Tag: Family

Q: My brother's girlfriend has a thing for me. She keeps flirting and sending me pictures. I like her too but i don't want my bro to like kill me. What the hellz do i do ?

A: Really? You have to ask what to do in this situation? That's a little bit pathetic. So is the fact that you're more worr...

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Q: Should I stay or should I go? Been together 10 months, never had a fight, calls every night (or during the day), listens, snuggles, sex is great. but: never met friends or family, only has time to see me once every other week, had a messy divorce a few years back, always late.

A: I can't tell you whether to stay or go. Only you can make that decision. I will tell you that I think the pros you menti...

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Q: Some of my uncles say suggestive things about my looks. It's awkward and gross but I think saying anything will be equally awkward. None of them have EVER made any sort of sexual advances EVER, so that's a non-issue; it's just the icky comments. They say them to their sisters too. Is this something I just have to bear?

A: No, you don't have to bear it. You know how to stop it. The question is, are you willing to do it? It's too bad that the...

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Q: Girls BFF, does a death mean death of a relationship? I recently started dating an incredible guy 2 months ago his mom had cancer & passed away last week. He's been texting every other day but we havent spoken yet, the funeral was 2 days ago, i'm scared he's pulling away. what is the best way to deal w/this situation?

A: Honestly, in this situation the only thing that you can do is let him know that you're there for him. Let's be real, dea...

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Q: My dad has only met my bf of 3 years once, when we started dating. Dad said, "He has the whole good boyfriend act down, but I would be insulted if he thought I bought it." At some point I'd like them to meet properly, but I'm really nervous that it'll go badly. How do I tactfully make sure everyone behaves themselves?

A: You've been waiting on them meeting again because you're nervous about how it's going to go...and you've been dating for...

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Q: Will I always take back seat to his ex wife and mother of his children? His kids are 17 and 18, and he is constantly doing things with the ex and kids.

A: Given the age of his children, no, you definitely shouldn't be taking a back seat. I'm going to assume that you all neve...

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Q: Girl's BFF, please help me get a better view. It's great my fiance values family above anything else but it's starting to make me feel like I'm nothing compared to it and he can just easily replace me with someone new, whereas family stays forever. If I marry him, I worry I will still be nothing compared to his family

A: I find it odd that you feel replaceable when this man has decided to ask you to marry him and bring you into the very fa...

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Q: I have f*cked up genes and my family f*cked up my life. Now I have cemented walls around my heart. Theyre like....say 3 feet thick and 100 feet tall. Yeah, hard to get in. I want to be able to love and have meaningful relationships, but these walls are not coming down. Im pretty f*cked. How do I let someone in?

A: I've been brain chewing on a concept I read a few weeks ago: Life is about taking responsibility for things you are not ...

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Q: Hey WA! Love your answers! My sister and I are close except she says I should accept family when they reach out. I am warm toward some, but I stay away (I say hi) from a few. She says they've changed but I'm still not strong enough to deal with "No one will ever love you," etc. Can I fix this or should I walk?

A: Thank you. Should you walk from what, your family? Ha. Good luck with that. They're a little hard to shake. It's like th...

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Q: New York City + Raising a family = What I want. Suburbs + Raising a family = What my fiance wants. Living in the suburbs goes against much of what I stand for. He doesn't want our kids growing up in the hard city. How can we come to an agreement without ruining our relationship? Are we just not meant to be? HELP!

A: Now this is a question I can relate to. While I don't have kids, I also live in the "city that only occasionally sleeps"...

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Q: I've been dating a guy for 6 months. We get along great and the sex is amazing. He's VERY committed to his family and it leaves very little time for us to see each other. He says I'm only his 3rd serious relationship (he's 33) and it's all starting to make sense now because family is 1st with him. Should I bail now?

A: Your amazing sex with this man is of no consequence to this question, but I thank you for the heads up. You have stumble...

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Q: Hey, I'm VERY close to my three cousins. They're like my sisters and my best friends. I would kill and die for them, no one else even comes close to the amount of love I have for them. So my question is, how would a guy feel about this? Would he understand, or feel inadequate? Thanks.

A: I don't think the guy will care. I mean, you're not inviting your cousins along on dates or anything, right? I assume he...

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Q: After my brother had a bunch of his bro friends over for some late-night Call of Duty party in our basement, I found several unopened and a few possibly-used condoms strewn across the floor. Needless to say, slightly confused and grossed out. Massive gay orgy? Or some weird male bonding ritual?

A: "A few possibly used condoms"? Used for what? finger puppets? Transporting Red Bulls? I'm not asking you to start geneti...

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Q: My family is very conservative Christian. I hold to these same beliefs but I'm also the wild child...I'm living with my bf. I'm more than ok with my choice but I am frequently under attack by my family because they don't agree. How do I handle this?

A: It's very simple. I'm assuming you are over 18, which makes you an adult. That means that no one can tell you how to liv...

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Q: What do you do when your boyfriend's whole family hates you but you've been with him for over two years?

A: You ask yourself three questions: 1) Why do they hate me, and is there is anything I can do about it? Have I offended th...

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Q: Parents = divorced. Neither has ever made efforts towards an active family life. Now my dad's aunt is sick and dying (I barely know her) & he passive-aggressively hints that I should want to road trip with him to say goodbye. It feels crass to say I have more important things to do. What are your thoughts? Am I obligated?

A: This is a tough one. On the one hand, it's probably your dad's way of trying to connect with you. He's sad about his aun...

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