According to a recent study commissioned by the “premiere beauty make-up” online store Escentual.com, women and men differ in their perception of beauty. This is not surprising at all because men and women disagree on just about everything. Especially beauty. However, if you are in fact still surprised, then a) you have probably never been [...]
Reformed Player answered this question, December 12, 2013 2:01 PM
A: Are we talking colloquially, as in really enjoys sex, or into fetishes? The former is surprisingly easy: Ask her what she wants. Then do that thing. Seriously. All you’ve got to do. If she doesn’t know what she wants, ask her what she’d like to try, and tell her it’s OK to say “stop” (which [...]
The Wise-Ass answered this question, December 12, 2013 1:56 PM
Q: My bf is loving, talented, kind, honest, and a genuinely good person and I love him to death. But he’s not the sharpest nail in the bucket. My friends tell me I should ditch him for someone more mature. Should I keep hoping it’s just because he’s 18 and he’ll grow out of it or should I look for someone more mature?
A: Is he dumb or immature? I ask because to me “not the sharpest nail in the bucket” means he’s not very bright, which is different from maturity. A person can outgrow immaturity, but it’s hard to outgrow dumb. Regardless, forget what your friends say. If you like the guy and enjoy spending time with him [...]
Reformed Player answered this question, December 12, 2013 12:14 PM
Q: He said he’s falling for me and I frowned. Why am I more comfortable when things are casual and freaked out when things get serious? Should I blame myself and give him a chance or end it and hope another guy will make me comfortable and happy to hear the same thing? Why am I such a dude? What’s wrong with me? :(
A: You’re not a “guy”, so much, as “somebody who has trouble with commitment.” And that’s absolutely normal. Contrary to gender stereotypes, women are just as likely to be commitment fearful as men are, and for a variety of reasons. This can be for any number of reasons, but the key thing to take away here [...]
Mystery Man answered this question, December 12, 2013 11:45 AM
A: This is a very, very convoluted way to ask whether or not it’s weird to research porn habits. And the answer is, yes, it’s weird. If you want to do your research so that you can understand why men look at porn (spoiler: it’s because there are hot naked women in it), then go do that. [...]
Mystery Man answered this question, December 12, 2013 10:01 AM
Q: My boyfriend continues to tell me how amazing and fantastic I am and has called me on several different occasions his “soul mate” since we first started dating. But he’s never told me he loves me or is in love with me. We have been dating for a month now, is he in love with me? Or is this just crap to get in my pants?
A: A month is probably too early to be throwing around words like love, so I wouldn’t worry about not hearing it yet. That said, he’s throwing the phrase “soul mate” around quite a bit, which throws the calculus way off. “Soul mate” is a pretty powerful term, if he actually means it. Reason being is [...]
The Wise-Ass answered this question, December 11, 2013 5:22 PM
Q: Please help. Even though I have made it very clear to my ex that I would like to move on, he still tries to call me and text me to talk about “us” or have serious discussions over coffee. I am so sick of it. I just want him to get lost; he wasn’t a great guy. How can I tell him to stop? He’s a little scary sometimes.
A: Yeah, he sounds a little scary. His behavior borders on stalking. You’ve told him to leave you alone and he won’t. The next step is to ignore him completely. Don’t answer his calls or his texts or IMs or e-mails, don’t meet him anywhere. Block him on all social media. Change your phone number and [...]
The Wise-Ass answered this question, December 11, 2013 3:10 PM
Q: He won’t commit because “we don’t have a foreseeable future.” He’s established & I’m going to grad school (maybe in another state.) He doesn’t want me to make “concessions” in my life in order to sustain a relationship. Don’t ppl make changes in future plans/life if they care about the relationship or the other person?
A: Yes, people do make changes for relationships, but you’re asking a lot of him. You want him to commit to a relationship with you when you might be leaving the state for several years of grad school, which means your relationship will be largely long-distance. Clearly he’s not thrilled with that proposition (hence the “no [...]
Reformed Player answered this question, December 11, 2013 1:30 PM
Q: I had an exclusive, FWB situation and he told me 2 days after he hooked up with someone that he was breaking it off with me to pursue her. He was never willing to set down the rules (I tried) but I did require exclusivity. Is it unfair for me to feel like he cheated and that he should have ended with me BEFORE?
A: Nope. He’s being a jerk here. Maybe not, subjectively, as much of a jerk as some people, but by any objective measure, he’s still squarely in the jerk category. That said, I wouldn’t linger too long on this guy. It’s pretty clear from your question that this was an inevitability, and more to the point, [...]