Tag: Moving On

Q: If you have a new girlfriend is there a chance you till love your ex but aare hiding it?

A: You want to hear "yes", but I've got to say no. Look, even if he does still have feelings, he's moving on. So should you...

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Q: I broke up with a guy who said he wasn't sure if he wanted a relationship, but then came back and said he did, only to find him saying the same thing a month later. Did I do something, or is he just an ass?

A: He's an ass. But at least he's a consistent ass. If he's said this to you twice, then realistically speaking he's not re...

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Q: My boyfriend of over a year broke up with me totally out of the blue. Didn't really give me a very valid reason. Should I try to sort it out or just leave it?

A: If there's no reason, and he won't give you one, then yeah, let it go. As hard as it is to do so, sometimes you just don...

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Q: ever since my boyfriend and i broke up he has been ignoring me since. i dont get it the break up was even. i broke up with him we got back together then i let him break up with me. its been three years and he hasnt said a word to me and i see him every day. did i do something to make him hate me?

A: Uh, yeah, you guys broke up. Just because it was "even" doesn't mean he's over it. People don't work like that. He could...

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Q: i was raped a few years ago and am largely over it. my last boyfriend knew because it was still fresh, but now that im seeing other people, and have put it in the past, should i tell them. i dont want to hide anything, but its not something i feel like talking about if unnecessary

A: Why the devil should you say word one, unless you feel a particular need to? Part of moving on is no longer dwelling on ...

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Q: How can you tell if your ex still loves you and wants you?

A: It doesn't matter. Exes are exes for a reason. If you broke up, getting back together is not going to magically solve th...

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Q: i found out that he was married and has a special needs child (cerebral palsy). his phone has been off for days, so i just left a message saying f*** you scumbag, i'm done. do you have any tips on how to heal and get over it?

A: Wow, what a prince. As for advice: don't linger over it. You didn't do anything deliberately wrong; you got fooled. It h...

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Q: I read through some older comments & someone wrote: "once a breakup is done, the exes don't have any obligation morally to support or help." Is this always true? I felt depressed last year & told an ex. He wasn't very supportive. I don't know if I have the right to be angry with him & it still REALLY eats away at me.

A: Overall, I would agree with that comment. While some exes can remain friends and be there for each other in small or lar...

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Q: I broke almost 60 days of No Contact to cuss out my ex when I found out he had a new girlfriend.I told him I hated him and never wanted to talk to him again and that he was the worst thing to ever happen to me.I had taken the high road and feel like I completely embarrassed myself and look pathetic.What should I do?

A: First off, don't worry. It happens. Yes, it wasn't the best way to handle the situation. But clearly you had some unreso...

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Q: I have diagnosed PTSD from the military, and one of the conditions that had stemmed from it is dermatillia. Basically, when I get anxious, I pick skin on my back. It gets horrible and I am scared to tell any potential guys about it. I feel they'll reject me. And yes, I'm getting help, but its a difficult condition.

A: Two things off the bat strike me as very positive. One: you are already seeking counseling and being proactive towards h...

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Q: My first love died a little over two years ago, for a while I was depressed and certainly not ready to date, but now I feel I'm ready to move on. I find now, though, I'm not interested in very many guys, and they aren't interested in me. Is there a way to be/seem more open and willing?

A: First of, I'm very sorry to hear about your loss. That is a very difficult situation, and I'm glad you are ready to star...

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Q: what does it mean when a man keeps sleeping with you after your break up

A: It means it's past time for you to ditch this loser and move on. If you break up, you need to break up: that is, move on...

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Q: After watching The Social Network, I came to the idea that most people, post break-up, have to prove themselves. Some girls cut their hair off, or run a marathon...but I never realized that guys react similarly, too. Is this the guys way of trying to win her back?

A: Sometimes. Though most of us don't write blog posts about how our ex is a b-word and then go create a sexist "Hot or Not...

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Q: My Nana died in late Oct. and I suffered an emotional breakdown. I broke up with my boyfriend of 6 months. A week and 1/2 later, I snapped out of it, but it was too late. He'd 'found what he was looking for.' I don't get it. Did he really move on that fast, or did I hurt his pride? I'm devastated, I still love him.

A: First off, I'm very sorry to hear about your grandmother's passing. But you can't beat yourself up over this. If nothing...

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Q: I just learned yesterday that my ex that I dated many years ago, had recently got engaged. I tried e-mailing him a few months back but he didn't respond. I'm just really confused about as to what she has and what I don't have.

A: Uh, him? Sorry. I don't mean to get all Mystery Man on you, but you need a little tough love. You broke up many years ag...

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Q: I found text msgs between my husband and his ex. He told her about me, but he also told her he loved her. When confronted he said that he hurt her badly and needed her forgiveness to move on, and she wouldn't talk to him if she knew we were married, but that he loves me and has never cheated. Should I believe him?

A: Well, I don't think he handled this well, but it all sounds pretty legit. He should have told you he was communicating w...

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Q: I've been divorced for over 5 years and we are still friends without benefits. It seems I just can't find a woman.

A: Stop being friends with your ex-wife. You will be amazed how the world opens up to you once you ditch your obvious bagga...

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