Tag: Red Flags

Q: What are some clues to know if he's "Mr. Wrong" ?

A: You want clues? Here is a list of 99 (!) clues that he might not be right for you. Thanks for the question....

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Q: Basically, there is this guy I really like, but he has a girlfriend that lives very far away.We hang out a lot and shows lots of different signs that he has feelings for me. He knows that I know he has a girlfriend, but he has never mentioned her to me or brought her up. What is going on!? Does he have feelings for me?

A: Oh for- HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND! WARNING! DANGER! RED FLAG! Seriously, whether he has feelings for you or not is absolutely ...

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Q: I love my BF. That's the #1 item on my list of pros and cons for staying w/ him. The cons involve him having a crappy job, no ambition, still living at home, afraid to commit, etc. The pros are: I love him, he isn't threatened by me (women's equality), we have fun together. More cons than pros, but does love outweigh all?

A: Only the person in love can answer that question. I think true love can conquer many obstacles, but it also depends on t...

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Q: While xmas shopping, a vendor was condescending to me (my bf was purchasing from them). Later, when I mentioned this, my bf chuckled and found his behavior toward me to be amusing. This is a very small event, but I think it's a bit of a red flag. Your thoughts?

A: It sounds like you're being reasonable to me. Your boyfriend doesn't always need to agree with you, but he does need to ...

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Q: I wrote you a while back about my boyfriend said I need a boob lift and my face is starting to sag. Finally dumped him. Started dating a guy and find out he has a MAJOR history of visiting strip clubs, all nude clubs and porn. He says he's totally done with that now that he's dating me. Do you think that's for real?

A: Man, your town is filled with some friggin' winners, huh? Well, I'm glad you extricated yourself from the toxic sludge o...

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Q: Am I his hope for financial stability? My 50yo BF of four months is divorced but got taken by his ex, who abused his credit cards and made him lose his house. We are very compatible, but he has made comments about us someday combining income/sharing expenses. He has two teens, recent bankruptcy and bills. Is he using me?

A: Hard to say, as I don't know the guy, but I would certainly be wary. The biggest red flag for me is that he brought up t...

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Q: My boyfriend is 38 and has only been in two relationships -- a brief one is high school and a one-year relationship with a single mom. I'm 25 and we've been together for over a year. Any reason to be wary about older men who have not had real relationship experience? So far, we're okay.

A: Yes. That strikes me as a red flag. The obvious problem is that you have to wonder why a guy his age has had so few roma...

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Q: My boyfriend and I are discussing marriage. I want to keep my name, but he says he's unwilling to marry someone who 'rejects' his name. I love mine, it's part of who I am. I am adamant about not changing it. Hyphenated won't work. How can we resolve this?

A: Ha, welcome to marriage! Or talk of marriage, at least. Marriage is all about compromise, and this is your first test. W...

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Q: I lost my virginity just over a year ago to a guy I met on the internet (I know, I know..) Afterwards I got scared and wouldn't have sex with him again, just oral. He got mad and said it's too late to go back. Am I wrong in thinking he's being a jerk?.

A: Wow, what a line. He's a creep-- get rid of him. Sleazy dude, meet the curb. You don't have to do anything that makes yo...

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Q: So... 6 dates.... no smooch.... lots of texting and calls between dates, but no smooch.... WTH?

A: WTH and WTF indeed. Either you're dating the most conservative man in America or he's a really, really big fan of women ...

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Q: If a guy tells you he wants a "committed, yet casual and exclusive relationship" what does that mean?

A: I think he's feeding you a line of what my grandpa used to call "malarkey," or what is commonly referred to as "B.S." Ho...

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Q: I just started dating a guy I met online. Every time an attractive girl comes around, my date stares at the girl until there's eye contact. I'm actually surprised he hasn't broken his neck yet! I figure it's a bad sign if he's not trying to hide it out of respect for me. Am I right?

A: What? He's staring down random girls until they look back at him? Dump him. That's the worst thing I've ever heard. Okay...

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Q: What does it mean when a guy writes your number down on piece of paper, but clearly has a phone?

A: It means that you're in the "maybe call" pile. Sure, he might put you in his phone later. But why not just add you right...

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