Tag: Self Esteem

Q: I think my boyfriend is too good for me. He's smart, handsome, accomplished, and politically active. I lack ambition. Does he only like me for my looks? It's difficult for me to believe he'd settle for a just a pretty girl. Yet here we are and I feel outmatched and out of my depth.

A: Once we graduate from 3rd grade we realize something: People aren't all equal. That's a myth our mommy's and daddy's and...

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Q: My boyfriend stopped having sex with me--like from a few times a week to maybe 1 or 2x a month, if that. I feel like total crap and it was the only thing that made me feel pretty or important (and no I didn't gain weight!). My self-esteem is now shit. I don't think he's cheating or anything. He says nothing is wrong.

A: You're right, that's a drastic change. But over what period of time did it occur? Was it sudden or gradual over several ...

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Q: I'm 22 and graduating college in less than two months. I'm pretty much over the guys at my school and have all but given up on love and myself. Will I ever actually meet someone or am I doomed?

A: What's with all the 22-year-olds out there ready to throw in the towel? Are things really that bad or are you just the H...

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Q: Can we talk about smoking for a minute please? My BF smokes and of course I worry about his long-term health. He tried to quit once and made it a few months. What is the role of the GF in this? Obviously supportive, but can I try to encourage him to quit again? How can I without insulting him? Self-esteem plays a part.

A: Your role in his smoking habit is the same as any other spouse, partner or girlfriend's role in any other addiction: to ...

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Q: MM I know u'l b brutally honest. I like my mate's best mate. Haven't talked much, it's more a crush. Thing is, he's very attractive, type of looks that can get super hot chicks. I'm confident in my attractiveness lol am pretty, slim/petite but not at all model material like him. Reckon I'd be shot down? Honest opinion.

A: Probably. But still Welcome to what I like to call the hot chick dilemma - and yes, it applies to guys too. You see some...

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Q: How do you get over a guy who isn't into you? Is there some sort of step by step guide? You'd think with my 100% rejection rate I would have perfected it by now, but I haven't.

A: You get over it by saying to yourself: "The guy wasn't into me. It happens. It doesn't make him a bad guy or me a loser,...

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Q: My boyfriend looks at other girls online before having sex with me. Is this common? It makes me feel really crappy about myself.

A: Nothing says I want you like masturbating to girl-on-girl porn. That sentence doesn't make much sense and neither do his...

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Q: I have terrible acne compared to most people my age- would guys really care how bad it is though? Does it make a girl look less pretty, even if she isn't ashamed by it?

A: I can tell you this: 9 out of 10 times your acne doesn't come across as terrible as you think it does. But, I'm not goin...

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Q: I'm really tall (6'1") and intensely athletic, muscles and all. People talk all the time about how great it is to be tall, but I often feel much more like a linebacker than a supermodel. How can I approach guys without intimidating them? And how do I make myself seem more feminine in the male eye?

A: There's nothing more cringey than a perfectly attractive, tall girl trying to play small. You see it all the time - cons...

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Q: I'm 22 yo. I have zero experience with guys ( I mean zero, no holding hands, no kissing, no anything ever). I've completely given up on ever finding love. Do you think it's possible to live one's whole life without ever having experienced love and still be able to be ok and have a somewhat fulfilling life?

A: Can a human being's life be fully realized or enjoyed without having a romantic partnership? That is a serious philosoph...

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Q: Dearest Panama, please help! I've totally lost my confidence. I used to be happier but a string of rejections (lasting many years, with no success in between) has got me feeling awful. I've literally never had any romantic success and it feels HORRIBLE. I know I need confidence to move on, but how do I get it back?!

A: You know, the only way to get it back is to go out there and dance like nobody's watching. Clichéd as that sounds (and i...

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Q: I have pretty nice boobs... a C cup very round and perky...but I'm worried they're too far apart...i get no cleavage unless I physically squish them together which looks rather awkward when trying to get attention... Do guys care about boob separation?

A: Ain't nature a son-of-a bitch? Here she goes and gives you perfectly lovely breasts - "pretty nice boobs," in fact, and ...

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Q: I am allergic to alcohol & whenever I tell a guy, he just laughs at me and says something like "Oh, you're one of those girls..." I then try to tell him that I really am allergic, but he just keeps laughing. How do I make guys really believe that I am allergic to alcohol?

A: "One of those girls?" One of which girls? The kind that drinks alcohol, starts sweating, loses control of her bowels, go...

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Q: I have somewhat of a mini celebrity for a fiance. I'm an average looking girl who is constantly trying to improve herself. However he has to continuously work with models and gorgeous actresses, and it's definitely taking a toll on my self-esteem. Any advise on how I can become more comfortable with these situations?

A: So, he is around models and actresses all day, yet you are his fiance? He is with you. Not them. Not just for sex, but b...

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