Tag: Therapy

Q: My best guy friend has a history of depression. He is always saying things like "nobody loves me" and "I'm useless" and as much as I try to boost his ego, he is always sad. I've told him before to go to therapy, but he refuses. What else can I do?

A: You can stop rewarding him when he says those things. Here's the problem: he doesn't want to get better. If he did, he w...

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Q: I was adopted when I was twelve. I am grown up now (as in, done with college), but I have never had a relationship because I have always been in love with my adoptive father. Who is, obviously, married to my adoptive mother. I'd never actually show it and hurt them, but... this is wrong, right? Please help!

A: This question may be unbridled bullsh*t, but it is factually and emotioanlly possible, plus on second read -- maybe it i...

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Q: Dear Funniest of Funny Guys, I was sexually abused when I was younger. My bf knows and insists I tell my family. The biggest problem: my bro was the one who did it. I rly dont want to tell n think it could tear my family apart. He says that I need their support n my bro should be punished. Am I stupid to not tell them?

A: Tearing your family apart is only of secondary concern. The primary concern is its ability to tear you apart. Perhaps yo...

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Q: When is the right time to tell a guy I'm seeing that I'm in therapy for traumatic shit and on anti-depressants? They're my problems, I deal with them, I don't want pity but I feel like I'm hiding by not telling him.

A: Good question, and, fortunately, similar to one I have answered here before. Read it here. Thanks...

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Q: Hi Wise-Ass. I need your advice badly. I have anger management issues. Now, I'm dating this guy and he wants us to be in a full-blown relationship. He doesn't know about this issue of mine but I'm afraid he would eventually find out. I really like him but I know he would get turned off by this. What can I do?

A: Good for you. You recognize and admit your problem, and you want to do something about it. As simple as this might seem,...

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Q: I have diagnosed PTSD from the military, and one of the conditions that had stemmed from it is dermatillia. Basically, when I get anxious, I pick skin on my back. It gets horrible and I am scared to tell any potential guys about it. I feel they'll reject me. And yes, I'm getting help, but its a difficult condition.

A: Two things off the bat strike me as very positive. One: you are already seeking counseling and being proactive towards h...

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Q: How can I convince my parents that I need to see a therapist? My sister has had clinical depression for years, which makes my case almost negligible in my parents' eyes. However, I have been very down lately. I have no job and no friends, and I don't have much hope left for a better future.

A: Aww, honey... I'm sorry you feel that way. If I were there I'd give you a big ol' bear hug and tell you things will be f...

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Q: I was raped when I was 12 and when I found the courage to tell my parents, my Dad told me I was lying and my mother kind of brushed it off. I told my boyfriend about my past and it triggered some sad memories for me this week. Now I'm depressed and I don't really feel like my boyfriend is being very supportive.

A: I am very sorry this happened to you. Please know two things: one, it's a positive thing that you're opening up about th...

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Q: I've been in recovery for anorexia (therapy helped) I'm mostly good but I know my triggers. The problem is, so does my dad. He likes to make "harmless" comments about my eating and exercise habits. I've tried to explain to him that these comments aren't good for me but I can't make him stop. What will make him understand?

A: Wow. That is really rough. Anorexia is a serious condition. Even though you're in recovery, you still need support from ...

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Q: I was sexually assaulted at a young age, and am now 29. I've put it behind me, but when it comes to interacting with guys I freeze up. A million stupid things go through my head and everything stops being enjoyable. I really want to be intimate with my bf but I don't want to tell him what happened. Any advice?

A: Everyone has the right to privacy, but if you're having trouble connecting to your boyfriend in the way you want, you ma...

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Q: Would you be turned off if a girl you were dating told you she was in therapy ? I have been in therapy just to help me grow and be the best version of me, and to help me heal from my childhood trauma.

A: I wouldn't be turned of at all. I'm one of those people that believes everybody probably needs to see a therapist about ...

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