like you would with any guy. Tell him you're not looking to date right now, or you don't wa...

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Q: My whiteboyfriend says to me "Keep your hood ass on your hood block where you belong. He is also an out of work brick layer, semi emotinally abusive and has NO friends. We havent spoke since last Friday...Is it over? Why do I care so much and constantly look at my phone for a text from him? Is he waiting for my call?

A: Booboo, there is so much wrong with this situation I don't even know where to start. No. He's not waiting for your call....

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Readers, Send Me Your Questions for my Interview with ELNA BAKER

This weekend I'll be interviewing (on camera) the very witty and layered ELNA BAKER for GUYSPEAK. Elna is a successful writer/performer/storyteller with an amazing past -- juggling religion, body image, virginity and the search for personal truth, to name a few.Her...

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Q: I am a 27yr old woman, in a town full of middle class and wealthy families with every advantage& good educations. I can count 7 women I am friends or acquaintances with that are accidentally pregnant right now 6 of which are not married& in bad relationships, and one woman who did it 2 times.Why are women doing this?!

A: Interesting that you assume that because you are in a town full of well-to-do individuals that these issues seem like th...

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Q: I figure that until we have a talk about exclusivity, I am free to date other people. Is that fair?

A: Being exclusive should not feel like a trap, it should feel like a treat - a good opportunity. Your question sounds more...

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Have you ever dated a SEX GOD?

I had dinner with a girl friend this week who told me that she and her man have sex for 90+ minutes at a time - often twice in one night. Oh, and usually once in the morning if they...

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Q: BF scoffed at me for wearing Coach shoes. I work extremely hard each week, know how to save/budget my money, and wanted to treat myself for once. I told him he was rude and I was very hurt. He made me feel like a snob for wearing shoes I really like. He said I thought I was "better" than him. What are your thoughts????

A: Is your boyfriend an Occupy Wall Streeter?? If not, then it just sounds like he has some personal insecurity or feels th...

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Q: Panama I need your help. I have a friend who's really nice and sweet but is kinda ignorant (it comes from lack of exposure to people of color, not hate). So we usually end up talking about race and I try to educate him. We have rational conversations and really seems to appreciate the education, since moving (Jlove1/3)

A: Here's the rest of this question: since moving to NYC from his small midwest town. He recently asked me out. But I'm con...

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Q: How do you tell an ex-boyfriend that you are currently dating someone he knows? Should you tell him before he finds out from someone else?

A: No. He's your ex. You don't owe him an explanation. It's none of his business. It doesn't matter if or when or how he fi...

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Q: Thoughts on getting involved with a guy who is legally separated but not divorced? He also has a young child with his "ex" wife.

A: Bad idea. People do it, but it's still a bad idea. It's wrong, it's messy and it won't end well. She's not his ex. That'...

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