Tag: Relationship

Q: Months ago, my BF forced anal sex during consensual vaginal sex. I didn't say no, blamed myself. He said it wouldn't happen again, I forgave him. Having sex the other day, he kept repeating he wanted to "f*ck me in the ass." I've shut down again. He blamed the heat of moment, said won't happen again. I'm worried. Help?

A: Your boyfriend forced anal sex on you, and then said it wouldn't happen again. He then brought back those memories by pr...

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Q: Recently, my guy friend said that he always starts off having great sex in new relationships but then it gradually gets boring as the months/years go on. Is this common for most guys?? I'm having absolutely amazing sex with my new guy and don't want either of us to get bored! How to keep things spicy in the bedroom?

A: "New relationship" sex is amazing sex, without a doubt. The transition from crush to date to "naked person in my bed" is...

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Q: I've been in a relationship with a for 2 years now. I love him and we have an incredible relationship and friendship except when it comes to our sex life. I've lost my desire to have sex. Any advise on how to get it back would be great.

A: Unfortunately, you can't talk yourself into a sex drive. Whatever caused you to lose interest in sex is more complicated...

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Q: My boyfriend calls me babe and I don't know what to call him, I obviously don't want him to be offended - what do I do? X

A: Your boyfriend is not going to be offended if you don't immediately come up with an adorable pet name for him. He's gone...

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Q: guy & i were in honeymoon period. he began to withdraw, i flipped like a dumb girl, obviously he isn't happy with that...we had a good rational talk..i do know better and understand this pattern. want to overcome this..is it possible? how?

A: I think both of you are to blame for the surge in drama. And both of you have the power to overcome it. Let's talk throu...

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Q: My BF has depression and I have been unhappy with our relationship for quite some time. I have rehearsed the break up speech over and over but I can't seem to go through with it because I feel I am his only support person. How do i break up with an emotionally unstable boyfriend?

A: "I need to take care of him" is not a good reason to stay with someone. And you know that. A girlfriend is not a replace...

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Q: I've been dating someone for about three months now. Pretty casually, we go on about a date a week to a week an a half. How can I increase the dates a week without seeming too clingy?

A: If you are both having fun on your once-a-week dates, the odds are good that he will be interested in more. Many women f...

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Q: I cheated on my bf last night and i feel sick to my stomach. I could tell you about his emotional neglect, physical absence etc, but none of it would excuse this. I don't want to destroy him... he's been hurt so bad in the past by women (causing the neglect). should i just swallow the guilt and keep it to myself?

A: If you tell him, you're going to hurt him deeply. If you don't tell him, the guilt is going to rip you up for as long as...

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Q: At what point do couples choose to go from dating to being bf/gf?

A: There are three different ways the transition from "dating" to "relationship" goes down: 1. You're at a party with the g...

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Q: How do I figure out my boyfriend's timeline for our relationship? Been dating seriously for about 8 mnths. He talks future casually like even stuff a year or two down the road, but I'm about to finish my masters in May and I want to know what to plan for my career etc. Should I just ask? I don't want to scare him.

A: The best way to find out the timeline is to ask about the timeline. You're going to be making some serious life decision...

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Q: My first love left me for another girl and totally broke my heart. Although he has always looked for me even when he was with her, what should I do? He's been single for two years now, but I know he still cares for her. He wants me to give him a chance, but I cant trust him. Not only that I have a boyfriend. HELP!

A: What you should do and what you will do are probably quite different. This sounds like one of those situations in which ...

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Q: been with my partner for around 10 years(we had a 3 year break in between).He is 22 years older I never see him apart from Sat and Sun evenings.The rest of the time he is 'doing jobs' around the house and to quote 'thats my life' yet I am finding it so hard to let him go when I know I should be looking for someone else

A: Your situation is a painful reminder that people can get used to any situation, no matter how seemingly sad or unfulfill...

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Q: Dating guy for 6 mos. We're exclusive but he doesnt wanna be "official" yet. When ppl assume I'm his gf he's quick to correct them. I've met the 'rents, go on vacas, spend every day together, etc. He says he's still heartbroken over his last relationship, to "give him more time" to be his gf. Am I wasting my time?

A: You two are official. You two are definitely, absolutely, 100% official. Let's look at the math: Exclusive + Met The Par...

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Q: Silly question for you funny guy. Is it cool to ask a guy if he likes to hold hands?

A: Nothing silly about handholding. In fact I think its one of the most powerful and suggestive body moves out there. Name ...

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Q: how do i know if a guy likes me? we have been making out for a couple of months and he msges me first almost everyday. i tried hinted to find out if he likes me, but no concreate answer yet. Not knowing what 'we' are is driving me nuts!

A: He certainly likes you. Guys don't generally make out with and constantly text with people they hate. The big question i...

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Q: Im a non-Jewish girl dating a Jewish guy.We met on okcupid, but Ive noticed he periodically still checks his Jdate account (I made a fake one to view his, I know, its bad). Does this mean he will leave me for a Jewish girl? Its not making me feel insecure because Im not Jewish and Ive already invested a lot in him.

A: Any man in a committed relationship that is still perusing online dating sites is doing something wrong. You have every ...

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