Tag: Friends

Q: Hey man! So..age old idea but I wanna know if you really think it's true. When a guy's best buds are all 'wifed up', does a guy who once swore he didn't want a relationship, suddenly feel the desire for companionship and a relationship?

A: Hey man! It is age old and it is true. Monkey see, monkey do. Man see, man do. Women, too. One alpha chick buys a pair o...

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Q: Hello RP. Is it normal for my best guy friend and I (both hetero) to discuss somewhat personal details about sex? Stuff like history, likes and dislikes, porn, masturbation, kinky stuff we've done. I'm wondering if it might lead to us crossing the platonic boundaries. What do you think? Thanks for your input.

A: I'd say it's maybe unusual, but definitely not outside the normal. As far as crossing the platonic line, well, realistic...

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Q: One of my guy friends is always super judgmental about my behavior (i.e. partying) when he also parties. How do I tell this hypocrite to lay off without being mean about it?

A: It depends on what you're doing. Everyone has a different definition of partying. If he's judging you for the same behav...

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Q: He decided we should be just friends after dating for 9 mos; he is battling cancer for the 2nd time, wants to handle it alone, & thinks he is holding me back. I appreciate what he is trying to do & he doesn't need extra stress- but he's the one. Is it not smart to want to help him through this?

A: Alright, this one has me conflicted. One the one hand, he doesn't need the stress of you seeing him go through a load of...

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Q: Dude, Nick. Can I just bitch for a sec? I have this friend who is a one-upper. SO ANNOYING. She can't ever just say "I'm happy for you" it always has to be like "Oh me too! Actually, for me..." And she's bragging how she's got 4 guys wanting to do her. It's just irritating. Can I get some "BitchSTFU" solidarity please?

A: That's definitely annoying. We've all had friends, or have friends, like that. You may come to a point where you realize...

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Q: A guy stopped being my friend because I wouldn't have sex with him. He said many rude things and then immediately after he said we need to pretend to be friendly for our friends. I've tried to keep my distance while still being polite, but now he is telling everyone that I need to be more friendly. What gives?

A: Why are you even listening to this dude? You aren't friends anymore but he's giving you orders about how to act? Tell hi...

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Q: Please help me! I have a female friend who is a wonderful person but not great in the grooming dept. She picks crumbs out of her hair and eats them; I think it's unconscious/stress related. She's extremely sensitive. How can we tell her that it's gross and won't help her get a boyfriend, which she wants, without seeming mean?

A: What you describe isn't a grooming issue, but, as you suspect, a nervous habit. It could be a simple absent-minded behav...

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Q: Should I stay or should I go? Been together 10 months, never had a fight, calls every night (or during the day), listens, snuggles, sex is great. but: never met friends or family, only has time to see me once every other week, had a messy divorce a few years back, always late.

A: I can't tell you whether to stay or go. Only you can make that decision. I will tell you that I think the pros you menti...

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Q: 3 months ago, my best friend was beaten by her ex. He's back in town and they're reconciling. She's told me she knows it's nuts but that she's SO happy. She swears it's because of drugs and alcohol and that he's changed. How can I be a supportive friend when I want to mutilate the "love of [her] life?"

A: You're in a predicament and she's in danger. Unfortunately, both are true. If a man beats his girl he needs heavy, heavy...

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Q: I am a self proclaimed "fag hag." It seems the only guys that are ever around me are gay and as much as I love hanging with my gays, I need a straight boyfriend! Is my overwhelming amount of gay bffs ruining my chances of finding a hetero man?

A: Yes, if you only hang around homosexuals, you will have trouble meeting straight men. The basic problem here is that you...

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Q: Who is your best friend?

A: Well, I could be cheesy and say my girlfriend, but that isn't true. My girlfriend is great, but it dawned on me that I'v...

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Q: I started dating a guy at work about 6 months ago.he's a great guy- funny,smart, sensitive and very cool.. i just found out that he asked a friend of mine out about 4 years ago,She also works in the same office but she didn't say yes. I feel weird because shes a good friend, and i feel like a second choice..am i crazy?

A: Feeling weird because he asked out a good friend of yours a while back strikes me as pretty normal, but I wouldn't read ...

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Q: I used to be close with my cousin until he began dating my friend two yrs. ago. We were cool until I found out she cheated on him in the beginning of the relationship. He choose to forgive her and move on but I couldn't! My cousin says to let it go, but when I try I just become angry! Advice?

A: Listen to your cousin. Let it go. Hey, I get it. We get more angry when people hurt our loved ones than we do when peopl...

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Q: I have 2 friends - both have admitted to me that they like each other but have made me PROMISE not to say anything, convinced that the other doesn't like them in that way. Do I keep my mouth shut & let this idiocy continue or break my promise for the greater good of them seeing the light and finally getting it on lol.

A: Promises are meant to protect, but protecting something good from happening isnt "protecting" so much as prohibiting. In...

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Q: My friend is posting personal ads on Craigslist and I don't know if he's just THAT lonely, or if this is normal? He's a good-looking normal dude and I don't think this is particularly safe. He's only 22, shouldn't he be meeting people in person, not online?

A: Your concern is laudable, but I don't know that either of us has the right to say what a grown man should or should not ...

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Q: About a year ago, a longtime friend told me he was in love with me. We had a good (though awkward) talk, and I confessed to not feeling the same. We haven't really spoken much since. He's now getting married. They invited me to the wedding, but I wonder if he was just being polite or actually wants me to go. Do I go?

A: Tough question. Perhaps they were just being polite, but then again, you two were friends for a long time before things ...

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Q: There is a saying "Bros before hoes." But how come my fiancee's friends don't really have his back? They think it's ok to get blazed all day, drink and drive. So is that saying only true if a girl comes between friends, and not when that bro will ruining his life all for the sake of a good time?

A: Typically "bros before hos" means that you side with your guy friends over your lady. However, most guys eventually outg...

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Q: if a guy friend tells you, its to dangerous for you to be his friend.. what does this mean?

A: Could mean a few things...1. One, he is attracted to you and wants to sleep you with. BUT, he doesn't want a relationshi...

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