Tag: Safe Sex

Q: My long distance bf, who I haven't seen since since Christmas is staying for a week with me. What is the condom etiquette? Does a gentleman buy/bring them since I'm provide food/lodging? Or as a good hostess is it my job to provide them? But then I don't know about sizes and styles, fit and comfort.

A: Condom etiquette falls in the guy's court, BUT etiquette and reality are two separate things. If your man either forgets...

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Q: Is it safe to use anal beads and a plug at the same time? I can't find an answer anywhere.

A: Well, I'm not sure where you are looking for such answers: Ebay? Your mailman? The Oalkland A's Active Roster page? I go...

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Q: My boyfriend hates condoms and is terrified of child support. I was a few days late in starting the pill and he refused to have sex for a month and a half. His willpower was better than mine. Now he is in the habit of staying up till 6am playing games and we have NO sex. He is so zoned into this game it's crazy.

A: Hang on a second. Ever heard the expression "buried the lede"? In the newspaper business, it's when you ignore the meat ...

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Q: Is it unreasonable to ask my boyfriend to wear a condom for oral, until we both get tested to make sure we're STD free? I'm worried it would ruin the experience for him and he would think it a strange request as it seems most people don't bother with doing so.

A: It's not a strange request. In fact, it's a pretty smart move. There's nothing wrong with being safe. You're right-- man...

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Q: HELP!!!! I just found out that the guy I've been dating for 2 mos has herpes and he confessed to me when he had an outbreak. I feel betrayed because he should've told me first before we jumped into bed. He said he completely forgot about it. I really like him and devastated. I also worry that I might get infected. What do I do now?

A: Go get a STD test. Immediately. If you were having safe sex, you might be okay. If you didn't have sex when he had an ou...

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Q: If my trusted partner makes it clear that all of his past sexual experiences were safe (condoms, etc), should I probe further? I feel like I'd be intruding on his personal relations with other people, but I'm genuinely curious. What do you think?

A:  Curious is one thing, terrified that your man's penis is a loaded STD weapon is another. This whole subject can be a di...

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Q: Boyfriend and I had sex twice, no condom, birth control, he ejaculated. Same night I slept with someone else, no condom, no ejaculation. I told him the next day and we worked through it, I am now pregnant and the date leads back to that day. I wish I could explain more, but do you think it is my bf's son? We do.

A: I'm assuming that you and this second guy used the "pull-out method"? You realize that even if he didn't ejaculate insid...

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Q: Why do guys say condoms are uncomfortable?

A: Because they're trying to trick you into having unprotected sex. "Condoms are uncomfortable." "I can't feel anything wit...

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Q: I was diagnosed with herpes a month ago. We've been faithful and I told him right away, I was mortified.I'm the only girl he's ever slept with; I on the other hand kind of got around before we started dating. I feel so guilty now- I feel like I brought this upon myself by being a whore and now I don't deserve him. Help!

A: There's no reason to feel guilty at this point. You were faithful to him, and told him right away, so you've done everyt...

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Q: Can an uncircumcised man orgasm during sex with a condom?

A: Yes. Of course. Don't let him tell you otherwise. "I can't feel anything with a condom" is the oldest dirtbag trick in t...

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Q: OK, is he just not into me or is just BS? I met a guy who cannot ejaculate with a condom. Can only come without one lying down...yep even a blow job. Is it performance anxiety? Do i simply move on?

A: Jeez, why would you bail? Maybe your hey nonny nonny is busted. You ever think of that? OMG PANICSIES! Look, condoms red...

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