Tag: Long Distance Relationships

Q: I'm in a long distance relationship and we've started sexting a lot. It's great and mutual. But I'm wondering if this will discourage him from making an effort to actually, physically get together with me (same location). Is this like getting the milk for free?

A: The difference between sexting and actual sex is less of a gap and more of a vast gulf. You're not giving the milk away ...

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Q: I hate long distance relationships, and I agree with you that they are rarely successful. ("OMG! There are exceptions! Me and my bf are doing it!" - every Guyspeak reader.) But what about a short-term scenario? My bf and I will be (far) apart this summer, and I need some honest truth.

A: Your situation is different. Because your time apart isn't open-ended but a hiatus, you should be okay. A few months isn...

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Q: Basically, there is this guy I really like, but he has a girlfriend that lives very far away.We hang out a lot and shows lots of different signs that he has feelings for me. He knows that I know he has a girlfriend, but he has never mentioned her to me or brought her up. What is going on!? Does he have feelings for me?

A: Oh for- HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND! WARNING! DANGER! RED FLAG! Seriously, whether he has feelings for you or not is absolutely ...

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Q: I'm in a ldr n each time i go to my bfs house something always comes up, hairties, hair in his bedroom n bathroom that isn't mine, condoms in his dresser, a earing, a girls shirt n even a sextoy toy that was out of a package n looks like it was used. But he always seems to have a believale excuse

A: Once, twice, three times a d-bag. He's cheating. Condoms and hair ties are one thing, women's clothing and sex toys are ...

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Q: What do you think about a girl proposing to a guy? My bf of 2+ years is sweet and shy and it takes him forever to make a decision about anything. We are facing a situation where we will be living in other countries. I feel like it's now or never! Is it flattering or emasculating for a girl to propose? Thanks! xo

A: I think it's sweet. Most guys would agree. It sounds like something needs to happen in this relationship before the long...

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Q: WA- help! My boyfriend recently came for a visit. We haven't been face to face for a year. Also I live with my parents. He wants to be all over me in front of them and I'm just not comfortable with that. When I told him politely to back off, he got all hurt and now he won't talk to me. How can I fix this?

A: God, what is it with all the whiny, pouty, butthurt men I keep hearing about in Guyspeak questions? Are guys really that...

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Q: I met a guy (in person) 6 months ago who lives 1500 miles away from me. We spent hours on the phone/Skype for 4 months prior to seeing each other again, and he just bought me a plane ticket to go visit him. Does he just want a bootycall? I know for a fact he could EASILY get sex from women nearby, so why fly me up?

A: If you met six months ago, he lives more than a thousand miles away from you, has spent hours on the phone with you, and...

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Q: I have a good online friend whom I used to have phone sex with a lot. One day he sorta acted like he didn't wanna do it anymore and I never asked why. We are still great friends and talk for hours a day. I suppose I am just wondering why he would want to stop. He doesn't have a girlfriend, and I suppose I miss doing it.

A: It could be that he started to feel awkward once things crossed from friends into racy, 1-900 number territory. Maybe he...

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Q: My bf kissed a chick when he was drunk at a college party. He told me two days later, wildly apologetic & convinced he'd screwed things up permanently. We are two hours away from each other, going to different schools. I love him. What should I do?

A: What he did was wrong, obviously. I can't tell you what to do, but here are some things to think about. One, we all scre...

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Q: Carefully designed YouTube playlists as the long distance, modern equivalent of mix tapes/CDs. Yay or nay? What's your take on this sort of gesture?

A: Definitely yay. That's a nice idea. You can send a playlist of music videos or funny videos or clips from your TV shows ...

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Q: My boyfriend of three years recently got a job on a cruise ship. He will be gone for 8 months with limited internet/phone access. I need advice on how to deal with his absence.

A: That's a tough situation. You want to support your boyfriend's career, but eight months with limited phone/Internet conn...

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Q: BFF, you seem the expert at LDR's. I still live at home so its always me that has to travel to visit my bf (he lives on his own 5 hrs away). He's only come here once and stayed with my fam, and never mentions visiting me.. just waits until I come. Does this mean he doesn't care as much? How do I tell him I'm unhappy?

A: While I'm not sure it means he doesn't care as much (though you'd be well within your rights to feel that way), it does ...

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Q: I met a great guy right before he moved to NYC and we had a few dates (no sex!). We kept in touch for 2 years, though we both had bfs/gfs in between. Now he lives about 6 hours away, and we've talked about meeting up. Is it worth it? Does he just want some booty? He must like me if he stayed in touch for 2 years..

A: I'm sure that the guy does like you. Nobody keeps in touch with somebody for two years without any shellacking unless th...

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Q: My boyfriend has to travel a lot for his job. One of his newly added friends on Facebook is a girl from a city he stayed in last week. Should I be worried?

A: Is it a coworker? If so, then you shouldn't worry. He's traveling, making professional contacts. Facebook can be a netwo...

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Q: I have been in a long distance relationship for about 3 yrs. But he never visits! Should I be worried?

A: Dear Person Who Wrote This, You've sent me this question a dozen or so times. I'm guessing you need this answered. But t...

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Q: What does it mean when a man says 'we'll play it by ear' on the phone? We talk a lot on the phone but we've never met in person (online dating site).

A: You'll play what by ear? Getting together in person? To me, "We'll play it by ear," "We'll see," etc. usually means a po...

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Q: I visited a friend who lives in Paris. I stayed at his house for two weeks and there was lots of flirting, hanging out, rough housing, cooking together, but no sex. We've sent gifts back and forth since I've been back. Is he interested?

A: Sounds like it. Of course Paris is a natural aphrodisiac, so there's always the chance of a false positive. But if he's ...

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