Tag: Relationship Expectations

Q: What do guys think about the girls their friends are hooking up with? Predisposed to like them or dislike them?

A: Guys are loving yet competitive little creatures. We want our buddy to be happy, just not overtly happier or luckier tha...

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Q: My boyfriend is about 10 years older than me and we have a great friendship, great sex and a great thing going on. But sometimes he tells me that his ex girlfriends were totally too beautiful for him and describes me with a great heart and great personality. I feel so horrible. Should i not take it personal?

A: You "feel so horrible". That's exactly how you are feeling. And so that's exactly how you "should" be feeling. Emotional...

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Q: Home-made presents. Yes or no?

A: Big time, yes. Every time. Nothing says I love you like a home-made jacket or video console system. But seriously, there...

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Q: I like this younger guy, but I think I scared him away by saying I want a relationship. He doesnt. He initially said that he was cool w/ us hanging out when it worked for both, but has since changed his tune to "we can be friends". Is there any chance I can win him back over by backing off, or have I totally blown it?

A: My dear lady, if this guy went all "step back, sister" merely from you suggesting the "R" word, then there's nothing to ...

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Q: I have a hard time sleeping in the same bed with my boyfriend. I really want to, I love the feeling of waking up next to him, but he snores and I'm a really light sleeper. Any suggestions?

A: Sleeping in general is one of those solo activities we've sort of co-opted into a partner thing. Sometimes I find it str...

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Q: My boyfriend recently started leaving his toothbrush at my house, "Just in case." I think it is a relationship milestone. Do you think I am making a big deal out of it?

A: I agree with you. The toothbrush is the gateway item to sneakers, razors and then, him. What other possibility is there...

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Q: I am an atheist. Ive met some amazing guys who have everything I want, EXCEPT I quickly learn they are religious. I cant make any exceptions on that, I cant date a guy who believes in angels, demons, life after death, and other imaginary things. Am I being to harsh and/or critical? I mean,I want someone rational. Help?

A: Weird. I have had exactly the same problem with atheists. And vegetarians, cause screw those guys*. Fortunately, both of...

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Q: I've been having a rough time lately with an ongoing illness and I've had to rely on my bf (of a few years) a lot when I'm sick. I think he's getting annoyed with me because I used to be the one doing things for him, and it seems like we aren't having fun together anymore. I don't want to be a burden, just a gf! Help?

A: Long term illness is a son-of-a-bitch on so many fronts. Often it's hard to even separate where the actual illness ends ...

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Q: My boyfriend looks at other girls online before having sex with me. Is this common? It makes me feel really crappy about myself.

A: Nothing says I want you like masturbating to girl-on-girl porn. That sentence doesn't make much sense and neither do his...

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Q: I have f*cked up genes and my family f*cked up my life. Now I have cemented walls around my heart. Theyre like....say 3 feet thick and 100 feet tall. Yeah, hard to get in. I want to be able to love and have meaningful relationships, but these walls are not coming down. Im pretty f*cked. How do I let someone in?

A: I've been brain chewing on a concept I read a few weeks ago: Life is about taking responsibility for things you are not ...

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Q: I am an above-average looking 40yr old woman dating a 27yr old man. If I'm to be considered a "cougar" for dating a younger man (like many have accused me of), is it wrong for me to expect my hot young "boy toy" to be in better shape? He has the ass of a 90 year old man.

A: There aren't that many solid laws governing Cougar Relationships. Particularly as it pertains to the men. I wish there w...

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