Tag: Honesty

Q: Why does he lie about stupid things?

A: Because he's a liar and that's what liars do: they lie. Big ones, small ones, it doesn't matter. Lying is a powerful hab...

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Q: I told a man I love him, and he said you don't know me well enough to say that. What should I say now?

A: Nothing. What's left to say? You said what you felt and he said what he felt. The end. You can't take it back, and you c...

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Q: The man I've just started seeing, has informed me that he's slept with at least 90 women in the past!! Why would he tell me this??

A: He's either bragging/lying to impress you or learned from hard experience that his past sexual adventures are going to c...

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Q: I give you the sweatshirt dilemma. An ex once gave me a sweatshirt. I wear it around my house but never tell my bf about its existence as it may bother him. I do not hold any feelings for its original owner. I just love how comfy it is, but I don't want to get rid of it. Am I wrong for hiding it from my bf?

A: Ah, yes, the dreaded sweatshirt dilemma. An intro like that will get your question noticed every time. You aren't wrong ...

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Q: The guy I consider more of a brother asked me out today. He likes me, but I'm just not attracted to him at all. He's moving this year, and everyone says that I 'NEED' to go out with him. But whenever I picture dating him, I picture dating my little brother- which, by the way, is NOT a good image to have. What do I do?

A: Hold on a second - Puts on Dad voice and looks over his glasses "If everyone said you NEED to jump off a cliff, would yo...

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Q: Oh wisest of all asses, I need your guidance in knowing what is right. I have been dating this guy for a little over six months, but it doesn't seem to be going anywhere. If I date other guys, do I have to tell him? Why or not?

A: No, you don't have to tell him anything, but I think you should. If the relationship isn't progressing the way you would...

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Q: Should I tell the girlfriend that her dream hunny has been sleeping with me? I think she needs to know, he has been doing it the entire time they have been together?

A: I'm assuming you just found out about this yourself, so, yes, she needs to know. Her trust is being violated, and her bo...

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Q: When should I tell a guy I'm seeing that I have a child?

A: Immediately. Why wouldn't you? Your child is part of who you are. Tell him right upfront, and proudly. Your kid is part ...

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Q: My bf kissed a chick when he was drunk at a college party. He told me two days later, wildly apologetic & convinced he'd screwed things up permanently. We are two hours away from each other, going to different schools. I love him. What should I do?

A: What he did was wrong, obviously. I can't tell you what to do, but here are some things to think about. One, we all scre...

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Q: How do guys feel about mental disorders?

A: What kind is it and how up front are you about it? It's one thing if you have something fairly mild that allows you to f...

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Q: I have OCD, and I tend to want things really neat and in a particular place in my apartment. I'm starting to get serious with a guy, and when he comes over, I tend to nitpick about where he puts things. I don't know how not to drive him away or piss him off - especially if the relationship moves forward.

A: Are you getting help for your obsessive compulsive disorder? Therapy, medication, etc.? There are treatments and resourc...

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Q: Is it crazy to pose as someone else on MySpace to talk to my high school sweetheart? Not trying to find anything out I just miss our conversations. We where together for 3yrs. He was my best friend. The break-up didn't go well that's why I'd pose as someone else. Its been 4yrs since the break up.

A: Yes. That is absolutely crazy. Who uses MySpace anymore? The last time I logged into my profile, Bush was president. (In...

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Q: I think my friend has a problem with alcohol. She doesn't act normal unless she has a few drinks. She drinks every night, most nights alone. And she always drinks to the point of majorly F-ed up, not just buzzed. I want to help her, but how the hell do I go about it?

A: If your description of her is accurate, then she definitely has a drinking problem. Most of the behaviors you mention a...

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Q: Hey BFF, why are black men (sometimes spanish men also)more upfront about what they want than other men, say white men and asian? Its pretty obvious what they want, but is it because logically it may be that white men has too big an ego for the pain of rejection or is it that black men got nothing to lose? Or both?

A: I'm not sure I actually agree with your general premise. I don't know that Black or Latino men are more upfront than whi...

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Q: I'm a single parent and am trying online dating for the first time. My daughter has special needs and I'm unsure if I should include that information in my online profile or wait until later to disclose it. I strongly believe in being open and honest but is putting it in my profile too much too soon?

A: Be honest and follow your instincts. You are not ashamed of her, so don't hide her away. It isn't the 18th Century anymo...

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Q: I met a guy through online dating and I've asked him to be my date to a New Years party. The problem is I don't want to tell my friends how we met. Is it okay for me to ask him to lie to them and say we met at a bar or something if they ask?

A: Why are you embarrassed about online dating? Everyone does it. Match, OK Cupid, eHarmony, etc. It's one of the ways we m...

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Q: Mike and I are D/45 & have been 10mos/dating. Frequently, he addresses me as "GIRL" What is he trying to tell me.

A: In another ten months he'll add "FRIEND"? Sometimes men and women obsess about titles, and not enough on actions. If he'...

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