Tag: Hookups

Q: What do you do if you have a friend who recently came out of the closet, and is hitting on you, but you'r unsure if you want to flirt back! im straight/curious!

A: It's pretty simple: are you going to follow through with your flirting, if you decide to, or not? It seems harmless, but...

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Q: What does it mean if a guy u hook up with 4 the 1st time wants to eat u out.... Picks u up carries u to a chair, throws ur legs over his shoulders, kneels down n goes to town.... How does he feel? Is he really into u? What does he think of me?

A: It means SIX things: 1. He is fairly athletic 2. He is fairly limber 3. You are fairly limber 4. He likes eating out 5. ...

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Q: I had a baby by a guy I hooked up with 2 years ago. He is white and I'm black. He texts me sometimes and gives me diapers here and there, but never introduces our baby into his life. He tells me all the time he wants to be apart of her life but never follows through. Is he ashamed to have a black child or what?

A: Diapers and texts? What the hell is that? If he thinks his own flesh and blood doesn't deserve more from him,  then, yes...

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Q: Can a man who you just met then basically spent the weekend with, was very affectionate & more concerned about your pleasure than his, tried talking you out of having sex but was amazing at it, gave you oral sex the first night, took you out for breakfast & to a friends BBQ be emotionally unattached like he says he is?

A: Honestly, yeah, he can. Just because a guy is being nice to you doesn't mean he's got feelings for you. Don't get me wro...

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Q: What do you think about me dating/hooking up with my brother's 21 yr old friends when i'm 17? Is that really wrong? Even when they initiate it?

A: There's no better research and training program offered to teenagers than their sibling's friends. Here, from the comfor...

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Q: What does it mean when a guy comes over only when its dark out?

A: This can best be answered by YOU and delivered in multiple choice format. Take your time, work through the potential ans...

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Q: How do you know when a guy only wants you for sex? What are the signs?

A: Here's ten signs: 1. He doesn't want to cuddle, spoon, snuggle or do anything that doesn't involve putting his penis in ...

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Q: Can you give me the play by play of a booty call/one night stand? Like how a guy expects it to happen.

A: Here's the basic outline of a booty call: 1. It's between the hours of midnight and 2AM. 2. You get a text that reads "H...

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Q: I've been friends with this guy for two years. I'm very attracted to him, but he's married. He recently made a pass at me and we almost had sex, but called it quits before it went too far. Now he won't talk to me, Why?

A: First of all, kudos on the discipline there. Second of all, run. Run far, far away. Because there's a storm a-comin', an...

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Q: okay so this guy asked me to hook up but im not sure if im a rebound... his girl friend broke up with him like three weeks ago.. but hes always hit on me and stuff... what should i do?

A: You have two choices, depending on what you want. If you just want a fun, no strings attached romp, then go for it. Atta...

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Q: I am very very bad at flirting. When a guy starts flirting with me, I can only give a smile and yes/no answers. And when a guy compliments my necklace/ hair/ dress is that flirting? What should I do to be a better flirt? Thanks from a shy college girl

A: Aw. I am almost positive you are doing just fine. So long as you don't drool, or cackle maniacally, or, I don't know, mo...

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Q: Whats your position on telling potential hook ups that you have a strain of high risk HPV?

A: First, my advice to you in general is to avoid "hookups" just as you would avoid a plague. This isn't the 1890s, there a...

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Q: Does the old rule "He won't buy the cow if he's getting the milk for free" hold true? If I like someone then I want to fool around (i.e. bone) and not play the games...does that automatically disqualify me as girlfriend material?

A: That is a gross rule. You should be disqualified as girlfriend material for even quoting that lame, old-fashioned chestn...

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Q: Okay so here is a good ol' "insecure woman" kind of a question, will a guy make out with a girl if he doesn't want to? Like if he felt sorry for her or she initiated it?

A: The truth of the matter is most guys (if they are single) will do just about anything with most women at any time, even ...

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