Tag: Unrequited Love

Q: GBFF, I know this is typical but I have this male friend who loves me. He really cares about me but I have a BF who captured my heart, so I rejected him. He's frustrated on how he "tries so hard but I still choose my BF over him." I feel really bad but I'd never even think of breaking up with my BF. What do I do?

A: I think you will end up having to distance yourself from him. It's sad, and it sucks, but he doesn't respect your decisi...

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Q: Me and a girl share a lot of interests. We're good friends and she gives me hints that she WOULD circumstancially date me. We met in college. Same age. Issue? She's engaged. But she does and doesn't like him. Hes clingy douche and other things. HOw do I let her know I'm here. I dont want her to cheat, but...

A: You can't be serious, right? I'm going to speak to you like a dude, mmkay pumpkin? Man up. Leave her alone. She's engage...

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Q: About a year ago, a longtime friend told me he was in love with me. We had a good (though awkward) talk, and I confessed to not feeling the same. We haven't really spoken much since. He's now getting married. They invited me to the wedding, but I wonder if he was just being polite or actually wants me to go. Do I go?

A: Tough question. Perhaps they were just being polite, but then again, you two were friends for a long time before things ...

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Q: I slept with a former prof. We were not on the same page. After, he treated it like a hookup & I thought it wasn't. He's either in the closet or bi at the least, and didn't want to hurt my feelings & lead me on. We've already had a convo. about staying friends. But I'm still angry. Any coping methods to get over this?

A: So wait, did he tell you that he was gay? Or bi? Or are you just projecting because you're pissed? Because nothing else ...

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Q: Dear Girls' BFF: There's a guy that I like, who of course doesn't really know I'm alive. Meanwhile, tons of guys I would never date are all over me. Have you ever noticed you always get hit on by the ones you don't like, while the one you do like could care less? What gives, and what shoud I do?

A: This only happens because you're paying attention to it and you have a guy you want who isn't paying you any attention. ...

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Q: PJ - what do you think of the possibility of never falling out of love with someone? I fear two things: 1) i'll never get over an unrequited love; 2) even if i do, the guy i end up with will have some woman in his past who he loved the most and is settling for me. Thoughts?

A: Sounds like you're trying to think yourself right out of happiness. The fact of life is that the longer you live the mor...

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Q: Cary, please, please help me. I fell in love with a friend who doesn't feel the same way. For the past two years I've been fighting it but I can't stop. I'm active in my life but I don't get dates so what do I do to get over him? I love him so much. I'm terrified I'll never move on. The heartache has become unbearable.

A: I feel for you, honey. I really do. Unrequited love hurts like few other things in life, probably because there is absol...

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Q: Dear Panama, I'm completely, totally heartbroken. I fell in love with a friend who doesn't feel the same way. It's been a while and I've tried to move on but I just can't. He's not perfect but he's wonderful and the sweet memories haunt me. What do I do to get over him? I'm seriously afraid I never will.

A: I hate situations like those. And we've all been there. I think that the only way to get over him is to accept that it w...

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Q: Hi Girls' BFF - my friend just met a guy who's perfect for her. Only problem - he has a gf of 2 months. Neither has done anything inappropriate, but she now keeps talking about waiting to see what happens. Should I encourage her to wait? Or to move on? I don't want her to get hurt (and feel a bit sorry for the gf!).

A: You should absolutely encourage her to move on. I'll never understand why women will meet a man who's in a relationship ...

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Q: I live in Kuwait and the man is i'm in love with has gotten an ethopian woman pregenat. He says he has married her because of the health insurance and this country is strict about having babies out of wedlock. asks if i can be patient with this situation. Should i be hopeful at all?

A: I can't decide if this is real or if you're floating an idea for a potential Lifetime Movie. I'm really on the fence abo...

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Q: Help! I've been agonising over whether this guy is into me or realizes I'm into him. Right now, we're friends (& coworkers). We went out a few times,but he didn't make a move. He called the other day 'to catch up', then mentioned he was meeting a girl & was hoping to stay over at hers. WHY OH WHY would he tell me this?

A: Based on your statement, I'd say dude either has no clue you're into him or is trying to let you know that he's not into...

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Q: Why do guys put the good girls in the "friend zone?" Why do they sleep with the hot to trot girls, yet want to do everything else with the good girl? Will the good girl ever win? I'm the good girl that he talks to hours every day, we eat together, he cooks for me, everything, yet he doesn't see me in that way.

A: Here's the thing. Good girls might now win while us men are younger and more interested in experiencing life. But in the...

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Q: I'm in love with my best friend but he is marrying another girl soon. I know he loves her, but she is a total b**ch. She's cheated on him twice that I know of and I think she is just using him for something. What should I do?

A: What should you do? Absolutely nothing. Smile. Clap. Eat a shit ton of wedding cake, knock back a couple magnums of cham...

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