Tag: Insecurity

Q: I know my guy loves me and I also know he enjoys sex with men . where does that leave me ? Am I just a cover foe his gay life?

A: Well, here's the question: are you in a committed relationship with rules you've both agreed on? And is he breaking thos...

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Q: I give you the sweatshirt dilemma. An ex once gave me a sweatshirt. I wear it around my house but never tell my bf about its existence as it may bother him. I do not hold any feelings for its original owner. I just love how comfy it is, but I don't want to get rid of it. Am I wrong for hiding it from my bf?

A: Ah, yes, the dreaded sweatshirt dilemma. An intro like that will get your question noticed every time. You aren't wrong ...

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Q: He is younger and says he loves me but feels inadequate

A: Tell him to get over it or find someone younger to date. Thanks for the (non-)question....

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Q: How can I stop being insecure over porn?

A: Start with remembering he's with you, not them, and that it's fantasy: he doesn't want to be with porn stars in real lif...

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Q: At 22 did you have any idea where you were going in life, or what was going to make you happy down the line? Cause I do believe that at 22 I am royally effed. Quarter-life crisis/post-college depression advice?

A: You are not royally effed, my friend. You are experiencing the same thing every college graduate experiences when the fo...

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Q: Is it emotional abuse if you're brunette and fair skinned when your boyfriend always talks about how he thinks tan blondes are the hottest? It makes me feel inadequate.

A: Inconsiderate, yes. Emotional abuse? That's taking it a bit too far. Maybe its just semantics but when you start tossing...

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Q: How uncomfortable are guys with a girl talking about her dad sometimes? I get the sense that they sometimes get squirmy when I say things like "yeah, my dad is good at so and so." I don't have 'daddy issues', I just have a strong father figure. Is it a turn-off if I talk about him?

A: Of course you are going to talk about your dad. He's a big part of your life. Nothing wrong with that. As a dad myself,...

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Q: I was on a date with this guy for the second time, and I wonder if I talked too much because I was too happy! I really like him and would like to move forward with him. It's not like we talk everyday, and I wonder if he's still interested in me. What is the most reliable indication that a guy still wants to date you?

A: He asks you out again. You had a good time and showed it. You were yourself. If your exuberance turned him off, then I d...

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Q: Why are teenage boys such pussies about asking girls out?

A: Because they are teenage boys. Have you ever asked someone out on a date? It's harder than it sounds. You're putting you...

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Q: Girl's BFF, please help me get a better view. It's great my fiance values family above anything else but it's starting to make me feel like I'm nothing compared to it and he can just easily replace me with someone new, whereas family stays forever. If I marry him, I worry I will still be nothing compared to his family

A: I find it odd that you feel replaceable when this man has decided to ask you to marry him and bring you into the very fa...

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Q: Am I shallow if I don't like dating guys or having boyfriends that way less than me? I'm not fat it's just skinny guys like my curvy body and it makes me feel bigger cuz they're really skinny!

A: No, not at all. Shallow, as a rule, means you're dismissing somebody as beneath you for reasons that are fairly petty. N...

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Q: When we're fooling around in bed, why do guys always ask if I like their dick?

A: They ask because many men are insecure about their equipment, particularly guys who worry that they don't measure up. Th...

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Q: A guy I went out with once left me a voicemail one night around 9pm. Then he texted me five times the next day while I was at work. The texts went from asking me to go out again to things like “Did I say or do something to scare you off?!?” At what point does “I like you” end and “I'm creepy” begin?

A: In your guy's case, the wheels started to wobble with the first text and flew off completely with the second one, causin...

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Q: I have big feet, it's part genetics and part orthopedics. I'm very self conscious about them, I mean I keep them well kept and all, but they make me feel unfeminine, it was a long time before I found a specialty shop that carried girly shoes my size. My new guy has smaller feet than me, and I'm not sure I can take it.

A:  You're not sure you can take it, but your man seems to be able to take it just fine. Often the things we find nearly un...

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Q: I earn more than my bf and he's told me that he feels intimidated by it and my background education; that I could do better than him. How do I convince him that he's the one that I want?

A: Ugh. You shouldn't have to. You're with him, aren't you? That's the strongest statement of all; why is it never enough? ...

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Q: My fiance loves me but he can't stand that I have a past. He is very jealous. Is this a bad thing?

A: What do you mean, he can't stand that you have a past? Everyone except newborn babies has a past, and even they have 37-...

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Q: I met this guy on a dating site. We went out, had a nice time, and he asked me out for another date. But yesterday I noticed that he's still listed on the dating site. Does that mean he's trying to find someone better?

A: No. You don't expect him to take down his profile after one good date, do you? Why would he? It's a little too soon to d...

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Q: Does it matter how big a girl's clit is? I always shave and keep it clean down there, and it's not THAT big, but my boyfriend said during sex, "it's like screwing a bologna sandwich." I think he was half joking, but is it a turn off? Do most men care?

A: Uhhhhh. Wow. Let me process that for a second. A bologna sandwich? Interesting. And how would he know what it's like to ...

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