Whenever a new study about neurology comes out, it’s always fascinating. The brain is, in many ways, the new frontier of science; we understand so, so little about it and yet it’s such an amazing thing. Something I wish more news organizations would respect instead of turning it into a bad comedy routine. So it [...]
Chic Geek answered this question, December 10, 2013 10:42 PM
Q: My bf of over a year wants me to sleep with another woman and he says he just wants to watch. I understand the fantasy but I’m not comfortable with opening our relationship. I asked him to not ask me again but he says people change and he’s going to keep asking me. I feel like this is disrespectful?? Should I break up?
A: Completely disrespectful indeed. As his lover and his equal, he’s supposed to respect your boundaries and it doesn’t seem like he is. Besides, his argument for insisting that you should experiment with another woman is that sometimes people change?!? You could easily use that argument on him–why can’t he change and not act like an [...]
Chic Geek answered this question, December 10, 2013 10:32 PM
Q: I broke up with my ex six months ago. I didn’t want to, but I needed to find myself again. We’re best friends and have been working on the friendship we once had. He knows I sitll have feelings for him. He says that he doesn’t want anyone else but doesn’t know if we’ll ever get back together. Is there any hope for us?
A: Who knows? What I do know is that the more pressure you place on one another to see if this can work or not…is not helping it get to a healthy place. In order to assess whether what you have is real or not, you need distance. This means that when you break up with [...]
Chic Geek answered this question, December 10, 2013 10:20 PM
A: Yeah, that is kind of bizarre and suspect. If he wanted to wait until after the holidays, then why did he propose then in the first place? I’d definitely communicate with him about what went down here and whatever it was that prompted this change in his plans, the two of you should work on [...]
The Wise-Ass answered this question, December 10, 2013 5:35 PM
Q: Would a guy purposely get an ex pregnant for jealousy, ego, or even revenge? I recently got involved with my ex. Unlike previous times we did not use protection. When we were having sex he said, “Let’s make a baby.” Guess what I got pregnant. He suddenly got silence. Before all this I was moving for my job too.
A: I don’t know why he did it. Does it matter? The only pertinent fact here is that you had unprotected sex and got pregnant, which is what happens. It’s a bit hard to ascribe a motive to him when you willingly went along with sex without protection. What was your motive? If you didn’t want [...]
The Wise-Ass answered this question, December 10, 2013 2:52 PM
A: Me legs? Oy! Wot’s all this then? Yeh jus’ le’m ‘ang dahn ors yeh can give ‘im a right good boot in da cobbler’s awls, yah? Sorted mate!
Reformed Player answered this question, December 10, 2013 1:15 PM
Q: If you are dating a guy and he says he misses and likes you but you find a sex post of the guy you are dating on craigslist, why? When would a guy need sex besides to the new girl that he is dating? He said one of his relatives past away. What other reasons would a guy need sex for besides being horny.
A: There are lots of reasons. First of all, and most likely, he’s a jerk. I hate to say it, but you’ve got to go off of actions, not words, and the two are saying two very different things. Secondly, he might be dealing with some stuff, true. Some people, when struggling with emotional problems, will [...]
Mystery Man answered this question, December 10, 2013 11:45 AM
Q: My mom wants to move in with me and my boyfriend I’m 7 months pregnant. She has an apartment and lives alone she says she feel lonely. I know she won’t be in the way and won’t get involved in my business but why must I always have to take care of her? I feel guilty if I don’t, so I have no choice. I do love her..
A: You do have a choice. You can’t let your own guilt blackmail you into a situation that you don’t want to be in. You have to really assess the situation. You’re seven months pregnant, meaning you’re about to be a mom. That’s HUGE. That’s your top priority. Your primary focuses in life right now need [...]
The Wise-Ass answered this question, December 10, 2013 10:58 AM
Q: My guy friend makes sexual advances at me when he’s drunk. I tell him no and he will stop for the night, but if we hang out again another day and he’s drinking he usually does it again. I’ve confronted him while he’s sober and all I get is “I’m sorry.” I don’t want to ditch him, but I think I have to. What should I do?
A: It sucks that you even have to make that choice. I’m sure you enjoy the guy’s company when he’s not making passes at you. Now, unfortunately, his behavior might cost both of you a friendship. One option to dumping him as a friend might be to remove alcohol from the time you spend together, or [...]