Tag: Exes

Q: Dear RP! Is it possible that my ex changed his mind after having ended our relationship because he couldn't commit? We met recently for the first time after the break-up and he's hitting on me and being kinder than ever. I'm not keeping my hopes up, but I'd like to know if it's possible IRL, or is it Hollywood fare?

A: If he couldn't commit before, and he's just flirting with you now, odds are pretty good the reasons he's an ex are still...

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Q: My ex remarried, regrets it and is now contacting me. What should I do?

A: You don't say how you feel about him, but regardless, my advice would be to tell him to leave you alone. You've already ...

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Q: A boy who's girlfriend died last year has recently been coming onto me. He has "RIP Claire" on the back of his truck. I think this is a good indicator that he's not over it. How can I be sure that I'm not just a rebound and that his heart would really be ready for a relationship?

A: I think you might be jumping to conclusions. I get why the message on the back of his truck might give you pause, but to...

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Q: I give you the sweatshirt dilemma. An ex once gave me a sweatshirt. I wear it around my house but never tell my bf about its existence as it may bother him. I do not hold any feelings for its original owner. I just love how comfy it is, but I don't want to get rid of it. Am I wrong for hiding it from my bf?

A: Ah, yes, the dreaded sweatshirt dilemma. An intro like that will get your question noticed every time. You aren't wrong ...

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Q: I was looking at some pictures on my BF’s computer and came across naked pictures and videos of his ex. He has not dated her in 2 years. We have dated for over a year and are serious. I do not mind regular pictures, but naked?! He does not know that I have seen them. It is really bothering me. What should I do?

A: I'm guessing you think that he still looks at those pictures and videos. And you may be right. Well here's the question ...

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Q: GBFF: My bf has lived with this one guy since I met him. I usually dont have problems with him, but I do have some major problems with his gf (shes the bff of my current bf's ex). Now both of them are egging this girl who used to be friends with them on and encouraging her and saying things like "sounds like date [1/2]

A: Here's the whole question: GBFF: My bf has lived with this one guy since I met him. I usually dont have problems with hi...

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Q: Hey GBFF! I'm really good friends with one of my exes (there was no catastrophic end, just didn't work out) and recently he told me that I was (still) his first choice to be the mother of his children. Not wife or girlfriend (again) but baby mama. Seriously, was that supposed to be a compliment?

A: I suppose I don't know, but unless he actually used the words "baby mama" then I think it might be a fair assumption tha...

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Q: I've been dating this guy for a year. He has a daughter who I spend a lot of time with, but he hasn't told her mother that he is seeing someone. What should I do? What should I tell him?

A: There's nothing to tell. After a year, she knows all about you, trust me. Even if she didn't, it wouldn't be your place ...

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Q: If a guy changes his number after a breakup, obviously that is a big sign he never wants to hear from me again. But it has been a few years and I would like to reconnect. What do you think of re-connections? Bad idea? Just leave it be?

A: If he didn't want to talk to you then, he probably doesn't want to talk to you now. I don't think reconnecting is a bad ...

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Q: My Ex boyfriend is dating a younger girl a month after we broke up. I found out and sent him very nasty text messages about what i thought of him. We got in a fight and agreed to never talk to each other. But now i regret that. Is there any hope of us ever being friends?

A: Maybe, maybe not, it's up to him. We all know that letting go of your ex is hard, really hard, but calling to chew them ...

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Q: My ex bf broke up with me around Valentines day. He mailed the Valentines day card he handmade to me a week after.The card came with a note about sorry things didn't work out, etc. But the card is filled with his feelings.The card was written couple days before we broke up. I don't know what to think..

A: Well, I really don't think it's fair that he sent you that card after dumping you. Kind of adding insult to injury, no? ...

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Q: ok so my boyfriend is going out of town with his ex for the weekend. How can I tell him that im not comfortable with him going with his ex without seeming jealous? I trust him just not his ex.

A: Well I think you tell him what you just told me -- that you don't feel comfortable with him going on a trip with his ex....

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Q: my ex has been contacting me, even though he has a girlfriend. He has shared that they are arguing a lot. Does he want free therapy or is he interested in reuniting?

A: A bit of both. Also, he probably wants to hook up with you. If he really wanted to get back together, he'd break up with...

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Q: My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me totally out of the blue. Didn't really give me a very valid reason. Should I try to sort it out or just leave it?

A: If there's no reason, and he won't give you one, then yeah, let it go. As hard as it is to do so, sometimes you just don...

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Q: My boyfriend of 1 year and I spend 90% of the time together. I truly believe he hasn't cheated on me, he's always with me, but I've seen flirty texts on one specific girl, (they've been friends for 9 years, kissed once, she's interested in him), and his ex, (he's only had one serious gf, for 4 years). Why does he?

A: Well, this may be the way he's always talked to his female friend and his ex and he thinks it's harmless. Or it could be...

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Q: why does my ex boyfriend post pics of himself with his new girlfriend on facebook?

A: I'm going to answer this question initially in two different "voices". The first will be how you want me to answer it. B...

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Q: Even though my ex and I never worked out and were on &off for 4 years he was always insanely attracted to me and said I was the best he'd ever had, my body was perfect for him, and I could always get him going asap Now that its over will that ever go away fo him? Or do men stay attracted to some people forever?

A: Interesting question. Ultimately you wonder if your ex will always be insanely attracted to you? From a strictly physica...

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Q: My ex and I have been trying to work things out for a few months. He stopped trying and I kept trying and he got mad. So I started moving on which upset him. He says he wants us to date other people then try but still wants to be in my life and still sends me flirty texts. What should i do?

A: Cut him loose for good. If he's not going to put the effort in, and nothing you do is good enough for him, well, then wh...

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