Tag: Friend Zone

Q: i... love... you...as a friend.

A: Man, that hurts. Remember the first time you heard that? Like your first crush, who told you that and just destroyed you...

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Q: A guy I kind of dig high-fived me the other day. Game over? High-fiving seems like such a buddy/friend thing to do.

A: Nah, not game over. You're right, it's a buddy/friend thing, but it's also an awkward flirty thing done by guys out of h...

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Q: Please be as wise-assy as you can if I need a reality check. I want my ex back. We ended on good terms, he wants friendship, we sometimes hook up, he still cares. We still like each other, but I want him back as a boyfriend for sure this time. Says he's not up for a relationship right now. Tips? Wake up call?

A: I'm not really sure what there is to discuss. He doesn't want a relationship right now; what do you intend to do, try to...

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Q: You write -- help me! He corresponds with me almost every day, he offers to shop with me (albeit somewhat sadly), he does stuff for me... and refuses my hugs (says he expresses himself through art... which is true. Art no one else sees, which is a pity). Friend-zoned or plain weird?

A: The very first thing that jumped into my head when I read your question was the Bruce Springsteen song, Secret Garden. Y...

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Q: I've been with my boyfriend about 4 months now and he's amazing. Says he's very happy, calls all the time, go out a couple times a week, etc... except he won't kiss me. I don't get it..and I don't want to bring it up and embarass him. Explain??

A: Four months and no kiss? That's not normal. I would love to explain but I'm not sure I can. I know some people like to t...

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Q: Hi BFF! Please settle a Friend Zone argument: Will a guy ever really put a girl (one he spends a significant amount of time with) in the friend zone? My male coworkers say no bc the thought of hooking up is always there. Are they right or can a guy and girl who hang out a lot just be friends?

A: I think you're both right, however, if I have to take sides to settle an argument: then they win. It takes a whole lot f...

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Q: If a guy asks for advice on another girl, am I automatically in the friend zone?

A: Pretty much. Sorry. At best, you're a fallback plan. Sure, it would be nice if life played out like an '80s movie and th...

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Q: I'm 22 and a "thicker" girl - not quite chubby chaser material, but not skinny enough that guys go out of their way to talk to me. I've never been asked on a legit date before, meanwhile all my friends are entering long-term relationships. I'm told I'm a "guy's girl" but why does no man seem to want me?

A: Based solely on the information that you provided, I have no idea why no guy seems to want you. I will say this though, ...

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Q: I really like a geeky guy that I meet every couple of months to do geeky stuff with. He's told me that he talks to me more than everyone else put together. I asked him out but he said he had "recently started seeing someone..we'll see how it pans out." Don't think he's had a girl before. So why that response?

A: Ouch! How do you know he's never had a girlfriend before? Has he told you, or are you just assuming that because he's a ...

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Q: Why do guys put the good girls in the "friend zone?" Why do they sleep with the hot to trot girls, yet want to do everything else with the good girl? Will the good girl ever win? I'm the good girl that he talks to hours every day, we eat together, he cooks for me, everything, yet he doesn't see me in that way.

A: Here's the thing. Good girls might now win while us men are younger and more interested in experiencing life. But in the...

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Q: HELP! A friend that I'm crushing on just told me (after I confessed) that he's always seen me as family, because I remind him so much of a female relative. He's been hooking up with an ex friend but not dating her, so I'm wondering - do I still even have hope? Can I get out of the technical "friend zone" one day? How?

A: Ouch. Unless he has some sort of creepy Flowers in the Attic-type crush on the female relative you remind him of, it's s...

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Q: If a guy confines a girl to the friend zone, does that always mean he finds her unattractive?

A: Not at all. You can be the most attractive woman on Earth and be relegated to the friend zone. You see, you might ALSO b...

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Q: How do you know if you're in a guy's friend zone?

A: One surefire way to know is if he brings up other women to you casually and talks to you about issues or problems he's h...

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Q: When you "friendzone" a guy, does he know that's happened? I know sometimes women say guys are clueless...but truly...you guys aren't THAT clueless are you?

A: It helps to be straight up with people. If you want a guy to know he's in the "friendzone," the best way is to tell him ...

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